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franchasng:
Did she tie him while he was asleep or how was she able to douse him with petrol while he watched until she threw fire, I can't just wrap my head around this story.


Maybe she laced his food and waited until he has slept off, this should be the only way she could have achieved this, ire oh

you can't wrap ur head because you're not thinking.

Go outside and pour fuel on your body. Then ask someone to light matches close to you and see if you'll escape the fire.

kingthreat:
You need to stop seeking excuses for someone who did a crime as bad as murder. No matter whatever happened, the soldier did not deserve to die like this. Someone buying fuel and lighting her man on fire is not self-defense. It is full premeditated murder.

honestly I hate when a woman kills her husband/lover and people go "we don't know what he's doing to her"

Like what justifies a murder?

codemaniacs:
Yes..

A.i gets its information from the internet and they are doing everything to re-write Yoruba culture and insert themselves into Yoruba history.

Which means A.i will start giving out wrong information or igbonized version of Yoruba culture when the next generation start researching Yoruba culture.

if the next generation needs to research yoruba culture then it's probably dead.

Culture will never remain the same from generation to generation. Some aspects become stronger and others wane.

It's important to have as many people as possible to practice your culture. That's what will keep it going.

Look at religion, those religions with fewer members tend to sink.

You just can't maintain culture. Sooner people understand this the better.

Do people really worry about other people practicing their culture?

Like as an idoma man, I'll be worried if I see an igbo man practicing idoma culture?

pocohantas:
Nigerian men and their perpetual hate towards their exs. Same storyline. She left me, I am now rich, married to snow white with 15 children. She is still single. I saw her the other day, she sells smoked panla at Oshodi.

Oya commot eye and face your new life na.
No way!

I think you're making stuffs up in your head and believing them.

A first stage of mådness if I must say.

There is no where in my post where I implicitly or explicitly say that I am now better than my ex.

Or that she is suffering because we are no longer together.

I suffer from these constant thoughts of her because I had to break my heart to stay away from someone I love.

Maybe your ex and you did something differently but stop projecting the mådness on everyone you meet.

Thank you

brain54:
I don laugh tire for this thread...

I laughed tears out of my eyes. I love kobo eh... if you don't understand her na you get problem.

Her posts actually make sense if you aren't distracted and pay attention to what she is saying!

it's all růbbish.

Rich4god:
Have you been sleeping with the lady...? If yes, why can't you marry her then.

A lady is feeling used and whats you to take things serious so her conscience will be free, you are now saying she's desperate.

If you aren't ready for marriage, stop dating and lady and stop sleeping with women till marriage. Simple.

which one is if I'm not ready for marriage I should stop dating?

So, if today I have hustled and I get the money then I'll start thinking about dating?

Do some of you even chew your ideas to see if it makes sense before you start spewing it out?

Marriage comes from dating. Dating comes because you loved someone. Love happens spontaneously.

If you think you can cook up love with a random woman just because you're ready to get married, I pity you.

motymop:
I blame the 2 of you..

You are dating a woman for 4 years without telling her your plans.

She breaks up with you and move on... even though she has not marry but the chances for for her to get married are now high even if the post breakup didn't work.

If you are dating a woman for that long, always tell her your plans for her..

oga we were both students.

She graduated and I had two years left because I'm a medical student.

There was nothing in this world that I did not explain to her.

At one point she started using it as a thing of pride that I'm desperate to keep her which is why I'm explaining to her all the time.

See I don't want to say somethings because the matter dey weak me to think.

Just now as I'm going to the market I met her on the road with her friend.

I know she expects my call anytime now because of how I'm always weak with her in the past. But honestly I'm just too fed up and tired to even think about calling her.

Goshiii:
Na so women dey count biological clock enter bad marriage. It's no wonder we see women hanging pregnancy of ex boyfriend on MR I'M READY TO SETTLE DOWN. We forget say after the 'wedding" na when di marriage start so if you and your spouse nor dey compatible crying and wailing go start.

e dey wonder me sometimes.

Is it marriage that's important or the relationship between the two people getting married?

Like I thought marriage is officially declaring that we love each other and want to share our lives together?

Why then would you put marriage before your relationship?

God no go let me do this nōnsense

Kobojunkie:
O ni ro oshi le le yi! Which women out there file for divorce, hoping the world would then come take care of them? Nonsense!🙄🙄🙄🙄

2. I can almost tell from your posts that you are one of the men women need to do everything to avoid. 🙄🙄🙄

3. You don't have to be a genius to know that a Nigerian woman is better off as a side chick than as a wife, given that Nigerian men treat their side chicks like princesses while their wives are treated no better than glorified baby mamas. So, choosing divorce to go out there to date married men instead is technically a promotion, not a demotion, for many of these former wives.

alright.

DanseMacabre:
Hmmmm.

So you divorce because you dey hope say world people go come dey cater for you and foot your bills Smh.

actually this is why most women file for divorce.

They feel they can do better based on the attention they are getting from outside.

And it's sad/funny because once they are out they start going after other married men.

DanseMacabre:
I don't think my submission insinuated the bolded in any way. E be like na guilty conscience dey worry you.

don't worry. Your submission or whatever don't really matter.

I only elaborated because of others who may read the thread. It's not a direct personal response

Kobojunkie:
Na these useless stories dem use deceive your great-grandmothers, grandmothers, and mothers into engaging endurance mode in marriage instead of escaping for their lives from toxic/unfulfilling and unhappy marriages to embrace instead peace and contentment of being on their own. This is 2025, stop thinking that spreading the same ridiculous tales by delulu-light will work on women again.

oya na.

Your face show. Your shoe don shine. Hop to the next thread

Smartguyboy:
You will take her back

nah. Never happening again.

DanseMacabre:
My brother you sef wey keep am for relationship for four years when she no be Lord of the Rings...you no even engage am. I no blame am she no wan do 2-0 cos how sure was she that you'd even tie the nuptial knot after all said and done

oga I did not keep her in a relationship for 4 years.

We were in the relationship together for 4 years and like any two people who loved each other, we should be working towards making a life together.

I did not tie anyone down in the relationship.

I don't know about you but relationship should progress into marriage and not relationship just because you want to get married.

She wanted out and I did not hold her.

Secondly, I'm not sure she'll marry me too but I equally gave her 4 years of my time, sacrifices and resources or you don't think my time, resources and sacrifices in the relationship also matter?

Or you thought I was just sitting down and she was taking care of me in the relationship?

How some of una dey think sha?

Most married women are in this boat currently.

I did not say divorced women o.

But women who are currently married. And they are considering divorcing their husbands.

Most women think because they are getting attention when married, they will easily replace their husbands.

For some the attention is from their ex. For others it's single men.

They forget that the garden is beautiful to people passing by because they don't know how much dirt they owner has to become to make it that way.

When a man is not paying your bills but getting your attention and sex on a platter, he'll definitely give you every attention.

Wait until you become his responsibility and see if he'll still be the same man.

Wait until he bear that responsibility for 1-5 years and see.

I keep saying this. As a woman, marriage is not your design.

Getting married is not within your power.

You can sleep with anyone you like and that's OK.

You can club for as long as you want and that's OK.

But when it comes to getting married, you have almost zero control.

Most girls fail to understand this and allow themselves to be carried away by the attention they get from multiple partners.

No be every toaster wan marry you. No be every man go like put you for house o.

I came across this Facebook post this evening and it reminded me of my ex.

In her words she wanted to get married before this year runs out.

I tried everything to make her see reasons why this would not be possible for me and how long it might take.

But everything fell on deaf ears.

She has already made up her mind and I started noticing signs almost immediately.

Suddenly everything turns to arguments. Suddenly every bounderies turns into "military zone" or I'm trying to control her.

Suddenly she's breaking up over every little argument.

She wanted out. 4 years relationship gone down the drain all because she became desperate to get married within the time line she set.

She started talking with multiple guys trying to get one to marry her.

I knew of 2 at Abuja then. One or two in my location.

She eventually started sleeping with the one in my location.

I couldn't take the disrespect anymore and had to break up with her.

Painful but Mehn. It was a decision I had to make.

Most girls think about marriage like they do sex.

They think the same power they have to control sex (who to sleep with or not to sleep with) is the same power they will have over when to get married.

Or when the man will propose.

Till today she's not yet married.

Till today my heart is still broken not like I care anymore.

I'll rather my heart remain broken forever than make any effort to reconnect especially after that cheating episode.

She tried apologising recently but god knows I'd rather just remain on my own now.

Now here's another deluded one thinking she can just switch and become a Mrs by her own efforts

And the website is down at the moment of advertising.

What a good start

Click my link in signature . Pastors don't click o

Anguldi:
Choir master go begin ride this Benz

we know as e dey be na.

Or na even one married man. It's always another married man once they leave marriage.

It's a funny cycle to watch

Yankiss:
This is sad. Many Nollywood actors go through stuff unbeknown to the public. They need serious financial advise on how to manage their earnings and other issues incluidng health.

they don't earn that much.

It's not an issue of mismanagement.

We are seeing lots of changes lately and honestly it's beautiful.

1. New and better buttons

Now share, like, and the page numbers are buttons instead of mere brackets ().

It's beautiful.

2. Better nairaland logo

Just this morning I was in class scrolling through nairaland and wondering why the logo is a poor image with background.

But surprisingly the logo has been redesigned and now without the background.

Sweet.

3. Light/dark mode button

At the top, close to the logo, you'll see a new button which can toggle between light and dark mode.

This is really necessary.

I however wish the texts on the homepage in dark mode be white instead of the green color which doesn't stand out.

4. Separators now replaced with dots

This is a good change and less confusing.

Suggested changes I'll still like to see

1. The function buttons (e.g bold, italics, quote etc) in the area where we create threads are still images and not real buttons.

In the dark mode we can see their outline and honestly they look ugly. Either turn them into actual buttons or remove the backgrounds from the images.

2. Link redirect

Please make all links open in new pages. This has been a big issue and we have complained tire.

If we click links they should open in a new tab to the other website and not take us away from nairaland.

3. Add a dislike button

The need a way to easily show that we actually don't agree with certain things without being rude.

What's the west obsession with putting women everywhere?

They are easy to influence and control.

Kwara bandits terrorists

Don't attempt to post censored words by misspelling them.

Whobedatte:
That is a war zone and Israel is ten times ahead of you guys.
Drop the aid at Ashdod ports you refused .
What if there are weapons hidden in so called aid you claim to bring ?
You are bringing aid and Palestinian flags are all over your ships and boats
Why not red cross flags?
You think say you dey wise ?

another brainwashed zombie.

Is the aid from redcross?

In every war zone foods are dropped to citizens all the time.

Even deep on the Congo, foods are constantly dropped for civilians because everyone understands that starvation is inhuman.

At least us who are still humans understand this.

In Nigeria, when people get displaced due to conflict, people make donations to help prevent starvation.

If Isreal searched the boat and there is no bad intentions you let them carry the foods in. Even the heartless terrorists in Somalia allows US government to constantly drop foods for their citizens.

In the Rwanda massacre, even though the call them cockroaches they still allow them to be fed.

Genocide that Isreal is perpetrating is unprecedented. Hitler is probably a child play compared to this evil currently going on.

Baxilexi:
War: a state of armed conflict between different countries or different groups within a country.

Genocide: the deliberate and systematic killing or persecution of a large number of people from a particular national or ethnic group with the aim of destroying that nation or group.

Are there Palestinians living in Israel? Yes
Has Israel used sarin gas as Assad did against the people of Syria? No.
Has Israel done what China did to the uyghur? No.
Does Hamas want to war to end without their demands met? No.
Is Hamas armed? Yes

Can someone define genocide for me using the Hamas dictionary?

we didn't know Hitler had gas chambers until he was caught.

Then it's always too late.

We know civilians are being killed including children by these animals called Israeli.

It's not a matter of gas chambers. It's a matter of non military personnels being killed systematically to take something in this case their lands.

The Fulanis tried a similar approach in benue state.

Genocide is genocide regardless of the number.

HelloWorld80011:
Let's look at it from an open mind perspective.
Those people are not using their personal funds to ferry those aids over there. So who are the donors funding the aid?

Obviously, Hamas and it's sympathisers.

I am not in support of IDF or Hamas since they both are soldiers with weapons. It's just the western media that try to label some terrorist and the other a soldier. It's a lie

May the best man win.

let's assume it's hamas funding this.

Is it a crime to float food to starving people. Everywhere Isreal say they are not attacking civilians but getting foods to them is always a problem.

Hunger and starvation is worst than any weapon and Isreal is using that to kill innocent people.

You are not as unbiased as you think

So what are we supposed to do with this wonderful revelation from above?

Please check the link in my signature pastor's if you click na ur problem o

Lolz.

So it's better for a man to be blinded forever than finding out the truth?

How is God against seeking truth?

This is wrong to think about.

Na why we dey sin . Check my signature for link. Pastors and imans don't click