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Bishop1monte:
Oga no worry since you can afford it let it go. She only passed it . She can't ask you for everything like pants and some other things she needs..
Pls no vex
Students do it
I collected 20k for house rent January I didn't rent one . Is stayed with friends and I told my dad I need another house rent cos the government is going to demolish the house he gave me money for cos of right of way

Ahahaha demolish?
Man you're something o

Hope you're saving or planning to buy a car in final year?
A lot of dudes in my class all released cars in their final year.
But car arnt no investment o.

skypeme:
Dear reasonable people on Nairaland, please I need your advise

My wife whom I love so much and also loves me too is entitled to 17.2% of my monthly income, my salary is 175kpm and she take 17.2% of this amount, yet she feels very uncomfortable with it

I pay the bills, buy food stuff every month and take care of our little baby girl

My baby girl does not take any local food, she takes only fresogold, tea and pap, the cost of fresogold is very high and she can consume 4tins in a month

My wife isn't not working yet she is still schooling and I pay all her fees,

I've never complaint of my duty as the head of the family yet she still feels unsatisfied with the 17.2% I give to her

Her primary duty in the house is to take care of our baby and prepare my dinner every week days and both break fast and dinner during the weekend

Recently I told her to take our baby to the hospital for treatment, our total bill was 11,500 naira but my wife suprisinly told me that the hospital bill is 22,700 naira which I immediately wired to her account

So I called the hospital to make inquiries about the exorbitant bill then I got to know that my wife inflated the hospital bill to 22,700 naira

I confronted her and she spoke to me very rudly I was not happy about this, I kept quite and didn't say anything about it again

I am thinking I should penalize her for her rude behaviour and the dishonesty she has melted on me

Will it be advisable not to pay her her monthly salary for two months ?

Will this correct her brain to default and what would possibly be the implication of doing this ?

She has not apologised and she has not seen anything wrong so far in what she has done

What's the purpose of this fake thread of yours?
Are you a child?

You pay your wife yet you sound like someone who doesn't

With the 2000 Euros you got from your Organisations secretary?

I don't see anything wrong with you collecting it though.
You didn't ask for it. She gave it willingly.
You were at the right place at the right time lool..
(Do I delete this comment? I really enjoyed your story lol.. Don't listen to those guys tryna make you feel like a bad person, they're in the same shoe with yo boss)

lifeexperience:
Don't wanna reveal my real identity here because I am well known here. So have to use a fresh account.

After the whole scenario and saga of the Dr. Oji Alllwell who took his life by jumping from 3rd mainland bridge, I had known and come to notice that life isn't all about money and riches. Who would have thought that a young man of his age who is a Medical Doctor, own an SUV and a driver and might be living in a very comfortable house will commit suicide.

The whole internet was full with sympathy to the family, insults to the young man and many felt why will a young man who is a Medical Doctor and living comfortably will commit suicide. But the truth about it is if you haven't suffered depression, false accusation and so many challenges in life you will think life is all about comfort, roses and possession of wealth.

My sad life and experience.

Sometime early last three year, 5th of Feb 2014 to be precise. I was falsely accused of something I do not know anything about to the extent I was blackmailed and filmed on another scenario to make the accusation look solid. The accuser accused me of trying to rape her who was my highly respected leader's wife and this was arranged by her and her friend.

To cut the story short, I have a man I once called my leader who is highly influential both in business and politics and he really loved me and took me as his son. I even had a room in his house. But the wife never liked me because she had once asked me to have sex with her which I blatantly rejected and kept it secret within me. But her mind kept judging her that I might leak out this secret one day which I will never even do because I am the secretive type and nobody might believe me because of her innocent lifestyle. But she quickly played a smart one on me.

From how the whole film started. One morning she called me from my room (in the guest house) to come and help her fix something in her room. I was still with my night wear and went to her room straight with it. As I got there, she told me to remove my shirt that I will be climbing her closet to help her nail something. I did exactly as she instructed not knowing she have her own motives. After climbing the closet there was nothing there to nail and I told her everything is intact. She said she was hearing some noise so she thought maybe their was some loose somewhere. As I came down, she filmed me unknowingly with her phone as I was trying to wear my clothes. That was how everything started.

She connived with her friend and they both lied against me saying I once asked her out too. I denied everything and her husband believed me at some point because he knew right from time the woman never liked me but didn't show full support of me because of the wife. My family and few of my friends were all with me at that point and they knew I can never do that not even with a married woman. She insisted that she will provide video clip for more prove and I was first to say she should do so, not knowing of what she have done earlier and edited some part of the video.

The whole story changed when she provided that video clip. The husband, my girlfriend, my family (father, mother, siblings and infact every of my extended family), friends and the whole world deserted me and I was even cursed by my parents for making them look stupid for earlier supporting me. I was left alone in this whole world, I was sacked because "my leader" has a very high stake where I work and was thrown inside the cell for 3 weeks until the man instructed for my release and never to come close to his fence again.

After I came out, I felt like the ground should swallow me, I was rejected by everybody including my parents (though my mother stood by me as her son but never believed anything I was saying). At this point I felt depressed, I asked myself what's the need of living in this life when everybody is against me on what I never did. Nobody to even listen to me anymore because everybody was hiding their wife and girlfriends away from me (funny world) and describing me as rapist. Do you know what it takes to be wrongly accused of what you don't even know anything about and been backed up with convincing evidence?

From that point I knew this life is of two phases. A once happy man now became the saddest man on earth. At some point I ran into cars on motion but accidents are always averted, bought Rat killer and some poison on three occasions but anytime I wanna take my life, one spirit come and says stand and defend yourself one day you must surely triumph and the world will believe you and another mind will say no need because that time will never come. But I am very happy today that I was able to mend my life through that phase. Though I still pass through depression sometime but I am being able to manage my life and open up my own business to be a boss of my own because of the stigma it brought to me. I am doing very well in my business (small company) today and don't even have any single friend because I fill their is no need for that when I couldn't even get one by my side during the bad times. Same goes to girls because I see them as Lucifer (sorry to use this word) and don't think that mindset will ever make me to marry. To my family they said I should come for forgiveness which I did on what I never committed (Oh Lord). Today I am living a lonely life all alone with no friends, don't mingle with neighbours, hardly communicate with families and some point even I doubt if God exist because he saw me pass through what I knew nothing about and just kept mute up till this day. The only friend I had and still have is the web and internet which I fall to anytime I feel like.

But sometime life isn't what you see on someone physically. If you have suffered depression and have been in some situation people go through in life you will never judge people for somethings they do or what they pass through. Who will be thinking of wealth when you are be confronted with false accusation and passing through depression. If it was pushed further I would have served a jail term for what I don't know. Probably still inside jail by now.

Your prayer should be one day you should never experience depression. Though I don't support suicide and will never support it. If I have my way I will open up a rehab or something where people can go have time when they are depressed or lonely. Set it up like form of vacation ground where you meet with nice people who will be employed to treat you nice and make you feel people still love you despite if the rest of the world hate you. Life isn't all about the roses but about how you can manage the bad time when it hits you.

Sorry for the long writing and grammatical blunders.

O my!!
Even till now, she didn't confess??

"O Father in Heaven, please do not let the woman or her friend go to their grave without confessing. From today, may her peace leave her or her friend. May one of them reveal the truth. Thank You Father for answering me in Jesus name, amen"

mrvitalis:
I have been against this new policy from the beginning... Build ur reserves to 120 billon before I start this thing ...by then our local manufacturing would have taken shape ..we won't die if we don't school abroad ..or eat/use foreign goods

Build reserve to 120??!!
Please have compassion on the suffering, especially more when you are well off

You wanna be staring at a stack of dollars when companies are closing shop left, right and center?

Nice strategy.

They mop up the economy in the name of building reserve; citizens groaned.
They come back to deplete the same reserve to improve the economy; citizens marvel at such profound brilliancy!!

I'm on the side of depleting reserve because as gbegemaster has opined, "
Savings is for people that are alive."

Too many have died.

Enshi does her native name begin with O and end with E, and her bank name D?

PS
I hope you aren't one helluva controlling maniac?

sweatlana:
There should be a law against underage sexual advertising

Lol..

Splinz:
You mean like a pot of afang soup?

Yeahhhh...like a hot pot of Afang soup on a coOol raining day.........

Sincerely?

Sincerely, I don't understand

NatureBoy91:
.. will see guys coming to you. Guys love neat ladies & they are ready to address you with it.
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14. VOICE: there is no doubt that a nice voice can attract great value of emotions. Most ladies do not know that their voice could get guys into doing what they refused doing. We call it the "bedroom voice," it attract guys emotionally just like magic.
15. GODFEARING: Being Godfearing is not going to church everyday. When a lady lives in a way that is morally right, by respecting the laws guiding a religion. Then, guys will assume that such lady could as well obey & respect them irrespective of their status.
Advice: Please ladies, your status as being poor or rich, should not ..
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Aaah.... bedroom voice.
Very delicious.

Lokoyen:
Why won't u av sex with your wife because she is pregnant. Ogbenni e dey sweet gan ni. That aside it helps during delivery too. One of the best moment for me was when i stayed with her from the start of the labor till the end. Wonderful moment every man should experience.

Please what kind of play?
Sexual?

You should elaborate so we can learn.

youngest85:
I hate seeing pregnant women

I hate seeing the unclad pregnant belly.
It irritates me.
Pregnant women should wear clothes or have their bellies covered up. The sight is not for public consumption arall.
Its personal.

I remember who popularised this silly trend that's degenerated.

femi4:
We ve tried to educate them several times but they ll always tell you that masturbation is the only way they can suppress their sexual urge

When please?

I'm not talking about small gist grouosbut something on the works wide web..

Uchefrancis16:
Uwc dear!... You're right about the weak erection. But the thing is, majority don't know until they are deep down the lane of weak erection. The worst part is, u will never know how weak it is until you try making out with a lady and notice your erection won't even be strong enough to accomodate a condom or let alone penetrate a lady.

Girls, females, women have loads of guides and materials.
But boys? Men? Little or nothing.

I think you abd your other very knowledgeable species should open threads and talk about masturbation and its real side effects with loads of real life examples, abf other gists too, even if you have to use new monikers.

I am so sure if guy's understand that they are sacrificing perfect erections for one/two minute of self indulgence, they would master the art of self control.

Babacele:
They are all parables and well coded but only the deep can understand. You think It is the city of Jerusalem? absolute Nope. Revelation is the most coded book in the Bible.

That's so clear..

But I was talking about the Angel.
The same way spiritual beings have been described in the Bible, has Op's dream been illustrated.

Uchefrancis16:
Hello helpforever you are not alone.

Glad I came across this. As a friend of mine was exactly in the same situation as u. And glad he is very fine now and I mean very fine.

Started masturbating at a tender age far less than urs (guess 14 or there about) and then at about 20, started suffering from weak errection and later to no errection at all. Even the morning wood stopped coming.

According to him, his first encounter with a lady (his girlfriend - not a prostitute) was one time sex over a 3 days stay due to this problem as the erection managed to come only but a few times and not as strong too.

What I advice u to do, as this worked for him is to;


Relax. Get a girl and stay with her for days. While u are with her, let her understand what you're passing through trust me she will help give the calmness u need which will relax ur brain and get rid of performance anxiety.

Get a girl not prostitutes. Maybe u're not moved by them my friend.

Stop porn. Its messing with ur brain. And view of girls. Leaving you with what they call PIED (Porn induced erectile dysfunction)... Remember the feeling of not being able to even get a solid errection with a particular porn after jecking off with it a couple of time? That makes u go for another, higher/more rugged/romantic one instead? The brain is simply tired with that particular one and has elevated/increased what triggers you making it impossible for that same porn to trigger you except u leave it entirely and watch it again after months have passed and ur brain has been reset.

This things get you addicted to porn and makes ur brain feel nothing for real women/girls. And even if you do, the penis is so dam weak that it can't even penetrate a lady or lift ur boxers.

Having read all of the above, the best thing for u is to go on a challenge of 6 months without porn. http://yourbrainonporn.com will be of help.

Just delete all porn, stop watching any movie with sex and romantic scenses (since most movies does, listen to music and forget movies entirly), quit being alone as that can make u think sex and then make u masturbate. focus on solving ur issues and trust me, mastubation go use him hand run.

Then get a loyal lady who understands you and loves u for whom u are my friend. She will help u deal with anxiety. It may take 6 months, 12 months 2 years depending on how bad porn has damaged ur brain but the thing u should be after is the fact that u will be fine eventually.

My friends own took 6 months after which he went to a girl, had slight erection and went back to his challenge for another 6 months withoutbporn or masturbation. Instead he worked on having girls around, thinking about having sex with them, not porn and actually having sex with them.

Do indoor exercises at least 30 minutes daily and make sure u sweat Weller. Also search for exercises for weak erection and add it to. YouTube is ur friend bro.

Then see a doctor if you could to rule out any medical condition.

As for my friend, his problem was solved cos he shared it. And we both went in together looking for solution. In case u don't know, I was into porn too. But was brave enough to dispose the act on time.

My friend bangs this his girl friend like four times a day now wen she comes visiting or vice versa. My man is loyal to her for being loyal and understandable and from the best of my knowledge, masturbation is a thing of the past for him.

START BY QUITING PORN... you can do this by first deleting all the available once. Starve ur phone of internet data, use Nokia touch, quit being alone, spend less time in the bathroom/toilet, think about ur problem and its effects on u etc. Best of luck bro and quit believing ur problem is spiritual. ONCE U FEEL LIKE MASTUBATING, RUB PEPER OR CHINEESE BALM FOR HAND... UR PENIS GO LEAVE U. if him no leave u, touch am small with am the konji go run.

Thanks for helping.
Nice tips too.

I laugh when I see posts encouraging masturbation and guys, young guys buying into the idea, or encouraging it.

From my little web crawling, one of the side effects of masturbation is weak erection.

helpforever:
I saw a post about a woman complaining that her sister married an impotent man. I smiled, the man probably knew he had an issue and still went ahead and married. I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was flirting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurrences.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come on, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in pains. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probably keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

Wow.
I regret not bookmarking a thread I saw a while back where the guy showed the relationship between masturbation and erectile dysfunction.

But I remember he clearly stressed that you MUST, as a matter of urgency, stop masturbation if you want to notice any real improvement.

Alwaystrue:
Gooooood! God is faithful.


Hello House,
May Lord compensate you and show you that He is indeed a God of mystery.
Congrats to all confirmed and yet to confirm Mamas and Papas.

Thanksgiving.

EastGold:
Is that purity? The girl Tontoh Dike called a wintch

Hahaha!!!
Be good now!


Ow..and some men desire this o.
As per, working your arse out at the office from 5am and then coming home at 10pm to play the full time house wife role while they..errrrr..sleep with whom ever they choose and blame your body for gaining babyfat.

Please mention me when Mercy Johnson's husband begins to nag about her weight gain..?
Thank you

Epositive:

Lol..

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