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Menike,
Are you referring to the INC records?. do they have a new office yet after the acquittal? Please don't get carried away by gangster rap. It's just a marketing ploy. Real gangsters in the hood do stuff that rappers talk about and often end up in correction facilities.

It's the natural order of things.

It's the natural order of things.

A lawyer simply applies the laws to the facts available, to exonerate his client. Remember the lawyer was never a party to the situation that gave rise to the case. A lawyer is not a truth-seeker. That job is for either the judge or the jury. A lawyer who is not comfortable applying the laws to the facts presented, in favour of his clients may excuse himself from the case. However, society will not allow a lawyer to provide information obtained in his capacity as an attorney against his client. This ensures a more reliable justice system. This is law and not religion. A lot of you will agree with me that we should uphold both values but keep them separate.

Virozuru, I understand your loyalty to the Igbo nation but I don't subscribe to your view that the Yoruba's think they're any better than the Igbos by any measuring standard. There might be resentments on the Igboman's dogged approach to success but any Yorubaman that actually believes he is better than an Igboman is simply delusional.

It's Igbo and not Ibo. Thanks a lot for the correction.

Simple. Everybody knows what they want in life and like some posts suggests, you choose from the pool, the one you think will best help you achieve your goals in life. Whether you can manage the evolution of your choice during marriage is the complex part.

Can someone confess to a sleazy sexy escapades with a co-worker or someone you're not ethically sopposed to.

I think what you mean is that Nija girls don't hook up enough with Nija guys. First and foremost, there are limited choice. You don't expect a guy and a babe to hook up just because of territorial affiliation. Also, there is a theory abroad that Nija relationship leads to marriage. This brings along the scrutiny and pressure that often hinder Nija relationships.

There is really no such thing as a long-distance relationship. It's just a time-off from a loved one. The length of time and an agreement how to cope with it on both sides will determine whether the relationship can survive the separation. Although emotions plays a huge role in making this decision, it wont save the relationship if either partner is not comfortable with the agreement.

If you can navigate through the left over resentments in our culture to get your queen, surely you will reign in peace and prosperity.

Lets try to keep this in perspective. Nija kids that try to join gangs in the US don't do so because they're Nigerians trying to be "Akata". They just want to belong. It takes strong will to avoid societal pressures, especially for teens. It's the same pressures that push guys in Nigeria join university gangs like Eye, , Vikings, BB, Mafia etc.

"Ms Disney", stereotyping is exactly what you're doing attributing the character of your "one-time-fling" Igbo boyfriend to every Igbo guy. It's quite unfortunate you couldn't come up with a better idea of why nija guys in the US try to be gangsters, but you ended up sounding like a jealous scorned woman. If you have beef with this guy or Igbo guys in general, just avoid them. But I don't think you can do that. Can you?

This advice is to my detriment as a guy, so I expect it to be for your use only. The test is that the longer you can hold off sex, the more likely for you to know a guy's true motive. But be mindful of the exceptions to the general rule. Some guys can also come to the table with a long-term plan just to nail you.

Hot-angel. Kudos for keeping it real. The Popcorn and movie will be a good idea but you may have to walk the mall alone for now.

You're not high on his priority list. Sorry, but that is the truth. You can still make it work, but not if you're the type that requires attention.

You may not be in the right frame of mind to make a rational decision for 2 reasons. You claim to be in love with her and you think you owe she and her family for helping you. You can forgive and try to forget but more often than not, lack of trust will cloud your mind and destroy any relationship you try to build. Make sure you are a man of steel before you choose to forgive and forget or you will only compound the problem and postpone the doomsday. You can count your loses and move on. Easier said than done for a guy in your position but that is a better option if I was in your shoes. Life is too precious to mortgage your married life to this mental torture.

A lot of guys lie to gain leverage in life. Nobody likes been looked down upon. In Nigeria, you will surely be disrespected 99% of the time if you don't appear successful (even if you're not). Most people cannot afford to be real and let the chips fall where they may. They would rather project a false image and enjoy the trappings that come with it while it lasts. Wrong as it may seem, this is the only option for a lot of guys in Nigeria where acceptance is more Victoria Island than Maroko.