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Tekevwe:
I'm not the clingy type, if anything I used to be the exact opposite and decided to work on it when I got a few complaints. We both go to work and I get back home by 6pm. He gets in by 9 and just wants to eat, bath, and sleep.

His office is just five minutes from the house and he works for himself so I know its not Lagos traffic. I just feel we should share how both our days went sometimes. He also does the same on weekends when he's home and keeps to himself. I let him be for a few hours and when I try to go to him he's cold still, like he wants to be alone.

I'm beginning to feel lonely.

The way he's behaving,it feels like he has discovered something about you (or someone told him something false about you) but chooses not to confront you. It might not be the case but judging by your story, that's the best scenario I can conjure up. In my opinion, this has nothing to do with work and stress, but everything to do with you. No matter how tough things might be, when I come home to my wife, her warm welcome should be enough to soften me for a little while at least.

kennygee:
You are wrong bro. If you see the real virgins these days, you won't believe ur eyes. They know all they need to know about sex, they read about sex, gist about sex like they are very active.

So your point here is a little flawed o. A virgin could be taught all this positions by an experienced gf of hers. We girls can be crazy around each other.

lol I guess you right... at least, hearing from the horse's mouth.

ghostwritter:
I can only hunt for virgins if i'm sure that will get me rich and also take me to heaven.
If u want true virgins, try date somes girls below SS1 class. (from experience)

S..e.x offender alert... Siren wailing
Paedophile in the house

kennygee:
Lol.

There are guys out there who still want to marry virgins?

So after his philandering ways, he wants a virgin.

I pray he gets an alum or tightener type of virgin.

Oni ranu.

Virgins are so inexperienced in bed... I for one wouldn't marry one.
Imagine explaining to her how to arch her back for a d.oggy

pweetychyka:
A typical Nigerian shy gal will be lyk....

Babe: John r u at home?

John: Yea I am! Anything...?

Babe: Nothing really ooooo! I jez called to know what's up! Do u want me to come?

John: OK (not specific)

Babe: I 'm coming!

John: I 'll be expecting u then!

(15 mins later babe- Knocking on the door)

John: Yes come in

Babe: How are u?

John: Very fyn... wat can I offer u?

Babe: Naaaa! Don't worry.... U didn't go out today?

John: Hmmmm myt go out soon!

Babe: Oh ok! I want to sleep for a while(forming sexy)

John: Okkkk! Enjoy

Babe: (moody face) U r not romantic sef... come n cuddle me jhoor so I can sleep well!

And den cuddle start ! From cuddle to kissing n den d game starts

[center]But then a typical Nigerian outspoken babe will be like[/center]

Babe: Hi sweetheart

Guy: Hey sugar how are u?

Babe: I 'm fyn jez dat I 'm missing u(softly) are u at home?

Guy: Missing ya too! Sure I 'm home

Babe: Oh okay! Coming ryt away!

(15 mins later - Babe knocking on d door)

Guy: Yea who is it? Come in...

Babe: Hey sweetie (hugging and kissing him) I 've really missed you

(No tym to check tym) anything dat happens after that tym should be story for anoda day

So tell me, which one are u?

Girl : I'm on my way, prepare something for me o...
Me : Like what?
Girl : Just anything.

Straight to the mallam for gold circle.

unibenstudent1:
I have slept with you but I didn't kiss and tell

Stop that, it's disrespectful.

charlsecy:
I bet ₦1 million that you all didn't read the story, or if you did, you never understood what you read! Your submission will appear stupid if you comment without [proper] reading.

I advise you make it a mandate NOT to comment on forum UNTIL you have properly read and understood the relevant story.

They mostly comment quickly to make front page or be the first to comment. When articles are long, they comment so quickly... Some even type "OK" or even a letter like "q".. I don't know, has nairaland ever promised gifts to people who comment first?

Ossai325:
If you've aborted 320 pregnancies, then how many children are you destined to give birth to or have you ever come across any situation like that ? How can one larth to 320 children that means the lady is jobless........ Madam conffesor if na the fame you want please come and have it...

Read the article first before commenting... Haba.

Revolva:
320 lord ave merci after god fear woman

Wat a w.hore

You all that don't read before commenting, all in the name of making FP, continue.

ethene:
30k too is on the high side, there are good phone of 10k.

What the OP is trying to say is, you could argue for instance that an infinix hot note pro could be equivalent(or even better) to a Samsung S6 in terms of the OS, battery, processor and camera. At least, it beats it hands down in terms of battery and that is what matters in Nigeria.

ethene:
30k too is on the high side, there are good phone of 10k.

What the OP is trying to say is, you could argue for instance that an infinix hot note pro could be equivalent(or even better) to a Samsung S6 in terms of the OS, battery, processor and camera. At least, it beats it hands down in terms of battery and that is what matters in Nigeria.

missyadorable:
It's a pity

But what I don't understand is why a man will be interested in a 2 year old missing FEMALE child?

When he already has older male n female...

I won't be surprised it's the father himself who is the culprit and just putting up fake concern to deceive everybody


These days,trust nobody!

Of course a 2 year old would be easier to abduct and carry around... Can't believe you're really asking this question.
Scratch that...
You actually meant the father shouldn't have been concerned about Chinasa because he has other kids right? Go on your knees right now and ask God for forgiveness... I'm serious o... When u read this, before replying me with harsh words or anything, pray to God and ask for forgiveness, for your sake.

tonio2wo:
Aliens! Watch 'the fourth kind'.

You are kidding, right? Please tell me you're just kidding.

cruzita:
where is the 4k

The dog swallowed it na..

Afrok:
When did one #500 equivalent to #4,000?

You and sense have taken different paths.

ChangeIsCostant:
The troops of 155 Task Force Battalion, 21 Brigade, Nigerian Army on Thursday 31st March 2016, during clearance operations discovered and destroyed Improvised Explosive Device (IED) factory and cleared Boko Haram terrorists hide out in Wulwuta village, ahead of Jere, Bama Local Government Area.

During the operation, the troops also killed 9 Boko Haram terrorists while one of our soldier was wounded in action.

The troops recovered 1 laptop, 1 solar panel, a pair of Nigerian military desert and woodland camouflage uniform each, as well as bandolier vest and 6 ready IEDs pressure plates. Other recoveries include a loaded pistol with registration number D557954, 3 rounds of 7.65mm, 13 rounds of 7.62mm (NATO) ammunitions and combat boots, amongst others.

The gallant unit also rescued 21 persons held captives by the terrorists, comprising 8 men, 4 women and 9 children. They have been moved to the Brigade Headquarters for further care, screening and eventual hand over to the appropriate agencies.

It is significant to state that the ever vigilant and professional troops noticed that the terrorists were determined to cause maximum casualty on them by stuffing 2 empty artillery shells and other cartridges with IED and batteries ready to explode. They were however safely detonated by the Explosive Ordinance Device (EOD) team attached to the unit.

It is heart warming to state that the troops morale remains high and fighting efficiency is equally unprecedented.

Colonel Sani Kukasheka Usman
Acting Director, Army Public Relations

http://www.nationalhelm.com/2016/04/soldiers-rescue-21-captives-as-they.html

The bombs couldn't have been detonated by our soldiers, they were diffused.
Also, glad to see that Boko Haram is finally becoming history... History to tell our children and grandchildren.
Very soon, the north will be a conducive place to visit and set businesses up.
God bless Nigeria.

He should have had one last crack at Nairabet... Who knows, maybe...

Horlufemi:
WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER WORMER

Buhari is dull, you are worse.

Lmfao

ireneony:
She is too beautiful to marry a ugly husband
I hope all her children will look like her .

For some unknown reason, excessively beautiful ladies somehow don't marry handsome men. I don't know why and will never know.

teolagacy:
some females are just too beautiful

She is Lebanese BTW... Too beautiful.

rallymento:
I have neither fornicated nor masturbated in my entire life.

It is all about moral and what your brain interprets to you.

I am no saint though and I am not judging those that have found themselves in such mess.

There is a way >>>>>>>>

We call Him the Ocean divider
The Everlasting King
The bright and morning Star
Rose of Sharon.
Lilly of the Valley.
Prince of Peace...
The forgiver of our sins
In Igbo we call Him
Ji ana aru na oku o na epu ome!!
Anu Kporonku na eju onu
Isi iyi nke ndu
Odo mmiri bethseda
Ono ro Ihe noro enyi ma kpuru mgbada no onu!!

Run to Christ and enter your rest

But you once posted that u were in love with a runs girl and you had series of phone intimacy with her. You even sent her tfare to come to your house. So don't give us the saint pep talk, we've all been there and done that.

Adedoks:
Most married women are very funny ooo... Am a married man n I know what am saying. Some married women can go a month without sex if their hubby doesnt make a move towards them. N its also sad some married men will cajole n cajole their wife before she has sex... If the man is always the one cajoling one day he will be tired. Same man women outside are ready to grab n their is Wifee acting up. When the man goes outside she will start unnecessary prayers dat she could Av averted. U wont have sex with your man in a month plus n u think all is well. Most married women that do dis are not matured enough as they are still relatively new in marriage... Some learn from bitter experience. Oga Op be patient with her n explain to her as a man ur needs. God bless you for being faithful

Married women keep that up to show their men they can go on for a year (if possible) without sex. That in turn can keep a man's mind at rest when he travels for a month, knowing his wife won't get Hot when he's gone. (this is just an observation).

komododragons:
stop reasoning with WOMEN! how will someone married to someone without any form of attractiveness!

In what part in my reply stated that I reasoned with them?
I said she could only marry h because she was attracted to him and that would not have changed within a year. Read well before you comment.

ivyT:
LWKMD,are u kidding me? Spirit husband? Haba

Lol that's what happens when MFM people join nairaland.

kola1930:
We've been married for a year now and blessed with a pretty daughter. My wife feels little or no urge to be intimate. Its been more than a month now since I had s*x. Reason being that, am angry inside of me that she is always not in the mood, so I decided to hold myself and see when she'll realize it that am angry about it and do the needful. But it seems like am just suffering my self because she seems not to realize she needs to do something fast. I am feeling like cheating on her as a way to punish her maybe she'll realize it that she needs to satisfy her husband to keep him away from other ladies outside. I urgently need advice from married nairalanders... Is the situation d same or similar in ur marriage, and how do I resolve this differences. Am really disturbed

Op,do you try to get intimate with her and she turns you down or you are upset that she never gets to initiate the intimacy?

halfricanadian:
Exactly my thought

That isn't a factor. The fact that she got married to him should be enough to verify that she was attracted to him then... so that shouldn't change within a year.

cionon:
She was an old neigbhours of their in another state. I didnt even tell her anything. I only asked how how she conceived. I follow ttc thread and wen someone conceives, we ask what yoi did differently. So i asked her and she told me what she did amd adviced me to try it. Which i told her its risky to try.

I asked for a second chance. He said no. That He has already moved on with his life and can't hurt his new lady

Then my take on the matter is that, while you both were having incessant quarrels, your husband was having an affair, which also made he react to every little nag you made. If he really wanted to make this work, he'd stay away from any lady even while you are out of the house, just to assure you he still loves you. That said, his new lady might be diabolical, hence, clouding his judgment. You can level the playing field by getting on your knees. Pray and fast... tell God to solve your marital problems. BTW, you didn't make mention of any kids? If you haven't conceived yet, that could also be another factor, that also can be solved by prayer (after you are both back together of course).

cionon:
I confided in my husband when he accused me of listening to people. I then opened up and gave him an instance that if i listen to people i would ne doing what they asked me to do.I told him the advice a former neigbhour of his gave me. Of which I told her I can't do such. Now he uses it against me. I feel bad because he didn't even say what I told him exactly. He changed the story. He lied about it.


My husband goes about telling everyone i am diabolic because I jokingly told him that he should be grateful I don't have a wicked heart if not I will use magun to catch him and his mistress. Which he even replied that he knows i dont have that mind. That i am still a child.
this was said around march of 2015

Fastward to November he started asking for a divorce because he of his mistress he met online. Telling both his colleagues and family members that I am diabolic which is not true. I feel bad because this same man have also confided in me telling me things about his boss and others. We are currently separated

I just regret everything. I regret confinding in him and opening up to him. With pleas from everywhere, he is still insisting on divorce.

I just read you last post about the heated arguments you had with your husband and the hurtful things you both said to each other.
From what I can deduce, you both are stubborn (pardon my bluntness) and you both want to be captains in the ship. You really need to learn to be totally submissive.... Talking back at your husband is a very terrible mistake that men can hold on to for so long, especially if it's something that happens frequently. It is a major turn off in all men.
Then again, discussing your "how to conceive 101" matter with you neighbour is another big no-no. It's equivalent to shooting not just yourself in the foot, but your husband's also. Neighbours are very fickle. They'll turn on you and your husband the moment things turn sour. Even before things turn sour, they would have gossipped about you as far as they can travel.
Your husband would those things, hence, why he was so livid with you...and judging by your last post, you probably would have shrugged and said "there's nothing bad about me confiding in my experienced neighbor",which would definitely make him flare up.
My advice? You should ask for one more chance and promise him you'd change. Tell him he's free to throw you out next time you do those exact same things that pissed him off.
Now I'm not saying you should be perfect and focus on not pissing him off, I'm saying you should make use of that second chance he gives you to remind him of how much you both loved each other the day you said "I do" and how he'd be making a huge mistake if you both got divorced.
(Don't mind my typos, I was in a hurry to point out these facts to you)

Stupedinluv:
Personal happiness in quotes o because what people call happiness today is just temporary joy.

To be completely happy or happy on the long run you must think through so many things.

Are you now saying if a man has slept with several women, he has lost his credibility to become a good and loving husband?
It's the ones who made lots of mistakes that end up being perfect. As they say, experience is the best teacher.

Stupedinluv:
At 20, i have come to realise the joy and fulfilment in living life to the fullest. Coming from a noble home, i was not raised to be a man's stooge not to talk of an animal's. My worth was defined from the day i stepped into earth and has been shapened overtime. I was taught the right and the wrong. And that moral laws condone no breaker. If a woman must be condemned and despised for a crime, a man must by all means face the same. I believed this and i knew before God and men it was the truth. I didnt just believe, it became real to me and has influenced my judgement.

However, the society has flung half of this truth and has held on to a part because of how drunk in power it has become and the advantage this fist had fetched it.

We are aware now of this evil conditioning that a woman who sleeps around is a slut and should be desired less but a man who does same a stud and should be the craving of every woman. Many men have quietly nodded in agreement and a few mouthy ones have not failed to vocalise their agreement. And women? So many to the shame of dignity and womanhood have sang along with the men. And you wonder which would sacrifice her pride to make a stud!?

Because to make more studs we need more sluts. Can any of you women come out and offer yourself to a man who would dump you for another. If you cannot hold your peace and stupidity!

A stud is a man who is sexually attractive to so many women. So they say! but i see a stud as an animal who is unable to control its sexual desires, hates monogamous relationships and (therefore) deserves to be judged and condemned.


Women who say they are attracted to studs and hate inexperienced men need not only their heads examined but their consciences and should not take offence when they are called sluts. Cos only a slut or zombie would reason this way.


A stud has nothing tangible to offer except to toy with my emotion, cause me heart breaks and render me unproductive.

For every stud out there there are ten whores rendering my gender useless and subjecting me to prove myself as a woman of pride and esteem all the time. Nothanks.

If my count is above 20,would you term me a stud? What if I have slept with over 20 girls because they all kept breaking my heart and as a result,all failed to work out?

kennygee:
Hand falling.

At least, their Batman can fly. lol