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To quote Confucius: If you like someone smash yourselves and if they like you they'll stay.

Una go slap una self tire in this your freakishly odd relationship.

From Benjamin Franklin's letter to a friend.(Choice of a woman) I don't agree with all the points but it resonates.
"But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking a Commerce with the Sex inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice, that in all your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. You call this a Paradox, and demand my Reasons. They are these:

i. Because as they have more Knowledge of the World and their Minds are better stor'd with Observations, their Conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreable.

2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Men, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a 1000 Services small and great, and are the most tender and useful of all Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an old Woman who is not a good Woman.

3. Because there is no hazard of Children, which irregularly produc'd may be attended with much Inconvenience.

4. Because thro' more Experience, they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your Reputation. And with regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be rather inclin'd to excuse an old Woman who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his Manners by her good Counsels, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.

5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part: The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding2 only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.

6. Because the Sin is less. The debauching a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her for Life unhappy.

7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend the making an old Woman happy.

8thly and Lastly They are so grateful!!
Thus much for my Paradox. But still I advise you to marry directly; being sincerely Your affectionate Friend."

My guy it's not an anomaly. You might just have an aversion to vapidity and bullshite. Or you de find sugar mummy.

The Angel you don't know. Can be from a useless religion.

Emotional thinkers everywhere. . We all deserve love last last. All love is difficult but some are more difficult than others. Is it not a human being that will choose snake charming as a profession?

jesmond3945:
Op please look for work. Time have changed, if it was in the 90s and early 2000s I would have said okay. This is 2019, we have social media, feminists, LGBT community, olosho and so on. If you want a bomb chick please go and make money, get a good car and live in a good apartment. This thread is for broke guys who would only land village chick.

You're not even wrong, but I refuse to agree with you.

manuel80:
what is that thing that always leads to another.

One thing.

I think MGTOW is a product of what the western world has become. Eg. High divorce rates with a possibility of losing all you worked for to a woman who doesn't deserve it (eg cheating hoe). They feel the whole system is rigged against them, so they refuse to play the game. Nothing wrong in that. Every mallam to him kettle.

Alpha male for Naija na money(be fine bobo). Though scopes and looks de work sometimes.

Just beware of any man who feels entitled to Puna. Those ones are the rapists and serial killers.

Op is missing the most important fact: These Hoes ain't loyal.

There has to be something you're not telling us. Is it that She is boring? Your world views are different? Does She have bad breath? The straff no make sense? Or She just no fine?

Nigga, you just described a smart, industrious woman who is dedicated to you as a person. You also implied that she respects your family. Don't hold her hostage because of her good qualities if you're not ready to put in work. Don't also end up with someone you'll end up hating later.

I go advice you as a young Nigga coming up. Marry the babe. You guys will go places if She is as you have described. The love might develop over time. You might F around and end up faking it till you make it. She seems like who you need right now.

But bros tell us what you're holding back if any.

paraltero:
So the man should not be loving, caring, kind, considerate or generally good. He can be whatever the hell he wants, it's the woman that must be good.

The misogyny.

He said the advice is for men. He also can't include every possible advice na. If you have something to add, then add. Or if you have advice for women then give. It is not every time you have to look for what is wrong with everything.

Stop weed first if you de blow. If not follow the other good advice on the thread.

Please be reminded of the "padlock and key" analogy.

While he is at it, He should also reduce your tithe to 2% Cos the Lord does not want much of a sinner's money.

Kenjataimu. Post nut clarity.

What is his side of the story?

Talking will solve everything. Nothing bad in what she did IMHO. But if She went too far according to your personal constitution no lele. Your life your rules. If you see her as someone you can marry then tell her your position. Find out her own expectations from the relationship. If you can't marry her, then its time to move. Don't #WasteHerTime2019.

Daily beating is just one aspect of relationship. Other aspects might be very OK o. So don't blame them. Especially that aspect of knacks.

Sextape or adonbilivit. So proof of contact is now proof of rape? Till she can prove that he raped her, he's innocent. Not just for me. He should be innocent to everyone.

Feck. We need Leaders not Politicians. Are you not tired?