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So, we should be the one paying for their love?

Bendeco02:
You guys should just leave this matter

Some women don't have feelings of Love again if money is not involve.

Some women can admire you but will never accept relationship from you if they can't benefit financially.

What some of you have to understand is that these young girls can only go for relationship or something serious when they are close to 30 or from 30 years upward.

We men are the ones taking things serious. Most of these young girls are after having fun. They don't even keep one boyfriend.

As you're handsome guy but not financially stable, there are some guys that are handsome, financially stable and easily flex girls with money. How do you expect them to stay with you?. They will rather share that one rich, handsome guy even though they know he is play boy.

Kpokrikpor.... Them no fit find am.

budaatum:
If we are in a relationship however, and you insist on a paternity test, you must forgive me for hearing you don't trust me, and a lack of trust between us is definitely detrimental to our child, as your lack of trust will gradually eat at our relationship until there will be no relationship between us.

But I think it's not easy for a man to understand, so think of it this way. Imagine you go out one day and come back with lipstick on your cheek. I'd likely be suspicious you are playing away, and I'd be wary you don't pass on to me what you might have caught with the lipstick. So it's condoms from now on dude, which I'm certain would negatively impact our marriage and the upbringing of our children.

another female blackmailing men again.

So, in other words, if a man is suspicious, instead of doing everything to dispense away his suspicion, you'd rather he just have blind faith?

You guys often forget that relationship is "hard work" and not some bed of roses.

If i come to you with lipstick on my cheek, I'd rather explain to you why the lipstick is there and provide every proof you need to make a well informed decision if you want to go ahead with me.

And this may include visiting the clinic if it comes to that to show that I am clean instead of blackmailing you with "you don't trust me and that will damage our relationship"

Trust is EARNED. Read that again, trust is EARNED through years of proving yourself over and over again.

So, if you love your partner, you'll get your lazy așš off your blackmailing high horse and come down to provide reasons why they should trust you.

You no be god.

And yes, you can leave if you want. You won't be the first. I wonder why women often feel leaving their partner is some big deal instead of dealing with the situation.

Both of you are "in love", so why should he fear you leaving the same love? Because you're "worth something" and he's not?

How many people invent things and take it to the president directly in other countries?

This is a big problem in Africa.

If they invent any small thing, they want to be turned into charity cases.

They want the attention of the president or some "big" men or politicians.

These people are not in the best position to help you.

Go to your industry and seek out the key players who can either invest or buy the invention of your hand.

Everyone wants to pepper someone.

Can't you be happy, let them also be happy? And we all move on?

My happiness no mean say you go dey sad. The sky is large enough for everyone

Oga seun right now

BarrElChapo:
Una dey bypass. There’s nothing you want to tell me

ok. i'm not telling you anything

Do you view only the status of those you have something romantic with?

Some of us don't like leaving any status unviewed. Sometimes it's out of boredom.

Sometimes you're just looking for entertainment. Yes people that like you can also be curious trying to see what you're posting.

But saying you want to take that as a greenlight other than just seeing it as someone viewing your status is low.

Chat them up or call them or forget them and wait till they message you.

If una stop to dey engage with him post, you go see say him go die slowly.

They post to provoke a reaction from you and giving such reaction fuels them to post more to provoke you to fuel them more.

If no one answers you when you're talking, you go quiet naturally. As una dey engage am, him dey feel important as though he's influencing people.

Stop engaging. Starve them of your attention

Kennitrust:
you no be God oga.


Nsiraland paid nobody.

One day you will find yourself too as an opposition.

Dey play.

All these na long time ago. We've been liberated long enough. Yet look where we are.

There's a time a young man will blame his father for being poor but at a certain age if the young man say the same thing, people will look at him like a fōol.

African is a grown up now but still playing in the mud and blaming colonialism still.

Just as colonialism took away, they also brought a lot to us, democracy, money, processed goods, education, machinery, banks, roads and so on.

Africa should forge ahead but sadly we've not been able to. See China and Japan have almost been burnt to the ground in the past, same as Germany.

Even American was once under British rule but today they've been able to forge ahead.

They do this without blaming anyone but putting their people first and actually wanting to create a future and hope for their children and those after them.

But in Africa, all we are after is the immediate. No clear plans or anything.

Please the west or colonialism is not our problem, most of us here today never saw a single Whiteman ruling in Africa.

helinues:
At least the Chinese are still fair compared to the West.

Did you know China never colonized any Africa countries. The west came ,colonized and explored us and give us religion in exchange.

Russia was part of those who started space race, meaning electronics products mean nothing to them but the West brainwashed African to the extent I have never seen any Russia electronic products before

Like if your daughter gives you gift, if others don't see it, it won't make you happy?

Uteghe:
After seeing what next? Validation hunt shows something is wrong somewhere

Sometimes I wonder how this thing no dey tire people.

broad daylight o.

sometimes we dont really have to blame the mob for mob actions

Is there any Nigerian aside our politician who doesn't think herdsmen = terrorists?

This type go claim say una brother răpe her and they will sentence him to life una go dey here dey happy dey do tribalism

The available data says you're lying though.

Lesbian marriage which involves two women have a higher failure rate than heterosexual marriage which involves a man and a woman.

These lesbian marriages also suffers more domestic violence compared to man/woman marriages.

Gay marriage involve man/man has the lowest divorce rate and domestic violence.

Each time you introduce women to the equation of marriage, divorce rate spikes.

But yes, let's blame men

Yes.

People choose their sexuality but think they are that way.

Let me ask you one simple question: how come we have more gays suddenly now than we've ever seen in any generation?

You don't think something is influencing this people?

Look around you, people become what they are fed on daily and they feel like they do not become what they are exposed to.

Look at most people, if you introduce 100 people to be any religion from childhood, 90% of them will maintain that religion and more than 60% will rather die than deny that "God" as a false one.

Even when they have no proof.

Our exposure is very very important. Why do you think they are forcing these things into children cartoons and TV shows and books?

Because early exposure gets these kids interested and changed. Today, we have 10 year old "coming out" as gays or wanting to be transgender before their puberty.

Exposure is important because the mind is easier to mould. People like you need to start understanding this.

Protect your kids from these things. But more importantly, protect them from these people who practice such.

If i tell you how people were "changed" in boarding schools, you won't believe it. It came as one person and when he was expelled, the people he was practicing this with, took it up and have become like him.

It's like a virus, and has been termed that a long time ago. It infects you and you infect others.

No one is born gay. There's no gene for that.

Yes some people can be born with genetic anomalies, such as hermaphrodites but they always have physical manifestations such as having two sexűal organs, having increased hormones of the opposite sex and so on.

For genetic anomalies, there are always phenotypical (physical, bodily) manifestation which correlates with behavioral patterns and these are well established.

But for gays, there's none of such. It's purely behavioral.

People are not born gays. Gays are made in the lab (or should I say by the media) and exposure.

Flangelo12:
I know you're an intelligent person.

Do you really think most gay people choose their orientation?

Think deeply without bias or religion or spirituality?

Do you really think they like the antipathy and potential violence that might be impos4d on them?

shut up abeg. you offend someone still want to force them to accept your apologies?

OLAADEGBU:
For Ian Wright not to accept her apology only shows him to be crude and unforgiving. Ian Wright is only exposing his hatred for Africans, especially Nigerians. If you know you know and if you don’t get it forget about it.

Didn't you grow up in Nigeria? How were you coping when you were here?

Una go just cross border small start dey form posh

OgogoroFreak:
You people can install sub meters. It's sold in the market. With that, everyone get to use exactly what they paid for.

ok this seems good. like how much does this cost and what's the installation like?

Zonefree:
But, how una go dey use four thousand naira for over 2 months? And 3 rooms


Na all these things dey vex Trump.

each of us pay 4k so that's about 12k and all we have is fans and phones. so I think its pretty reasonable

Zonefree:
The fault is not from your new neighbour. They've upgraded your Band level.

we have been on band A ever since

Hello guys

Please I'm having electricity problem with our new neighbour and I'm confused with what to do right now.

Here's the issue:

So we live in a compound where 3 rooms are connected to one prepaid.

So 3 of us donate to fund our prepaid meter.

A few months ago we were paying 4k and this usually last us for 2+ months. The reason I believe is that all we had to power is ceiling fans and charging of our devices (phones and laptops)

But ever since we got our new neighbor, the light bill has suddenly increased.

This month alone, we've recharged 8k+ individually and by my calculations, it'll cost each of us 12k+ for light to reach us for one month.

This is a significant jump from the 4k that will normally cover us for 2+ months.

I'm really not happy about this and don't know what to do right now.

I can't imagine paying 12k+ a month just to power my ceiling fans and laptop.

I have spoken with her and she told me she's using only fridge with the light, which I don't quite understand, how much our bill has jumped so significantly.

Please any suggestions on what to do will be welcome.

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I know one day I'll leave this country

MockingBird:
I'm a Nigerian and I currently live in one of the coldest provinces in Canada with no plans to return back to Nigeria any time soon as it is clear that Nigeria has become over 10 times worse since I left Nigeria about 4 years ago.

The current average life expectancy of Canadians is 83 years versus 55 years for Nigerians. The question that begs for answer therefore is that what are the factors that are responsible for this great difference in average life expectancy.

I may not be able to point to all, but from my close observation having lived in both countries, I have noticed that one major reason for this is DIET.

First thing I noticed is that Canadians have access to lots of fruits and vegetables and these are not just for a select few but they are available and affordable to everybody in the society. It might shock us as Nigerians to know that even though banana doesn't grow in Canada, Canadians eat way more Banana that Nigerians do. Banana (whether organic or GMO) is available to Canadians every single day of the year. Same with Plantains.

As a matter of fact, I learnt how to bake Banana bread because often times, you may have over ripe bananas at home which may not be edible but could be only be used for one thing - Banana bread. So without learning how to bake banana bread, you will have lots of banana getting rotten and thrown away at home.

On the flip side, as one who stayed in Abuja, Nigeria and driving through Berger I remember buying Banana from women and girls hulking banana around the Utako market. Back then it was usually for around N1,000 to N1,500 for a decent bunch. I don't know how much they may be now with the worsened state of the economy. In Canada, you can buy one or two fingers of banana if that is your wish. In Nigeria, you dare not as you will immediately be cursed by the sellers. There are far far more fruits and vegetables that Canadians eat that Nigerians would have no access to.

The second reason I think Canadians have better health compared to Nigerians is because of their access to proteins compared to Nigerians. By proteins, I mean eggs, milks, chicken, meat and fish. Their milk here is majorly a sugarless liquid in 1 to 4 liters compared to the sweetened powdered and tin milk we have in Nigeria. The average Canadian drinks milk like water compared to a Nigerian and you can be sure of the nutrients in the milk as their dairy industry is heavily protected and regulated with price ceilings specified by the government.

My summary therefore is that nutritious food availability is one of the major reasons why a resident of one country may live longer compared to a resident of another country. What do you think. Let me hear your thoughts.

Lolz.

You dey whine

louqas:
How much?
She will just use and dump your ass
She's way out of your league
Better ask her for money and connections to Bette your life

Money can also come from servicing

louqas:
Wetin dey worry you sef ?

You meet GMD of Zenith bank and na SEX be the first thing wey enter your head?

You no need money and connections? Thats what you should be thinking of

Get the money first, plenty Pussy go follow

And you couldn't come up with anything until he did

overall90:
D

This is all you can come up with.
Some people dey o

For her age, she looks good... I definitely would chew if I get the chance.

We should not look at women that way sha. Especially a woman like her who has put in the work to get to where she is right now.

E no easy to reach the top. I hope one day to reach the top of my industry just like her

H.orny nairaland men una hear me

Because I know as una see her, the only question in mind is whether she's pretty or not or whether you go chew her or not.

Women's success no really concern men and most women will never understand this

Seriously o.

Because how you go fight your oga wife?

I personally don't think it's ordinary oga and boy relationship de two of them get

MrBroke:
That boy dey craze

Oya na 🤝

When I marry you go know

NOETHNICITY:
Bro, everybody no be like una o
My wife can’t fight on the streets

This is what I'm saying. If it's your boss friend it's totally different.

This one is the wife...in a month's time. Even ordinary girlfriend or friends with benefits, you still treat them with more respect than this

ned009:
Boi wouldn't have acted that way if he hadn't been told some ill things about the lady..Knowing she's Ur boss's fiancee and still going ahead to humiliate her in such a manner is really huge...I'd advice my sister to leave