Thisisvenuz:
I have been dating this lady for about 6 - 7 months now and I proposed to her last week.
I noticed something the brothers dont like me coming around to see my fiancee they said I only have right over her after I have done the needful. Why iam confused now is are they not aware we are courting and why are They stopping me from seeing her pls help me

Dude. Why are you the one going to see her? You wouldn’t even notice her brother’s presence if she was the one coming over to see you. Stop going there and let her come to you. When you are ready to make her an honest woman then you can start frequenting her base after you have done the needful.

Self control

josephm456:
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Bro, leave this girl. Have some self respect. She is not a good person. Cut her off forever if you want peace of mind. Forget love. If she loves you, she won’t cheat.

Cheaters never change. And she does not respect you. All these will get worse with time. Especially when you take her abroad where women hold the power. She will take everything from you and destroy you without remorse.

How can you be sponsoring someone’s life and be chopping disrespect at the same time? You pay her rent and other things yet she rewards you by cheating on you. Even if you see her chats, why does she have chats on there that will offend you if you see them. And is now giving you attitude ontop.

The only reason her mother is begging on her behalf is because of what you’re doing for her daughter.

eazzzy1:
This is like opening a thread giving people reasons not to eat poop. Anyone who needs to be given reasons not to eat shit, deserves to eat shit.

Some people need to be taught. Especially now when some people try to shame others for looking out for their best interests. Common sense is not that common.

Softboy001:


Most all say
Am in relationships
I have a boyfriend
That's what 90% tells me....

And once they telling me that it feels awkward to keep asking them. At first I stop asking once they say that but I thought to guy you gat press on. But wen try pressing more. Omo na shege I dey see. Insults here and there

My advice to you is this:
Bro, no carry am for head. Cos desperation has a way of showing on the face and babes don’t like that.

Take a good look at yourself and ask with an open mind: what might make the ladies I’m after reject me? When you can honestly answer this, then work on those things. Dress well, wear fitted and good looking clothes, hygiene (baff and brush), smell nice and comport yourself as you would like to be regarded.

Then put your self in the environment where you’ll be able to meet babes. Could be at work, in church or other groups. Online parole de like 100 odds, e de hardly pure. Also don’t be scared of approaching babes to get their contact. It’s a numbers game.

Most importantly: Go after women who have shown interest in you. Any other thing na uphill climb. Learn to observe when a woman is giving you green light. Even if na flicker.

If all these don’t work then go to all these game and red pill threads. They actually work for that purpose but no let them brain wash you and convert you to misogynist. Take away what they teach about the nature of women with regards to your purposes and discard the rest. Look for Harddon’s thread. The principles there actually work. Try them. There’s nothing to lose, highest dem go just reject you.

Banilla:
Metaphor.

Same thing. Don't date promiscuous men, it's like drinking gutter water (why would you want to ingest germs?)

I never did that!

Rich and poor men should respect women regardless of how many men they've had sex with.

I gave an analogy not a metaphor.

It is not my concern what women do with promiscuous men.

I love and respect women, even prostituttts. The fact that I respect a promiscuous woman doesn’t mean I’ll wife her up. Not when I’m in my right senses.

The thread was created to inform men who have something going for them in life.

I am not here to argue Mail vs Femail. Not me.

Banilla:
STDs?

Something most men are familiar with. Most STDs can be treated. How many men have complained about being infected? If a promiscuous woman catches a disease, she can easily treat herself before getting married. What men do!

So it doesn't make sense.

Let me spell out the 3 reasons you asked for since it’s so hard to sieve

1. I never said STDs alone. I said fertility issues (complications) from STDs. Stop shifting goal posts. Since you want to go there, most STDs don’t show symptoms in most women. By the time they are diagnosed, complications have risen. Have you aver seen a man with PID?

2. Higher risk of cheating. It will break a man’s heart if his wife cheats. It has nothing to do with how it makes him look. Heartbreak de pain. Plus high risk of paternity fraud.

3. Starfish sex, log of wood in bed, vanilla crumbs etc

Banilla:
Oh! Okay... Who are they having sex with tho, spirits?

If promiscuous women are gutter water, the men are too, right? Every man who's a non-virgin, who sleeps with prostitutes, who fornicates...

It seems you just want to go back and forth for the sake of it. I just gave an analogy to show how your question sounded. We all know that the most important reason for not drinking gutter water is to avoid ingesting germs. Why then will you take the main reason away when answering the question. Don’t just read to respond. Nobody called promiscuous women gutter water.

In your other responses you keep alluding to men who don’t really have anything going for them. The thread was created to inform men who are either successful or have the potential to be. Relax.

HellVictorinho7:
she means if men are not made unacceptable 4 marriage by promiscuity , then women should not be condemned too.

Please where did I state otherwise? Abeg show me.

Banilla:
He dropped this comment on my thread, I'm responding here.

I'm stating a fact, not shaming anyone.

Give me three good reasons women with high body counts are not relationship or marriage material! Do so without the "they reflect badly on me" crap. Okay?

The list of for men with something going for them in life. Not women. Not bums. Cos you’ll never admit it’s true.

That being said. There are up to 3 good reasons up there that have nothing to do with how the promiscuous woman reflects badly on the man.

Banilla:
He dropped this comment on my thread, I'm responding here.

I'm stating a fact, not shaming anyone.

Give me three good reasons women with high body counts are not relationship or marriage material! Do so without the "they reflect badly on me" crap. Okay?

This is how you sound:
Give me 4 reasons why drinking gutter water isn’t good for the body!!! Do this without the “they contain germs that could give me diseases “ crap.

Nia69:
Women women women everytime.

That’s how important you guys are.

As a man with something going for him in life do not let anyone shame you into spending the rest of your life with a walking red flag.

Below are some reasons why you should avoid women who have been fuccked by many different men (you can add yours):

1. A woman with high body count is considered to be low hanging fruit. No man would want that.

2. Except you choose to be naive, habits are very difficult to change. A woman who was easy to fucck by anyone before marriage won’t magically change after.

3. Okafor’s law is REAL. Deny it all you want. But a high body count increases your wife’s chances of cheating if any of the previous diggers deem it fit to dig again.

4. Risk factor for HPV. Throat cancer in the future if you foolishly give them head.

5. Possible fertility issues from Asherman’s syndrome from numerous surgical abortions. Most promiscuous ladies hate condoms. They claim it makes them dry + how many postinor can one swallow sef. Some are now on family planning sha.

6. The shame of men you know already signing her register. Eg. If your wife fuccked around in school e go hard make she allow you escort am go reunion.

7. Possible fertility issues from recurring Pelvic inflammatory diseases from STDs acquired during the course of her hoeing career.

8. A woman who fuccked around most likely settled for her husband. She’ll never give you him her best. Plus this issue with pair bonding (don’t know how true it is).

9. Her husband never benefits from her sexual experience. Never. She feeds him crumbs, vanilla flavored crumbs. Cos she is mostly tired of all that by the time she is ready to settle down.

Banilla:
Seriously, why should you care how many men your girl has slept with? It's childish.

1. A woman with high body count is considered to be low hanging fruit. No man would want that.

2. Except you choose to be naive, habits are very difficult to change. A woman who was easy to fucck by anyone before marriage won’t magically change after.

3. Okafor’s law is REAL. Deny it all you want. But a high body count increases your wife’s chances of cheating if any of the previous diggers deem it fit to dig again.

4. Risk factor for HPV. Throat cancer in the future if you foolishly give them head.

5. Possible fertility issues from Asherman’s syndrome from numerous surgical abortions. Most promiscuous ladies hate condoms. They claim it makes them dry + how many postinor can one swallow sef. Some are now on family planning sha.

6. The shame of men you know already signing her register. Eg. If your wife fuccked around in school e go hard make she allow you escort am go reunion.

7. Possible fertility issues from recurring Pelvic inflammatory diseases from STDs acquired

8. A woman who fuccked around most likely settled for her husband. She’ll never give you him her best. Plus this issue with pair bonding (don’t know how true it is).

9. Her husband never benefits from her sexual experience. Never. She feeds him crumbs, vanilla flavored crumbs. Cos she is mostly tired of all that by the time she is ready to settle down.

Reasons choke. Add your own.

How will they be bossing you around ontop knacks wey you pay for? You were forming gentleman for a hoe and she being what she is had to take advantage of your perceived weakness.

Next time, don’t be a gentleman to hoes. It does not work. They’ll surely misbehave. They prefer when you handle them with iron hand. You were even apologizing for not letting her dictate your movements, haba guy.

RealMarv:
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Go and see a psychiatrist. You might have Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD).

What you’ve described is similar to what sufferers experience. Once you know the problem, there are ways around it if you’re determined.

Mama, Papa school no dey.
Wetin happen?
Our teacher de fear 3 orange men.
Wetin dem wear?
Dem wear black shirt...

Either ice or crack. Both stimulants. Another close bet would be trams. Can’t be weed. Weed makes you lethargic, abstinence does the opposite.

Last last, all drugs are bad. You may not notice it in the short term but eventually it catches up. Except in extremely rare cases one is always better off having never tried drugs.

Unforgiving spirit + immaturity + selfishness + small money + more money than husband = Disaster!!!!!

newcommer:


The country doesn't care about you

Gbam!!!!!!!

kumulus:



I absolutely agree, the way “we” think is twisted……and I’m certain you also will agree with me that mass migration of the economic strength of the nation won’t in any way translate to economic prosperity that will solve the problems mentioned.

How about we start bringing “our” bright, untwisted minds together to birth policies that will be effective towards changing the trajectory of our economic situation since majority of the sane ones know we have incapable manpower at the helm of policy making.

My point is that there is no reason to forcefully prevent people from economic migration.

Forget all this big English and be realistic. The only sensible way to stop economic migration is to make things favorable in the home country. Pay your workers livable wages. Pay their salaries when due. Provide good working conditions. Make the climate palatable for investors in the private sector who will in turn become employers of labor.

Why block people’s pathway to better provide for their families? Most people leaving would rather stay if the conditions were better.

Don’t even talking about changing policies when we can see the people being pushed forward as our next presidents. No hope in that aspect.

ThePublicEnemy:
Nigerian government workers don't get paid that much and you can't say they are not doing anything, they are the law makers, go to Abuja and you would see how government workers are complaining and lamenting, but if you say Top Government workers like Senators, House of reps I agree but you see all this officers in Ministry, MDAs and Agencies, they work their ass and nothing much to show for it

Na government officials I talk. Not workers.

kumulus:
There’s a world war looming and the West is only stocking up all the good H&H (Hands and Heads) while they can. To the nurses and professionals going in droves; “…the grass is greener on the other side”.

Good move from the Zimbabwean government, African leaders ought to emulate.

They won’t pay their workers well. The government officials collect exorbitant salaries for doing basically nothing. Doctors in LUTH have not been paid for at least 10 months. No one talks about this.

Yet blocking people from migration to more economically favorable areas is the good thing to do.

Africans especially Nigerians are our own problem. The way we think is so twisted.

If you smoke weed, stop it. Half of your problems are solved. If you don’t, thank God.

Jimmythewise:
funny guy. What kinda receipts do you need exactly?

Nothing much. Your own video walking on the streets in the UK saying that girls are easy to get for nacks.

Jimmythewise:
You will surely be addressed the way you present yourself. Firstly, I will not associate with anyone capable of being a racist. Understand that I didn't go around looking for girls online. They got attracted in some way and that means they will look out for my best interest in every interaction. I've witnessed a few of them fight racism in some ways.

My point for saying what I said initially is that I can knack any and everywhere irrespective of what the OP said. By all means as a man be an alpha , you live beneath your capabilities as a beta. Peace.

All these “I will, I shall, I can”. Na just mouth. Reach there first do am with receipts.

Alpha male will never open their mouth to say they are alpha. Na their doings de speak for them.

13 year old.

omaira:


I’m in my late 20s and yeah you’re right when you say I don’t understand the character of an average Nigerian girl because all my life I’ve never really known what relationship feels like. This was actually my first time of being in a relationship because I had to give my focus to studies and get a good job at the early stages of my life. I’m happy I’ve been able to pursue and achieve most of the things I dreamt of becoming in life and for this reason I decided to taste what relationship really is and boom!! I met this girl.

It’s quite a sad experience but I’m happy for the lessons learnt. I feel more knowledgeable on how to go about with the next girl that comes into my life.

But I still got this p*ssy for supper just for the weather.

Hope say you de use condom? Condom sef no de protect from herpes. There are a lot of things you can contract just by kissing her (herpes, hepatitis C and D). I’m not sure of HPV.

Once a girl cheats on someone who is basically providing everything for her, there’s little else she can’t do. Learn to say no cheating partners, it doesn’t end well. It also stinks of neediness.

akwesenana:
Would you?

So it happened that I dropped out from school since 2017 and I haven't been at home. I came back in May though and since then I've been at home being unproductive and stagnant.

Fast forward to Saturday, my mother, who has never given me money even to buy toiletries suddenly gives me money to buy a new shirt and cut my hair all so that I would follow her to harvest on Sunday.

It was my plan to use the money for some other thing and go AWOL on Sunday but because of my elder brother I decided not to.

So the Sunday comes at last and we go to the church. Time for the harvest reaches and she donates ₦20,000. This is someone that my brother has been begging to pay money for me to go to ICT school and get some skills since May.

Is it right to donate to your church when all is not well at home?

Note: Most people were donating ₦10,000. Someone even gave ₦3,000.

And this attitude of her is pushing me deep into gambling because I can't realise money to do the least of things.

Right now, I'm waiting for her to send me to fill the gas cylinder so that I can use the change on top to bet on UCL and UEL so that I can register for NIN.

It's so sad when no one cares

If you are an adult, stop looking at another adult’s pocket. She’d rather give money to the church instead of her child in need which is a bad thing. But na there e end. Find way and hustle. Do menial jobs. Entry level jobs like sales or waiting tables. Save and enroll into ICT school that you want to.

I agree that it is fuccked up, what she’s doing. But if you’re an adult bone all those ones and fend for yourself abeg. You make your own choices. Nobody can push you to do anything. You even have a place to lay your head rent free. No de look another person pocket once you done pass 21 years. Especially if the person no send you.