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Hausa:
How did you fix your ADHD?

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OP should leave that person. She is a bad person and has shown it repeatedly. Such people never change. They just use the next opportunity.

Divorce and Co-parent cordially for the sake of your “own” children. You don’t have to be friends.

People who are saying he should adopt the child have no empathy. Maybe you don’t give a damn how he feels. Till he dies of a heart attack at 40 because he chose to be reminded daily by the child of this dark period in his life. She was the one that broke the family.

Nwatachoba1:
Well

My own advice be say

1.. if you can truly live with the woman irrespective of what you know now,den put all behind you

2... call a meeting and tell them "this is what I found out,but I'm not going to divorce my wife,but let her inform the father of the child about it, if he wants his baby,fine and if he doesn't, you will take care of her yourself


That way, your wife won't feel she's wise and trust me, she will respect you all the days of her life knowing you won't throw her out cus of the predicament

Calling your families is because, in future there are witnesses when the need arise

Papa will definitely come for his child or child will dedication come for the father

The only solution is to divorce her and co - parent. He should not have to bear the blame of breaking or keeping the family. She made that decision repeatedly. When she kicked him as he was down then verbally assaulted him to the point of tears, after which she cheated on him (He tried once, he forgave her). As if that was not enough she brought another man’s child for him to raise. Then finally, she keeps lying even in the face of a DNA test result.

Greenback:
Well.....day by day,it's more impossible to cope,
I feel like I'm the one that's doing dope,
can't keep a steady hand cos I'm nervous,
every Sunday morning I'm in service,
praying for forgiveness
and tryna find an exit out the business,
I know the Lord is looking at me...............gaddemm hosss,my mind's playing tricks on me.....

Geto Boys. Tan ta na na tan tan tan tan, tan ta na na tan tan tan tan!!!

Learn to say you don’t have. Don’t explain. Just say you don’t have. Dem no de borrow woman money wey you no de plan dash am. If you don’t give her, she’ll find somewhere else. So stop feeling bad. Also try to lash all the money you’ve lent her which she’s yet to return. Remember, woman wey like you no go de bill you anyhow.

And stop giving people value that they don’t give to your life. What have you gained since having met her apart from learning how to chest billing?

saajus:
Maybe rejecting some particular group of patients may not be a crime in Nigeria but it is in advanced nations. Doctors cannot reject patients except if the patient is abusive and in some other special cases. But, Patients have the right to reject Doctors. So, she didn't think of her mental state before choosing her career. It's never too late for her to leave Medicine for ppl who are passionate about it.

About the Church one, it's not a crime. I talked about it because she mentioned Church. If it was a club, restaurant, or other places, I wouldn't have talked about it. If we are running from one another in Church, I wonder where else we expect to see love and acceptance.

She is not a doctor. But even at that, Doctors can refuse to see a patient with or without reason. As long as it’s not an emergency and the patient’s life is not on the line.

If everyone without the passion you’re talking about leaves the medical profession I feel less than one fifth will be left. Stop talking as if the Dr is not a human being like you. It even makes more sense that she refuses to see cases she dislikes so she won’t do the job halfheartedly.

People are human. Even doctors.

saajus:
First, you are not a professional. If as a therapist, you don't want to treat some people then I wonder what they taught you in school. Imagine a Doctor rejecting a fire accident victim because of the look.

Second, you are just wasting your time going to Church cos you don't exhibit the most important law, which is love. Running away from someone in Church cos of what seems to be an ailment is not good. Will you ever hug a physical challenge or down syndrome person to save souls? It's tough to love but anytime you don't want to love, just make this statement; What if this down syndrome person is my sister? What if this man spitting saliva is my father? Remember, u can't choose your father. Ur response to those questions will help u love better. Love is missing in our society cos the same way you look at the addict and d man in your church is the same way some wealthy people and politicians are looking at you too. They don't want to touch u, let alone build a society that will help u.

She doesn’t like treating addicts. How is that a crime? Did she rudely reject anyone?
She doesn’t want to befriend a recovering addict, how is that a crime? Did she insult or disrespect him?

Mstcheeeeew. It is your type that will come online to form holier than thou. She is preserving her mental health by avoiding situations she doesn’t like yet you that is lover in chief and gate keeper of the church says she shouldn’t.

Leave her because things won’t be the same again. But from what you wrote here, everything is your fault. She admired a guy and you called off the relationship without warning.
Apart from the violence, I don’t see where this girl is in the wrong.

Hed0nist:
Who wants to swap Shadow of war and Control? In Abuja. I also have Rainbow Six: Siege and Project Cars to add and join too. Any interesting adventure game will do. Except God of war, any Spider Man, Horizon Zero Dawn and The Last of Us.

I also have God of War if you need it for anything.

Still open.

Emerald04:
bruh I’m just kinda scared I’m going way too far with it. But no matter how much I try to help it I can’t. It’s just a normal lifestyle now.

The day you stop, that is the day you’ll hear weeeeeeen!!!!

CountVersailles:
A lady who makes something of herself will not lack in advances from men. My advice to my friends has always been to make something of themselves and the man will come. Go on and achieve your dreams. And even if the man doesn't come, at least you can rest in the comforting thought that you have achieved your dreams or close to achieving them. Unfortunately, the problem with many women is that they put the man before their dreams. They want to marry and then start out with their goals in life. Sorry, no high value man wants to marry a woman who isn't ambitious or who wants to cling to the man for survival.

May sense not kill you. You have plenty of it.

This story will seem unbelievable but it actually happened. No embellishments at all. I was living a hell of a life at the time and taking some mad risks. I thank God for life.

As a student,I went to west of mines to chill with friends. It was past midnight by the time we were done and the gate of the lodge would have been locked. I opted to spend the night in a cheap hotel. When I say cheap, I mean dirt cheap. This kind 2500 per night cheap. I was also very intoxicated, so the mental processes involved in my decision making were not functioning optimally.

Anyone who knows west of mines will know that it is the HQ of hoes. Long story short as I was returning from buying food to finally retire, I saw a hoe with big ass “parambulating” around the corridor. Without regard for my safety I asked her what the problem was. That was how she told me she was stranded and needed a place to stay. That was also how I stupidly agreed to let her stay with me. She got in and I shared the extra booze and food I bought with her.

That night I slept with the most painful hard on in my life. But I refused to attempt anything as she was my guest. I also wasn’t sure if she was a serial killer, my high was beginning to clear. However in the morning she asked me why I made no attempt to knack her. Cos even though she didn’t say it, she knew that I knew that she was just a hoe who wasn’t able to find a client for the night.

She sha busted it open for your boy. We were at it till the last of the condoms in her purse got torn and I bounced out never to be seen again.

I doubt this post.

Have you heard of the sunk cost fallacy? How many times does history have to repeat itself before you finally use your brain? Separate from him jor. He can still be a father to his children but he doesn’t have to be your husband. Addiction is a very tricky thing. Never blame yourself or sacrifice too much for an addict’s behavior. They’ll always choose that thing before you. Every time.

Better your self, earn, save, invest better the lot of your children. But you’re not obligated to feed a man who hasn’t even married you and who is comfortable watching you toil in pregnancy to feed him.

dopedan:
My friend told me he slapped a nurse when his sister wanted to give birth
because she was delaying him for no reason and I wasn’t surprised because most of them act very nonchalant when dealing with patients
Some nurses even steal patients drugs to resell.
I can not go to a public hospital again o
Any experiences?

Just like that. Dem slap person for where she de work.

Sometimes there just not much you can do. As long as it has to do with drugs. It’s only the affected person that has the final say. He/She has to want to stop.

Coly2012:
The every day Life of a man who is patient and and a good communicator.

Yes. Because the other person is a stone, refuses to have sense and is hell bent on avoiding peace.

Omo. I just read his previous thread 2 years ago where the wife begged him to take her back

My guess is that she realized she was pregnant hence the desperation. Omo. No be small thing.

GboyegaD:
There's no need been a coward about it and I'm presuming they are adults. Based on the circumstance surrounding the birth, I would want to conduct a DNA on this particular child. Is that too hard to ask?

E be like say you like drama.

Hed0nist:
Who wants to swap Shadow of war and Control? In Abuja. I also have Rainbow Six: Siege and Project Cars to add and join too. Any interesting adventure game will do. Except God of war, any Spider Man, Horizon Zero Dawn and The Last of Us.

I also have God of War if you need it for anything.

If anyone is interested.

descartes400:
I remembered this story!

Is Ajimobi who allowed himself to be influenced to perverted the cause of justice alive today?

Everybody, good or bad will still die.

Itsokayo:
do molly, do lean, do xanax, if ee sure for u.

nah cheap drugs you dey take

Molly

How una de get serious relationship with these trenches babes de baffle me on a regular. At best a non-industrious woman go be baby mama. Pay her rent for your kids and pay for food and utilities. But even then she go turn the house to brothel cos the only hustle she knows is between her legs.

I’ve dated an orphan knew how to hustle and would never resort to runs to make ends meet. My money was just a bonus. So you can’t even use the zero support from her parents as excuse.

Guy, set a standard for yourself and stick to it. Your partner should be your partner not your ward who you fucck occasionally.

Zzyy:
Do u have last of us available? I have uncharted 4 if u like

I don’t have last of us. The ones I have are listed for swap. I’ve played Uncharted. Let’s swap if you have another good adventure game available.

Who wants to swap Shadow of war and Control? In Abuja. I also have Rainbow Six: Siege and Project Cars to add and join too. Any interesting adventure game will do. Except God of war, any Spider Man, Horizon Zero Dawn and The Last of Us.

I also have God of War if you need it for anything.

Tboymessiah:
Thanks for your contributions,

To get you clearly, you mean I should start a date with a preferred one now, or whenever am ready I should not rush ? Share more light

Start dating the one one you like. Observe her and marry when you’re ready. Just don’t rush anything sha. It’s a life long commitment.

Tboymessiah:
True talk,

But what of we wey we no get long time relationship...
And we are not any relationship, and age is not on our side, how then are we going to settle down then

32 this December but planing to settle next year, no girl friend not in relationship, but financially okay

No try am. Having an aim no mean say you go de rush. Before you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone you have to see how they react to various seasons. Good, bad, happy, sad, sapa, plenty etc. I’m not saying you should take too much time either, but there is a middle ground.

Satazaa:
Let me teach you an old trick from a not so young man, anytime they bring it up ask them if they are virgins because that's what you are looking for, this takes the wind of thier sail

Guy, you wicked.

Treat yourselves. Warn her never to cheat again. Gonorrhea is usually asymptomatic in women so she might have gotten it before y’all started dating.

Also was the diagnosis made by a professional? It could have been a UTI

cococandy:
Right. So less sex for men then? We are on the same page with the less-sex-for-men idea

Yeah sure. Men have every right to ask. Women have every right to say no.

cococandy:
Hi.

So, What do you think would need to happen amongst the general population in order for women to stop being “overused”. How do you think we as a society can go about creating a dynamic where women are virgins and/or have low body counts?

It’s simple. The women should just say no. Except they are sexually assaulted then it’s a different story.