₦airaland Forum

ecolime:
E no fit reach 10k when you commute via Public transport or you mean when driving your own car?

when driving o. I use up to 15 liters per day o. Its now almost 10K to refill and it burns fast

you will be reported op

great one op

Zigzagman:
Yes I have. There was this girl that when I met her, she was dark skinned and as thin as a broom. We met in 100L, she was my first girlfriend. Every time we hugged, it was like hugging a matchstick. I wasn't feeling her again so I broke things off.

Fast forward 4 years later, she was hot as f. She was now yellow, busty and my exact spec. Na so d girl go o

badt guy!

things will get better but don't bring another persons daughter into your suffering. e get why

Zigzagman:
You're complaining because your boss betrayed you. Betrayal is a normal part of the workplace. Better thank your stars. You haven't seen the shege this Nigerian graduates have experienced in the hands of their bosses.

In this video: the craziest job stories never told, everyday Nigerians like yourself share their experiences of being maltreated, cheated and fired unceremoniously at the workplace. I bet after you listen to their stories, you will realize that you're is just learning work compared to theirs.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rdbg7Xqg1cQ

Cheers up baba. Better things are ahead.

everybody in Nigeria is mad. I swear. Did I just hear her say she was being paid 17K to teach four subjects?

obinna58:
With the help of my apc agbado ewa ID card I was able to acquire 2 plates which is favoring me and my family

chairmoo. you are madt!

don't get married in this economy

transportation should be close to 10k daily in lagos now

OP, I read your question and understand your dilemma. Almost nobody here can give you accurate counsel but here are a few conversations and resources that should hopefully help you arrive at a decision you will be comfortable with for years to come.


1. What do you need to start a family?
Most times young women are fixated about certain attributes in men that serve no purpose in a marriage. Can you eat his physical attractiveness? What if he's a hunk and he has an accident, would you leave? This video shows young women addressing what a Nigerian woman really needs to start a family


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cl43qph3dWQ



2. Is there a shortage of eligible husbands?

There are a lot of men who can date you. But how many of them are qualified to be husbands, or of the marrying kind? There are yardsticks for assessing if a man is a marrying kind. In the video below, young women like yourself had to tell themselves hard truths about their chances finding suitable men. Like someone said, pen1s is abundant, but husbands are scarce. Pay attention to what the single mother in this story said after she was told the truth about the man she was dating.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2DNoFXD4Bjo




3. How to make the tricky love decisions

This conversation focuses on capitalising on available suitors. Whoever is wooing you now won't always be available. Opportunities of a lifetime have to be used within the lifetime of the opportunity. While the participants are obviously younger than you, I'm certain that you'll benefit greatly from the conversations that they are having.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RJ2ulJMb_pk


4. Regretting the men who get away

Are you certain that you won't regret losing this man? You need to be certain that a better offer comes along. In this conversation, there are women just like you who share their experiences of turning away suitors because of a variety of reasons. One had huge regrets, the other (just like you) was undecided. Pay attention to the girl wearing the pink tee-shirt. Her story appears closest to what you have narrated.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Dz8ZVqReCJ0


I'm certain one of these stories should be helpful in decision making.


Thank me later .

UPDATE:

I came back to read this after it hit front page and realised some comments made it seem like I'm encouraging you to marry him. That's far from the truth. Nobody here can give accurate-enough counsel to make a huge life-changing decision like getting married. But OP, if you've decided to go along with him, you need to be sure he isn't too good to be true. . Again, while this video below doesn't apply much, I think it contains a few cautionary tales- tings you should be skeptical about in his story.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EU3zIpAEQ64

Ultimately, the decision to take is yours. I wish you all the best.

Ideamonster

let him watch this



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iL6V8U9yoeQ

the opposite actually. She only dates good looking men



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=852z33pvMVY

It's because runs girls have increased. And it's now easier to cheat with instagram, mobile money, uber and airbnb.

For example, in this video: Secrets your girls keep: watch how undergraduate girls codedly admit to seducing married men. Listen to them talk about sex parties in Lekki, lactating mothers still doing hookups and why you can never satisfy hookup girls and their patronisers sexually.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6v-PXdeL2tc

How will your marriage last under these conditions. Would you as a man be able to resist their charms?

a word is enough for any woman who wants to keep her man. Your selection is very important

OP, I don't mean to scare you. But the best advice I can give you is to starting saving up for antenatal care and delivery fees.

On a more serious note, I will advice you to watch this video posted in the family section: What to do if she's pregnant and pay particular attention to the difficult decisions confronting the young men when their girlfriends got pregnant.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wnluQ3AdnOE

They're everyday Nigerians just like you and if any of their experiences closely matches your situation or what you're describing, then that's likely what you might have to do. Also, have your girlfriend watch it so that she'll be on the same page as you.

Thank me later. Regards to your girlfriend

Martdc:
We had unprotected sex three weeks ago, but i used the withdrawal method. One week after we had unprotected sex, and she took contraceptives.

She missed her period last week, but test p-test was negative. No sign of period yet till today.

I don’t know if the pills must have caused the delay, or she’s actually pregnant.

Could she be pregnant?