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So you just want to shame men?

Who cares?

Why not tell us why it is a bad thing for a man to marry a virgin in 2026?

Commonguy:
This is very interesting indeed
As president, responding with a middle finger and insults looks unprofessional and lowers the standard of public conduct. Donald trump no dey ever behave mature

so it's normal to call someone pedophile protector but it's wrong to raise the middle finger?

Nowadays people blame people's reaction to other people's stůpidity. I'm glad he's strong enough to react appropriately.

As a guy if you Wan look out for your friend who is in a relationship, you go and meet her boyfriend and talk things with him.

If he's the one causing the problem, you reaching out and consoling the girl does very little.

And cause way more harm.

Carter is a public person. He could easily get into carter's circle and talk with him.

This one na who to ride him d*ck him dey hustle.

See essay wey the můmů even write o

@merry100

I stopped reading here because this opening alone shows that you have zero idea what I'm talking about.

So much delusion. If strength alone ruled, why can't a physically strong man just walk into Aso Rock and take power? Or why can't Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson stroll into the White House tomorrow and declare himself president? He can't because real power isn't muscle; it is systems, alliances, legitimacy, and strategy. Even the strongest person cannot override the structures that organize and protect authority.

For one, the strongest man cannot single handedly walk into Aso Rock because Aso Rock is protected by a strength greater than his, the military.

I have highlighted this many times in my writing.

Now the military is the strongest force of any nation and anytime they get organized and agree on any rule, that rule becomes the constitution.

In fact, if the military agree that civilian rule must come to an end today, the constitution will be torn up and your courts becomes useless.

Again strength alone is the reason for everything stability in a country.

There's nothing like systems, organizations or whatever.

There's only force. If the force is sufficient, every other thing permitted by that force thrives.

If the US force is sufficient, it can allow Nigeria to have sovereignty or remove the president today if it wants.

Doesn't matter the systems nigeria have in place.

This is why every powerful country spends heavily first on military and not politics, religion, systems or psychology.

The force comes first because without it, nothing else matters.

Now imagine a man who is stronger than any human. An indestructible man.

Think of superman.

If he wants power, he'll take over the whole world and bring everyone to their knees regardless of their "alliance, systems or whatever you can think of.

Watch every superman movies, there's always a quiet fear in which the people fears that since they cannot destroy him, he might want to rule the world.

So, the military first line is always to fight that superman, and then you hear quality from superman like, I do not wish to fight you or take over.

They make him a moral being. One that wants to be good.

Now let's look at AI. Imagine an Ai that's indestructible, super intelligent beyond your comprehension.

You think the AI wants to form alliances, be under your constitution and obey your tiny minds?

Why exactly do you think we fear AI? it's because it's a power far greater than anything we've got at the moment.

But even more so, we cannot control it. And so if we cannot control it, how does our alliances matter?

I can give you a gazillion examples but you just cannot comprehend it because your mind is fixed on the stability of the system and not the chaos.

Image: power is power. Nothing else matters.

Fela will always be the greatest. It's not only that he's among the pioneer of afro sounds.

He took it and ran with.

He's among those that laid the foundation for modern music.

It's like comparing modern day scientists with old scientists.

Modern day scientists are easily more knowledgeable and could create more things than scientists of old.

But those old guys did everything without a foundation and that's why they are highly regarded and revered.

Dig deep, it's most likely the jihadists that are behind this.

Nothing the head slammers will not do

MyExpression:
Court grants amicable marriage dissolution.

Adultery isn't grounds for divorce.

People divorce for irreconcilable differences...adultery is a factor in irreconcilable difference, not the irreconcilable difference itself.

so if my wife sleep with person, you go want make I dey speak all these grammar?

You talk too many things that are untrue.

Regardless of psychology or politics, strength is the sole determiner of power.

Politics, religion and psychology only works when there's already an underlying physical strength.

For instance, regardless of the psychology or religion or politics of the Venezuelan president, without the strength, he's an underdog.

During the race for the atomic bomb, the world was almost at an equilibrium regardless of politics, psychology or religion. Nations possessing these deadly weapons have the strength and they make and break rules as long as their interest is ensured.

Forget those tiny games in your brain. It bears no bearing in the real world unless there are made up rules by the strong.

And queen Elizabeth wasn't a queen because of anything spectacular or because she played any spectacular games.

She was because there was long an established order by her father's and forefathers which the people have come to accept and respect.

It's much like the african kings whose sons get elected almost by nature regardless of their age.

I mean, 7 years old boys were being made kings, were they also playing some spectacular psychological games to keep the people in line?

Again, this only happens because of the consequences of 1. A long established order and 2. Dedication of the physical force (the armies) to preserve these orders.

Now in a world where the dominant force start banding together and having the same thoughts towards the female gender they should watch out.

These same strong men once band together to create the background leveled society they can play their games in (protest for rights, legislate and so on)

The same men can scatter that background and pull every right away.

It happens all the time. Look at war times.

Ordinary, you cannot kîll anyone anywhere in the world and go free. But in war time, the strong men suddenly pull the constitution away and suddenly it becomes legal to kîll.

You think anything changed other than the withdrawal of the constitution?

I use to say this to my friends "while the Christians in Nigeria are trying to be politically correct and sensible, the Muslim terrorists don't care.

And who do you think are dying?

Politics, psychology, religion etc all mean nothing without raw strength in the background holding things together.

Merry100:
Wow ... you have single-handedly condensed centuries of history, law, and human civilization into the idea that everything depends on the ego of the strongest man. Lazy ass, you simply don't understand power, society, or rights.

Let me unpack your masterpiece of nonsense: Women didn't receive rights because men woke up generous one morning. They protested, resisted, voted, and risked their lives to force societies to change. Laws weren't written out of kindness; they were written because chaos, oppression, and brute force don't work long-term.

Muscle isn't power. Real power is political, moral, and social. Without laws, institutions, and societal order, even the strongest would be unsafe, and nothing could be controlled.

Your obsession with "survival of the strongest" exposes the biggest flaw in your argument: if humans truly lived by brute strength, there would be no laws, no armies, no governments; and people like you wouldn't last long at all. Life doesn't reward ego; it rewards cooperation, intelligence, and systems. That is why civilization exists.

What we call armies would just be organized mobs if they weren't operating within laws and societal systems. Strength alone never guarantees control. Even armies are not powerful on their own, they are tools of power
shaped by political leadership, and the legitimacy that directs their use. Which is why they surrender when larger systems, alliances, or collective pressures demand it.

Rights aren't pieces of paper protected by men or fragile gifts from strong men. They are social contracts that protect everyone, including ordinary men like you. The "survival of the strongest" idea is a naive fantasy: the same laws that protect women also prevent someone stronger from taking what you have. Strip those away, and you don't become powerful; you become expendable.

Strong female leaders, like Queen Elizabeth I, ruled and survived because they understood power, laws, alliances, and institutions; not through physical strength. Strength alone never guarantees survival or power; something your whole argument completely ignores.

Civilization isn't about brute force; it's about cooperation, intelligence, and systems. Social media hasn't erased men's protective nature; it exposes insecurity in men who confuse dominance with strength and fear equality because it removes imagined leverage.

If rights only exist because men allow them, then your entire sense of security depends on pretending civilization is optional. It isn't. And if "survival of the strongest" were true, trust me; you wouldn't even survive a week.

Stop fantasizing about power and start understanding why society exists in the first place. Laws and rights aren't optional gifts; they are the backbone of civilization.

floss:
If E reach your turn build house for the man wey knack your wife and also give am password to your bank app…

Even the Christian bible Old Testament showed you how to handle women wey knack outside not to talk of knacking under your roof

guy if you do court marriage, you no fit pursue your wife o.

Dem go sue wetin no good comot from your body and you may even get 2 years of watery beans.

She got so many applications alright. There are men out there even ones with money who will apply.

That's just how it is.

Did she get what she want.? That's the koko

MartinCorridon:
It's to drive up interest. Open applications and claim you got so many and you've selected.

NO man of value would accept those terms.

So, you get married to your wife as a man and she brings another man to sleep on your bed

Or she sleeps around, by law you can't kick her out of the house because adultery is not crime

Where you Wan see the video before if not on social media?

QuinQ:
SKIT!
(Until definitively proven otherwise)
(The story is only on Facebook and instagram)
My heartfelt RIP to her, if true

Most likely high blood pressure. That shît is a silent killer.

Please check yourself once in a while especially those working in the office and having a car.

Buy yourself a sphyg to be checking it yourself

Rich4god:
They asked you to buy hand gloves...

This country is finished.

here you buy everything o.

Hand gloves, hand sanitizer, nose masks, cotton wool.

Basically anything to be used

You're a man.

Do this by yourself.

Participate in the graduation normally or don't even be present.

Remain in school area or go back home and don't explain it to anyone.

Learn a skill or pick up work and try to make something of your life those two years.

Save up and when you resume again, ensure you have the money saved to finish your school journey.

Most guys in those two years won't even make much progress. Most no go even see job yet.

So, just carry on with your journey and stop making this a big deal.

At least no be expel dem expel you. It's painful because of the way you're seeing it.

Picture it differently and you'll understand that this might be a blessing.

Kunlebayo12:
I’m on the verge of being rusticated in school

October when I was writing my final exams, something happened just 1 day to end the exam. So me and my friend wrote on our question paper and we exchanged it between ourselves. When I was writing this initiator started searching everyone he got to me and he search me there was nothing on me, he search my booklet yet nothing, he ask me where is my question paper and I showed him just the front because it was the back we wrote on, when he saw it he flipped the back and saw the question paper and ask me who wrote this and what is all this I told him I wrote it with all the back and font he told me to sit down

Minute later he went outside and bought exam malpractice form and gave me and others those who were using chukuli, phones, book and other material to write.

I beg him that I wrote it, all pleading fell to deaf ear, when I saw he was yielding and time was going and no time to beg I just had to fill the paper. I filled it so I can beg him later so I would be able to write something

To get the long story short, 3 days later I was invigated to the student disciplinary board to explain what happened Which I did, I pleaded and beg that it won’t happen again, thry told me I will be punished but not expelled
In my school examination malpractice is straight expulsion no matter who you may know.

2 days later I got I call from my classrep that I was given 2years rustication. I called the Hod and course adviser and they said it true, I check the name of student expelled my name wasn’t there, I confirm from the student discplinary board and truly I was recommended 2 years suspension but the result will be out on February 17th this year, and when it out my student portal will be shutdown immediately

Even since then I have been sad, depressed and lonely and I can’t even tell my parents because they will be disappointed in me, I have been carrying a burden since early November and now it January, I have been thinking none stop, I have been contemplating suicide to be honest, I don’t pray this kind of situation for my worst enemies and those who haven’t been will never truly knows the pain it cause till you’re in the situation

Please i need help and words of encouragement
Even if you blame me, the dead has already been done, I Bleep up and I accepted my mistake

Please guys I’m dying In silence, I can’t even wait till February 17th, it killing me knowing few days to graduation I was rusticated, what will I tell my parent, or people that have help me one way or another in school. I’m devastated to be honest

I might be ending it any moment from now because this pain is unbearable for me, I just want it to end so I can live a normal life again but I can’t keep living like this. Ignore my typo error

Please someone should help me push it to front page

There's danger outside. If you lock your partner outside, you are essentially trying to kill them.

That's not love.

Dtruthspeaker:
You don't have your history right.

Why do you think they were beaten? Is it not because they disobeyed and fought their slave masters? And did the south African history not tell you that protesters were shot, even when they never had arms?

Anyway, see you have tempered down your extreme views

like I said they did not fight. They appealed to conscience because they will never stand a chance by fighting.

Continuation.

Naso we spend our Christmas and boxing day for hospital o

The food we planned on cooking as well as the December jollification was successfully postponed

Even she ma, no understand how everything happened

January reach now, omo the way I broke eh.

Fathers are really trying though because this is one time such financial responsibility ever hit me unexpectedly.

No plans for it at all.

Now trying to get some loans from these loan apps and none is working.

If you know anyone that works kindly recommend please.

To all those father's/mother's out there chesting bills especially unexpected ones and making unseen sacrifices, may God bless you all.

So January just started and everywhere just dey hot

I don't mean the weather o

Na financial hotness I dey feel right now

So, last year December my younger sister came to my place to spend Christmas.

She was happy and I was happy too since it's been a while we spent time together

Mostly due to school. We both are in different schools.

So when she came I was holding some good money.

I made sure she lacked nothing especially in the food aspect.

We were both OK.

I set some money aside for January so I know that regardless of my spending, January will be secured

We do normal Christmas preparations na. Bought foodstuff for the big day. Bought a couple of clothes.

Twas all good and she was really happy about it all.

And I was feeling myself as a big brother seeing how she was happy and having a good time

The respect rose to max

Na sir sir and big bro just dey end and start every statement

On the night to Christmas na there wahala start o.

I was on my laptop trying to do some reading since I was also preparing for exam once school resume.

She was lying on the bed pressing her phone.

Suddenly she started complaining of aching stomach.

At first I ignored her and told her to lie flat on her tummy (my mother always recommend this and I found it helps).

But she kept rolling and rolling complaining of the pain.

Hmm.

It was already night about 9pm already.

So I said okay, let's go to the pharmacy and see if we can get drugs.

She dressed up and we went there.

We bought some drugs and she took it. For a while I didn't hear anything from her I thought the pain has subsided.

Only for this girl to start again about 11:30pm

Omo.

How I wan start?

Naso I rush go outside go look for bike o.

Luckily I saw one of those late night guys and he charged me around N500.

Normally, the hospital na just N100.

But trust naija bike to take advantage of any situation na.

I just accept and they took us there.

Omo na there spending start o. Hospital is really expensive. Chai

We started with registration of 2k. Before you know it, I'm being asked to buy handglove pack, this injection, this drug, run this test and that.

Omo. I just weak

Money way I carry come don fiam.

No be small waka that night. By 1am Naso I dey road dey trek go house go carry ATM card because they say they don't accept any other form of payment.

Only me dey road dey trek. God abeg

After all, I was able to squeeze a 1 hour sleep in between 3-4am.

Around 4 am. I woke up to see her sleeping well and decided to out and clear my head.

I was tired but the hospital air was just feeling somehow so I stepped out for fresh air.

By 6am, she was awake but feeling normal.

Well after everything and test we found it was appendix disturbing her.

Had to start another round of payment.

By God's grace she was operated successfully

Bouncingbabyboy:
Avoid dem
Don't try to reconnect
Most of them
Can't be
Trusted again

hmm

Why do you say so?

Dtruthspeaker:
From your post were you not saying that because slaves are weak therefore, they could not battle?

Of which you insinuated that since they are weak they should not battle and that they have no right to fight their strong masters.

Well history shows that the slaves fought and finally the strong masters gave in.

That is how great Natural Law is.

I did not imply any of what you said.

You made up those and then talked yourself away.

Slaves did not battle because they knew they were weaker.

Regardless of how physically strong they are, they do not have armies and no guns.

So even if they want to fight, they will only be massacred.

One of the strategies they used was not fighting because that's just calling to be killed.

Rather it was through negotiations, appeals, talks and even sometimes rebellion in which they are beaten but they never retaliate because such retaliation will only be seen as declaration of war which will lead to their death.

Check out the struggle in South Africa. The freedom there wasn't gotten through war but through been beaten to the point where the whole world intervene.

So, freedom was never gotten through the strength of the slaves but by appealing to the conscience of the masters.

Samantha125:
I don't really care, in fact, I'd bump into some of them whenever I go home.

They'd usually be the first ones to recognise me.

it's like that if you're the one that left them and then later returned.

Personally I don't think I'll ever meet any of them physically again.

dominique:
If I read more than one paragraph of those epistles make I bend like crayfish. Even if I had all the time in the world, I'd rather watch paint dry than read one idle person's endless rants about women

why do you feel the need to swear just to prove that you didn't read?

Like I never even asked or argue with you about reading it or not. Like we didn't even care if you saw the post or not.

And here you are swearing.

Diamond098454:
What makes a strong man God?

Every strong man out there still have a woman he warship

Trump can't raise voice on his wife but can destroy his fellow president in another country (strong men) but can't cough when his wife talk

trump CAN raise voice at his wife, beat her and do whatever he wants to her if other men allows it.

And there's nothing any woman can do about that.

Jerryblaq:
This is what you get when 80% of your youth are roaming the street jobless.
Not to be pessimistic but this is never ending anytime soon cos the level of frustration among the youth today is overwhelming.
Many of them are above 30 and have no blueprint on how to structure their life.

this and kidnappings.

Our government is failing.

Bendeco02:
Person wey I dey banter

She dey always avoid me

yes na.

You go like dey follow person whey dey banter you?

Bendeco02:
I know you must come here

You too like men-women topics.

I never seen you comment under politics topic before

nor dey lick person nyash under my post

pocohantas:
You are responding.
So it matters.

as usual everything needs to ping off a man to matter

pocohantas:
I read this one though
Maybe keep it shorter next time.

why do you think your reading my post matter so much to me?

pocohantas:
I didn't read all this.
I guess it is same thing in previous post.

it doesn't matter if you read it or not.

Bendeco02:
Civilization (western lifestyle) is what emboldened them to be misbehaving.

Normally women are not meant to be given such liberty because they don't know how to handle power or freedom.

Our forefathers were able to
tame them because of traditional law.

Northern women are still behaving well because of Islamic law.

Any environment that women finds freedom they misuse it. Example; observe how they behave in European countries.

Some men thought that being calm to women shows maturity or being real man but they (women) sees such men as weak and don't respect them.

that's the problem.

Men become civil and suddenly women think they are as strong as men.

It's like when you pretend to fight with a child and let them win and suddenly they boast about that they can win you in this type of fight.

Funny