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I don't think that the people who throw the word around and label themselves feminists even know what it means. People just like to join the bandwagon.

N0favors:
now this is funny

Actually, I don't moan cuz I've never had to. I'm a young V boy

Kudos to you. In these times when many guys are controlled and ruled by sex

N0favors:
I don't moan and don't act funny

So you just bottle it up and try to act cool.

You better free yourself and let the emotions out and stop trying to form commando.

When you say mistake, do you mean you slipped and fell inside her?

This obsession with women is intense. Guys coming up with well thought out and planned articles about how we work.

I feel really honoured and proud right now.

Except you ask the creator for a revelation, everything you write is just the usual assumptions filled with big words to make it seem valid and intelligent.

But as long as we thrill you, you can keep trying to decipher us.

N.B

I wonder why i don't see countless threads by women trying to dissect the psychological anatomy of men. We got you guys figured out while you keep trying to figure us out

Very pretty. How old?

She is not into you or her shakara is plenty.

Please lose her already, forget her and move on.

The funny part is that if after some time...months, years...she sees on your status that you are getting married, she will start trying to warm up to you and win you back.

You don't need that kind of babe. Let her keep loving herself alone

Childofdoom is that you?

It benefits both.

I have seem men who fell apart when they lost their wives.

Stop assuming that marriage is for women.

All some men do is to drop money. Once their wives are not around, they don't even know where to start from.

adontcare:
the earlier d op act on this issue, the better. The husband may feel bad but that is just d way it is. Some of husband people will just assume that once their kin marry, his wife is dis enemy.

Very true at the bolded. They start trying to poison the guy's mind against his wife. That's why it is not advisable for inlaws to live with a couple. One person must poke-nose, feel insulted, try to form alliance, etc.

Did you guys have marriage counselling in church before the wedding?

I am sure he heard when they said couples should avoid interference especially in the first few years.

Some even advice that children shouldn't come immediately so that you can bond as husband and wife.

Since your husband isn't listening, you could speak to your counsellor or a family member that he respects to call them to order.

And meanwhile, that house is yours and not your inlaw's. Please let him know his place. When your hubby comes back and he follows him to the room, please interrupt them EVERYTIME. Ask him how his day was and make small talk. Ask the brother to excuse you guys.

When he says something about the food, ignore him. Some silence speak volumes. He will get it. If he tries to override your suggestions or make one, tell him that you appreciate his input but it is not his choice.

Get closer to your husband. Always follow him into the room when he gets back and talk with him. You are the wife and not his brother. If you don't put your brother inlaw in his place and take your place, you will find yourself in the background soon.

EzendiEgo1:
so this the way you guys are turning it around abi

Someone like you probably sucked your mother's breast till you were 4 yrs old.

mimimile93:
Ufan remember I said that I am not in support of her husband's behaviour.
I was just asking that question because not only her, I've seen and heard a lot of women yelling whenever it comes to taking responsibilities but would fight for equality when it comes to benefits.

Let her endure, change is constant and I believe the man would change. She can't start adding fuel to the fire.
Let her remember the motto and keep her head up.
Motto: No pain No gain.

Ima mpo aba'diah? Adu ke mong?

Taking responsibility doesn't mean the man should leave everything to her and cross his legs.

Endure what? Marriage is not a bondage where people go to endure. It is supposed to be two people trying to make life easier and bearable for each other.

Mkpo mmo odo. Ndu ke ufok mmi

freshvine:
it's unwise to attack my post base on sentiment and uncontrolled emotion.
whatever money her hubby borrowed was for the good of the family, she decided to support him by increasing her stake in bills...(not doing hubby a favour but making sure her young family does'nt run aground). this is the point i allude if she thinks she need recompense then she's selfish.

men has been taking financial responsibilities of home without grudge so why is it difficult for a woman to step up without demanding for some sort of accolade?

If he has enough to send to family and friends, that means he has enough to take responsibility in the house and take charge.

One of the worst things is to marry a man that has a low sense of responsibility and is selfish.

These days we have too many men who want their wives to pay the bills while they sit on their oars and demand respect

mimimile93:
Why is it that when it comes to benefits, y'all women want equal right but when it comes to responsibilities y'all tryna dodge?

I am not supporting the husband oo just asking.

Ufan - ima Ame'sere o

What are you talking about? A man has blatantly refused to spend his money in the house and is ok with the woman shouldering all the responsibilities but is ok spending on friends and other family. And you are talking of equal rights and benefits.

Is it this equal or beneficial?

Mesiere nde

Lonestar124:
Good.....mention three cast in "another bondage"

Gerrarahia...i don't know another bondage

mimimile93:
Your moniker has defined who you are.
You have decided to be wise abi?
Keep wising your co wife is on her way..

Co wife indeed. When he cannot even take care of only one. You think it is that easy..

Won't it even be better to have a co wife that will share the responsibility?

Lonestar124:
Which of these movie listed below was
scream along with Donald Trump?

A- fantastic four
B-the transporter
C-Baby day out
D-home alone
E- fast and furious
F-delta forces

Home alone?

What do you mean by scream?

freshvine:
take a look in the mirror, say to yourself loudly...(i am a married woman with responsibility). continue saying it until it sink deep into your consciousness.

after this exercise, you'll come to terms that you've responsibities toward your family irrespective of your husband's insensitivity. that way, selfishness will evaporate from your moral fibre.

If the OP was a guy, would you give this kind of advice. Try to be reasonable and impartial. She should take responsibility but he shouldn't.

badwife:
God bless you for understanding. I don't want a divorce but I'm just not happy.
I've been assisting all this while because I believed if things were better he will take back his responsibility but I guess he had other plans.

It is just not fair, I've given my all but to this home.
I can do without the 15k but I just feel this is how I'm going to do it all forever.

Whatever you plan to do, you have to do now. If there are no kids at the moment, how does he plan to provide for them and take responsibility when they come if he cannot take care of you.

He is just being selfish. And please stop tolerating the malice keeping behaviour...it is a childish and annoying behaviour.

IamPlato:
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Who Said This?


"Do You Bleed?"

Lol...why?

It is just unfortunate that you have been taken for granted. I can imagine how you feel. Obviously your husband has relaxed on taking responsibility because you have shown that you are capable enough and you have family support.

While you worry about paying the bills, he is giving friends and family money and probably saving. You need to wise up. You need to save and also develop yourself.

Talk to him first about taking responsibilty and if he still refuses to contribute, you should let him worry about paying the bills. Stop shouldering all the responsibilities henceforth. Take care of yourself. Buy new clothes, make your hair, go to the spa.

You cannot be selfless and your husband will be acting selfish

6. Movies

We don't know your girlfriend. You know her and should know what will get to her. You can also ask her sisters/friends.

We are just mere strangers and we don't know her preferences.

lefulefu:
im don deactivate

Serious 419