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karbridals:
I agree he was not ready to take the risk,yes.but I never reminded him about money.
Efemenaxy said I moved on so fast not what u said she meant....u said I want people to call him a bad man? Did u actually read what I wrote well? If yes,did I really talk bad about him?

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karbridals:
I agree he was not ready to take the risk,yes.but I never reminded him about money.
Efemenaxy said I moved on so fast not what u said she meant....u said I want people to call him a bad man? Did u actually read what I wrote well? If yes,did I really talk bad about him?

No, don't get me wrong. I am not saying that was what u meant. NO!. You didn't even paint him black, which i like. I was referring to those who believe he was wicked and that he was just toying with your heart deliberately.
....:I just tried to analyze the issue from another angle.



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quote author=HCF post=48059817]@Op. A guy, who earned your TRUST,against all odds and made you fall in love again after two years of ending your last relationship is not an entirely bad guy.

You did not throw yourself at him and I'm not sure there were amorous activities between both of u to suggest that all he wanted were mere flings;this simply means both of you wanted the best form of relationships that would lead to a happy marriage.

The major factor responsible for the misunderstanding between both of you was the long distance and the fact that none of u initiated the move to bridge this gap ( which u erroneously thought could be bridged via calls, texts, Skype..etc) made it worse.

That the Guy may be married, is just pure assumption..he may not. In fact, he may not even be in any relationship as he has told u. He might have said that to put an end to the relationship with u.

Ask yourself, what's the rationale behind winning a woman's heart and breaking it without setting eyes on her or having anything amorous to do with her?. If he was a heartless player, his main goal would be to chop and clean mouth.

I may not agree with the test he subjected you to, but the guy was just scared and extraordinarilly cautious. You may not have any reason to doubt him till now, but Like EfemenaXY observed, the guy had certain reasons to doubt if you would really be a good wife. He appears to be a guy who was not ready to accept the fact that you are as good, genuinely caring and loving as you might have presented yourself...what if you claimed to love him simply because he gives u money?, what if u said u loved him because he is handsome and he has a good job?. Is there any assurance you love him for whom he is and not what he has?. These and other related questions would have pushed him to testing u with the accident story( though, I don't subscribe to the test). In short, he was not willing to take the Risk..and if in real life he is a guy with commitment phobia, the willingness to carry on with an online relationship becomes harder.


So, whether you are guilty or not, I'd say u are not and he MAY not be guilty either...but both of u made mistakes...learn from it and move on.

Horlawoomey:
People mistake introverts as dullards when actually reverse is the case, we can always make our opinions known when issues arise, you will be amaze how beautiful that idea of yours is when you set it free from that solitude.

Cordis92:
I love this thread. My boyfriend broke up with me in May, coz I nagged him . He said we can just be friends, and be positive, hopefully something will come out of it in future. I'm recovering but he is not letting me do so. I don't call or chat, but he does. Once I stay like a week without writing, he will write and that will remind me of our relationship. It hurts. Sometimes I feel like blocking him on whatsapp and facebook. When I deleted his number and set my whatsapp such that as a non contact you can't see anything about me, he was surprised and asked if I blocked him. The truth is that I have realised my mistakes and working on myself, BUT I WANT HIM BACK. I don't know how that will happen, but looking up on God. Unlike my exes, once they break up with me, I delete them and walk away and they always come back when it's late (when i'm completely over them).

Progressive01:
Isn't it shameful that you lot suddenly believe SR??

When they investigated and found the Aisha Buhari in the US isn't the same as the president's wife, you called them names and accused them of being useless and that no one takes them serious anymore.

When they released Fayose's phone numbers, same story.

When they revealed Jonathan's criminal deeds, same shiit.

Alison Madueke's sordid past, the same.

But once they run a story against Buhari's government, they suddenly turn best buddies!!

I feel so disgusted and ashamed of you people.

emekz1:
I am glad to be on dis thread,well conversing one on one is not a problem bt talking to d public is a challenge nd I'm also careful of nt making mistakes while talking.

MUVA:
A bit of both, right?

MUVA:
I'm not an extrovert but I'm still not convinced I'm an introvert. So what am I?

yusfatedeeprof:
"I careless if nobody knows who I am" And he is flaunting this much! oga o

Bidexluv:
Hello

Good evening to everyone.

To our Muslim brothers and sisters, how is Ramadan going?

Olalan:
Truly smartphones are eating deep into our relationships, families, friends and neighbours are no longer bonding as before cause now everybody is busy pressing their phones. This isn't healthy as we build fake relationship while neglecting the real ones.

Millerz:
Pls, Adekunle Gold doesn't have Grammy potentials but the rest you mentioned do.

passionate88:
Bre ast must be shown