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Wetabix:
The woman is always to be blame..if you hear say your in law beat your sister how you go feel.. Op tell your friend to move on the man already choose his mom over her

Are you minding that idiot, look at how he typed nonsense with confidence. Person wey that NGO go still sack

brownemmanuel43:
ur mama born u well baba. The man is not mad to beat and send the wife away.
See, women always play the victim game in every issue in marriage. Op dat friend will not tell u the part she played that waranted the husband to beat her (I hate domestic violence) but if u hv been or seen the true colour of some women, to marry no hhhhungry u. Having worked in an NGO that deals on women right, i must confess that that ur friend has larger portion of blame here.

Uncle if you have females in your circus and you typed this then I wish them same thing that happened to this lady.

yuswrld20:
wateva wateva my wife is ma wife.she is a new mum 2 me.he is not supoz to do dat

Are u answering all these children on nairaland that will sit at the comfort of their parents lap and be typing rubbish

Justbehave:
Both the man and his wife including you who is her friend. All of you are immature.

Another raving mad dingbat spotted!

baralatie:
don't you think the husband should have bought the foam and kitted one of the two remaining bedroom in the flat to cater his MOTHER

Leave that one let him be typing rubbish. If the woman buys the foam wats d husband supposed to be doing. No be him carry ppl come? The guy is so dumb mehn

I agree there is love in sharing BUT you need to read this write up again and digest it. Circumstances differs on a case by case basis. moreso, hardly any marriage is free of problem in Nigeria when In-laws are present, an early marriage for that matter. Marriage is not as straightforward as some people think.

PS: It’s easier said what other people should be doing in their situation until we find ourselves in the same situation. It’s important to thread softly

how old are you? Nairaland has given impetus to kids to chat with their elders on this forum. See me see trouble

When has it become a crime to give someone a second chance?? Im done having this convo. U clearly haven’t seen life. Wait till u experience life and come back. Thanks

Hearing from both sides will not justify the husband’s actions. Violence, Immaturity! And gross disrespect for his wife!

Sirvingeo:
There is more to this story. The husband will never drive his wife away just because she asked if his family will stay with them permanently.

Bros, speak for yourself! Lots of crazy dudes out there. Speaking this way means you’re short of experience. I’m not saying my friend is perfect but that’s the summary of what happened. Again speak for yourself

Uncle this happened for real and there are even alot more ridiculous happenings in marriages.
If you think its cooked up still then no offence you will learn with time. Life na stage by stage

Ridiculous to say the least. How some people sit together and reason is beyond me

Well said. Same advise I gave her. We are past the era of condoning rubbish marriage. Being single is truly better than being married to some idiots

Can’t doubt ur view, very possible

Well said. Absolutely insane if u ask me

Well said but I figured her flaws and told her. And her flaws in the whole scenario are 1. She emphasized on the length of stay of her mum too often. Even tho it shouldn’t be a bigdeal coz it’s within her right to know, but it is what it is.

Evry other blame lies with d guy in my opinion. He can’t put his house together and failed to prove he’s now a man to his mum

Alot not said like what and what?

I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cool.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

I have a female friend who got married last year October precisely.

Fast forward to March this year the Mother In Law came to stay with the couple in a bid to visit her hospital within the couple’s area for medical checkup, reason being that she stays a bit farther away in the same state.

Upon her Mother in law’s arrival, she came with my friend’s husband brother accompanied by his girlfriend who all planned staying and eventually stayed without prior notice.

My friend(the lady) is a banker and was only informed casually by her husband while she was at work on the day of their arrival. His excuse was the mother called impromptu about the visit which I don’t think is bad anyway.

These couple stay in a three bedroom apartment and only one room has bed in it. This is the room the couple sleep.

The first two days of the mother inlaw, brother and brother’s girlfriend arrival, the couple had to sleep in the living room while the mother in law and the brother in law’s girlfriend slept in the couple’s room.

As days goes by, the husband who is self employed suggested the the rest of them will handle cooking in the house due to the wife’s tight schedule as per banking job in Lagos.

Part of the consequence of their visit is that they have overthrown the kitchen and like most ladies my friend wasn’t cool with this but tried to keep her cook.

The lady(my friend) became curious and asked the husband to clarify if the mother in law and co intends to stay with them permanently. The husband subsequently flared up with the allegations that his wife doesn’t want his people around. This happened to be the third time his wife asked this question in the space of two weeks.

One thing led to the other on the third time of asking this question my friends husband beat her up and chased her out of the house while the mother stood and watched without interfering.

Efforts to reconcile has proved abortive as the husband refused to let her in again and categorically said to my friend’s dad he isn’t interested in the marriage anymore. The mother in law refused to interfere.

PS: The hubby’s mother is a separated single mother.
PS: My friend and her hubby both contributed to pay the rent
PS: The hubby’s father is not in support of all the happenings and all efforts to reach his son proved abortive since the misunderstanding. He wouldn’t answer his dad’s calls.

What are your opinions about this issue? Thank you.

My advise might sound weird but don’t divorce yet. Just get yourself a side babe whom you can always find happiness. Then play along in ur marriage by putting all stops to all her complaints. I mean just do your thing and avoid having argument with her. Infact only talk to her when necessary. The side chick is to help maintain your sanity and distract yourself from the marriage a bit while you carry out all these acts. Come back and tell us AFTER three months the result of your new way of relating with her.
If there are no changes. Please file for divorce immediately!

I work in an institution where we forecast future occurrences and make business decisions based on our forecast. If some people somewhere have not been working tirelessly to forecast future occurrences based on present and past data, do you think many things i.e technology, health etc will be available to you? If everyone is an olodo then the whole world is doomed. Please unlearn this your school of thoughts. It is called RESEARCH and FORECAST. It’s like saying the wright brothers that designed the first airplane had agenda to decrease the world population through crashes and hence that’s why they brought airplanes to humanity.

I’m sorry for FFKs wards and family members coz this is the rubbish he’ll be teaching them and they will listen to him coz once u have money in Nigeria ppl automatically thinks u have sense. Smh

Bros did you catch her red handed to be sure she’s really having an affair. Be sure this is not a speculation nor hearsay.. Innocent until proven guilty. I have comments to make if only you can expatiate on how you caught her red handed. When and where OR what are your evidences

You guys are clearly not compatible and the marriage shouldn’t hold.
Reasons: 1. She has a high urge for sex which you cannot match. Forget the lies ppl tell you. Sex is a major factor in marriage after money.

2. She has anger issues judging by what you put up here and you don’t seem ready or capable to condone it

If you like go ahead, I pray you won’t be back to open another thread after the marriage asking for advice

NOT Sharing passwords doesn’t mean absence of love or cheating. Password is privacy. Why? Because the husband or so called bf is not the only person in his or her life! He or she has siblings and parents he or she might like to have confidential conversations with. !

Bros you’re mean o lolsssssssssss

I’m also interested in the ladies responses

Let her be. Delete her nos if that would help you not call her whenever you are tempted to.
Gals plenty everywhere! Make it a habit of letting go gals that wouldn’t get along with you immediately. Women matter is a game of numbers the more you ask out, the higher your chances because gals plenty everywhere!

Almost impossible to believe but I have seen women stay in wicked marriages all in the name of staying married. Nobody holy pass but this guy overdo mehn he’s a devil in man’s clothing if this story is real

Underrated Post.
I’ll quote you again.
”You can only get their attention with money or perception that you have money”