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this i a do or bye affiar!

biola44:
yeah, but he loves d virginity more?
!

infact the virginity not the person was what he wanted to marry.

TheSeeker:
That's a good idea. But some people still beg to differ.
The girl deserves more.

yeah the people who thinks marrying a virgin ascertains loyalty.

C2H5OH:
It's not only ridiculous, it's a tragedy.

How can you ask to be friends but you keep sleeping in the same bed with the guy, laying on top of him and what not?
Girls are well known for being manipulative. they don't always say what they mean. Simple xteristic of womanhood.

dint read this in his post,
is this ur own experience!

biola44:
persistence could be key, hang on with care,

no doubt,
but sometimes u persist and it ends up blowing in ur face.
just be friends like iice said.

so oga cos some misfortune came calling, u up and run?
soo much for love!


@me,
i go marry am with soo much joy, and if the brideprice nah 2 naira i go opt for 4naiara.
thats how much i wud value her, to make her know her worth to me was not in her virginity.

@post,
if ur main reason u turning him down is cos he is uneducated, then that's some wrong choice u making.
education is supposed to make us prepared for the life ahead, its not so way to show off u got a degree.
if he is capable of meeting family responsibility, then i say he is okay.

one thing girls fail to realise is that, when u meet the educated one, u begin to rue the fact u gave up this fabulous opportunity  just for a degree
that treats u shabbily.

unless u dint love him, i suggest u give him a chance.
but then again how are u sure u don't love him?
and u sound like u have been stringing him along all this while for ur own selfish gains. my take though.

vivaladiva:
somebody needs to sit on the naughty steps till he calms down, i suppose this 99 percent includes ur moda,cousin,sister,aunty,neice,grandma ur wife to be, ur female friends, ur pastors wife,n ur other female associates. dnt tell me u r reserving that one percent for these pips

well he never saidthey were not part of the 99%,
he only came here to report on his findings.
i suspect he is way way past the hearbroken line,
this guy must have experienced cheating on a higher level.

bro ease up, its just a phase.
and trust me we still have decent girls out there.
more than the %1 u mentioned.

@viva, y is it diff dat for som 2 realise dat not evri1 committe easily. Wud dat justify ur pickn her calls or tryn 2 make her jealous? Wat if she realy just want 2 be friends? U loose d friendship cos of ur own selfish gains!

It simply means being friends with or without benefits is all she can handle at d mo. I suggest you keep it dat wax until the circumstances change. Most likely her choice again if u get d drift.

Its perfectly normal 2 feel the way you do, mostly if wat u enjoyd most was just d sew. The mere tot of som1 else taking ur spot kills u. Just try not to reflect on it much.

If u can convince her u not afta her for wot she got, fine. But dude she's like 1 amongst d mill ppl u wud av 2 prove u got no eye 4 ha money. R u ready 2 b recognisd cos of ur wife! Tink nd if u gud wit dat, den just go 4 her.

@ujujoan,
where have u been!

biola44:
hot love!

ogbono felifeli.

well i dont see y we can't be friends no more.
i still talk to them and see some.

actually my ex was in ma office some weeks back. no hard feeling.

sparta:
Man, you are just plain promiscous, jumping from girl to girl, pleaaaaaaaaaaaaaase,

i tot i was the only one who noticed the pattern!
bera learn to zip up.

even if she told u she was 18, dint you notice she was a kid when u engaged her in a conver?
abi u self no get sense atall?

bringing issues like this to NL, u will go home hypertensive.

dont jump into conclusion,
cud be some old friend who jus decided to play such pranks.
trust me, if she was playing gamess, she won't even forget her phone, talkless of with u.

@190,
where do u want me to start from!
the list is endless.

IF U HAVE UP TO 3MONTHS INTERVAL BEFORE LEAVING THIS SHORES,
I SUGGEST U TAKE HER TO COURT AND DO A COURT WEDDING,
HAVE AN INTRODUCTION DONE AND THEN THAT WAY U HAVE LEGAL PAPERS TO TENDER AT THE EMBASSY.

ITS NOT AS HARD AS U THINK.

@IICE,
BUT U SELF EASE UP ON SOME OF US HERE,
WE DON;T SPEAK PATUA. LOL

she

v3nom4eva:
I ask AGAIN. . . what r u on abt??

she means she dont notice his profession, just he has to be unique to get her attention?

Well u wud have to ask her, but what i wanted to findout is,
do u know her wll enough to want to marry her?
thats the big question!

so those cars that have stickers that say " hit me from behind", u just ram into them?

what hapening to our girls this days!! has the weather suddenly gone cold?
the other poster had his gf rape him, now u turned urs down.
old boy there is no apologies that wud make that up unless u give it to her real time.

and u must give am like 5rounds at a stretch till she seke!

190:
what about how good they moan wen u Bleep dem!

u know it's funny how we allow some things pass without noticing, xpecially when its some1 we hold in high regard.
if it was some1 else who responded to a post in this manner, u wud have sharpened ur tongue in response to him/she.

am gonna try and break dem down in bits for u,

u first mistake was that no matter how broke u are, ur son comes first and u shud have made his needs available,
no matter what circumstances u find yourself.
even if it meant loaning from some1 to pay for his upkeep.

2. now this issue is a very delicate one, and i suggest u listen and think properly,
as regards who takes custody, i think you have to handle with kid gloves.
already this boy is going to suffer the result of the breakup in future,
and so taking him from her is not goingto reduce the pain he wud have to gothrough.
onething that is obvious is the fact whether u loose now or not, ur son will definately return to  in future,
here lies my only fear. he wud have ben brought up in a different setting that it wud be difficult to inco-operate him into ur family.

what ur lawyer said make's some sense, but be careful hence u will be accused wrongly.
u cant file for custody, u wud loose,
u cant divorce her, u will be demanded to pay some upkeep for her and the child for the rest of ur life.

my only solution is to placate this family and stylishly warm ur ways into thier heart until hey trust u enuf to leave the boy around you.
then u take him and leave.
and when i mean leave u leave to an area she cant trace u.
its a dicey one, but just take precautions and all will go well.

i dont avice u leave ur son to her,
cos she will brainwash him and its never gona be corrected.
moreso its worse if u r from diff tribes.
goodluck with the issue.

take her to a diff clinic at ur own time and convenience.
dont be misled.

justin timbalake : cry me a river!

@19,
i had to use ur age and not name cos its the only way to emphasis my point.
u damn to young!! wats the hurry, u scared u wont find suitors later?
pls ont rush into a mistake.
cos its apparent u dont even know ur left from u right.