sammymax:
I seriously need advice as I really don't know what the right or best thing to do at this time. Please elders in the house be kind enough to suggest what I could do.

I did not think something like this can still happen in this era but this is what I have to deal with. So my mum flat out told me she does not like the girl I took home because she is not fine. About 3years ago when we went home together she told me this but I just disregarded it like when I'm ready she won't have a choice but to accept her as she is. To be honest she is not fine at all but she gives me peace of mind which I feel is the ultimate.

She was involved in an accident with my dad last year and we lost my dad in the process. During the burial I went home with my babe again and my mum still made her displeasure with the girl show.

The thing now is that I went home again to see how she is doing and she called to speak me again after stating that I had disobeyed her by not breaking up with the girl she said is still not having her and if I insist she is the one I should count her out of the marriage. She can never come visiting or even call her. She will not attend the wedding. Now I am 32 and she is 30

How do I navigate this situation. I plead for good advice. Have you been in a similar situation how did you handle it.

There is an African proverb that goes: “What an old man can see sitting down, the youth cannot see standing up.” The wisdom that the elderly possess is something so powerful that they are able to see far, even if a young person was to put effort.


I will suggest you sit down and have a heart to heart talk with your mother on the pros and cons of your future relationship with her , if it makes sense to you ( you have done CRITICAL THINKING and ANALYSIS) on the discussion for some days ..
Then the decision is yours to make ..
As it stands it will not be easy to break up with the person who love wholeheartedly..
This is my suggestion..

[quote author=nlfpmod post=128730644]

https://businessday.ng/business-economy/article/naira-stable-in-parallel-market-after-cbns-7-85m-sale-to-bdcs/[/quote





SMEs in Nigeria , will not see and go by this report : Welcome to Nigeria where prices of commodities increases beyond control it takes months /years to decrease.
Let the government agencies begin to control the SMEs overcharge prices .

nlfpmod:


https://businessday.ng/business-economy/article/naira-stable-in-parallel-market-after-cbns-7-85m-sale-to-bdcs/

SMEs in Nigeria , will not see and go by this report : Welcome to Nigeria where prices of commodities increases beyond control it takes months /years to decrease.
Let the government agencies begin to control the SMEs overcharge prices .

Nazgul:
So I was hungry and decided to branch at restaurant to eat. I asked them for a plate, they told me ₦2,800. I told them to bring.

The food was impressive in size and quality. I ate to my satisfaction. But the price seemed a little on the high side.

Cc Mynd44 nlfpmod Dominique mukina2

The high cost for cassava flakes is measured to a dollar ..

Wickedfacts:


Your father carried headpan on the site
Buhari finished the project.

You can call GEJ and Obasanjo to commission it. Alaimore oshi.

Bridge that your fathers used 20 years to beg Pdp for, APC gave you in 8 years, you're now saying it is Lord Lugard who started the project.

Hello wicked facts ...
It is said that NOISE is not MUSIC ,rather EMPTY BARREL always makes LOUD NOISE.
This interpretation is yours for you to ponder on, am not here to brag right,neither am I a keyboard queen or king, nor any politician hand tool as you mentioned in your username wicked facts,I will choose TRUEFACTS because it protray transparency and true expression of one's right to freedom on good virtues..
Nigerians are delighted about this project no argument on this,but you are a living witness if it will be effective in basic economic commodities so that you and I will be able to have more to give sir/ ma...
Lest I forget , you can respond to me through hateful comments, I will not reply nor read them because Nigeria has moved to a better place ..
# give peace and hope a chance
# pray for the nation
# facts communicates better to the people than wicked facts.
# no hate

[quote author=Igboslayer post=119163856]Children of hate and perdition won't like this...they will still have reasons to attack this credible development that can improve their endless shithole profile. Offspring of the shishiless are hard to please.[/quote



You sound too bittered and pained for this, life and road projects will always be commissioned monthly and yearly by any responsible government,either state or federal.
Your words and support on this,seem like this is the first miracle that this Govt this for 8 years.
No doubt good things deserve self praise..
In this Nigerians are thankful..
You could reply back with HATEFUL COMMENTS , believe me I will not respond nor read them.
# no hate speech
# good things deserve praises
# embrace love and not projects ....

Sunnyshinylight:
I have come across so many sisters and I have tried to interview them about how they take care of their private parts, many don't get that a woman is supposed to take care of her private part always, at least two times every day, washing it and cleaning out everything that will cause bad odour coming out from Inbetween their legs.

I have had big aunty separated from their husbands and I asked them what happened, they tell me, they always have to force their husbands to sleep with them, and it's always completely impossible task, because he will be covering his nose, he will be asking them for them to use their hands and insert his dick, on so many occasions he prefers using condoms, which to them is very insulting and they wonder if he trusts them or is suspecting them.

But you know I have asked them this all important question for women, " how do you take care of your private part"? And they are like, how? Is there any special way of taking care of what every man is dying to have?

I said to them aunty, do you realize the amount of bad aromatic discharges that's oozing out of your vagina if it's not properly washed and clean, they are like, I should get out, whether are they going for beauty pageant?

Many marriages are like this, they force their man to be enduring what he's supposed to enjoy.

Dear sister please take care of your private part, it's not only a place for sex and attractions, it's your temple of HOLINESS, remember girls if you abuse your private part not just by not washing it, by fucking around, you will surely regret it for ever, I mean ever more, let no one deceive you, life works by principles not by miracles.

Did you just type WASH, by the way the VAGINA is not dishes, clothing or laboratories that you wash with toilet cleaners ..
By the way you are not a CERTIFIED and REGISTER medical personnel so I will suggest you rather not CONFUSED the public with UNVERIFIED vagina result ...
Do channel your Monetary contributions to women who are victims of this, and your Intellectual theories to open a good society .. then your name will RING A BELL in the VIRGINIAN society ...
did you know the penis can't stand the CHALLENGES the vagina goes through every seconds, minutes, days , months and year...
# don't speak I'll if the vagina
# it is not your mate
# it can withstand all odds...

joyH:
Please guys I need your help.
@mod pls help me move to appropriate section.

I am confuse, needs advice on what step to take next.

The whole thing begins on 25th July when i had unprotected sex with my bf. before then my last period came on the 17th of July. so i had sex just about a week after.

Since then uptil now i have not seen my period. Initially I worried i may be pregnant but after several urine and blood test it all turns out negetive. what could be wrong here? This is the first time i am experiencing this

I have done 4 test myself using pt test strips. but all came negative. Yesterday I went to a private lab an de used my blood and urine sample for pregnancy test, it still came out negative.

Abeg any medical expert or any one with past experience should assist with advice on next step please.

Note, my boyfriend is aware of the whole situation. he himself is confused. plus I am 23 yrs old just incase my age will aid in the diagnosis.

Hey babe ... you never told us if you are on contraceptive pills, string or injections.
Here are my few suggestions...
Medical :
Hormonal imbalance due to sharp drinks or drugs you have taken from July - September, it is being wrongly taken by you without proper description of the doctor.
I will advise to visit the clinic immediately, to check the problem , do not mind the financial cost .
It might be pregnancy not shown at this early stage , because pregnancy in women varies ..
A good lab. Should run a genuine SCAN test for you to decide your future outcome .
THE OTHER SIDE:
I don't know who you sleep it, you could be someone FINANCIAL ALTER , spiritual, since he is not making a move about this ... while still playing the BOYFRIEND role ...
just my thoughts anyway, because I don't think he wants to be a dad soon..
In everything , practice good hygiene don't just have sex with any man because your peers do this in gaining fame because you never can tell what is next...
Have sex with who your heart desire truely because the thing dey tired person sometimes no matter how better and experience the sex skills ..
# play safe ....
#do what is right ..
# don't join the bandwagon of classic but young physically group ..
# the future is getting hard .

[quote author=InsideLife2022 post=113178925]I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.

She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.

They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.

I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.

Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.

Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.

My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.

Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?

Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.

Cc: RoyalRoy

I want this thread to be moved to the right and appropriate section. Thank you!






Are you sure this is your real story or you copied a story to gain popularity just my thought..
If it is your real story ...
I will say the medical advise to stop the baby from breastfeeding stop the natural bond between mother and child .
Isthe medical situation severe ( life threatening) ,this could make your spouse give up on you, family as well as people in general.
But soon the medical issues be temporary it is your duty to win back the heart of your jewel through good ways...( You know them)
Breast feeding cannot be toy with...
It is not easy , do not give up is so disheartening to hear that your marriage of 2 years is experiencing marital crisis early

[quote author=GraciousGod190 post=111980899]As much as I hate bringing this here, I need advice on ways to go about this..is it right for a father to drag his wife wealth with his son, knowing fully well, the son is now a grown man.

My mom left us with lot of properties she acquired as inheritance from her father and mother side, been the only surviving child, while she was still around some relatives wanted to grab some of it...claiming she's a woman...but seeing she had a grown up son which was me they had to maintain and stay on their lane... besides my mom was never the sluggish type.

Now, my dad is trying to drag this property with me, saying he wants to sell some of the land without even informing me... he his claiming some of house rents and lavishing it on frivolities anyhow.

Yes he's my father, he trained me up to this stage that I am, but by right I thought Those properties are mine already.since it's inheritance that's supposed to be passed down to her offsprings.....if am wrong please someone should tell me.







If I understand you well you SAID your mother properties ws passed to have by her mother because she was the only surviving child ...
Here are some issues to contend with ..
Are your parents leaglly married before your mum passed on?
Is there any will on these properties?
Are the properties written in your mother name or both partner only??
Why so you so much interested in all these properties ?
Are there written documents or witnesses to affirms these properties are still intact ?


My suggestions are simple..
I feel you these properties are not rightly yours until your enemy father has passed away you make think you are one of these LAZY and property entitlement KiD ( pardon my harsh words ) ..
you should be gratitude that you still have a claim to some properties in Nigeria without anyone throwing arrows at you .
My thoughts are if there is any possibility of having a good discussion btw FATHER and SON on how to manage and yeild more income would be better .
But if he says no..in respect to Old age then you share the properties evenly and wait till his enemy pass to glory
To avoid future dependence on you and your children ..
But if you insist get yourself an experience property lawyer but be READY to burn some good CASH and fight hard( not physically ).
This are my thoughts ..

Philip94:
I have been married for almost a year but my marriage has been 30% sweet and mostly 70% bitter because I have an unforgiven wife who is ONLY concerned about what I said and did wrong but NEVER concern about what I did right.

She gets offended easily, keeps malice and gives me silent treatment at home. I've had private conversation with her MORE THAN 10 TIMES on how to find a lasting solution to wherever issues she has with me instead of her constant fault finding and malice. Despite my effort, all seems like a waste coz there is no positive change at all.

Lately, MY LEGALLY MARRIED WIFE TOLD ME THAT SHE NO LONGER FEEL CONNECTED AND FEEL LOVE FOR ME ANY MORE.

I asked her to tell me one or more reason why she said that but her response was NOTHING. She's practically creating space between us. She does her thing alone and does not carry me along in any thing and she wants same from me.

She is doing everything to make the marriage stop while I have been the one sustaining and making the marriage work out. Her parents are not helping matters coz they are not giving me listening ears and have a way of supporting their daughter by twisting whatever I say to suite them.

B4 we got married, we had quarrel and misunderstandings as other couples do and said abusive words to ourselves which we settled b4 our wedding day and I assume we have forgiven and forgotten about it. But with the look of things, my wife is tied to the past and will keep remembering what I said and did wrong in the past and she allows the past deed affect our present.

Sadly, her unforgiving attitude and never ending resentment is badly affecting our marriage presently. I have tried everything possible within my capacity to rekindle back her love for me & for the sake of our marriage and 3 months baby boy. I suggested that we go out to a cool place just the two of us alone but her response is NO. She even said I can go out and have sex with anyone that she doesn't want SEX for now.

NOTE: I am the one paying all the bills at home coz she's presently jobless. Yet, I am not complaining. She is not stressed up as some may think coz there are helpers at home taking care of her and the baby. Please! What can I do to put a stop to this shit. It's affecting my emotion and psychology.

Listening to your worries only without your wife's cannot give a perfect solution...
I will suggest that money without affirmation and respect among couples leads to problems in marriage ..

Lack of proper good communication in marital
issues such as children, sex, money, education , inlaws, business, personal hygiene etc breeds little crises in few marriages .

The ability to keep things cool in marriage without verbal abuses between each other,being proud of individual achievement rather than being defensive YET ensuring that the dispute is settle ..

I will suggest you talk with her once more with a SOFTER tone requesting for a private and quality time not SEX inclusive... If she agrees you could surprise her by decorating the room nicely ...
Arrange your points of discussion etc ,
Let her speak without interuption,observing the little mistakes both couple made in time past and resolving them immediately..

If she refuses then let her be ... But continue to perform your family responsibilities in no matter of time she will return back pleading ...

Mide3367:
Happy birthday to me.. I thank God for how far he has brought me in the course of my aircraft maintenance engineering course so far..

Happy birthday to the FLY man , you are preserved and protected from all evil ...
And less I forgot ...
Your income dey increase ooo.., eventhough you look so serious in simple BIRTHDAY PICTURES..

9182736455O1999:

i'm only happy you included i think before the whole trash

When you know say you sick , while you come NL for treatment ,...
It shows say wetin dey worry you pass normal talk...

# grow up
# be responsible
# love yourself more
# get a little bit of moral ...

[quote author=Kolawole2130 post=108923591]We have been married for 3 years now. We stay in a self contained apartment. He tries as much as possible to pay his bills while I support him too with paying the bills.

Since we married, anytime I talk about childbearing he gets angry. Like he may not talk to me for days. I will be the one to come and beg him later. He says his not ready to start bearing kids that he wants to have enough money to take care of the kids. He says he doesnt want his children to suffer.

I am so pissed off, I am 32 now and he is 35 and he earns 100k while I earn 70k. Is that not enough to raise a family. Plus age is not on my side he doesnt look like he will be ready in a year time again. Am already getting tired and people around me are getting married. No body can even talk to him. His mind is made up already.

The last fight we had he said i can go and divorce him if i cannot wait till he is ready. He is busy reading for professional exam instead of him to be thinking of how to produce seed. Professional exam that will last another 2 years. His family can't even talk to him. Am just frustrated already.[/quot







Inasmuch I understand you clearly ma...
My people say" children makes home interesting and sweeter " ....do not forget CHILDREN and PARENTING is not as easy as you see it...

Dont you think your husband want to get a professional certificate first thereby channelling the money meant for kids upbringing to BOOST his income after the 2 years programme?

Have you ask your lovely husband his plans on childbearing and parenting ?? because it is not about carry pregnancy ooo ma , MONEY from both source is involved ,remember your 70k will be divided into 4 places ,his 100k will be divided into 7 places ...

Having a child/ children will be very easy for you ,have you not seen and heard of gret women who gave birth after menopause ,yes I understand the age factors in parenting ....

CALM down my sis,,,, you could be saving for your baby items and fees now ... So you wouldn't blame your guy for being " less a man"...

Above all there are other ways to make your sweet marriage of 3 years interesting ,you fit dey rub e head for your anointing oil make him HARD attitude soft,from there they collect ALLOWANCES, go outing and visiting your good friends and family members ....etc..

Is it CHILDREN this God fit bless you with QUADRUPLETS at once for your patience....
You will have it before you clock 35 ...
It is well...

Phillipsburg:
It's a long read because I had to pour out my mind wholeheartedly. Please endeavor to read through.



I so much hate my dad right now. And even my mom for supporting him. I can always remember how unfortunate it is for me to find myself in this family in the first place. Infact, not having a family is better than this living hell I found myself because these people are bent on ruining my future with their own life.

My father is the person who will be fighting with my mom in a brutally physical manner where they'd be running after themselves in the street after almost stripping themselves naked. He's the one who doesn't know how to reprimand his children except by using curses. He's the one who would go out and come back drunk and turn everywhere upside down. All these I've endured for almost every part of my life and my mom has refused to leave him saying because she has kids for him.
I know some of you people will start saying all manner of things about how you would have cherished your parents if you had one blah blah blah but this is hell. It's choking me I feel like dying.

I just met a girl who happened to be my girlfriend and we've been together for some time now and my father is help bent on separating us because he doesn't want me to marry close to him so that there wouldn't be clashes between him and the mother of the girl because he feels the woman is a violent person.
As they've turned the house into a place of sorrow, i couldn't think of spending even a minute inside the house. I usually spend the evening with this girl at her place and return when everyone at home must have slept. The next thing was for him to start cursing at the girl and even threatening to go to her house and throw tantrums.
I just want to get out of all these because it's choking me. I can't breathe. I feel like I'm losing my mind because of everything. The emotional torture I feel whenever they start fighting. How angry I feel when he starts cursing everyone and shouting at us in front of the house and disgracing everyone of us throughout the whole neighborhood. The way he go about gossiping and talking bad about his own children and wife to outsiders and the whole neighborhood. I'm sick of everything.

I just wish I was born without a family because I'm even afraid of imbibing his behaviors and acting like him when I later settle down. I will never forgive him for making me become who I don't want to be.

Hello writer , the long epistle written by you shows the following portrays your personality .

I think you don't understand the aspect called LiFE
I think you don't understand the term " WHO AM I"
I think you are deeply interested in relationship when you don't have any KNOWLEDGE about relationships...
I think you are still a YOUNG CHILD , who does not want to BREAK OUT from his environment , rather BLAMES his parents on things that are not LIFEs ' priorities....
I think you have not be hit by LIFE CHALLENGES , which reshape PEOPLES MENTALLY, PHYSICALLY, FINANCIALLY, MORALLY etc...
I think you need A GOOD FRIEND, MENTOR, LIFE COACH and BUSINESS TRAINER who will guide you all the way long...

These are my humble thoughts , am not here to bash your parents, girlfriend and environment because these are what makes life twisted ...
Do pardon me for not taking sides with you .....

MisterKennedy:


Wow!!! I really love your reply dear... It's so epic and mature.

Merry Christmas to you dear

And may you have a very wonderful and fantastic new year... May it be the best new year for you so far.

Am grateful .... Merry Christmas to you dear

And may you have a very wonderful and fantastic new year... May it be the best new year for you so far as well...
Peace unto you.....

steveneche:
Am just curious. With the current state of economy, as a lady, can you marry a guy whose salary is not up to 50k monthly?

Candid opinion please!

I will suggest you wait till the end of this OLD and LIFELESS statue tenure , before you embark in the INSTITUTION of MARRIAGE.. the truth be told no young lady living in the cities or villages can wear the garment of ENDURANCE for years because of the word called LOVE... Unless you have already gotten some necessary requirements of life then you can marry and manage a home with less than 50k..
The following will drain or make you...
Choice of partner
Marriage rites ( two people involved in finances)
Accommodation ( your sole responsibility )
Feeding ( spouse, child , inlaws, friends)
Personal management
Financial responsibilities etc

Don't be deceived every woman has her threshold of endurance in marriage , if a woman bears your sole responsibility get ready for SLEEPLESS, BORING and DIVORCE lifestyles in marriages...
WOMEN NO DEY FINISH FOR MARRIAGE MARKET...

Equip yourself with some other legit means of income and good investments...
Inspiring marriage and women lifestyle books
Having fun( playing safe ... Healthy)
Loving your creator and your fellow neighbours...etc

Then you will SEE that MARRIAGE WILL BE ATTRACTED TO YOU AT ITS RIGHT TIME boo/bae...
Shalom...

UncleKoboko:

Frustrated old hags everywhere...
Shame!

Exchanging words with an UGLY BEAST as you , can make me loose thousands of naira currency in minutes rather I will rather use my time to make and gain more ...
# take a bottle of 100 beta Malta for your smelly and sour taste
# take 2 tablet of PCM to relieve you from the current COVID OMICRON That has been infected down your blood stream line...
# when done with the healthy tips you can lay your BIG HEAD and MALNOURISHED body for effective performance ...
SHAME on you....

T0T0fucker:
good day all,

I really do need your mature opinions on this issue, I'm a young man in my early 30s. due to my personality am the kind of guy that flex alot. night life parties, clubbing and the rest.sometime last year I happened to be at the club, just like any other day..I took a girl home. (one night stand) we had sex and in the morning she left after I sorted her out.

She took my number though and from there we started chatting, due to how we clicked easily.. just like every other guy..I decided turn her to a friend with benefits...from friend with benefits....she started acting all up like a girlfriend. (coming to my house to pass the night and she can decide to leave whenever she wants) during this period, we had consexual sex raw because I was beginning to trust her a little.... that she wasn't really that bad.

Fast forward to the ending March this year, one issue led to another...and she stopped coming to my house...though we still talked sometimes on phone... later I got to know she got hooked with one rich yahoo boy.( which I didn't Care, because me na block on my own)

Next thing I saw on her whatsapp status was her traditional introduction rights, inviting her friends and well wishers, I congratulated her and moved on. after some time I saw her upload a pics of her baby bump.

Na wa o, na so it dey quick, fast forward to yesterday evening she just put to birth... which she also sent on her whatsapp status. retweeting her friends who congratulated her on her status.

Now, I haven't congratulated her yet, this has got me worried.. thinking.... "WHAT IF THIS CHILD IS MINE" I have every reason to believe it's mine.

1) calculating the month we broke up and had sex last to this December she gave birth is like few days pass 9 months.

2) the way she acted on the issue that made her stop coming to my place again... showed she already had this planned out (picked the yahoo boy over me because she knows am not going wife her...due to how we met )


3) the baby she uploaded is quite fair, and I also am fair in complexion. (her man is black)

With this I have every reason to believe that child might be mine.... but am really confused don't know what to do... have been thinking ever since yesterday night.

Can I fight this now or I should wait till the baby is grown?


Moving on when I know I have a child somewhere, my offsprings is not an option.. because I feel scammed already.

Dear OP. ...please take a DEEP breathe in answering these REALITY CHECK QUESTIONS below...If you are satisfy and can fufilled all these then GO ,PURSUE and RECOVER ALL....according to the HOLY scriptures ...

Are you sincere and ready to be a father?
Do you know and understand the rules of fatherhood.. not just bearing fatherhood through seeds and names??.
Do you understand the rules in modern day Co-parenting?
How much do you earn daily, weekly or monthly to fight for paternity or DNA test results??
Are you sure you can cope with emotional depression and the likes ....
Are you READY TO BE A MAN and not a baby boy claiming to be young when you are not ....
Sex and body counts does raise your EGO rather it depreciate them...
Lastly that baby " IS NOT YOURS" MOST BABIES WHEN THEY ARE NEWLY BORN ARE ALWAYS FAIR BUT WHEN THEY GROW INTO MONTHS RETURN BACK TO THEIR PARENTS COLOURS...
THE LADY IN QUESTION WAS MESSING AROUND WITH DIFFERENT MEN WHEN SHE WAS WITH YOU AND HER YAHOO BOY ....
#TAKE HEART
# BE A REAL MAN
# BE RESPONSIBLE
# DONT BE BITTERED
# STAY SAFE ...

T0T0fucker:
good day all,

I really do need your mature opinions on this issue, I'm a young man in my early 30s. due to my personality am the kind of guy that flex alot. night life parties, clubbing and the rest.sometime last year I happened to be at the club, just like any other day..I took a girl home. (one night stand) we had sex and in the morning she left after I sorted her out.

She took my number though and from there we started chatting, due to how we clicked easily.. just like every other guy..I decided turn her to a friend with benefits...from friend with benefits....she started acting all up like a girlfriend. (coming to my house to pass the night and she can decide to leave whenever she wants) during this period, we had consexual sex raw because I was beginning to trust her a little.... that she wasn't really that bad.

Fast forward to the ending March this year, one issue led to another...and she stopped coming to my house...though we still talked sometimes on phone... later I got to know she got hooked with one rich yahoo boy.( which I didn't Care, because me na block on my own)

Next thing I saw on her whatsapp status was her traditional introduction rights, inviting her friends and well wishers, I congratulated her and moved on. after some time I saw her upload a pics of her baby bump.

Na wa o, na so it dey quick, fast forward to yesterday evening she just put to birth... which she also sent on her whatsapp status. retweeting her friends who congratulated her on her status.

Now, I haven't congratulated her yet, this has got me worried.. thinking.... "WHAT IF THIS CHILD IS MINE" I have every reason to believe it's mine.

1) calculating the month we broke up and had sex last to this December she gave birth is like few days pass 9 months.

2) the way she acted on the issue that made her stop coming to my place again... showed she already had this planned out (picked the yahoo boy over me because she knows am not going wife her...due to how we met )


3) the baby she uploaded is quite fair, and I also am fair in complexion. (her man is black)

With this I have every reason to believe that child might be mine.... but am really confused don't know what to do... have been thinking ever since yesterday night.

Can I fight this now or I should wait till the baby is grown?


Moving on when I know I have a child somewhere, my offsprings is not an option.. because I feel scammed already.

Dear OP. ...please take a DEEP breathe in answering these REALITY CHECK QUESTIONS below...If you are satisfy and can fufilled all these then GO ,PURSUE and RECOVER ALL....according to the HOLY scriptures ...

Are you sincere and ready to be a father?
Do you know and understand the rules of fatherhood.. not just bearing fatherhood through seeds and names??.
Do you understand the rules in modern day Co-parenting?
How much do you earn daily, weekly or monthly to fight for paternity or DNA test results??
Are you sure you can cope with emotional depression and the likes ....
Are you READY TO BE A MAN and not a baby boy claiming to be young when you are not ....
Sex and body counts does raise your EGO rather it depreciate them...
Lastly that baby " IS NOT YOURS" MOST BABIES WHEN THEY ARE NEWLY BORN ARE ALWAYS FAIR BUT WHEN THEY GROW INTO MONTHS RETURN BACK TO THEIR PARENTS COLOURS...
THE LADY IN QUESTION WAS MESSING AROUND WITH DIFFERENT MEN WHEN SHE WAS WITH YOU AND HER YAHOO BOY ....
#TAKE HEART
# BE A REAL MAN
# BE RESPONSIBLE
# STAY SAFE ...

flyinnizam:
As Christmas is approaching luck keeps shining on my brother as he brought home this big antelope. Please before you correct me that it is deer note that deer have antlers not horns. Make your research

Come and take your xmas share

Who talk say deer no dey cry for night, because we go kill am chop...
If you no Sabi manage am I beg , call me the food analyst ... na we get the work ....
The meat no need too much maggi , na only palm wine or alcohol , no SOFT DRINKS ooo.
Call me I dey wait ...

Kriss216:
Littered and bittered Nairaland feminists, Oya breakfast is ready.

You should be tag as juvenile delinquent ...
Who lacks sense of direction and suffers from MPD stage 5.....
Sometimes you should learn the attitude of " keeping silence when you do not know the subject matter."

Kriss216:
Littered and bittered Nairaland feminists, Oya breakfast is ready.

You are juvenile delinquent ...
Who lacks sense of direction and suffers from MPD stage 5.....
Sometimes you should learn the attitude of " keeping silence when you do not know the subject matter."

SundayNightGist:


Thank you Sis
Many are females on this platform but males in real life, that's why "I read beyond the lines"
No be my fault

No pblm... I can't be what am not..
Am female...
REAL FEMALE not a Transgender or Bi-sexual being .

SundayNightGist:


Bro, did you just call 13-55-year-olds "the younger generation?"

I don't understand you , are you saying people who are in their jubliee ages are older generations...
Oh... you think say na 0months - 40years+ are the younger generation.

As a reminded am a female not a male...
Ensure "you read between the lines " before you comment .

SundayNightGist:
Honestly, I used to believe some things belonged to the red light district. Or is it just me? Seeing that I was raised a church boy with little to no experience chiking babes, I couldn’t imagine myself ever dating a girl that now makes me think twice. Like, am I now mad or what? How did I get here?

Since I met this my new girl, it’s just been as if the veil of "ignorance" is beginning to fall off my face; abi guy man don dey spoil go be that ni?

Or how else can I explain to this honorable forum that my current girlfriend, though a manager at her company, likes to wear waist-beads? I mean she even wears it to work!

Although I somehow like the sight of it on her waist, I just can’t get the idea of thinking she might be a corporate olosho out of my head. This thing is sowing seeds of mistrust in me and I really don’t know what to do again. And it’s not like I haven’t told her. Everytime I do she will just look at me with a side-eye, rub my head, and laugh briefly. Shey I never carry load wey no be my own like this? Abi na my mind? Make e no be say na person glory dey on the line so o. The thing dey fear me walahi.

Nairalanders please advise a brother urgently.

Ladies who were waist beads are the younger generation from 13 - 55 years old. Even most nursing mothers wear their girl child waist beads for some reasons best known to them...
Anyways the secret is not Farfetch there are various KINDs of BEADs worn by women these times we are ...
You knew to politely and playful ask her with a promise to keep the secret she might tell you .. or better still take a picture of the beads and inquire more , you will discover that" there is more that the eyes"..
am not preaching morality here, don't trade your future with Unknown beads from a Girlfriend...
#my thoughts

[quote author=EkehPraise post=107780213]Honestly I am not trying to sound like a broken record though I'm hurting badly because I don't know how to feel, but this my babe that I've been dating for the past 2 years hardly calls me. Times without number we have talked about it and she promised to improve but that has not been the case.

We have discussed marriage plans and also introduced each other to our families hoping to give it a go ahead come 2022 by God's grace which I know she will be happy to settle with me but two days ago during my break time from work I checked my phone and as usual was about calling her then it occurred to me that this is what I do everyday from good morning to goodnight no calls from her except I call or chat first so I decided not to call or chat yet till now nothing from her.

She has been online on whatsapp, I am sure she calls other people. I have made up my mind not to call or write to her first and if she doesn't reach out to me then I will just bone and move on gently.[/quote



Sometimes I don't understand young men in this technological age.
When a woman calls and chat with you it will be term as " STALKING" in Nigerian English , when she does little it is term as " MEAN" ,if she doesn't it is term " CHEATING" ..
In this case I will not take sides with you , the lady has also called you at certain times previously .
Maybe she is not buyoant presently since we are in mid month....
CALM DOWN as the little boy that trended said ....
Wait till month end .... and see if it is the same ....

paulavon:
I was having a conversation with a lady and two guys a couple of days ago, and in the course of the conversation I told them I rarely drink alcohol (just a bottle of Heineken in a month or two), I don't smoke, I don't womanize and I don't crave for money.
I was told that I wasn't normal, that an average man must indulge in one or two of those vices.

I will people to share their opinions on this.

I am PROUD to say my SPOUSE falls into this HIGH PROFILE and healthy habits as you ...
Not a crazy football enthusiast but watches it when necessary
And to crown it all his CLOSE FRIENDS are A BOTTLE of GROUND NUTS with BLUES and REGGAE MUSIC..
Health , relationship, financial and business , family life we have been wonderful without the stories of " they said , she said stories

DavidNative:
Need Advice Pls

Good Day, everyone, am having a serious challenge in my marriage, been married for a year and was no Premarital sex, since I need to promise her am a faithful guy and based on religion ground….

But honestly even in the marriage, it has been one sided, she said my private part is to big and I stay too long, I do every for her, love her, care for her, help her in kitchen, setup a home business/career for her to save her the stress of going out. I give her head, sometimes I suck and engage in pre-intimacy for long , but many times, since we had gotten married, I am the only active person, sometimes for a month no sex, am getting frustrated, I need advice.
Everytime i try to discuss it, she say i should try to understand that she is nott the sex type. Am tearing apart on my inside. What can i do pls

You claim you stayed FAITHFUL during courting without being intimate .
Oga calm down your woman no dey run , na because of the years of 'Abstinence' according to you , if I may asked una no romance each other ni to test whose sex drive dey low...
I go suggest you introduce good food supplements to your daily eating style to boost her immune and yours...
Women of all sizes and ages acts like babies generally,you can define the best method to use in luring her to enjoy the act rather than being BOSSY and feeling ALPHA MALE during this period .
Sinec you are blessed naturally downside without though you didn't mention the size for us to give the appropriate advise . I will say you should try some SEXUAL POSITIONS for BIGGER SIZE ....
You could add some fun to it by applying good HYGIENE SEX LUBRICANT...
# not a chief judge
# calm down
# it will be well....

[quote author=silentvoice post=106294231]This appearance has been on my private part for as long as I can remember. It doesn't itch except when I shave on some occasions. I'm a 23 years female and not sexually active, is there a way for me to clear this? Does anyone have experience on what this is? I also keep having reoccurring boils close to my vagina








you don't have to WORRY....
Am just a die hard shaved lady who hates PUBIC HAIRS on me I have been through this as well I thought I would die if INFECTION ...
The reasons for this is you MOSTLY SHAVED DRY without wetting the hairs
THE SHAVING STICK is either blunt or used serverally without being kept covered or clean up ...
YOUR PUBLIC skin is very sensitive to any germs that goes into it ...

Shaving your PUBIC HAIRS is not a PUBIC CRIME by Naira landers , I thinks the solution is ....

ALWAYS shave with the hairs wet if you have .
Ensure you change your SHAVING STICKS after two shaves ...
If you want to apply cream you could use a Mild body cream such as Shea butter ,Vaseline to cool the hair follicle....

This has been my practice since a teenager till now am a FULL Adult .. ....

bobontop:
My wife is fond of kissing my 6months boy in the mouth. I personally don't like this and I have told her to stop it but she refused.

This issue in causing a serious argument in my home and I want to take a serious action since she has refused to stop it.

Please I need advice from experienced parents.

I was abused sexual as a child by a cousin staying

with us and there are cases of incest around me. I don't want any of this to happen to my son.

The teenage girl staying with us always sees my wife kissing my son in the mouth and I am afraid she my copy it and start doing it.

Please am I wrong? Am I over reacting? Is it a normal practice? Please advise me.

If the kiss is not the one share by two intimate partner or otherwise , then you should relax and see it as a " relationship between mother and new born" .
but if it is beyond my explanation then YOU MUST PUT A STOP TO THIS before it leads to PRAYER POINTS ....
Health wise it us not hygiene for an adult to kiss a baby on his mouth due to some underlying bacteria in respective of how clean the individual mouth is...

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Mine will be short ....
This is a 4years battle that happen to my younger brother ....
This is really a depressing issue because it disgraces and leads to untimely death on most mothers ..
My younger brother was into selling of household items , to even his certificates as collateral , lying was his nature back then..... He was worked in big firms yet the family didn't have a dime but STORIES THAT TOUCH..
We continued paying debts upon debts ....
Even though I tend to called it "YOUTHFUL PLEASURES" ...
The truth is not far- fetch....
Is either He Gambles 90% ( physically or electronically), 80% Living above his means to entices young Ladies, likely a Cult member who has to redeem some weekly pledges in terms of cash to his superior in order to remain relevance ...
The solution is we call some highly place mentors to speak with him calmly which work for some days and he returned back, we couldn't take it any longer we invited him to some deliverance ministries ,send his name's to various geninue true pastors for prayer meetings which he avoided like a plague until he did the last one that make him so remorseful ....
We continued all sort of prayers each day ,still fed him while working ooo
Still he decided to visit a good deliverance church ,where his sins were revealed and was delivered ..
After he realized that his age group have move up in life
To God glory he will gradually easing out the vices ....