₦airaland Forum

Stallionhorse:
I don't get.. Where they tied up in the fire?? 18 year old?? Was helpless??

Do you want to trapped in a fire so that you can get it?

jimmychang:
True but that part where she was given the meat to eat how will you react if you find out .if you were in her shoes?

I would be disgusted and will keep him at arm's length.

Mindlog:
You are busy running around circles just to avoid being assertive with your stepbrother. How is telling your stepbrother to respect boundaries when it comes to your marriage be so difficult for you?

Rather you are applying displacement as you redirect the discomfort to your wife, while you use your mother to rationalize your non-assertiveness. You even kept quiet while he severally disrespected your wife in your presence because he knows you have no liver to put him in his place.

He would rather do everything than confront his brother. Living in peace with his brother shouldn't give the brother the chance to disrespect his wife.

NuCypher:
What happened to her own hands and legs that she can't defend or protect herself? Is she a cripple?
Half-baked opinion that should stew in the gutter of nonsense.

In Nigerian setting where any little thing a wife does to her inlaws is seen as insultive.

One of a husband's job is to protect his wife from his family.

Let your brain and fingers be connected before typing next time. And learn to disagree without being an i.diot about it

You can be happy for the short time you are alive before the HBP finally kills you.

Being useless or foolish is not a gender thing. There are male children that have caused their parents so much pain that they curse the day they were born.

The issue here is that you are using your own family to qualify all. Could it not be that your mother's style in bringing up your sisters could be responsible for their behaviour?

I noticed some things from your writeup;

There is no trust. You are suspicious of many things like your wife has given you reason to be suspicious of her.

You don't defend/protect your wife. How can you allow your brother talk to your wife the way he does in front of you and you don't caution him? Did you marry her to cook for him or serve him?

Your wife doesn't feel free with you. She should be able to talk to you about all this and not wait for you to probe her.

Don't be quick to conclude that they are cheating. Resist the urge to believe the Nairalanders that think everything starts and ends with a woman cheating. You know your wife. The guys here don't. They will just put things in your head.

The day I will start seeing noodles as food will most likely never come. No matter what they put inside, it's just noodles

This guy that they finished on LinkedIn...lol.

CountVersailles:
I saw it quite alright. But I’m tired of that argument already. Regardless what I say or think, those who want to stay ignorant will continue to. God airpus. The ingenuity…sigh

You can't win an argument against the One who created ALL things.

bonnyhope:
IVF crew over to you

CountVersailles did not see this one. He would have hopped on it

Gift voucher. You can buy a voucher from The Game or one of those top supermarkets and give the person to go shop there.

Channah1:
Give me money for stock fish now.
Your mouth like stock fish.

By the way, not every recipe must have stock fish. I like the outcome of this soup. No much drama. No unecessary clashing of taste.

So channah is Mercychen?

Talentempire:
So
I stay in a compound that has about 8 flats not face me I face you

I and this my neighbor are the oldest tenants there.

Since all the tenants that use to be in the compound moved out

I became kinda close to this my neighbor

am married she is also married
I became close to her because it is not good for one to leave in a compound and have no relationship with at least one tenants there

And also I don't want to build any relationship with any new tenant again cos I don't want any drama I have seen enough from privious tenants.

So since she is the oldest after myself I decided to just maintain the friendship.

But the problem now is

This Woman can make everyone around her enemy without them offending her.

as she use to say " I can keep malice with all the tenants in this compound with extra"

So
There is this new couple that just moved into the compound and for no reason she just hate this people
They can not come outside in peace , they can not seat in the front of their flat peaceful her children will be going round and round ears dropping on this couple conversation just to go back n tell their mother what they heard

An most times the information the the kids gives their mom are mostly lies

The next Thing she will come and tell me with so much anger and bitterness

The annoying part is anytime we are together the only thing she talks about is this couple how much she dislike them and all of that

Which I have asked her severally what they did to her that she hate them this much
But no solid reason .


As for me I have no business with any new tenant in the compound the only thing connecting us is greetings and maybe NEPA bill

But the way this my neighbor friend is treating all the new tenants in the compound is very disturbing

She has stopped all of them from fatching water from the well because the well is close to her window , she has also stopped all of them from drying her their clothes near the well.

After doing all this she wants me to support her and clap for her
if I tell her she is wrong she gets very angry.

Because of her troublesome nature the landlord ones evicted a tenant because of her
But that was when she newly moved in
But later the landlord got to understand that she doesn't like peace..

Even when we take our kids for outing this woman must make trouble with with people there
Same when we go to the market

People will sometimes ask how I cope with a person like that
But I cope anyways

But like this now am tired

Most times I feel so embarrassed
When she act stupid in public .

My issue with her is she always wants me to support her to matter her wrong,
To always tell her that her actions towards other people is right
Which I can't

Just last week she went to fight her kids school teachers plus the owner of the school base on what her kids told her

And just Just yesterday again she came to report this new couple to me base on what her kids told her

And I told her to stop fighting people who are not fighting her and she should tell her kid's to stop telling her things about other people

This morning I greeted her she gave me a cold reply

Please if you have any experience with this kind of people what's the best solution to handle them?

And you must remain her friend because you are both the oldest in the compound. Your reason for the friendship is faulty. You too have something against the new tenants because you want to have nothing to do with them, even if they haven't shown any sign of trouble.

But you choose to be friends with a toxic busy body. Enjoy your compulsory friendship and everything it comes with and leave us alone since you cannot act like a rational adult.

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He was constantly disturbing my timeline with achievements of the present government. Obviously being paid for the propaganda. He would never see anything bad about the government or see how people are struggling. I couldn't be friends with someone like that.

Another one sent me an inappropriate picture and I blocked him immediately and deleted his contact. I don't like nonsense.

God1000:
Lol, not these ones dear

Ok ooo

Starzo:
The useful ones are not forming fake bitter feminists on nairaland and social media.

Oh! I thought it was general. No good Nigerian women. Now guys can actually hail a Nigerian woman. Interesting.

God1000:
Nigerian athletes have done excellently well this time and we are proud of them, our ladies in particular

Nigerian women are useless

nifemi25:
According to your story, you haven't caught her red handed.... you are only acting base on what you heard from your wife's friend.... I will only advice you calm yourself so as to catch her . Once you caught her , am sure you knows what to do if you don't want to die before your time..

Exchanging those contents with those guys is already cheating. I remember when a male friend sent me an inappropriate picture. I warned him and then blocked him because I was so disappointed in him.

Those things are seeds. It starts with pictures, videos, leads to sexual chats and then graduates to full blown adultery.

Mkelv0106:
Nobody is been dishonest.
You people are the one looking for dishonesty, where there is non

The prayer should go like this:

"God I thank you for the children you didn't bless me with. It was IVF I did, in case you didn't know..."

As if God was unaware and was not a part of the process from the beginning. People.are funny here o.

So the girl was doing well in your business and instead of promoting her or increasing her salary or some job related reward, you decided to reward her by dating her.

Why the hell will.you complicate your life that way? Didn't you learn not to mix business and pleasure?

At this point, you can't settle down with an AS person. You have to finale a way to unhook yourself from your present girlfriend. So are you going to "un-adopt" the son?

Acidosis:
Absolutely.

For many new parents, the journey did not start and end with IVF so I don't understand the logic of the counter arguments. So many have visited over 20 hospitals, many consultants, herbal clinics, etc. Many have had miscarriages, surgeries, many have taken long-term medications to improve their fertility. Along the line, some have had failed ivfs, iuis, etc. So if eventually, one IVF becomes successful, I don't understand the need to give glory to IVF.

It's a journey and giving glory to just one attempt won't exactly capture the truth . Nobody has all the answers. The drugs taken, the instructions adhered to in the past, the food taken, have all contributed. IVF needs a lot more to work. It takes drugs (the most important), it takes faith, commitment from the couple, adherence to instructions, it takes serious emotional and financial investments, it takes the woman's body! That someone decides to thank God for a 20 year journey is the last thing any sane mind should worry about.

I totally agree.

Instead of them to rejoice with the couple for their babies, they choose to make the process their problem.

Acidosis:
You and those few others already know a thousand and one ways to solve fertility problems, so what else do you want to know? Why are you so interested in how new parents share their joy?

You lots seem to show more interest than the actual scientists who carried out the procedure. Why? LOL make una no dey "camouflage" una feelings. We are not babies. Talk to or against God directly if you have a problem with Him. Una just like to dey drag unnecessary issues.

They are disguising . They want to learn about fertility methods from the testimony.

A couple in my church shared their journey during last month's Thanksgiving. It was a 10min long video testimony. They had triplets after 9yes of marriage.

They shared details including that they did IVF after it failed once. That's because they were sharing their whole journey. It's a choice to go into details or not. It doesn't mean that they would hide the information if someone walked up to them for advice.

I don't know what the fuss is on this forum.

Mkelv0106:
All she did was testify about her delivery, she doesn't have to be specific about how she conceived the baby, IVF or whatever means. Mary the mother of Jesus conceived by divine intervention, neither she nor her Husband went about telling people how it happened.
My point is, there was no specificity required from her, on how she'll give her Thanksgiving, people buy babies, use surrogate and still dance to the altar, but hers came from her egg and probably her husband sperm, or her partner as d the case may be, the psychological and physical strength to go through the process and still come out of successful, irrespective of whether it's science or divine, is enough to give thanks. It's s not as if she was asked by the pastor, how she conceived and she blatantly lied, that wasn't the case, so I don't expect anybody that give birth by IVF to just come out and start telling everybody that their conception is via IVF . I still don't see the deceit.

Explaining this to people on this forum will be a very tall task, and those that won't get it, won't get it.

Somehow they always want to remove the God factor from IVF. They expect people to state it in their testimonies like it is not another process of conceiving.

That's why I asked in my earlier comment if they should also be stating if it was a particular sexual position they did or their frequency of sex. Because I know a couple who were placed on some medication by a doctor and told how and the frequency of sex. Should they also state it at the alter.

Is it the doctors that make the babies stay in the womb till term and come out healthy? Also, the fact that some others have failed shows that it is not absolute.

But most times, it is people that have a problem with the Christian faith or those with questionable Christian values that usually try to remove God from IVF babies.

Acidosis:
There is no all-encompassing solution to childlessness and the fact that IVF worked for someone doesn't mean that it will work for everyone else. Those who need solid information on fertility can visit a fertility clinic, reach out to couples who have walked that path, or read up stuff online (all free).

Nobody is responsible for another man's ignorance in this age, bro. Some people paid millions of Naira to get same information.

Words on marble @ the bolded.

Let them sit and wait for someone giving a testimony to educate them on ways to conceive and have children.

truthsayer009:
Yeah, I think this problem stems from the fact that most atheists were formerly christians, so their anger is most times geared towards the christian God or Faith. Most atheist I have spoken to actually had christian parents or grandparents. I have never seen an atheist getting angry over a post by a Muslim, an Hindu, a traditionalist or any other religion for thanking God. It is always christians getting the short hand of the stick.

They are just aggrieved former Christians who always look for ways to discredit the Christian faith.

CountVersailles:
Stop dozing off, madam. In an accident where all people died except one person, the driver may have been reckless or the car in bad shape. There are logical explanations for that.

With the right doctors and right equipment, the chances of IVF success is very high, even if it means using surrogate. It's not a miracle. It's pure and plain science. It is compulsory to state that it is IVF, else it's just misrepresentation or disingenuity, as the timely post on the front page shows. Below is the quote from the relation who wants us to believe it's suddenly a miracle that a 60-year-old woman has delivered triplets. According to him, "God visited her..." Haba! Let's be honest in our dealings. How is that not even criminal to say? Or how is that not gross misinformation.

Honestly I no get your time again. You can say and believe whatever you want. People like you are notoriously difficult to have a rational argument with. I'm out!

It's obvious that you are an atheist. So there's no need continuing this conversation.

Acidosis:
Just imagine the brainless remarks. So people who do IVF shouldn't do Thanksgiving while those that f*k*d each other to produce a baby can throw a party?

Why is the latter more deserving of the party than the former? Does it mean that God was involved in the knacking process and then he suddenly disappears from the scientific process?

Omo.. see una OP, the same person that wants to "learn"

These are the kind of people that make women who go through CS feel less like the other mums who pushed. Some people with their crude mentality is painful to see.

truthsayer009:
This is funny lmao.

Imagine getting valuable info from the pulpit on sex positions that brings children faster, that would be awesome

Lol

Some lowkey atheists trying to glorify IVF like it is not another medical procedure.

CountVersailles:
I can see already very clearly that you don't know enough about science. If you did, you'll know it's not a miracle. In fact, if you could call it a miracle, then it's a miracle of science, not a miracle of God. Let's be honest with ourselves and give credit where it is due. No magic happened to cause the birth. No prophet laid hands on any body to produce the babies. And yes, they should announce it so that others who are trying for a baby and know the best way to go about it. Ain't nothing wrong with that.

So a miracle is only when a prophet lays hands? In an accident where all people died except one person, was a prophet there to lay hands?

If everything in science is absolute, why do some of the IVF processes fail? Doesn't it still have to work with the reproductive system? Even doctors will tell you that there's still a part that cannot be explained. They do their job and allow your body respond. They cannot influence that my dear.

There are women that have tried IVF and it didn't work. Explain this, since science is absolute.

Once again, it's not compulsory that they state that it is IVF. Anyone looking for the same MIRACLE should see the couple for more details.

Give credit to who it is due...GOD...except you are an atheist, then I can understand the need for you to doggedly and vehemently prove that God was not involved

CountVersailles:
Nobody is saying IVF is a sin. That's not the point. The point is that if it is through IVF, let the world know. Others can benefit from that information. It is not here that people make it seem like IVF is hush hush. It is actually those church couples who do it hush hush and tell nobody. Next thing you see them in church and they start saying it's a miracle. It's not a miracle. It's pure and simple science.

So if it is a particular sexual position or drug, they should also announce it on the alter so that others can benefit.

People can meet the couples after for tips and advice. It is not hidden. Besides, there are doctors and fertility clinics there to give out information on people needing children. That is their job.

And yes, it is a miracle. Because some have tried it and failed. Recently, a fam friend tried IVF on his wife and on a surrogate. The wife's own failed and the surrogate's own stayed and she gave birth.

So, when they are giving their testimony, will they say all that story? But if someone walks up to them, they will give the information. It's a testimony, not an awareness campaign. If people don't know that they can use surrogates or IVF, it's on them.