ElliotP: She did the right thing, shebi na he passion he wan take pay bride price, with the way economy dey go you wan use your passion start family, ladies don't let any man stress you o.
ideamonster: Can anyone help benchmark the expenses of this expecting family of three?
When Kunle received the whatsapp picture of the ultrasound scan from his wife RIta, he didn't know what he was looking at. After all, this was their first pregnancy. They had gotten married September 2022, and moved into a One bedroom self-contain apartment at Mende Maryland. It was close enough to his office in Yaba, and close to her cake shop in Ikeja.
In February of this year, Rita began to panic after seeing her menses again. Six months, No preganancy. They began having sex every single day. Two months later in April, Rita got pregnant and began attending ante-natal clinic. Two weeks ago, she did her first obstetric ultra sound scan which revealed the presence of two gestational sacs. That was the picture she sent to kunle. Finally. they were expecting children. Even better, twins.
It was evident that the self-contained apartment would no longer be enough for their emerging family of two parents and two boys. So they began hunting for a much larger apartment.
They found two bedroom apartments in Surulere for over a million. That was[b] 600,000 naira more[/b] than they were paying in Mende, Maryland. Whilst hunting for cheaper alternatives and trying to negotiate directly with the Landlord, in June this year, the fuel prices rose to over N500 per liter. Their current Landlord and the new landlord reviewed their rents by 50%.
In her cake shop, Rita began facing a new challenge. Since January, the price of a bag of wheat flour she used for baking kept increasing every week by N500. Between January and March, it rose from N18,000 to N24,500. When fuel prices rose, the cost of her food inputs rose. Kunle had to park his 05 corolla sports at home and go by danfo. Their discretionary income has fallen. Kunle and Rita could not afford to pay for the new apartment. "I realise that we might have to stay in this self-contained apartment for much longer than we planned", Rita says.
In this video, How expensive is Nigeria now? , 14 everyday Nigerians like yourself discuss how they're living expenses have changed. The teachers, bank tellers, students, self-employed businessmen, and office staff all calcualate how much they now spend on food, housing and transportation. They also reveal secrets on the best places in lagos from the standpoint of rent, food, transportation and starting a family Metropolis.
ideamonster: Romantic love is a delusion that is based on sexual attraction. Most Nigerians get their ideas about love from Movies. Movies program us to seek romantic love above all else.
Nigerians are programmed by social media. Nigerians especially are the receiving end of these programming, many believe that sex and "love" are the key to happiness.
Men have been programmed to seek feminine approval when their own approval is all that matters.
This programming is intensifying. Every time I watch TV especially Hollywood, I see dominant women paired with feminized men who are trying to impress the women.
The average man spends 75% of his energy on it. Many men are ruined by divorce. What if men spent this energy elsewhere? On their work?
On Enlightenment? On their music, hobbies or sports? On politics?
The social pressure to conform, to seek "a relationship" is overwhelming.
Maybe the real takeaway is this:
Men should never look to women to give them self-confidence but themselves.
Is anything wrong if men choose not to marry? How do you deal with the pressures of society to start a romantic relationship?
ideamonster: you would be surprised. If china could do it in the 1970s, it's possible in NIgeria.
For example, federal and state civil service can mandate that only those with two children and less get hired. ANd if you have more than two children, you won't get promoted or forfeit your retirement package.
Once civil service accepts it, others will adopt it. All it requires is political will.
Zigzagman: With the ongoing subsidy removal, most families are having to find ways to make ends meet.
In this viral video, the speakers analyze how an increase in the woman's earnings places extra stress on the men. The boss babe disagreed and got destroyed with hard facts. DO you agree? What has been your experience? Are you placed under stress if your wife out-earns you? Does your husband feel stressed because you out-earn him? How do you manage the stresses that money imbalance brings?
Please watch the video and let us know your thoughts.
In Nigeria and across Africa today, women today are struggling to find men who earn as much as they do.
There is a shortage of economically attractive men and this has contributed to battles for control in relationships in which the women outearn their men. According to the young women in the trending video below, a good man is hard to find, especially in this economy.
Although we like to think marriage is based on love, they say, it “also is fundamentally an economic transaction,” and women want partners whom they can call their equals.
Two of the women on the panel confessed they'd fought with their partners, exchanging blows over money and control.
So, here are the questions for discussion within this thread:
1. Does a “lack of good jobs” for men contribute to loss of male control in a relationship?
2. Have you been in a romantic relationship in which a partner who had economic power over you, was tempted to control you or abuse you physically or verbally?
Zigzagman: Fresh out of school? How do you land your first job?
In Nigeria, if you're a new graduate from humble beginnings, it seems like there's very little hopes out there by way of employment opportunities. And in Nigeria's man-know-man world, what do you do if you don't have 'long-legs"?
This two month old video offers new Nigerian graduates a few practical but controversial counsel from fellow Nigerians who have walked similar paths:
-Take up the very first job offer regardless of how crappy or blue collar it is.
In addition, they're advised on how to go about managing the transition from that first crappy, low-paying job into the career of their dreams. The advice is practical, easy to apply but requires a lot of patience, humility and a brutal reality check about employment opportunities in today's job market.
I hope you find something useful in the video, and all the best with your search for opportunities.
A young footballer in his twenties is asking for advice on what to do after his 22 year old pretty girlfriend ghosted him for 4 weeks without calling or responding to his whatsapp messages and even text messages. According to him, they were vibing and everything was going fine, and then she disappeared.
He is wondering what is has done wrong and is seeking your advice.
You can watch him explain in his own words in the video below:
please comment below, he's going to get to read it
Zigzagman: The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.
How do you handle the betrayals that comes with family relationships, love-interests and loved ones?
If you're an honourable person, you tend to think that everybody else is honourable. But the world doesn't function that way. Throughout history, as documented in the shakespearean tragedies, people have always betrayed themselves over the position, money, love, hurt, envy and just plain greed.
SO how do you go about handling the betrayals that inevitably comes from close quarters- from close colleagues, lovers, friends and family? How? In this popular video, everyday Nigerians share their experiences of how their love was abused, lover was stolen and money was swindled. Please watch and let's share our thoughts.
Zigzagman: When Yemi, 27, a recent biochemistry graduate was laid off in February of the covid 19 crisis, he was still reading motivational books. What he didn't realize was that he was going to spend the next 6 to 12 months applying for a new job.
Everyday threafter, Yemi woke up at 6am, brushed his teeth, took his bath and ate a light breakfast of eggs and sliced bread. At 8am, he would dutifully log into job portals (indeed, my jobmag etc) and proceed to read at least 200 calls for applications. From 9am till 9pm, he would format his CV to each application's call and draft a quick cover letter. At the day's end, he would have sent out 40 job applications.
By August, Yemi had applied for over five thousand jobs and only got two invitations to interview. The first was a marketing job. The second was a supervisor position with a restaurant chain in Lagos. Over 4000 people showed up for the interview meant to hire just three supervisors. The role paid 60,000 naira per month with work hours being 6:30 mornings till 9:30 at night, Monday's till Saturday.
In this video: the craziest job stories you've never heard, Yemi and 14 other recent Nigerian graduates share their hilarious, thought-provoking experiences applying for jobs, dodging job scams, escaping kidnappers, receiving low-ball offers and managing the insults/frustrations from family members when you're jobless.
The Daily Struggles Of Young, Unmarried Nigerians Today
It's no surprising that cases of depression are on the rise.
1. There's inflation affecting basic staples.
2. Most young NIgerians do not earn enough to plan for their futures.
3. Most young people express fears for their mental health. Especially for self-employed individuals who won't earn except their services and products are used.
So how do you keep hope alive?
How do you deal with rising bills?
How do you plan for a family as a single, unmarried nigerian?
In the above video, everyday Nigerians share their strategies for cutting costs, increasing their earning and managing the bills that come with romance.
Zigzagman: For most folks, there's very little hopes out here by way of employment opportunities fresh out of school. What do you do in a man-know-man world like Nigeria when you don't have 'long-legs",
This video offers a few practical but controversial counsel like:
-Take up the very first job offer regardless of how crappy or blue collar it is.
In addition, they're advised on how to go about managing the transition from that first crappy, low-paying job into the career of their dreams. The advice is practical, easy to apply but requires a lot of patience, humility and a brutal reality check about employment opportunities in today's job market.
I hope you find something useful in the video, and all the best with your job search.
Zigzagman: With the current financial difficulties in Nigeria, everyone is struggling to make ends meet. This is affecting the dating pool as now more girls are being lured into hookup out of survival.
The Young men on the podcast discuss the dilemma they face with selecting a good girl from the current shark-infested dating pools filled with hookup girls and single moms
So, nairalanders- over to you. Are you faced with a similar dilemma? Why?
And if you're married, how would you advice the young men to proceed?
In Nigeria today, our neighbourhoods and cities are full of young, unmarried eligible bachelors and single ladies with delusions about love, dating and romance. It is not unusual to see lots of unmarried people attending clubs, weddings, churches, mosques and religious programmes in expectation of meeting someone to marry.
Yet, according to the single men and ladies in this video, there's a big unspoken issue around young people and romance. It's really difficult for them.
While many of them are honest and ready to commit, they struggle to find partners who are ready to date just one person today. It appears everybody is keeping their romantic options open, constantly scanning the dating landscape looking for better partners. As such, it's now commonplace to see many Nigerians postponing marriage until their thirties.
Considering the fact that most of our grandparents in Nigeria got married in their early twenties, do you think they have a point or do they just have delusion about love, dating and marriage?
Watch and share your opinion
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Zigzagman: Today, all hope seems lost. The economy appears bleak, food inflation is up, salaries are almost useless and there's generally a dearth of hope.
In the middle of all these, you need to keep a calm disposition, and begin to plan how your actions can pull Nigeria out of the shadows. Today, the country doesn't project dreams or a vision that young people can believe in.
We need visions of the future that will inspire and catalyze a global movement. The solutions to Nigeria's ills lie in the dreams and visions that you can bring to life. Here's a vision for Nigeria that we can all believe in.
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