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muhyeenisce:
where is it mentioned in d Bible that you should become Christian? where is it written in d Bible that christian is d way to salvation? where is it in d bible that Christian is a religion?

Christianity is a way the world describe those that live like christ Jesus: the true role model of all Christians. I don't see Christianity as a religion because religion seeks for a way to appease a supreme being they are not sure is in existence, while Christianity is all about building a relationship with God almighty through his son Jesus Christ the only way to gain access to him.

Christianity is not the way to salvation but faith in Jesus Christ is the only way to salvation and only means to gain access to God Almighty.
Christ said ' I am THE WAY, the truth and the life, No Man can come to the father(God) except through me(Jesus Christ)

what gives my joy as a Christian is the understanding that I am saved and I have hope of spending eternity with God as a result of my faith in the son of God - Jesus Christ.
Every other thing I do as a Christian such as living for God, abstaining from evil, showing kindness to men and living peaceably with all men is governed by this belief in the son of God - Jesus Christ.

hmm, it is only in Nigeria you are forced to pay for a service you don't use. they told us that once NEPA is privatised that power would be steady. it had be privatised and we are yet to see the power. this same scammers are now saying that if d tariff is increased d power will be steady. when we don dey pay since for power wey we no dey see yet dem still get mind to dey talk of tariff increase. all these pple no get conscience o!

should Nigerians fall for this scam of tariff increase for better power supply then na one chance we don enter again be dat o!
what I know is that, a company improve on its services first before asking for a price increase on the improved services. these guys dey collect free money every month end without giving any services and them still want more. now I understand why dem no dey gree give prepaid meters again. hmm, naija I hail thee!

Marotzke:
sarcasm or satire?

bro whether it's sarcasm or not, some people are going to think that what she said is Ok. regardless of d gender, cheating in a committed relationship is wrong. e no get how anyone go take paint am way go make am look right. Watin don bad, don bad!

it's just so sad that so many people are taking their stupidity or lack of pride online. what does it mean when a partner cheats in a committed relationship?

it simply means that he/she does not respect the other partner:

he/she has fallen out of love with the other partner;

he/she does not value the relationship;

he/she is selfish and doesn't care about the feelings of the other partner and

he/she can kill the other partner when the price is right.

the law of love in a romantic relationship gets broken the moment any of the partners gives to someone else what should exclusively be for his/her partner. every time you tell your partner 'I love you', you're indirectly saying that you're exclusively for him/her.

it's just so obvious that morality has eroded our society for someone to post such trash without any shame. anyway, na her opinion and her life sha! it's left for her man to still welcome her back with a smiling face after she had freely opened her legs to every man in the world. na their cup of tea!

Babacele:
bros PMB better pass GEJ and I can prove it.

Guy keep living in denial and deception. people like you are the reason why Nigeria can hardly move forward. I just so wonder how someone can see outright evil and call it good.
look, there's no comparison btw gej's government and pmb's government. if gej was still in power, there's no way things wld av been this bad. your ignorance, abi na denial of reality is so annoying. stop calling evil good!

look, there's something that is still baffling me about this oil price increase and our naira o. shay some people said our naira didn't depreciate much in Jonathan's tenure because oil price was high? how come oil price has been increasing ( from $32 to $55) and our naira is still going down rapidly? una no think say something else dey involved in dis our naira wahala?

Nigeria and their many problems. dem no they ever dey do something make e work once. make una take am easy en, all of una go log in

gabinogem:
I thought u were going to come up with a reasonable response to the question I asked, not some flimsy joke.
Maybe I should rephrase the question for u to come up with a tangible response this time; if a man or woman is single or divorced isn't he/she qualified to be a real man or a strong woman?

chill bro, I see dat u don't av a sense of humour. ur question is answered in the first definition of who I think a real man or a real woman is. someone that knows who he/she is, has a defined path for his/her life and walks on dat path without any fear. whether married or not, real men are men that don't run away from their responsibilities; they know what they want and they don't leave their life to chance. if shld respond to ur question en, I'll compose another full article again. most of my definitions of real men or strong women above are marriage or relationship related. shay I don try answer ur question small?

gabinogem:
OP, Nice definition...but it seems the definition is connected to marriage & religion... Going by ur definition, those who are single or divorced/separated are not strong

bro, real men are men taking responsibilities and charting d course of their lives not d ones dat are still sagging, forming fine boys and jumping from one babe to the other. just joking! lol

Cholls:
my brother a strong man is a man who is PROVIDER............And a strong woman is a woman who is HELP the man becomes what he should become with no interference.

from d illustration I gave, many women think they are entitled to whatever a man has, that is exactly what you av also stated that she'll av to support your dream. what about both of you supporting each others dreams for the overall good of the family.

I read some comments saying that, ' you can't diversify an economy in 17 months' . really? diversification starts with d polices of d government. what is this administration's economic policies? how does their policies encourages d local industries and other sectors of d economy? come to think of it, how can a sane President ever think of borrowing an amount of money that is more than his country's reserve with no defined payment plan? thank God the senate turned it down! that man wan sell 9ja, I pray God comes to our aide!

DO YOU THINK YOU ACTUALLY KNOW WHO A REAL MAN OR A STRONG WOMAN IS?

http://realestthoughts..com.ng/2016/11/who-is-real-man-or-strong-woman.html

I have heard so many definitions of real men and strong women, but I don’t think some of those definitions really depict who a real man or a strong woman really is. I asked one of my female friends that is doing very well for herself ‘who she thinks a strong woman is?’ this is the answer she gave me. She said, ‘a strong woman is a woman who makes her own money and doesn’t depend on a man for anything’.


I was shocked at the last part of her definition that says ‘doesn’t depend on a man for anything’. So I asked her, even in marriage? She said yes, that a strong woman will have to tell her man that she can take care of herself and do anything that makes her happy, whether he is there or not. Really! I said.


Still in shock, I asked her, what is your own definition of a real man? She said, ‘a real man is a man that has his own money and he knows how to treat a woman right’. this time I got angry and I asked her, so you mean for a woman to be strong she has to make her own money and know how to make herself happy, while for a man to be real, he has to make his own money and know how to spend it on a woman, right? She confidently said yes.


I asked her sarcastically this time; ‘don’t you think women are being biased and greedy by expecting men to spend on them while they will not be willing to do the same?’ She quickly cut me short by saying, ‘ that’s how the world is, men that will expect any woman to spend her hard earned money that is supposed to be for her happiness are weak men’. I just could not ask her any more questions because I discovered the image she has created about her own real men and strong women is a biased one.


To her, if the man is not pleasing the woman, he is not a real man. But the woman does not have to please the man, she only has to make her own money and put the man down in order for her to be considered as a strong woman. This is exactly what many women actually think a strong woman is. They think a strong woman is a woman that can stand up to a man and tell him that ‘I don’t need your money or whatever you think you have, I have my own money and I can take care of myself’. This is one of the major reasons why relationships don’t last anymore because both men and women are beginning to think that they don’t need each other anymore.


This is what prompted me to sit down and begin to ponder on who I think a real man or a strong woman is to me. Here are my definitions of who I think a real man or a strong woman is:

WHO IS A REAL MAN?

A real man is a man that knows who he is, what he is and why he is what he is.


A real man is a man that respects himself, his marriage, his wife and his family.


A real man is a man that knows his responsibilities to his wife, his family and his society.


A real man is a man that does not look for the slightest opportunity to abuse his wife and children. He understands that she is prone to make mistakes because she is also human and he corrects her with love and care.


A real man is a man that will never do or engage in acts that will endanger his life, his wife and his family.


A real man is a man that will doggedly defend his wife and family from any negative external influence.


A real man is a man that is not scared to support his wife to achieve her dreams because he knows she will use it to build their home.


A real man is a man that willingly shares ideas with his wife and make her know his plans and intentions because he wants to build a better home.


A real man is a man that is not disturbed by the success of his wife because he understands that it is also for his own good and the good of his family.


A real man is a man that loves himself, his wife and his family.


A real man is a man that always puts in effort to enhance his relationship with his wife and his family.


A real man is a man that doesn’t walk out on his wife and children when they needed him the most.


A real man is a man that understands that every decision he takes whether good or bad will also affect the ones that cares about him.
Etc.

Real men are not identified by their appearances, social status, wealth or fame, they are known by their ACTIONS.


If I should ask you reading this, ‘can you confidently say you are a real man?’


WHO IS A STRONG WOMAN?

A strong woman is a woman that knows who she is, what she is and why she is what she is.


A strong woman is a woman that respects herself, her marriage, her husband and her family.


A strong woman is a woman that understands her responsibilities to her husband, her family and the society.


A strong woman is a woman that will never engage in acts that will endanger her life, her husband and her family.


A strong woman is a woman that doesn’t look down on her marriage and husband because she earns more than him.


A strong woman is a woman that doesn’t use her wealth to control her husband because she thinks she contributes more to the home than him.


A strong woman is a woman that understands that her husband is the head of the family and does all she can to support him to make the family stand.


A strong woman is a woman that doesn’t walk out on her marriage, her husband and her family in the event of difficulties or challenges.


A strong woman is a woman that takes her decision with care because she understands that every decision she takes will either directly or indirectly affect her marriage, her husband and her family.


A strong woman is a woman that doesn’t talk down on her husband at the slightest opportunity


A strong woman is woman that defends her husband and family from any negative external influence. Etc


Strong women are not identified by their appearance, social status, wealth or fame; they are identified by their ACTIONS.


Just because you earn more than a man doesn’t make you a strong woman; also, just because you claim to be independent, doesn’t still make you a strong woman. The fact that you talk down on men, trample down men or try to put men where you think they belong doesn’t also make you a strong woman. Strong women value themselves, their marriage, their men and their family.


Do you think you have what it takes to be regarded as a strong woman?

http://realestthoughts..com.ng/2016/11/who-is-real-man-or-strong-woman.html

when a man or a woman is married, their life is no longer theirs but jointly owned by both partners because whatever decision taken by any of them either directly or indirectly affects d other. saying a woman or anybody for that matter should be allowed to do as they please in a marriage union doesn't make sense to me. anybody way wan behave anyhow as they please no suppose get any business with marriage. just saying!

WHAT IS MARRIAGE

http://realestthoughts..com.ng/2016/10/what-is-marriage.html

It seems so many people are forgetting the definition of marriage or they don’t know what marriage really is. With the high rate of divorce lately and the flimsy excuses a lot of these people divorcing their partners give, it seems most of them don’t really understand what marriage is. Until one understands what a thing is, one can never have a good relationship with that thing. The way you define a thing will determine to a great extent how you will relate with that thing. Same applies to marriage. Until you understand what marriage is and entails you can hardly become successful in it.


I remember when I were in junior secondary school, under a subject called Social Studies, I were told that ‘marriage is the coming together of a man and a woman as husband and wife.’ They never told us for how long such a union is supposed to last. It seems this is the same view most people have about marriage: let’s come together now and when it doesn’t work out the way we expected it to be, we opt out.


That is why so many people are so quick to profess love to complete stranger they don’t know much about and the next minute they are already in the registry. Because they already have the distorted view that if it doesn’t work in their favor they can easily work out. No plans for the future on how they would want their marriage to be like. All they are looking at is the fun for the now. If it isn’t fun anymore, we can easily opt out and go to the next available naïve abuser of marriage. No wonder there are so many young people these days in their thirties already having a history of divorce. No one is talking about ‘working things out,’ all they talk about is ‘leave if it doesn’t go as you expected.’


What does the word ‘marriage’ really means to me? From my experience as an adult, I got to understand that marriage is more than what I were told in school it was. I discovered marriage has responsibilities and that marriage is supposed to be for a life time. So, how I do I define marriage?
“I see marriage as a decision by two matured individuals to love, accept, respect, support, care, protect and be faithful to each other all through their life time”.


Those seeking to go into marriage must first of all be matured. What does it mean to be matured? They should be people that have attained the legal age of maturity as stipulated by the law of the land in which they dwell in and they must also possess mental maturity. They must understand what marriage is; what it entails; the responsibilities involve and must have the wherewithal to meet those responsibilities. This is a simple summary of what maturity is.


Secondly, those seeking to go into marriage must be willing to love, accept, respect, support, care, protect and be willing to remain faithful to their partner for the rest of their lives. Marriage is an adventure that has a lot of up times and down times. You must make up your mind to stick with your partner through it all. So many people are so quick to leave their marriage hoping they would meet the real angel that they have been waiting for in their next marriage, only to discover that such angel does not exist.


They keep repeating the same mistakes; always thinking that it’s the partner they are with that is the problem. They fail to understand that marriage requires work in order for it to be a success. You must be willing to work on yourself, your partner and your marriage in order to make it what you want it to be. If you are not ready for the work and responsibilities of marriage, then you are not yet ready for marriage because you are yet to understand what marriage truly is.


Lastly, marriage is supposed to be a life time adventure. Marriage does not have an expiry date. It is supposed to be ‘till death do us part.’ Marriage is very interesting and vital for our lives; if only we can have enough patience with our partner and work things out with them we would discover that marriage is very enjoyable.


Since I took that bold decision of marriage seven years ago, I have never looked back. Yes, there were times we had great misunderstanding and we felt like stabbing each other, but the love we had for each other always saw us through. We understood that we were different and that it is our responsibility to make our marriage what we want it to be. Since we got that knowledge, things have greatly improved and our marriage has been getting better with each passing day.


Look, there is no angel anywhere! Everyone has some form of imperfections in them. So don’t run out of your marriage hoping that you’ll meet someone better. You can’t really tell how good or bad your next partner may be. Stay with your partner and try to work things out. Both of you can work on your marriage and make it what you want it to be. All it requires from both of you is just a little bit of love, patience and understanding. You have in you what it will take to make your marriage a heaven on earth. Stay, fight for it and work on it in order for you to make it what you want it to be.


Marriage is vital to our lives and for our existence as humans. But we must first understand what it is and what it entails before we can actually make the most of it. This is a summary of my own understanding of ‘marriage’. What is ‘marriage’ to you?

http://realestthoughts..com.ng/2016/10/what-is-marriage.html

Cancellation of post utme is indeed a great curse and backwardness to our educational system. dis has really given d schools d free will to involve themselves in a lot of shaddy deals because student can't assess themselves to know if they'll be given admission or not. beside, d malpractice that we've been experiencing in waec, neck and GCE go be child's play compared to d type of malpractices dis new system has introduced.
did you hear any school opposing d new system? because d tin really favored d schools. adamu adamu has succeeded in taking Nigerian schools to d pit. so sad!

Xer0:
One of the good thing about this recession is that everybody has suddenly become a financial analyst

the man made a valid point. dollars are being given to d banks to disburse to those that will use it in reviving our economy, but when d banks are now disbursing d dollars to those dat don't have d economy at heart because they want to get quick profit, na me and you go suffer am. if d banks can be made to account for every dollar given to dem by CBN, dat will be a great step in ensuring dat everyone works toward building d economy.

izzou:
Abeg summarize

you can get the summary in the ist and last paragraphs. they really said black man don't like reading!

THE TRUE TEST OF YOUR LOVE FOR YOUR PARTNER(do you think you know your partner enough to confidently say you love him/her?)

http://realestthoughts..com.ng/2016/09/the-true-test-of-your-love.html

There is this saying that ‘you cannot know how much someone loves you or how much you love someone until you have seen their flaws.’ So many people that are professing undying love for their partners and jumping into committed relationships with them are only doing so because of the good sides of their partner they have seen. No wonder after they have spent a few years with the said partners you start hearing words like ‘you have changed; I made a mistake marrying him/her; you deceived me’ etc.


It is a known fact that everyone try to put out their best qualities so that they can get love. But it is the duty of the other partner to discover the other sides of their partner so that they can know if they can truly give such partner their love on a long term basis or not. If what is influencing your decision to commit to him/her are just the good qualities you see in him/her alone, then you still have a very long way to go.


I am one of those that have the belief that love is much more than just mere feelings or emotions, because both feelings and emotions are things that are not consistent; they very much depend on the situations around such individual. When your decision to love someone is based on feelings or emotions alone then your relationship is already on a shallow foundation that might come crashing down any moment.

I see love as an acceptance that stems from a conscious decision backed up by knowledge. You have to know someone enough before you can actually tell if you truly love him/her. So many people base their decision to love and commit to someone on just some surface knowledge about the person. That is why so many relationships break up faster than they started because the partners involved later discovered other aspects of the life of the other partner that they could not live with.


So many relationships would have stood the test of time if the partners involved had taken the time to know more about each other before crossing the commitment bridge. If the only thing that is making you profess undying love for him/her is because of the good things he/she has been doing for you, then you can’t really tell if you truly love him/her. You can’t love someone you don’t know. What if the good qualities you saw that made you fall for him/her were just a façade?


Until you have seen him/her at some of their worst moments, you can’t really tell if you truly love him/her. So many people saying that they love their partners unconditionally are only doing so because most of them have never seen the other sides of their partner. One important question you need to ask yourself is ‘can I still love him/her should I see his/her other side? Don’t be deceived, everyone has an ‘other side’. You will be doing yourself a whole lot of good by trying to discover some of his/her other sides before you actually give him/her your full commitment.


Love is an acceptance that stems from a conscious decision backed up by knowledge. A love commitment that is just based on what such partner has on the surface will never last. Before you can confidently say you love someone enough to want to give them your whole life, you should have known a lot about them and let such knowledge guide your decision.


Understand that if you can’t accept his/her bad, there’s no point trying to accept him/her now just because of the little good you’ve seen in him/her. Love in itself demands serious commitment but that commitment must not be feeling based, it must be knowledge based. There’s no point committing to him/her now while hoping you could make him/her change their bad aspects. What if he/she doesn’t change? Love is accepting everything about someone. You have to know what you are accepting before you discover too late that you accepted more than you bargained for.


If only we can try to know a little more about our partner, we can actually prepare ourselves for issues that may confront us later in the relationship and decide on the best ways of approaching those issues should they eventually come up later on in the relationship. A love commitment without knowledge is nothing but ‘blind love’ and this is the type of love that always ends up in disaster. You have to know him/her before you can confidently say that you love him/her.


The true test of your love for him/her is not based on the good and nice things you two do for each other alone but also on the knowledge of who he/she really is. A love commitment that stems from knowledge can wedge any storm life throws at it because it has a strong foundation. You must really know him/her before you can boldly say you love him. Love without knowledge is nothing but a blind love that is very much likely going to fail when it discovers who the real individual actually is. Do you think you know your partner enough to confidently say you love him/her?

http://realestthoughts..com.ng/2016/09/the-true-test-of-your-love.html

youngberry001:
No 3
op it's like re u talking to me there...?

bro I hail! u need to understand dat u're very special and as big as dis world is, there is just one you... dat's to say u're very unique. thanks for going thru such a lengthy post

firstking01:
Another reason is, your expectstions and taste are way out of this world

both expectations and taste are also embedded in no.1. thanks

Adex26:
dats d simple truth

thanks for having the time to thru such a lengthy post

HateU2:
I personally agree with 1 and 2 but 3 is Mba .
Meanwhile, nice write up

miss, why don't you agree with no.3? let's learn from you too o!

3 REASONS WHY YOU KEEP ATTRACTING THE WRONG PARTNER

http://realestthoughts..com.ng/2016/05/3-reasons-why-you-keep-making-same.html

Ever wondered why you seem to be making same mistake in your choice of a romantic partner repeatedly? You may say you’re not good at making choices or that the society is filled with bleeped up individuals; thus you just have to go with whatever comes your way. Irrespective of the excuse you would want to come up with, i just want to tell you that you can actually have the best if you know what you have been doing wrongly. There are certain qualities and behaviors we display that attract a particular set of people to us. The problem is how we can identify such behaviors and stop ourselves from displaying such behaviors so that we can attract the right persons. Below are three good reasons why your relationship choice may seem to be in a cycle.

1.YOU HAVE WRONG VIEWS ABOUT RELATIONSHIP:

The way you define or view relationship would determine to a great extent the type of people you attract into your life. Do you see relationship as a means to an end? Or as an avenue to building a great life and a great future with someone that you cherish and vice versa?

We relate to things based on the definitions we give to them. How we define things influence our beliefs and our beliefs most times controls our decisions and actions. In terms of romantic relationship, we either consciously or unconsciously attract to ourselves the kind of people we get based on what we’ve made ourselves to believe about relationship.

Some of us believe that there are no nice or considerate people out there that would love us unconditionally, thus we make ourselves accept whatever comes our way; irrespective of whether it is what we are looking for or not. You really need to change your mindset and some of your views about the opposite sex and relationship if you want to stand a chance of attracting the right person into your life.

Someone might ask, "how does having a particular belief or definition of relationship affect our choice or the type of people we attract?" Good question! You need to understand that; the importance you place on a thing is based on the definition you give to that thing, hence, if you define relationship wrongly, you start looking for those things that depicts your definition about relationship in your supposed partner. A lady that sees a relationship as a means of meeting her needs( either financial or material) wouldn’t mind to a great extend the type of person she attracts as long as he has what her view of relationship is about – financial and material gains.

A lot of young single people hardly realize early enough that their idea about relationship really play a huge part in the type of partner they attract to themselves. The truth is, they seldom realize that their distorted view about relationship is what has been making them open up their hearts to people that are not right for them until it has become too late for them to change such views and have a fresh start.

Before you give yourself to anyone, here are some simple questions you need to ask yourself to know if you are going into the relationship with the right mindset and for the right reasons or because you have needs that you want someone else to meet at that point in time; why do I need to be in this relationship with this person? What do I want to achieve in this relationship? Am I ready for a serious and committed relationship? Can my reasons for wanting to be in this relationship be gotten through other means? Is he or she the kind of person I desire to be in a committed relationship with? What will happen to the relationship after I have gotten what I am looking for? Etc. if you can be sincere to yourself in your response to some of the questions above, you can learn to avoid making the same mistakes in your choice of a romantic partner.

2. YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT:

So many single people get into relationship for various reasons; the question here is, are your reasons for being or wanting to be in a relationship reasonable enough to make it stand the test of time? I heard a lady saying that, “all her friends are in serious relationships, so she too has to look for someone to be in a relationship with so that she wouldn’t be the odd one among them”. Is that reasonable in any way?

When you don’t know what you want from a relationship, or have a cogent reason why you need to be in a relationship, any stupid idea or thoughts about relationship becomes appealing to you and you immediately accept such idea as your reason for wanting to be in a relationship. people that let other people or situations around them dictate their relationship needs or decisions end up attracting the wrong set of people that will not take them seriously.

To attract someone that will be in same relationship frequency with you, you need to have a clear idea of what you want from the relationship, else, anyone will seem attractive and appealing to you because you don’t have a relationship direction. Knowing what you want in a relationship will help you in assessing the people that show interest in you if they can actually give you what you are looking for. But when you don’t have a clear definition of what you want from a relationship, anyone will seem to have what you’re looking for even when you don’t actually know what it is that you are actually looking for.

3. YOU HAVE A LOW SELF ESTEEM:

How you see and think about yourself also play a great role in the type of person you open up your heart to. So many single people are so scared of being alone that they wouldn’t mind remaining in abusive relationships just to make sure that they are not alone. When you know your worth, you don’t let anyone treat you less and you don’t give yourself to just anyone – you give yourself to those that are willing to give you the love and respect you deserve.

I see a lot of single people keeping relationships that are very degrading and disrespectful to them, and I can’t help but wonder if they are under spells for being in such kind of a relationship. Such a thing can only happen when one doesn’t know who he or she really is. One very obvious problem of people with low self image is that they keep making the same mistake in their choice of a romantic partner repeatedly without even knowing it.

We also attract people based on what we think about ourselves. You may not have the prettiest face or even the greatest shape or physique around, but you have something that any wonderful partner will be willing to die for and consider himself/herself lucky for having someone like you. Think of your special qualities and work on them; think highly of yourself and display it. You’re valuable and precious, and you deserve the very best in life. Always say that to yourself.

As a man thinks in his heart, so is he. Think highly of yourself and you’ll be amazed at the type of wonderful people that will be begging to be in a relationship with you.

http://realestthoughts..com.ng/2016/05/3-reasons-why-you-keep-making-same.html

why is it dat d predictor is coming from America? this pple will never stop! has anybody bothered to ask where d zika virus came? same way dey lied on d heads of bats and monkey for spreading d Ebola virus, now na for mosquito head dem one put dis one. why is it only third word countries dey are predicting? dis pple no wan just stop at all! dere's God o!

THE REAL IMPLICATION ABOUT MARRIAGE

http://realestthoughts..com/2016/08/the-real-implication-of-marriage.html

Selfishness is the number one destroyer of marriages. Ask anyone that has ever done something that puts his/her marriage in jeopardy,you’ll discover that the root motivation of all they did was selfishness. The very moment you start to think for yourself alone and concentrating on yourself alone that is the moment your marriage will start falling apart.

If you know you are not yet ready or prepared to share all you are and have with someone else you’ll call your partner, then you don’t have any business with marriage. Marriage is far more than having lawful sex and making babies. It is a life of sacrifice. You choose to lose yourself the moment you decide to get married. Everything about you will now become ‘us’. Every decision you will take, you’ll have to consider how it will affect your partner and your marriage before they can be taken or implemented.

Marriage is a union of two becoming one and everything that is done from then onward must consider the interest of the other else there’ll be a disaster. The moment you decide to take that lifetime commitment, you decided to delete every word that has to do with ‘mine’ and ‘I’ from you vocabulary and infuse words such as ‘we’ and ‘us’. If only we can learn to ask ourselves how every of our actions affect our partner and our marriage before we carry them out, we will be averting a lot of the misunderstandings we do have with our partners as a result of our selfishness.

When you were single, everything you had were yours but the moment you got married, everything you have and will have become ‘ours’ that is, yours and your spouse: your body, your life, Your job, your money, your privacy, your joy, your pains, your wealth etc. are no longer yours alone. Everything you were before you got married and what you’ll be after you’ve gotten married are no longer yours but ours(yours and your spouse). That is why you should be very careful of the decision you take after you’ve gotten married, because it will not only affect you but also your spouse and your children.

Marriage is a union; that is, you are now two individuals. Everywhere you go and everything you do, you don’t just represent yourself alone but also your partner. When people see you, they don’t just see you alone but also your partner. Thus, whatever you do that does not also consider the interest of the other should be avoided because it goes against the laws of marriage. If your partner is not going to benefit from it either directly or indirectly, then it shouldn’t be done. You’re not married to live for yourself anymore but for each other, if you can understand this simple principle, then you can easily make your marriage a heaven on earth. It is up to you

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it's so good to hear the southwest calling for true federalism. now dat Lagos state has discovered oil, they have suddenly seen d need for restructuring; so dem no say some states na leech before en? naija will truly be great again!

another thing he said that u pple failed to understand is that, 'irrespective the religious, political, and cultural affiliation of the appointee, he shld ensure that they are competent and the right ones suited for the job.

most of you didn't read the article that's why you people are insulting the writer. four things I could pick out from what he said are: (1) buhari has wrong advisers (2) he is failing in addressing the issues confronting ordinary Nigerians (3) the sit of power gas gotten into his head that he is no longer acting like who is known to be(I.e, e don change) (4) his appointments are not the best Nigeria has to offer I.e there are pple that can perform better in those positions he has used to compensate mediocre pple.
so some of you shld try going thru a posted article b4 bashing d writer.

dis model by uniabuja is really crappy. how can u allow smone waste his/her time and money with no hope of securing admission in d end? and some pple a here hailing d model. between dis one and post utme which one come dey more costly? it's so obvious dat Nigerians love and applaud backwardness and dat is what d mallam education minister has just started by cancelling post utme. studying d course of your dream will be surer with post utme Dan with jamb.....just saying

@jline, thanks for ur candid response, I appreciate.

@jline thanks for ur response. I have checked d last five pages and couldn't find where u posted d name of d norm line indicator. can u pls tell me d name of d indicator? thanks