₦airaland Forum

Acidosis:
Correcting a child through threats is not abuse. This is a natural and normal phenomenon all over the world. There's no society without laws, rules, and regulations.

You can correct your child without instilling so much fear in them. They are supposed to respect and trust you and not fear you.

XX01:
I didn't particularly like the video. I won't share such on social media. But really that's not abuse. I find that kids that are not used to being spanked are the ones that would like to talk their way out of a spanking. If a serious beating is what you encounter regularly, you would rather be steeling your body to reduce the pain. I know it's not in all cases but this just doesn't seem like one.

Also, kids can act once they know that they have been naughty and are going to be punished. They can put up the most riotous display if it will spare them a whopping.

This boy is terrified beyond measure. I know most of you people think it is normal. I don't.

ambient:
Hathor and the other woke people above,you guys are very funny.i see you using words like torture while talking about the mother.ho are you to judge the mother? Does she look like someone who is about to flog that child?,sometimes my kids do crazy things that whenever i tell people they think i am exaggerating so i keep my camera nearby.do you know if it was the father that uploaded the video?
African way of training up a child remains the best way as far as it is not abusive,a little spanking here and there while telling the kid what he did wrong is the best approach.if you people like keep on forming woke.

Nigerian children suffer more than a little spanking here and there and if the African way of training children was the best, it would produce better results.

If I am woke, then you are asleep.

cooooooks:
That video was clearly child abuse.

I think we're seriously desensitized to abuse in we country.

Absolutely.

I don't think the video in itself is abuse but it shows that this boy has some strange reasons to fear his mother in a way that is not appropriate.

It is horrifying that Nigerians are not moved by the child's despair and fear. As much as I also think that is highly questionable to film how you discipline your child to put it up on social media, I am more appalled by the cries of the child. I don't want to know the amount of abuse this boy has already suffered, which is the reason why he reacts the way he does. It's sad that Nigerians consider it normal/funny/entertaining but not surprising. They grew up suffering various forms of abuse and consider it normal.

Not again. I switched it off after 3 seconds. I can't listen to these cries without cringing.

mariahAngel:
No. I just went with the conversation.

Did I go off?

Just go with the flow.

FloraEC:
First time trying chocolate cake. Thanks cutiereborn
Happy birthday to me

Happy Birthday!
I love chocolate cake and would like a BIG piece please.

Vegan sausages. Never thought I would like them but I do.

Interesting thread.

Familiarity and excitement seem to be mutually exclusive. And submissive wives lack the thrill. Be a challenge or kill the passion.

Another mad person. Let's see if she will say the same thing if it is her father, uncles, brothers, friends or boyfriend who are falsely accused.


I am waiting for someone to tell me to respect 'unpopular opinions'.

mariahAngel:


She can't help it.

You are right. SMH

mariahAngel:
Raise your daughter to behave responsibly, and she'll never depart from it.

My dear it's not that simple. Parents can do their best and the children can turn out somehow. There are too many people and factors involved in forming a personality. Have you never seen a family in which three kids make their parents proud but the fourth is a disgrace? Same family, same parents, same upbringing, different results.

First she posted the picture and then she also brought her family's issues to social media.

Halcyon123:
You welcome. Shey you have the pan for the masa right?

What kind of pan is needed?

The crimes committed in the name of religion ...

Palema007:
The moment you realize the dynamic nature of human and your limitation of living only one life. Then will you realize how little you have lived while trying to put everyone in a box.

May we not be that person trying to control erosion with a basket. . Sometimes it's good to live and let live, you will be doing more good to yourself than the other.

Words of Wisdom.

mariahAngel:
That could also lead to confusion and indecisiveness.

It does. Some people even feel overwhelmed with the endless choices they are presented with but I would have it no other way. I love to choose from the buffet of life.

Klass99:
Unnerve has issues, he says it's rebellion to want something outside the norm.

It would help him to understand that this world offers far too many possibilities for us to choose only one.

Klass99:
And I shout the biggest amen of my life, while grinning like a clown over the compliment, thank you.

I practically sleep on the internet in search of a legit means of livelihood I can do remotely.

I mean what I said.

Have you ever considered investing in the stock market? There are great books on how to go about it.

Klass99:
You have come again with your assumptions, abi?

Even when you encounter the ones like me, who know without a doubt what they want, you still object and assume we are not being real or there's something wrong.

Your matter dey taya me

Damn right!

Why can't people accept that we can't all be the same?

hopefulLandlord:
I can't argue much with that. however I still ask at what point did the punishment become "excessive"?

The moment the video went viral.

Klass99:
Lol , self awareness is bae.

The adage different strokes for different folks is so true.

Please what sort of business opportunity did she find (from your subsequent post)

I'm going bonkers with a 9 - 5, would really like to WFH.

She wants to sell jewelry from home. She will have home gatherings and try to sell it to people (mostly ladies) she knows. She got a suitcase with jewelry worth a lot to present to her visitors. I don't know how lucrative that is. She is just interested in me spending my money now. I doubt it can replace the fulfillment she felt in her previous job but I didn't try to discourage her.

You are a smart young lady. You will soon find something better.

hopefulLandlord:
A "mistake", to me, would've been her not being aware of the recording device. This to me is not a "mistake" but fair enough. I however would like to know what punishment would've been "necessary enough" or at what point did it become more than necessary? So far I see her punishment as deserved considering the university she was attending at the time was a "Christian" one

As far as I remember she didn't want the video to go viral. The moment it did is to me the beginning of the punishment. The worst part of all is that it will forever be there. There are many cases like this where teenagers record themselves doing something stupid, not necessarily having sex, and then it is forever out there. This goes too far. I feel like we should give people, especially young people, second chances. How we deal with the internet and its impact on people's life is a discussion we must have. We are losing our right to privacy. Even people who have done nothing wrong can suffer the consequences, e.g. someone accuses you of rape.

Halcyon123:
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NB:the local rice is the best for it. Hope dis helps

Thank you.

hopefulLandlord:
Few people think helping the girl is wrong, the criticism however have majorly revolved around the fact that there are many more upright girls who haven't shown their vagina getting pounded in a hospital, are very intelligent but haven't gotten such scholarships. don't lets miss the Forrest for trees

They are free to help these morally upright girls. If they can't, that's their problem. The doctor is free to help whoever the doctor wants to help and I can see why this girl was chosen. Back in the past we made mistakes and after a while they were forgotten or at worst we could move somewhere and start a new life, with the internet our mistakes have the power to hunt us forever. This is more punishment than necessary.

Lucifer1419:
trying to know who you are by viewing your profile but can't find any, I for used am take judge you, see waiting you they support, you go dey happy if na ur blood sister behave that way come get free scholarship for stupidity, way other people day way they find this kind opportunity but nobody to help because them no do bad thing to take trend, it's well.

She is young, she made a mistake, she paid for it. Enough!

Lucifer1419:
So ashawo now they get scholarship, with all that serious nacking way she received from that guy, person for one corner come help her, e be lyk say to do sin they bring blessings, may be I go upload my own sex tape for xvideo so I fit get help from people.

Since the doctor knows that majority of Nigerians are as judgmental and mean as you are she decided to help the girl. Most of you will throw stones and hide to do the same or worse.

winkmart:
The female student of Babcock University who went viral last year after appearing in a sex tape, has been offered an international scholarship.

If you recall, the student was expelled by the managemnet of the school after a video showing her and an ex-student of the school having sex surfaced on the internet.

According to a Nigerian medical doctor, Dr Ola Brown who took interest in the case after her expulsion from Babcock University, her scholarship in a foreign country has been fully paid.

He took to Twitter to break the news, which served as a follow up to an update he made on the student in June.

He wrote:


https://twitter.com/NaijaFlyingDr/status/1288414808157683712?s=19

In the previous month, Dr Ola had written on the progress the lady has been making since some Nigerians came to her rescue. He disclosed that since her expulsion from the school, she has improved drastically, both academically and psychologically.

https://lailasnews.com/babcock-student-sex-tape-girl-in-the-video-gets-international-scholarship/

I just love what the doctor did. Expelling the girl was totally counterproductive.

When a young person errs or even falls, you draw them closer instead of pushing them away to be totally lost.