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Nekr0N:
Bewbs

Lol fair enough, ok let me add 0.2, the guy was eye candy

Nekr0N:
I gave the film a 2 some people are not lenient sha

Lmao what about it earned it a 2?

365 DNI

Crock of shit/10

I knew what the movie would be about just by seeing a 5 second clip of the trailer. Only watched it because my friend wanted us to ‘discuss’ it, some 13 year old’s rich director dad got their wattpad story turned into a film basically. Worth watching for a laugh though

Acidosis:
The onus of responsibility for the attack is fully on the rapist. The punishment stated by our laws are for the rapist, not the victim. But that doesn't mean societies (including the victim) don't have a role to play either in the prevention or enforcement of laws.

Would you rather go naked because the rapist is to blame for a rape culture?

Should I leave my money on the road because the thief would be caught and arrested? Don't we all know that stealing is wrong? If I tell you someone stole my money, wouldn't you wish to know how and where it was stolen? If I tell you I purposely left the money behind at a restaurant, would you not use certain words like "careless"? Would you take my issue very seriously and in the same way you would for someone that got robbed in his house at gun point? If your answer is 'no', does it mean you support crime/stealing? If you answered 'yes', wouldn't you caution and tell me to be more careful?


It baffles me the way we try to rationalize certain things.

Your analogies aren’t realistic. Not only are you comparing an inanimate object to a human being, but even the scenarios don’t paint a truthful picture of how rapes occur. I can only liken them to a situation where a naked woman walks into the prison cell of a rapist, lays on his bed and takes a sedative to knock herself out. Most rapes aren’t occurring like this

They’re happening in familiar, personal environments and being committed by people they know, who are sick enough to infer consent from a figure-hugging pair of jeans alone. We know how warped Nigerians’ concept of ‘decency’ can be so let’s not act like the majority of cases are due to people walking naked in dark alleys somewhere. It’s important to teach preventive, protective measures (different to blaming), but sexual assault is more nuanced than this rigid idea of a rape scenario that you’re painting.

Acidosis:
Ibk, you're simply reacting based on a preconceived idea about my stance on rape/rapists. I have not in any way justified rape on this thread.

My first contribution wasn't about rape. To shock you, I see no wrong in the picture especially since she probably copied her mother. Those condemning the photo ought to check themselves. What's the essence of doing things you wouldn't want your child to do, fashion-wise?

Ok, sometimes implications are just as clear as directly saying it....

Just to be 100% clear, do you think that the onus of responsibility for the attack is on the victim of rape if they're whatever someone classifies as 'indecently dressed' ('classified' because depending on perspective, this can range from small cleavage to bikini' for people)

Acidosis:
I'm sure you will agree with me that male and female alike, agree that terrorism, ritual killings and corruption are a menace to the society but somehow, a particular gender seems to always oppose anyone that tries to talk about indecent dressing.

Let's not shift the goal post...

She wasn't opening a discussion about what crimes are a menace to the society lol, you said that women would ultimately destroy the world because of their 'indecent dressing', yet men account for most of these crimes, but as far as you're concerned women are the ones destroying the world. Please answer this particular question, not whether you agree it is also 'bad'

Acidosis:
What's sexual about a toddler on bikini? The word sexuality should be used on more sophisticated photos of a mature lady on p.yant and bra (or bikini, if that makes you feel decent) lol



Are you saying anyone that condemns indecent dressing is an advocate and supporter of rape? To be an anti-rape advocate, I have to support indecent dressing and tell men to stop having erection?

You weren’t just condemning indecent dressing, you were essentially implying that women should know that ‘indecent’ dressing attracts rapists if they know that a minor in a bikini will attract a pedophile, people who put blame on the victim (whether ‘partial’ or ‘full’) often use this talking point, you may not have said it directly but it came off as a very subtle way of shifting the onus of responsibility onto the victim for her rape.

Disliking indecent dressing isn’t the issue, it’s actually your right, I doubt anyone would care if you weren’t lowkey attributing it to the cause of being raped and the ‘destruction’ of a world where men are committing most of the vices, killing people willy nilly, wasting tax payers’ money taking up spaces in prisons like sardines and blowing hard earned money on all these ‘indecent’ women.

pocohantas:
I am looking for the LOGIC in women ruining the world with their dressing.

Same dressing and lifestyle they’ve actively participated in glorifying and funding themselves for years

pocohantas:
How? By “indecent” dressing?

Not bombing? Terrorism? Corruption? Ritual killings, drug trafficking, kidnapping and all vices that makes you and your brothers occupy 99.813% of prisons?

Are you okay?

Lol also, please repeat what you said about women 'ruining' the world

Acidosis:
Lol.. you're confirming the fact that it is right to sexualize women in a way that attracts "older pedophiles" (rapists).

In essence, you're saying that if a woman can see that it is inappropriate for a minor to dress like this because she's being sexualized, why can't they see that it is also wrong for a grown adult (who is more developed than a minor in every aspect..........) to dress like this. Lol this parallel you're trying to force out doesn't make sense, it's a question of what's age-appropriate, not 'virtue'.

I don't know if you're saying indecent dressing is the cause of rape, but it sounds like you're putting much of the onus on the victim. An adult has the right to wear whatever she wants, dressing isn't license to rape or assault. Your Bible tells you to be angry but not sin, use that same 'logic' here also, it's normal to be attracted, but that doesn't give anyone license to rape. Rapists are also attracted to newborn babies, grandmas, goats, women in hijabs, women in 'conservative' attire from historical days of old since you people have been raping since time immemorial, the rapist himself is the common thing here, but I get that using indecent dressing is always a convenient excuse for some of you.

ToyinDipo:
I find this post interesting, it mirrors exactly NL feminists lines of thought, though opposing their views

Toyin, are you telling me you don't understand that the issue is with the fact that she is a minor?

KevinDein:
Logic isn't allowed here, sir. That's the tool of the patriarchy.

Modified:
@ bolded, our ancestors, you know those men of old that sacrificed sweat and blood to get us to where we are now, this civilization we enjoy, knew that and that's why they didn't allow women to have that much of a say.

Men glorify and encourage this type of dressing with their hard-earned money made from 'blood and sweat', and have been doing so since days of old...

Imagine questioning someone's logic whilst comparing the outrage of the sexualization of a minor to a grown adult in the same breath lol

Acidosis:
If this is bad for the girl child, then why do we encourage it for the adult lady??

Something is not right especially since men don't have this kind of issues. You can replicate nearly any adult male wear for the boy child.

Women will ultimately destroy this world.

People are outraged because she's a minor with minimal autonomy and responsibility for herself, being sexualized and very possibly getting the attention of pedophiles? You're comparing people's outrage of a female under the legal age of consent to a grown woman wearing a bikini? Men don't have these issues as young boys because their bodies aren't objectified the same way females' bodies are from a young age (although I can see it sparking outrage if he were posing in a certain manner).

Like wtf lol

Donald3d:
I thought it was 3k dollars

Amen, yours too.

Donald3d:
My sister, na so we see am

Lmao it genuinely resonates with me because I work in tech, so I know how the blood and sweat that would've gone into creating something may seem 'small' to a layman, I can just imagine you asking if they meant 200k and the way you must've done a double take when the other person you mentioned offered 3k

God bless your hustle

No

Donald3d:
Nigerians are very good at under-pricing labor and effort , trust me, dem full here for Nairaland

One said he wanted an e-commerce website job done , to be built from scratch , this would take me like 2 months at least, baba said his budget was 20k, I asked him if he meant 200k (even though this is still small for the detail he wanted), he typed it in full "Lol, I mean twenty thousand Naira oo "

I have plenty stories like this, one wanted an android app and wanted to pay 3k, I kid you not, job of at least 2-3 months and he was serious !!!

I charged another one for an app of 4 months or so, he asked me if we wanted to buy land , insinuating that "is it not ordinary app" .

This is why almost everything around us is mediocre, most Nigerians don't understand the value of things, the annoying thing is, some so called wealthy people also do this.

An average developer in other countries, earns nothing less than $15k-$50k per month.Those are people who understand value.

I heard of a Nigerian tech company, the man collected millions for a project and paid the developer that did the job, if I remember well, 30k !!!! ... Some people will not make heaven in this life, no be curse.

This is why I chose to go freelance, I can choose who I work with. No matter how broke I may be, if the amount you want to pay isn't worth the stress, I politely turn you down...I learnt the hard way that the cheap people are always the most problematic...And its like that every where, cheap people have a very nauseating sense of entitlement. One client was even threatening me after I did much more than the client paid for even after I did other free extra work on top of the work and stress that wasn't even worth the price paid, just so I can keep a good name .

SIDE NOTE: If you work freelance, or provide any service, ALWAYS have a signed agreement of the list of features and price to be paid, if you think only service providers are dishonest, think again, some customers are scammers too, they would lay claims to something that was never agreed upon, for the same cheap price.


We can do better.All this acts stem from selfishness and self-centeredness . We need to become more selfless and put ourselves in other peoples shoes, "If it was me, would I like to be treated this way " ?

This made me laugh hard and hiss in disgust at the same time. Lmao sha, Nigerians....Nigerians

Kudos to all of them but I don't know about top 5

I’m sure attending to her baby was her top priority and if she could help the situation, she would much rather be somewhere she felt more comfortable feeding him/her, fact remains that some people just aren't comfortable doing it, whether it's down to self-consciousness and/or the fact that the country has a huge problem with perverts and rapists

Dpsychologist:
What is Your Worst Experience with a Tenant?

As there are terrible experiences with landlords there are also terrible experiences with tenants. Today i will like to share a worst experience with a tenant.

My dad happens to be a landlord so we have met alot of tenants.

There was a stubborn tenant that rented a 3 bedroom flat worth 300k. He told my dad he will pay 250k now when he has the remaining he will pay. That's when the notoreity started. The tenant refused to pay the 50k, despite my dad's constant reminder.

When his rent expires he said he will soon pay that he needs more time, that he wants to pay everything at once. The next time my dad ask him, he said he is in financial crises all this was while i was in school. When i came back for end of semester break i still heard that the man hasn't paid his rent. I began pressuring my dad to collect this rent, the tenant has spent over 5months without paying a dime. My dad said the man lost his uncle and went for burial recently. Thats when i realize he has been given excuse to my dad for a very long time.

After sometimes i told my dad not to allow the man stay one more month without paying. My dad threaten to bring the police and take him to court. The man blocked my dad number, then my dad called him with another number when he picked and discover it was my dad he claim he didnt see my dad's initial call that he was sick. The man then switched off his phone.

We decided to go to meet the man together with a lawyer but he was not around. I placed a 2month notice and that he must pay for the months he has stayed in the house. After a week the man called with a new number pleading that he should not be evicted. He asked for my dad's account number so that he will pay. The man send 50k only. My dad told him he just completed his last year rent and will have to pay for the current year. The man refused. After the two months my dad changed the door lock thereby preventing him from getting inside even though his stuffs are inside.

After a month, a woman from the Neighborhood told my dad that the man we evicted is still living in the house. He usually comes in late at around 11-12pm and goes out around 7am. The next day we arrived there few minutes past 6 but the man has already gone. We discover that he changed the lock to the house. We end up confiscating all his properties and emptied his room. Till today he is yet to be found.

I have others stories about other tenants but i will love to hear your story. Over to you.

What is your worst experience with a tenant?

Lool

I am exactly the same way, I am very all or nothing, I'll either do something really well or can't be bothered at all, if I do things averagely I'm still technically exerting some effort, so what's the point of me making an effort to put in effort and not getting optimal results. I don't know if it's necessarily a personality 'disorder' though

Oizee:
Why would he bath them in the first place? What's the duty of the women around him?

So taking care of your own child is a designated duty?

I don't understand how you can see the poor state someone is in, knowing how much of a struggle Nigeria is and still underprice someone for their labour. I am talking about the people who knowingly pay an amount disproportionately lower than the effort of work, it's inhumane.

jaksmillioniar:
ansa me is dis right?

Very right

jaksmillioniar:
sassysure amarabae funmisticqueen sterope ginaz canadiannaija ikombe adewumiopeyemi ibkayee shinarlaura trustyshoess other feminist is dis right

Lol ah well

0KNM:
Are you gay?

Nope

kay29000:
The guy has commented close to 100 times on this thread...barking at everyone like a mad dog. The guy definitely has issues.

Lmao I didn't know

Jullima:
You actually have it backwards, Nigerians will never mind their business when it comes to[b] people’s lives and their personal choices e.g when to marry?[/b] When to have a child? How many children? Etc.However they will look the other way when a crime is committed, e.g 419, domestic violence, rape etc.

Just like you OP, you’re seriously comparing criminals committing a crime to a young girl’s private life?? Her boss has no business with how she lives her life, his only business is how she does the job she’s been paid to do.

All of a sudden men turned to 'civil' activists in that thread, whenever there's an opportunity to police a woman's body that's when they remember the 'ills' of society. I guarantee the response wouldn't have been as strong from them if the person in question being 'immoral' was male

Grandmeister:
I'm beginning to understand why many men believe women are too emotional and 'less' intelligent to make key decisions...if this man minds his business and that girl dies on a quack's operating table...if her family gets to know and accuse the man of being complicit in the abortion and death of their daughter YOU will be the first to shout crucify him!! Without needing any evidence or the man's story(even if you get to hear his side you won't still believe)..then civil rights groups will be on his case and he will be on the defensive trying to save his life and rep...all because he minded his fvcking business...evil thrive in a society because good people decide to mind their business and looked the other way....get sense! And in getting it get wisdom!

You’re in my mentions shouting like you’re singing an opera, and you have the gall to try to call someone emotional as an 'insult' lol calm down Matin Luther Grandmeister and stop letting your imagination get the best of you

Acidosis:
I call her boyfriends useless because no one can play that trick on me. Why? Because I don't mind my business when it comes to matters that affect my heart, my emotions, wellbeing, health and my immediate environment.

And, oh, it's the same reason I would not spend a second night with anyone that tells me "I want it raw" So any mumu boy that allows a 21 year old unfaithful girlfriend play that dum.b trick on him is useless. Any man that is so f00lish enough to be f00led into minding his business is useless.

As per the contents of her chats, I didn't know it's possible to view my messages even after I must have logged out on Facebook.

Did you read where he said the lady presents herself as a faithful/religious person? Now that OP knows her for what she truly is, do you want him to have the same positive perception about his sales girl? Whether you call me moralist or not, fact remains that double dating is wrong, unprotected sex is wrong, lying and deceiving men with another man's pregnancy is wrong. Abortion is illegal in Nigeria.

So what aspect exactly do you find commendable?

I feel you’re focusing on the part where I quoted ‘useless boyfriends’ more than necessary, I don’t really care about the fact that you referred to them as that

When you’re logged into Facebook, if a profile hasn’t been logged out of and a session is still running, you have access to things like the inbox.

She’s his sales girl, not his counselor, not his child’s tutor, not his pastor, he had no right going through her inbox in the first place and she not violate any company rules so mind your business

I wonder if he’d feel as strongly about this thing that has absolutely nothing to do with him if she were male, probably not

Acidosis:
Mind your business... Mind your business... This is what we keep saying. Now we've been minding our businesses, suffering and smiling under stup!d political leaders and no one can successfully call for a revolution because every damn person is minding his or her business.

You invaded her privacy by reading her messages but she didn't invade your own privacy by accepting to use your phone and your Facebook to chat with her useless boyfriends who are prolly now HIV positive and potential donors of STIs because you ediots and God forsaking epistles of minding unprofitable and decaying businesses are on the loose!

Not surprised the majority of these epistle writers on this thread are females.

You are so weird

He said himself he has a phone in the office that he allows them access to incase their phone is off, we don't know that she used his phone to talk to any of her 'useless boyfriends', are you telling me that you don't know that the contents of her inbox will be the same no matter what device is used to log in? It is none of his business, why do some of you morality soldiers always have to impose your 'values' on everyone when whatever the person is doing could have absolutely no impact on you?

He's concerned about the dangers she's putting herself in at her age yet wants to take her source of livelihood from her over something that's none of his business lol smh

RealMrNigerD:
You just scrambling all over the place on this simple question like a fish out of water and in the end, we and even you yourself probably, can't exactly tell where you stand.
Now catch your breath and in a simple sentence, try again.

Lol you aren't totally wrong, I know what I'm trying to say but I didn't organise the wording well and I think I even felt that way when I posted it but cba to fix it