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Ladyhippolyta88:
Irony of life despite all the so called discipline which is flogging in this part of the world.
We don't love ourselves and we act bery bitter to others .
What is the later effect of the discipline(flogging) in a long run.
[b]Instead of parents to communicate and build relationships with their children they flog them to instill fear in them to the extent that this kids will later find it hard to communicate or open up to their parents or even question them self because before them fit talk they will receive flogging.[/b]Rubbish

UjuJoan2:
Some kids are very very dramatic. He may not be as terrified as he is pretending to be.

Remember children can be manipulative too. They do something wrong, knowing the consequences, yet do it anyway. Trust me if that mother is truly abusive, that boy will not won't even have the guts to say 'calm down'. As a matter of fact he will never even dare comit the crime in the first place.

My second child used to be the most stubborn and daring, and that's because she is so much like that little boy.

Anytime you want to discipline her she will scream and beg and tell you that you're going to kill her, that she loves you, that you are her mother, that she will never ever ever do it again. . . . . And the next second she's doing the same thing. I never used to be able to go through with spanking her because of her highly dramatic cries and pleas, untill I learned to ignore them. . . . I realised it was a tactic. Infact she bragged to her elder sister one day that "Mum can never spank her, that she will cry and beg and Mum will forgive her"

Let's just say she has now become loyal!

Jullima:
Really? Yes child abuse is a staple in our culture. However to reach this conclusion when the video does not show any evidence of abuse is very unfair to the mother. You do know children use tears and tantrums to manipulate outcomes to their advantage? We don’t beat our son but he screams blue murder when he’s told to go to his room or stop watching TV. If you know anything about abused children then you will know an abused child will never think he has an option to negotiate his discipline. I don’t know why strangers on the internet without being privy to a household always feel very comfortable judging the parenting skill of a mother they don’t know.

OneMillionBoys:

Halcyon123:
Dis is how the pan looks like, though you can use a non-frying pan but it will look like pancake sha

rangerover:
I remember when i was a kid my mum flogged me countless times with koboko, sometimes it hit my private part so hard it left fibres in my scrotum. Another time i got a scar while trying to run from whipping, the side of my eye cut so deep there was blood all over my chest, my dad came back and rushed me to the hospital. I sometimes grew up thinking i was a stepson. I was the primary school soccer captain, won best actor and a gymnast yet i still don't understand why my mother was so brutal to me at that young age especially been the only son.I STILL BEAR THOSE EMOTIONAL SCARS TILL TODAY. I love my mum but i never feel close to her because of my experience in childhood.

Klass99:
It's not violence, it's discipline but yeah let's agree to disagree.

Klass99:
Lol , babe just die this yarn first.

When you meet the child I mentioned in my first post, na you go first ask for cane to flog the living daylights out of her.

You can also raise well behaved children in a loving way by using the rod appropriately and adequately, not sparing it - the rod.

Did you not school or live in Nigeria for a while? Were you not flogged or punished by teachers at school, relatives at home or your own parents? Did you not turn out okay? I did and I still love/appreciate each and everyone of those people.

A friend once told me that when you have kids you need to watch and understand each of them and know which disciplinary measures to apply with each child, because they are all different.

Her point was this - some children are more difficult and stubborn than others, those ones will require closer marking, a firm hand and the rod. Others are okay but lazy and laid back, those ones will also require a different sort of training where they are pushed out of their laziness early so it doesn't follow them into adulthood.

Elder0001:
Most Nigerians are used to abuse so they won't see anything wrong with the video.

Nooil:
And he is a troll. He has multiple accounts.

Klass99:
I didn't watch the video. I just did and I am not impressed by mother or child.

Hathor, I actually wish my neighbour would discipline her 5 year old daughter this way.

The girl can't even write her name at age 5 but when she opens her mouth to talk it spews trash that shouldn't be coming from a child, she's her mother's favourite and I see the rod being spared while the child is spoilt.

Acidosis:
We can't prove something we both don't agree on its meaning. What I found in that video is not a form of child abuse especially considering the intent of the video and the fact that the child had initially gotten a second, third, and probably more chances over the same act.

Mimiliciously:
Is it right for my hubby to ask for passwords to my social media passwords yet refuse to supply his.

This is a very dicey situation and I don't want it to lead to unecessary issues.

I love my privacy alot and hardly post pictures. I never post him and he never posts me too but he always blows out my not posting him out of proportion. He's obsessed with my social media accounts and I don't even care about his. I also feel giving him him my password will have him posting his picture at will, which I wouldn't like.

What do you guys think.

Acidosis:
No, we have a chaotic society because most criminals and violent people don't even have a home to begin with.

mariahAngel:
Mental and emotional torture can be worse than spanking a child.
I've always said it: Adults who beat children even when they beg desperately are monstrous bullies.

Acidosis:
Of course, I feel something for him. Same way I feel something for people in the prison. So let's free everyone so we can have a chaotic society.

Unnerve:
Okay miss superiority complex

Acidosis:
What's abnormal about this kind of crying and the plea for a second last chance?

All I see is a child that has consistently begged for a second and third chance in the past. For how long should that continue? Till he grows up to become an armed robber or rapist?

Seeing how the child begs in the past, the mom decided to record her child for the world to see his drama. I didn't see her using a rod on him.

More importantly, the governor of Lagos has made a statement without necessarily condemning the mother. Mind you, Lagos state is far ahead of other states when it comes to abuse of any kind so for the governor to speak without indicting the mother speaks volume.

Nooil:
And he is a troll. He has multiple accounts.

mariahAngel:
To me, I found the it very uncomfortable to watch how the child was desperately begging to be spared.
When he knelt down, I almost cried.
I know children can be naughty and that there's need to discipline them sometimes, but making them go through the mental and emotional torture of not knowing what to expect is not right. It is abuse.
If you're going to spank them, spank them already.
It would've even been fair if she had spanked him and got it over with, than allowing him go through that torture while filming it.
What would be worse would be that she ended up flogging him after that whole begging.

Unnerve:
Mehn whatever, just calm down

Unnerve:
I truly don't care if you read it or not.

And I did not bring up westerners, the responses above already did by comparing Nigerians with bla bla bla, but hey I figure you were blinded to those because they reinforced your bias.

Acidosis:
They are supposed to fear the punishment that follows bad behaviour. Respect and trust are no cure for bad behaviour. You all always make it seem like white kids or rich kids don't cry.

Unnerve:
Lol, someone said that westerners called it child abuse
Nigerians always want to appear more western than the westerners themselves, more religious than the pope, etc, everything is always more, lol. Wannabes

cococandy:
Food .
Goat stew

realtalk19:
The video was funny and he was being disciplined not tortured. Most of us got disciplined and flogged too either from parents or school as far back as the 1980s and we turned out great and so why making this issue a big deal. Some Kids these days dont respect or fear their parents or elders any more. Talking doesn't work for me all the time but constantly raising my Cain along without using it passes the message. I don't entertain misbehaving kids.

GboyegaD:
It still beats my imagination what the mother was trying to achieve and also, how people found such interesting. The mother doesn't understand the effect of her action in the child as it surely was pure torture particularly when the guy asked if she was recording it.

The most amusing are the ones who are claiming God wanted to favor the lad was why the mother recorded the video and it went viral. We are mentally lazy and have learned to attribute everything to God, even wrong doings.