₦airaland Forum

CsRockefeller:
It's not my opinion but a fact.

Whether she is helping non-financially or financially it doesn't matter as long as she is helping.

your thinking capability is questionable. Go back to my first post that you responded to read it, now come back to your last response and compare and contrast.

I don't know how you people manufacture facts


Just have a nice day abeg

XhosaNostra:
So people with the name Tolu-something never call themselves Tolex? E be like say una think me na mumu or something

You get point sha, I no think say you be mumu.

Your pidgin go well but e no too jell.

CsRockefeller:
You're wrong because that's the whole essence of creating the female, to help.

The otherwise of what I said js your opinion and doesn't necessarily mean am wrong.

There are a whole plethora of ways a woman could help in a marriage. It musnt be finance.

Moreover the essence of marriage isn't for both of you, it's for the kids that come following the marriage. People fail to see this and that is why they'll keep failing in marriage, they keep seeing it as being all about themselves while not considering the helplessness kids...

That's why you'll hear ladies and some men shouting 'my happiness' is what am after and all other variations of that selfish and dumb statement.

XhosaNostra:
Your new Nigerian name.

Tolex is not a Nigerian name/word so tell him the truth

ubunja:
so poor men end up lowering their taste and marrying single mothers because they can't get single women?

While single mothers are ready to support the poor man by shouldering up to 70% of the family finances because they can't get rich men?

Then why is the poor man looking for a job instead of making marriage to a single mother his business? If the single mother is ready to play breadwinner then the poor man has to evolve his role to survive.

well, the poor man wants to be respected too like other men , his ego tells him he's the man of the house so deserves respect. The woman on the other hand feels she is footing the bill hence deserves the role and respect of the man in the house.

That is the issue.



Personally, I see marrying a woman because she can help financially as a very bad reason to marry. Whether you're rich or poor. Marrying her because you feel she'll help you bear the burden is the wrongest move, it'll always come back to haunt you; Majority of the time, it does.

Whether you're rich or not, whether she's a single mum or not.

ubunja:
Damn.and down here we're pissed when a Landlord demands his rent a day before monthend. Lmfao.

It's a crazy world.

it's really crazy world. For most people the yearly rent is good, so you don't start moving things every now and then from one apartment to another.

If you pay rent yearly, and you by any chance have issues with your landlord, you're allowed upto 6 months to look for another apartment without them harassing you, but monthly rent.. maybe you'll be given weeks or a month

ubunja:
I remember reading an article on BBC stating how landlords in Lagos demand rent of up to a year in advance from their tenants. I was stunned. Is that really happening?

man it's standard practice. In fact what Nigerians find uncomfortable is landlords demanding for rent upto 2 years in advance, and it's gradually being accepted.
So yea, it's happening

ubunja:
even myself I shudder at the relentless brokeshaming on NL. You won't see it on any other social network of another country.

I spent years on 2go SA but I can count on one hand the number of times I heard a guy shamed for being broke. Nigerians take this to a whole new level. It's almost like an obsession.

Man, it's not only on Nairaland. It's the same for every and any social network where Nigerians are active. Twitter, Facebook and IG it's the same.

Say something they don't like, you're reminded how broke you are irrespective of whether you're broke or not.

It's as a result of poverty(of the mind and money) and the massive money worship going on, even the music they listen to promotes those, as a result that's what you get.

Martinez39s:
Nothing is inside the brains of many Nigerians except money, job, and business even though many lack the mental capacity and skill to achieve these. Even intelligence and the ability to maintain a civil and intelligent discourse don't make the cut. Say something they don't like and they either say directly, or insinuate, that you are broke and jobless instead of refuting your points. I wonder what a man's financial situation has to do with the validity and truthfulness of his arguments. Honestly, it's disappointing.

I'm glad someone else is noticing this stupid trend. It goes a long way to show that many people male and female are so dumb they think your financial status should determine what you say, whom you say it to and how you say it. It's so annoying.

The worst part is that, the vast majority of those who have this view are overwhelmingly broke, like living paycheck to paycheck.

Very messed up people and they're allover the place(Nairaland, Twitter, IG etc)

budaatum:
You'd please forgive me, allandutch. My contribution in this thread is specifically directed towards the individual who mentioned me and specifically addressed his lies.

I have however gone on to investigate redpill and found the following.

Do you realize you're derailing this thread?

Blazingphoenix:
Lolz, you just said a guy should always be in a relationship where he loves less so he doesn't have to work hard to please the girl, so in this case, the one who loves more works hard to keep the relationship and that is the girl. That's literally what you said bruv. And that implies the guy being selfish

man... in life there's always power in balance, you can't have power balance.

In every relationship be they romantic and unromantic, the one who cares less, loves less holds the key to that relationship, it's always the other person that'll try to be in touch to make things keep going fine. And if you're not that person caring less then you don't hold the power in that relationship and as a result would bear it when things go bad. It's not selfishness, that's how it is. You can't force it. Every relationship each member of that relationship know where they belong.


Besides caring less doesn't mean being insensitive or being arrogant person, you just know when to draw the line and stick to that.

sexylassie2:
I am just spilling my own redpill.

And my own redpill is simple, YOU ARE BOTH BROKE.

It is bad to be broke, it causes low self esteem, depression, lack of respect and sometimes suicide.

You know the country you are living in, life expectancy is 54 for many of you men, the land is full with unemployment, it is logical to say many young men are broke and jobless, many suffer from depression, so a wise young man instead of wasting his time learning about some marketing gimmick of woman behaviour, he will find ways to uplift himself through finding a job and creating useful networks that will help him in future.

That is my redpill

#redpill.

whatever it is that is disturbing is very strong. I hope you get help soon.

sexylassie2:
you read threads on women in the night for 8 hours straight when the next day was monday

it shows you are unemployed and broke, you could have used those hours to apply for jobs online.

you can say he's unemployed... Plausible but arguable. But how can you say his broke? Are you his account manager?

What if he has his own business and of course has people handling things for him, which means he's immediate attention isn't always needed in the day to day activities. Meaning he can show up at anytime.

I think it's time you stop broke shaming people because it's plain stu.p.id... How you can conclude someone is broke without knowing sh..it about them is bewildering.

I know me too am broke, because that'll be your next line.

the list lacks merit on many aspects;

1. A sizable number of them(especially the females) have gone under the knife.
2. It's evident that many of them have actually aged, basically looking at these pictures presented here will show you that. Very few of them, less than 10 actually haven't aged.

I can't believe obama and his wife are there. Obama that has gray hairs already?
Even Jzay has aged unless aging means different thing to you.


You can say they look better(as in fresher and all) but aged? A vast majority of those on the list have aged and it's evident. Try watching some of their live interviews, discussions etc.. You'll signs of aging all over most including wringles. Not all these make up faces and all

DontBullshitMe:
Does the inclusion of this seem sensible to anyone?

I hope I am not the only one who finds it mentally disturbing.

very very disturbing. What's worst is that, that's exactly a popular media company in the name of Vanguard published it.

The editor who saw this and allow it to go live needs to be relieved of his job or a stern warning be issued.

rentAcock:
Great news. Once the whole world perish, Nigeria might be the only remaining nation. It will be a new world ruled by Africans.

bullsh..it..

So you're comfortable with the rest of the world perishing and die so you can be able to rule...


No wonder your president was celebrating a few weeks ago when South Africa slipped into recession because that was the only opportunity for Nigeria to become the biggest economy in Africa.

A people that depends on the downfall of others to succeed are doomed.

no proposal at all

madridguy:
FFK is a certified mad dog no be today.

A reasonable Nigerian will understand the fact that the more generator companies we have in Nigeria the more our power sector will remain jagajaga. Marapco, Jabaili brothers, Mikano to mention few were brought into the country by the cabal killing our power sector.

FYI, Once you dey area with steady power supply, immediately one filling station enter the area, forget the rest na suffer because they will bribe NEPA official to stop giving you steady light for dem to dey sell.

I stand with the senator.

what you're saying will only be sensible if the country if there's enough power to be distributed or if we have enough machineries put in place to generate as much power as we need. And those are what the federal government is in charge of not some phantom cabal. Those cabals do not need to lobby or bribe anybody if there isn't enough electricity in the first place.

Unless you're telling the president and the minister for power are part of the cabals then I'll believe.

justnock:
Dude, If I love her, we can still adopt a baby from an orphanage while waiting for God to have mercy on "US" and bless her with the fruit of the womb.
Y'all folks of this generation know nothing about true love. Maybe it's because I come from a family where I have never seen my parents argue or quarrel, for once. True love is about sacrifice. Put yourself in her shoes...she is also human. She deserves to be loved like anyone else.

you're a whole comedy skit, wonderful to watch and listen to.

Good luck

jaxxy:
I only spoke because I've been following imo state politics a few others bt u have made ur own assumptions and added unnecessary insults. Did i ever mention pdp or Apc in my initial statements untill u brought them up?

By making the below statement

jaxxy:
The same court gave its judgement on Bayelsa u know? U must learn to behave urselves and act with manners. U had power u misbehaved, ur are out of power and still misbehaving. What is wrong with u guys. The court judgement isn’t the fault of the hope.

You have implicitly brought in PDP vs APC, because you presume am a PDP member or supporter. Like I care much about either of the two.

And even went further talking about misbehaving, oga like I said abeg take your PDP/APC argument elsewhere.

jaxxy:
Do u think Bayelsa was justice Then im not sure Ure concerned about justice generally bt the ones that concerns u or close to u.

I’m not talking about Pdp or Apc I’m talking about justice.

you're dumb for saying you're not talking about pdp or apc. Do I look like a jobless kid to you?

I made my comment about imo state, out of no where you came wirh your madness. oga shift abeg, I think you need to have a book where you write down the names of those you have you stupid political debates with so you don't make mistake bringing your putting on your demented debates thinking cap when confronted by any random person. Just focus on your fellown political minions

jaxxy:
The same court gave its judgement on Bayelsa u know? U must learn to behave urselves and act with manners. U had power u misbehaved, ur are out of power and still misbehaving. What is wrong with u guys. The court judgement isn’t the fault of the hope.

what is my business with Bayelsa?

Do I look like a PDP member to you?

oga have sense if you most post anything. You mustn't bring in any stupi.d arguments to justify your support for injustice, daylight robbery and all that's wrong with our society

Caregiver053:
Why are the Igbos unruly and barbaric, they're worse than herdsmen they so much hate

your hate for igbos knows no bound. So igbos are worse than Herdsmen because a couple of youths attacked a governor, they didn't go to a village to kill people destroy their farms and burn their houses. They only pelted the governors convoy with stones all of a sudden they're worse than herdsmen men, they're barbaric and they hate too much.

My brother your hate for Igbos will send you into an early grave, very sure of that.

jaxxy:
I hv said ihedioha’s boys are uncouth. They are the main cause of ihedioha’s removal. Acting like indisciplined touts all over the place.

so those uncouth boy are sitting in the supreme courts wearing wigs and delivering judgments abi?

shortgun:
How did stones and bottles did that much damage to a bullet proof vehicle.
Just wondering what a bullet will do to it.

if you look at the vehicle very well you'll see the bullet proof area. The way the bullet proof system of some vehicles are built is not with the windows. Some have the passenger area encapsulated in a 'box-like' area and that box is the bullet proof. While others have virtually everywhere made of bullet proof materials.

Though the driver area is usually well bullet proof including the front glass