₦airaland Forum

Tallesty1:
And the women of today are anything close to our mothers? You ladies should remove the logs in your eyes first, hopefully you will see the peg in our eyes.



You know the problem with today's woman?



She knows everything about a real man and nothing about a real woman.

Tallesty1:
Girls in your time believe that the women in your father's time were living in bondage

edidiongmichael:
Equality spoilt it all. We all want to be equal.

anochuko01:
The same company that's giving out free artificial intelligence books to students across the country. Kudos!

damienwayne:
I understand how you feel. All we can really do is keep pushing. As long as you’re working right, adding to your knowledge and improving yourself it will all end in praise.

Cti28:
Do not give up on God. That you are alive and healthy should give you every reason to be grateful to God.
God has not forsaken you, he knows all about your worries. I understand how you feel, never lose hope.

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

humblemikel:
You don't have housing wahala until you move to Uyo,AKS
House na rare commodity here
And the landlords and landladies behaves like assistant Jesus
Them go frustrate life out of you.
Mtchwwww

proeast:
Igbos are gradually becoming highly influential in many states across Nigeria. From Lagos to Rivers, Abuja to Cross River, Plateau to Benue etc. A time will come when we will be a force to reckon with just like it was in the first republic before the civil war. We can't be contributing significantly to the local economy of all these states without having a say. However, we should bring most of our investment home to the East.

LeoFish92:
Lol, na yesterday I knack the question, na u come dey see am this morning