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DaddyOpe:
I got married to my wife 5 years ago. Before we got married, she dated a guy. We all stayed in the same area. I live here because it is close to my place of work. Her ex lives in the area. He does building contractor. While they were dating, I met my wife. I was able to convince her to date me. And since the guy was always travelling, I was able to get close to her. I think I won her finally after we had sex. Because that first day, I scattered her brain. She later left the guy. I proposed, she accepted and we got married.

I will say, at that time I got married to my wife, her ex and I were on the same level financially. But, recently, the guy has turned to something else. He does building for people overseas. People said the guy's work is good and he is always getting contracts. My wife said he had a 2.1 in Civil Engineering. He started selling cement. He is now a dangote cement distributor. He built a duplex at the junction of my street. He has 3 cars in the compound (he recently bought 1 car during this lockdown that people are saying no money oo). I and my wife do not have any car. I am still a tenant. We have to pass front of his house every day.

During this lockdown, my office has being delaying salaries. It has not being easy. I have had quarrels with my wife in the past but yesterday was the worst. During the quarrel, she said she regrets marrying me. That if she had ignored me and married her ex, she would have being living comfortably. I almost beat her up. Then she told me that this her ex paid her school fees in 300 and 400 level when she almost pulled out of school for lack of finance. She regrets paying him back by leaving him to marry me.

Since then, I have not being myself. I just created this account to express myself.

I feel sorry for her
Good sex but the poor girl is now trekking and starving.
On a more serious note she said it out of frustration please dont count it against her.
E go better

Leave her alone jor

Answer his legitimate question.Where is Osibanjo?

RIP

mrblessed:
You have finally shown your hands after failing to separate him from his family and create a wedge, now it is your imaginary savings that is your next weapon. When are you really going to get tired and peace a chance? See where your futile battle of nine years has taken you to. If you are a women who means well for your husband and his family, there is no way he would have ignored you all these years. I don't want to believe that your husband is a fool, who doesn't know what he is doing, why overwhelm yourself with anger. I surmise you are the type of woman that goes into marriage with screw driver, to loose/separate anyone whom you think is too close, or benefits from your husband. As it turns out now, there are some nuts that are very difficult to loose.

shut up! Did u read the same story as other people or responding to an imaginary story in your head

Most likely drug overdose

What are they not telling us?

There was a country

If the FB page is down that's wonderful.Kudos to the folks that made it happen.At least Zuckerberg is not an Igbo man so his team won't be accused of tribalism.They judged her words fairly on its merits.
When she reopens she would have learned a good lesson.
She should go to Lindaikeji and learn how to conduct herself publicly in a multicultural environment

Anni3e:
Hi, I have been married for 9 years now, the problem I have with my husband is that his family members keeps sucking him dry and the way he neglects us his immediate family.
He is the first child of 7 children, his siblings even the married ladies keeps asking him for money, he keeps spending money on them and their husbands. His brothers keeps crying they are broke, they keep leeching off him, his two junior brothers that always asks him for money, one of them built a house in Port Harcourt and the other one built a big house in the village. Still they won't let him rest, his married sisters are the worst if they cough they would call him to send money, every minor thing they would expect money. Just this evening his sister called him to ask for money. We don't have a house of our own, I keep telling my husband to stop giving in to all their demands and invest the money on something, he would say I am turning him against his family. We have 2 kids and I have told him we need to start saving for their future, I pay the electricity bill, foodstuffs, and most times the children school fees, he pays the house rent and rarely keeps money for home upkeep, he sometimes drop two thousand and that's it for the whole week. He always complains he has no more, but once his family calls him he sends money immediately. I have saved enough to buy a land and I am not planning to include his name in the property. I don't know what to deal with, his family entitlement mentality or the way he neglects the kids and I and treat us like outsiders.
I am really pissed off and tired.
Sorry for the long post.

His brothers have built homes, he has none of his own and he is still giving to them?
Terrible
I guess he feels obligated as the first child to take care of his younger ones but he is hurting his own immediate family
My dear your best bet is to find an older couple he respects dearly amd tell them what's going on.Present it in a way to express your concern but not to demonize him or his siblings.Hopefully the man will be able to sit him down and talk sense into him.
Kudos for saving money for a piece of land.Challenge him that you are willing to buy the land for the family but on the condition that he must build on it within X years because you are sick of living in a rental house.
Maybe he needs to give you a certain amount per month towards that since you are the better money manager.If he agrees to this then it should work.
Dont lose hope
Goodluck

Looting time

How do they know there is no Coro in the water
I will dodge it

Which buhari?
Shatap!!
These folks should come out and tell the nation the truth and stop all the hide and seek
Adeshina will soon come out to deny this.
Confused bunch

How much did they pay vanguard?

Please what is she popular for?
Running a Facebook group?Kai Nigeria is a strange place.I feel sorry for Igbos that occupy themselves in such places

slyfoxxjoe:
Haha. I guess Bubu didn’t pass the rehearsal.
Confused government.

Exactly. The current actor didnt quite get it right

jansonn:
Its amazing how other presidents address their nation as often as possible and ours is an occasional thing as if he's a visitor in his own country!! Naija tire me shaa

You dont have a president.There is an actor there wearing a highly flexible mask that's why you dont see him live like other presidents of the world.
They show you photoshopped pictures of him holding a meeting.Its all lies

You folks should shut up .your games will soon be over.
Looks like the actor with a mask was not well prepared for his 2 weekly recorded message
Maybe he has escaped from custody

Is OP still alive abi the girl don dagger am

funkmrflexx:
We Have Been Dating For 1 Year and 6 months now. I’ve met her parents, we wanted to get married last year but her dad told me to wait till she finishes school which is supposed to be next year. I’m 25 years old and she’s 22 .

I live alone in the city while my mom lives in the village. My younger sister who I’m sponsoring through school sometimes comes to my place during holidays and weekends. My girlfriend practically lives with me because she comes from a type of an Abusive family. So she lives with me and I even assist her with school fees and house rents sometimes. I’ve spent even more than her father for her school.

Everyone In my family knows her and she’s a very wonderful girl. Typical wife material. She supports me every time even when I’m broke. I’m not the type of guy that dates a lot of girls . I don’t even cheat on her. Since I met her I’ve done away with a lot of ladies. I’m 100% committed to the relationship

But the problem is that she Has very bad anger issues. I mean she can destroy your property when she’s angry and I’m the quiet type. I don’t like hitting a lady execpt once in a while a general brain resetting slap. When she starts she doesn’t listen to anyone. Not me, not even her parents. So anytime she’s angry like this I will just find a way to make her laugh. Both of you can just be eating and she will get angry if you ate the fleshy part of the meat and left oily part for her (we have quarreled because of that I mean serious quarrel) . Sometimes I get tired of the whole situation. At the end even when she’s wrong I’ll let her for peace to reign. So I try to manage the anger at home so it shouldn’t go out

So we went to visit my mom in the yesterday. Because of curfew we slept over. So my mom bought us mangos this morning and told us to carry.

My girlfriend then said she doesn’t like mango that if I want to eat my mango I should carry it myself. Then my mom (she is the type that always shouts at every body. The real wahala woman) told her that if she can’t carry the mango then she should just put it on my head for me to carry na (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na).

That was the only thing my mom said. Then she sparked. Started shouting at my mom. That she should stop talking to her like that, that she doesn’t like it. In fact she’s going home. So she carried her bag and started going home. Every one in the compound started saying it’s ok (Na dat thing why dem tell u Dey make u Dey vex so) she was still shouting. I was even try to calm her down but no way. She was still shouting. Even my sister who had never seen her angry before became angry (na so you b? She said). I was really disappointed In her

The issue is what even made me angry is how she reacted. If she didn’t like what my mom said made her angry. At least she should have waited till we got home (this was the first time we were both sleeping over) then she would tell me. Or she could have called my sister and told her what my mom said. After all the fracas, she went inside the room till we left. I just told everybody to just leave her.

So when we got home I told her what she did was wrong that she shouldn’t have reacted like that. Na there war start. She started yelling and shouting at me that if my mom talks to everyone like that she won’t take it (my plan was to tell her that she should apologize to her. Because my mom already apologized that she won’t talk to her again like that. Which I know she will o . So we can just forget about the issue. But she never accepts she’s wrong ) She said I took her to my village to intimidate her in front of my family people, I was really angry and called her uncle and told him what happened. He said there was nothing wrong with what my mom told her (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) and that he would talk to her .

I even scolded my mom before I left that I didn’t like what she said what she did that’s she was just causing issue. My girlfriend said when my mom said the word (If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na) that I should have immediately rebuked my mom. But me sef no see anything wrong with what my mom said( If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

I just Dey follow her uncle advise and leave her be until she calms down and I talk to her

So my people what’s offensive in this word? If you no fit carry the mango u for kuku put am for e head make e carry am na)

But this her attitude don tire me. Break up is not on the card for me at least not yet. She always thinks that they are other guys out there because she has a lot of toasters but I know they can’t do quarter of what I’m doing for her. In this modern time it’s difficult to see a guy who will allow his girlfriend stay with him thereby losing his freedom to do certain things. A guy who doesn’t cheat, a guy who takes care of her does everything for her .

I just think the things she went through in her family is affecting her physiological. And sometimes when I think about leaving her I feel pity because she can’t go back to her parents house.

Wonderful wife material kwa?

At first I was disgusted by her unreasonable behavior but reading further you nailed it and I felt some empathy.
You said she comes from an abusive home.That is the issue.She doesn't know love because she didn't receive any. She is putting up a defence and protection even when it's not necessary.
She was rude to your mom no doubt and the fact that your mom apologized and she was still carrying on is very scary.
You may love her all you want but to be truthful,this girl will drive you to an early grave.
She is still a girlfriend and you have all this drama.What's going to happen after marriage?
This girl will wound you o
I am scared for you
Please sit and talk with her but If she doesnt accept that she was wrong and that she has major anger issues that she needs to deal it please let her walk.
I will hate to read your story online.
That woman is a ticking time bomb.

It's up to Aisha to decide if femi remains or gets the boot.she is the sherrif in town

He is now the chief toilet paper.
Men without integrity

My heart goes out to every single mother out there.
Poor woman raising 3 boys all by herself.
Thank God she is still wearing her clothes the right way.
OP please humble yourself and tell mama that you appreciate her struggles to take care of you all then let her know in a calm voice that you didnt take the money but that you are willing to give her 3k of your own money just to help her out for the money she lost.
Those words will melt her heart and she will never forget that.

samicine

LyfeJennings:
Dear OP
Ur story touch me small but U na strong man. Don't let her leave yet
Humiliate her one time
Ask her 4 a 3some
Tell her it's Ur Fantasy
Get a guy who would ffvvcckk her while U watch also
Very humiliating
Then when U done
Show her the receipts when she about to leave and quit

You're obviously sick