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engrelvis:
u r missing d point.dis is nt issue of nt doing wrong.is d issue of respectin yr husband.when most girls r dating dey r always afraid of insulting their boyfriends .dey r afraid it will send d wrong signals n d boy will vanish.genuine respect beget respect.am nt supporting beating of women but alot of alot of problems in marriages cud v b avoided if women learn to tame their tongue

I agree with you. Women should respect their husbands and submit. But even the most respectful and submissive wife will offend.
My point is that there is no justifiable reason for a man to beat his wife. Even my parents stopped beating me since i became an adult and it is not as if i never did something wrong

engrelvis:
d emotions dat emanate from u when being insulted by yr woman is different from a friend insulting u.is deeper n personal.in d first place r u suppose to insult yr husband?.can u go outside n insult yr pastor or a soldier? U can't try because u know u don't want society to luk at u as irresponsible.for d soldier case u r afraid.women insult because dey don't v respect for their husbands.dey feel he shud understand because she is woman.no.is a sign of irresponsibility n indiscipline -pure n simple . there r still women who very respectful.so y can't u emulate gud things

She is your wife, your other half. As long as you cannot beat yourself when you do wrong, you should never beat her when she is wrong. Or are you saying you are never wrong?

sisisioge:
As in her visitors wanna come holiday with you? As in sleep over? Hian! I have never heard this before

Maybe her family thinks they have married their daughter and therefore, they are now inlaws

Ugosample:
My family actually does not mind.

We have done three weddings so far WITHOUT the trad.

It's just this last one that they insisted because the in laws are from ANAMBRA
Those people sef

Even if they didn't do a ceremony, the requirements for the trad rights will still be done. Ask well.

richyblink1:
God bless you my sister. I was wondering if people that secure the services of a help do secure that of the mother as well.

Believe me...this is the first time i will hear of it

shugasofttouch:
they do a lot ours came 2 weeks after d girl resumed. Both the mother n d brother that is married came visiting n stayed 2 weeks. for the period d girl was with us, dey visited every month end

I can't allow it. It is except she is a relative. I can't deal with inlaws and also deal with my help's family coming to stay over.

The fact that their daughter works for me does not automatically give them access to my house. There are boundaries that they cannot cross. I can't allow such but it is fine if it ok with you.

engrelvis:
my dear girl if every woman learn to control their tongue there will less problem in marriages.some words dat comes out of woman mouth can make some men do drastic things ordinarily dey cannot do.

If their friend uses the same words, will they beat the friend? It is a mentality thing...thinking the woman is beneath them and so she dare not.

A lady in the office will use worse words and they will control their temper. But at home, they must discipline the wife. Doesn't the man use bad words too? Who beats him?

A lot of women cover up being the bread winner the same way they cover up if their husband is the one responsible for their being childless...to protect the man's ego.

Rapsino:
Very ignorant answer. You must be a frustrated woman. Nwannyi.
Go get ur PVC

Fortunately you are the one that sounds frustrated.

You need to calm down

Or he is trying to get an easy lay with the guise of never been kissed or even being a virgin
How can this claim be verified? Any hymen?

It is not only women that get worried about marrying late for biological reasons.

Men are also under pressure to marry so that they won't be aged when they start having kids and not be able to do basic things with them.

Eligible men and women are both gold to each other.

When a single man asks you why you are still single, return the question to him and tell him to go get married.

TheUpsetGirl:
useless thread as usual from a frustrated lady that's always creating stupid threads

Easy Tiger

It is not about the guys being broke. It is being stingy and having a poverty or poor mentality.

You don't have to have much to give.

Please let her go.

I have never heard of a help's mother coming to stay over or receiving visitors like this. They are trying to take advantage.

It looks like you will have issues with her.

marttol:
Is this not the same girl that said she can't date miracle,?that she is scared of loosing her man... Now I know that girls truly don't know what they want.
SMH

So Nina is now "girls"

Pls dress for the profession and leave tie whether or not you are educated.

Unilag No 2? Is it that same senate building across third mainland water or it is another one?

It must be another Unilag

The act of homosexuality is really horrible to wrap the head around. I can understand the ones that act as the women not using their instruments.

But what about the ones that do the penetration? Why opt for an anus instead of a woman's vjay?

It makes me think that men that have sex with women "analy" have gay tendencies.

Sagamaje:
How can a sensible person put his holy dick in a shìty anus. Chai! Awuzubilahi Mina shaitonirahjim. A gay is not an ojulasan something. Owó ayēmust be involved

What about straight men saying going anal is a good way to spice things up in the bedroom?

I just can't imagine it and they contract infections and diseases easily through the anus. That's why gay men are always associated with HIV

ShitHead:
Fvck you sir!!! Because of your greed, and the benefits from your daughter's slavery, you refused to persuade her out of the said marriage. Sir, you are a murderer.

Haba!!! He said the guy didn't have any history of violence and he allowed his daughter return after a month.

The man should have been more careful with his daughter though but what if the daughter wanted to go back to her husband's house. He can't tie her down.

donstan18:
He beat her to coma last year but she continued in such abusive and sign showing marriage because of her quest, hunger and obsession for white men.

We are patiently waiting to know the reason behind this murder.

I just pray we don't hear that he found out that she was cheating and that the little girl wasn't his biological daughter, hence the killing of the two.

Because i'm still wondering what the little girl did.

Donstan how do you know she is obsessed with white men? You have come again!! Are you racist?

Haven't women died from DV in the hands of black men too.

No man has a right to beat his wife at all...for no reason whatsoever. There is no justification. He is simply a wild animal to hit her.

He will explain if my body was made for beating and who made him judge and executor.

alphacyborg:
You get luck sef, you stoned him bread and you expect him to come and lick your yansh ? Watch how the frustrated feminists will storm this thread with their men are scum mantra.

So stoning him with bread justifies the beating?

Shugarlord213:
My brothers forget about naija women they really have nothing to offer believe me

What do you have to offer?

merbenko:
I know how this guy is doing his best to secure a job, with that he engaged himself in some other extra activities that will earn him money. He takes care of her with the little he has, What else did she wants, if I were him I will call off the relationship and keep my self going. This is a girl that is not working too.

The girl needs to get a job. Why is she trying to remove a spec in his eye when she has a log in hers'.

Allow him make the decision himself. Don't tell him what to do so that they won't use you to settle. Just do the shrink's style. Ask him what he feels he should do. He will make the decision that suits him.

Rapsino:
To answer accordingly..
To much of poke.
Too much is define as when you bring out 80% of love to a woman by doing everything she asked which includes going to all rants and shows.
U r a wife.go b a wife now.

Very deep traditional thinking. You must be a village man...nnayi

phenom666:
I know I boy that finish from American university here in Nigeria that can't spell his name or sorry what of our own DAVIDO that did not attend lectures. Wasn't found in school hostel. Didn't take his final exam which he confess himself on twitter few years back. Babcock did not change Davido upon it's a Christian school....

Sorry for my mistake. They paid 800000 + a session what of feeding. Students aren't allow to cook. Y. A whole university. Students spend money eating in their cafeterias. A day u spend like 1400 naira. Eg
1) morning time: bread #200 n tea ( milk and sugar) 100
2)afternoon: rice #400 and meat #100 ( tasteless food)
3)evening: noodle 300 naira and two fried egg #300
What of water u go drink let me say u spend 70 naira on pure water a day as a man u will soon be
1400 × 30 days=42000 naira
70×30=2100
42000+2100=44100 naira a month
With all that Food no go show ur body.
Public university #20000 I buy food stuff plus kilo of meat and 2 fishes used my shove and Cook my food. 10 bags of pure water #150.
150×10=1500 for d month. Everything a spend is 21500.
Guy I have been to a private school so I know everything but d allowed us to Cook sha but pride will not let us u know big boy style.

Those so called students in Dublin ... Guy the reason y OAU students allow covenant students to beat them is becus of money. Who will pay their visa to Dublin, accommodation, feeding their. All those students that when to Dublin who do u thinks pay their bill not oyedepo ----- their parent's or their guideline.

I know many covenant graduated who are jobless and idol in Lagos. U see y I said u are young and naive. U know nothing about life.

I know my worth my anus c ur mouth like I know my worth u shall know it when covenant is done with u.
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Enter prison(covenant) then u will who Oyedepo is. The stuff he is made off. They don't allow phone they will give u a customized iPad used for communication within d school premises.

I really couldn't imagine going to a school where my independence is taken from me...thanks to my parents. Imagine not being able to cook my own meals, exploring the city at will or just being free.

As long as they are adults, they shouldn't be caged as if they can even succeed in taming them.

It is either my children go to a federal uni or study abroad. Let me bring them up with the right morals and attitude and make them understand the consequences for each action. Then allow them make their mistakes and choices.

It is not like CU,Babacock, etc students don't get pregnant, impregnated, commit abortions,etc. They have just learnt to do it the the most discreet possible way.

Still, it is a choice of the parents/students to attend any uni and should accept the consequences.

Rapsino:
Nice pic.. Take ur wife out is cool.. But not too much..

What is too much? Define too much. And who is a wife?

Op some people need a push and your friend might be one of those kinds that lack ambition, passion, motivation and therefore needs to be pushed.

Didn't you say she has been with him for years as he is? He might be content with where he is but she isn't. He needs a woman like that who will push him, not one that will be content with mediocrity like him.

The ultimatum is a good way to snap him out of his comfort zone

Don't worry OP when the time comes for you to wed, tell your parents you do not believe in traditional marriage that you want only court.

Let us know their response when you do.

The one that gets me is when guys ask if they must spend in a relationship. Off course!!! No relationship can survive without money being spent. And is it only the lady that will be doing the spending?

My hubby wasn't rich when we were dating but he must get me a gift every month no matter how small. Mt special gifts for him are always thought through and memorable.

Many guys these days do not have the giving mentality. They feel every girl is a gold digger even if they dont have the gold for her to dig.

If you cannot spend at all, don't bother dating. I am not talking about taking over responsibility as her father or benefactor but the thoughtful things you give that make her know you care.

Ladies should also learn to give...not just boxers and singlet but meaningful stuffs.If you love, you give.

JasonScolari:
Must you have one?

Apparently not