tyson98:
It's obvious but if you say it obidients will always attack you!

The number of Igbos that are tribalistic are more than the non tribal ones.

Your wife is doing what you ought to have done as a MAN. You’re not MAN enough sorry, I don’t sugarcoat.
1. You should have stopped the lady from coming to your apartment by informing your friend(her husband about it) stating that both women are guilty and you don’t want their closeness to cause deeper problems which might affect your friendship with him as well.

2. If you had done number 1, you would still have maintained your friendship with the dude.

3. If he fails to address number 1 and maturedly as well, or takes it personal then you have to let go of the friendship.

4. The dude did not offend you, nor your wife. You have to make her understand this. That said, his wife has to stop coming to your apartment. Use normal 1, to solve this puzzle

Rema14:
Why social media

Social media created a farce, unrealistic expectations and suddenly made people especially women believe they have options, when in the real sense of it, the options are majorly trash!

You replied already if not, I for say you didn’t have to reply. You read messages like this and ignore. Na she go call you to ask “did you see my message” and your response will be “is there anything else you want to say” if nothing then cut fone, if she wana keep talking allow her talk then end with “Okay” Bye

The idea of all of this is TO PREVENT giving her relevance coz she deserve am

When I saw the beginning of ur senseless reply, I immediately knew you’re a lady before checking ur gender to double check.

Let me shock you bro.
There are only 3 categories of women that makes this kind of posts.
1. The one for the streets. i.e bleeps different guys within a short space of time as long as you have money and you’re her perceived standard of men.
2. A woman who’s done with the relationship in her mind and/or seeing another dude already. i.e when women are done in a relationship they communicate through series of actions unprovoked until they gather the courage to tell u verbally mostly through a heated argument or at a point when it’s obvious the man is overpampering her due to fear of losing her.
3. A woman who doesn’t respect you anymore for different reasons mostly lack of finances and see finish. This is common amongst tertiary institution babes. These kind of women are constantly self reminded that they got alot of options hence submission and respect becomes an issue for them

Embrace your Nose bro. Nothing wrong with it. What matters is that you are healthy.

Reason is because men are providers. Most women bring nothing to the table. You can’t bring nothing and still cheat. Na ment or malaria? Lol

In the same vein, women who has money do not forgive cheating men too.

Honestly I don’t pity heartbroken women. Most of them lowkey sleep with another guy while in a relationship and then they think they’re smart because the dude didn’t confront them. This is one out of many things ladies do wrong but will never admit nor say it when reporting heartbreak

The thing with you ladies is that, you will never tell us what you did wrong. It’s always the guy’s fault even if it means you were fucking another guy while dating him, it’s still the guy’s fault.

Some people are thieves and they deserve punishment. Yes he didn’t ask for the money but the moment the own called, he should return the money. Anybody who eats such money and refuses to refund deserves a criminal punishment because they can commit horrible criminal offense

phorget:
Your husband dey cash out from that married woman... No take your reggae spoil him blues abeg. If you wan go make you jejely waka o.

Which kain oponu talk be this

DaudaTheSexyGuy:
Married women toto dey sweet no be small

Trust me on this

Continue.
Your days are numbered.

Mineralzz:
Hello everyone.
Am an active member on this forum, I've have my main account but I wish to remain anonymous, i just want to hide my identity and i will deactivate this account as soon as I get a solution. I'm so heartbroken right now

I thought my fiancée was different from every other guys, despite his gentle and innocent face I never knew he was a liar and a cheat

He's fond of connecting his laptop to his smart TV (65 inches). What displays on the laptop automatically displays on the smart TV screen. See what happened, he went downstairs to pickup something, So I wanted to see a movie on Netflix, while I was looking for a suitable movie to watch, a message popped up from Facebook and it stated "Whr are U? Check ur phone...6 missed calls "

At first, I wasn't triggered to open the msg but what drew my attention was the "cry emoji". When I opened the msg my heart melted, I was crying . Their secret affair has been going on since April last year. A married woman with 2 kids, I checked her profile I saw her kids and husband photos everywhere, she has visited my fiance at home several times, I saw lot of romantic messages.

I videoed their chat conversations as evidence, thank goodness his TV screen is wide enough for the blind to see. The moment he came inside he noticed my mood has changed, he was smart enough to know I opened his msg. He's started begging me, he said he can explain. Explain what?

Am on my way home now feeling devastated, heartbroken and sad . I plan to upload the video on Facebook and tag all the woman's friends until her husband sees it. I will also send the video to instablog, Linda ikeji.. Honestly I feel dejected and heartbroken. Help I don't know what to do .

If you can get her husband’s number call him and send all evidences

Danny50:
My fiancé have chronic mouth odour but I don't know how to tell her so that she won't feels bad or hurt so Guy's I really need your advice medically and how to go about without hurting her thank you all

You have to tell her. Get her Listerine mouth wash and she should ensure she brushes early morning and night daily. Mouth Odour is simply poor oral hygiene and nothing more.

dawnomike:
To whom brain is given, sense is expected .. The past should be the past!!!

Leave them, let them be asking stupid questions. Awon ashewo oshi.

Bola146:
God have mercy on some stupid ladies of nowadays in the name of looking for what No wonder it's very easy for Yahoo boys using them for rituals in the name of having sex like dogs Let me keep quiet!

For your mind now you’re better than that girl.
Swear that you never sleep man house before! Swear that your body count is not more than one! If you can’t swear on these 2 things, then shush your mouth and face front. You’re not better than that babe. Na because dem never catch you. All of una be same thing

It’s dicy. Because if you involve family, this isn’t a complaint they will see as a big deal. Only few people who are outsiders can understand your pain.

The Easiest Advice:
If you’re capable, go rent an apartment and stay away for sometime. If he isn’t bothered to adjust still, then you can call it off. Your metal Health and Happiness matter.
There are many things people overlook while getting carried away with the euphoria of getting married. It’s sad really because people don’t get better in marriage, they get worse.

The Realistic Advice:
That said, we haven’t heard from your husband, he’s not here to defend himself. Sometimes you women benchmark your spouse with someone in your past, someone you just met or spouses of other people forgetting that marriage is all about tolerance if you wana stay married, there’s always something you won’t like about your spouse.

Lastly, HOW you correct a man matters alot, if your approach is condescending and tramples on his ego, you won’t get any result! If your approach is mild, calm and plea, you will get a man to do unimaginable things believe me.

Feel free to take any of my advice. I have analyzed it thoroughly for you.

Degunners:
I just need someone to scold me badly, maybe it will help me get sense.

Seriously I can't just believe at my age I still do the things I do.

Right now I am in deep hole of debts from these loan apps. Can you imagine someone taking loans from more than 10 apps? Yes that someone is me.

Presently if I should add up all the loans it will be close or more than 500k. The annoying thing is this is like 3yrs now I have been struggling with these apps.

I once was able to clear all the loans but like a dog going back to it's vomit, I still went back to them (I seriously need delivarence).

Why I'm so ashamed of myself is because I didn't take these loans mostly because I don't have a good source of income but because I don't know how to save and I am very extravagantly wasteful. I loving feeling rich, I can buy beer and flex anyone those I know and those I don't.

Thought getting married will help but for where like I got worst after that.

I seriously don't know how to come out of this mess I dragged myself into. Because these loan apps will only give you 7days loan with very high interest. I have been servicing these loans throughout last year and I don't want to continue this year.

I have already spent more than 200k this month alone on interest alone because I have to borrow again to be able to pay others.

I'm owing the following apps:
1. Fastmoney 70k
2. Imoney 50k
3. Gocash 38k
4. 40k
5. Palm credit 70k and counting this is long over due.
6. Kuda 50k
7. Next credit 21k
8. Mint loan 35k
9. 9jacash 12k
10. Add money 9k
11. Ncash 9k
12. Ducredit 70k
13. Ajeloan 15k
14. Easy Naira 12k.
15. Cashsea 26k

I'm even scared to add the total but this my current reality. Virtually all are 7days loan.

I don't know how a sane human being can get to this stage, I don't want to attribute anything to anyone or some village people. This is my owing making, and I have been living with this burden for long. I was hoping to get a job that will pay me like 500k at once but none for now.

I dont even know what next to do. I have alot of other responsibilities to cater for.

I don't even have friends or relatives I can run to. I am writing this because I deserve all the insults in the whole world. I deserve to the stoned. Though I will never take my life because of this, God forbid but I can't grow with these on my neck and it's really weighing me down.

I can't remember when last I genuinely smiled or laughed.

I'm determined to find a way to over come this problem. That's why I'm here.

I know you guys will come for my head but I'm already in this shot so I will accept any insult. But please if someone can say something to help me a little I will appreciate.

I'm not breathing fine but I'm currently harvesting what I planted.

Wish I can get a counselor or therapist who can help me because I'm scared that even if I suffer and clear these I might not learn my lesson because it has happened before.

What can I do please?

What did you with the money you collected?

bukky1994:
Op sit her down and discuss it with her.... And please give her some space.. No carry d sex matter for head as u can't survive

You’re funny. You people have been deceived. Sex is one of the most important things in marriage. He must carry it for head. If the man begin they sleep around now, you people will be the one to blame him. The wife should adjust or face the consequences. Simple

Gosh234:
Keeping this simple
Am very confused right now

I am 25 years while she is 30years
Currently doing my NYSC, while she deals on laptops and other accessories,which is going fine

We have stayed for a year and few months now
We are very compatible and of like minds
We love each other so much
Very decent
Responsible
And very humble all these while we have known

Whatever desired in a woman she has them all

On November,this started
She came to my house and after eating
She asked me out for a marriage and she doesn't mind footing all the bills and everything as regards to that

I never expected this because our agreement is to marry when any serious suitor comes

Again
What will my family say due to the age gap ?

My elder brother is 28years and not dreaming of marriage yet
I come from average family same as her

I don't have a house of mine neither any source of income

She suggested I join her in business as well, as her business is my business as well while searching for a job

At same time I so much love her

Actually at this point
I don't know where to start

Marry her if you’re convinced she’s the one.
That said, make sure u’re employed and have a stable source of income before getting married. Let her give you the time needed to sort yourself first. Thank me later

dingbang:
I have an issue with number 4.


Her salary cannot support her minusing 20kmonthly from 80k for vacation .. The vacation is not that important.


She has a valid reason for opting out. Find another woman who earns higher so you dont kill yourself.

I think you’re quick to judge him. I don’t think he will suggest number 4 if the babe if not number 4 kind of person.

blaquebelle:
If she really loved you in the first place this shouldn't be an issue atall

I don’t know if you’re a woman but if you are, you’re the only woman that said something sensible on this post.

DannyXpress:
Wow my fellow simp

Comrade We'll be having a meeting by 4pm today, make sure you don't miss it.

Let me tell you the truth. But if you want me to lie, i will lie.

She's a hooker and you're one of her customers, and when she's done with you, she will dump your sorry ass.

Hooker extraordinare�����

Kriss216:
Another one.


Y'all will agree with me this year is truly YEAR of the SIMPs.


Guys, we need to filter Men that will follow us to 2022.

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Sirmuel1:



Not in all cases jare

Are you answering them, wicked people. They think all fathers are useless and deadbeat. Very careless statements. They think the guy do not have sense to have shared the money that way..

Sosotired:
I'm approaching 40 and my goal is to be married by third quarter of 2022.

I have a big problem tho. I expect too much from the women I meet (or have met)I'm obsessed with learning and getting better generally. When I'm on my phone, I'm learning. I like getting most things right. I don't leave things to chance or to God as most people do. If I see a problem I go into fixing mode immediately. This is now affecting my quest for an ideal woman. I get asked every day why I'm not married. I ask myself same question too. I'm not pressured but I really do want to be married and have kids.
Let me say this. I don't nag or complain too much. I just notice faults easily and when I do I point them out as politely as possible. And I expect a fix! If I don't see any attempt, I get tired. I'm turned off by too many things. I'm turned off by uncleanliness, laziness, tribal bigotry, unambitious...just too many things. I'm not perfect but for some reasons it seems I'm looking for a perfect person.

I'm currently In a relationship and this morning I told myself I won't be in this relationship by 2022. Her crime? She has bad breath and I have mentioned it to her over and over again. I got her some recommended medications and gave her tips that I researched myself. The last time I was at her place, I noticed she wasn't using the medications, neither was she taking the issue as a serious issue. She is a nice girl and doesn't bother me. I have tried to ignore the issue but it's still one of those things I can't stand. I can't stop wondering how a person with bad breath can be lazy with finding a solution. I told a friend and he told me I must learn to overlook. How can I overlook this? The previous relationship was a girl whose only ambition was marriage. I sponsored her training on skill acquisition and started a business for her twice. She mismanaged the whole. When it's time to talk about the progress of the business, she would bring up marriage. She had zero accountability and a huge entitlement mentality. She had to go.

This girl is right for me. She hustles. She is homely, respectful and tolerant. I would say she is the best yet (no comparison tho). I don't know what to do concerning the breath issue. I have never had to complain so much about any thing but because I don't want to just throw what we have away, I have had to have many conversations on the matter with her and she won't take even the easiest steps like brushing before bed seriously. This is crazy. What did you have to put with in your partner? Can you put up with bad breath? I need answers pls.

People with bad breath have to brush their tooth more often. I’d say at least thrice a day. The night own is most important. Let her get listerine mouth wash and use it as many times daily. Also, let her go do scaling and polishing of her tooth at dental clinic. Decayed tooth dirts can also be part of the reason.

Datboredberry:
Do you prefer to sit down and have a honest conversation?

Or is that too hard to bear... You would rather choose to be ghosted?

The conversation will be meaningless because the party that wants to leave no go get any genuine excuse. If they do have genuine excuses however, you mostly won’t be able to salvage the relationship because they mostly have made up their mind.

ngoziwrites:



I did say I am not looking for flings. And I am looking for something real. And he said he is here for real. I have this phobia for meeting new people. I am scared that they do not mean well for me and are just probably coming to lie. So, because of that I go into a shell and just try to read the person from the things they ask and say.

The day I wanted to ask, I told him we haven't really discussed important things, getting to know each other more. He said that will happen in person and these things flow, not planned.

My apologies, I don’t pamper people but I just tell them the bitter truth, I think from all indications this guy is not serious but then, two months is way too short to judge him. Different guys with different policies. Some guys will not propose marriage until after courting for at least 1 to 2years. While some guys will settle down in less than a year if u tick all or majority of the boxes. That said, I still maintain you shouldn’t ask him anything again. Let it flow, whether or not you ask him, he’s 31 and his actions and events will tell in 6months max how soon he’s likely getting married or if he’s planning to get married at all if you can be honest with yourself then.

Nat404:
Exactly. I totally agree with you. If a man doesn't take you to his house, it means something is fishy.

Something is not necessarily fishy, but then if something is fishy. She will find out. She missed the opportunity of asking the guy important questions before going to bleep him for three days. I wonder what they were discussing for TWO weeks prior to their meeting. I have dropped my my advice on one of her comments and wished her good luck