₦airaland Forum

Ejimagift:
Are Muslims not the majority in Nigeria? Are Christians up to Muslims in number? What is bad if Buhari appoints the majority in his cabinet?

Muslim are majority in your dream. keep dreaming en! so political appointment is now given based on religious affiliation en? how Nigeria wan take move forward with this type of people around?

Demure1:
Yes they had plans but he went and used his money to build a house for his family like the doesn't have parents too abi?.

if she wasn't cool with how he was going to spend his, she should have show objected. but she accepted and seem cool with. didn't you heard her say that they both planned for the house and built it together?

bro, in marriage, whatever you are not cool with, you let your partner know and both of you trash it. sincerely, only very few men will accept what she did. such action has a very negative message it passes to the other partner.

HEseesall:
When he told me he wants to use his share for his parents, we agreed my share would be used for get a property then we start to build from there and that's what i did, i expected he knows i would use my name cos i keep the documents, now he is saying he wants his own name only not jointly, who says that pls, attention least i compromised for jointly,

you said you pple agreed that your share would be used to buy a property. he saw the Money as family money but you saw the other part as your share. both of you had the plan initially, you should have made the ownership a joint one

HEseesall:
He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

if he doesn't want it jointly, then you should let him be. both of you had ulterior motives from the onset

HEseesall:
I used my part of the money which is not wrong, i expected him to know that

what you did is very wrong. if you had told him you were going to use your name in the documents your marriage would not have lasted to this time. both of you had the plan to build a family house, what you should have done is put both of your names in the documents. women like you don't go into marriage with open mind. you expected what is happening now a long time ago through your actions. no man will take what you just did

HRHQueenPhil:
wow, dis is serious
1. invite ur pastor or someone he highly respects and a lawyer.

2. kneel down and beg him in their midst and ask d lawyer 2 change it 2 his name.( this is if u want peace}

now, if u are scared he would turn around and throw u out l8a,
1. call a lawyer and file for a divorce
2. sell d house, invest d money and move 2 a smaller house

It is well with u

she should not change it to his name but to both of their names since both of them planned and worked towards achieving it. anything both partners work towards achieving in a marriage regardless of who invested more should be in the name of both partners.

justjeff:
he is not a gentleman. I just wonder what action he will take if it's in his name. In marriage what belongs to you also belongs to him. I feel your pain but don't change the name. At most let it be joint. He will regret his actions. Just stay cool and talk less. Silence is golden

forget that gentle man talk. she did wrong. sine both of them planned to build the house together, the documents is supposed to be having both of their names. That's betrayal na. if she built the house when she was still single then no problem but she said they planned it together. it na you discover that kind thing, you go vex pass the husband sef. anything jointly owned or jointly planned in a marriage should have both partner's names - whether it's bought by the man or the woman

if free and fair election cannot be guaranteed in Nigeria, then there's no hope for the country. INEC is one of the problem plaguing this nation. I will not be surprised if buhari has a Landslide victory in his second term bid.

If what happened to gej has already happened to him, then it may be hard for him to cruise to victory. How can card reader fail to verify a governorship aspirant? Hmm, something may be happening in the background o!

GoTV:
What is the big deal in surrendering lands to save lives? I think this is the best deal we can get from this government if we want this crisis to end. As Christians, the Bible encourages us to be our brothers keeper and love our neighbors as ourselves. Now it's time to practice what we preach. Let's allow the Fulani Herdsmen to have lands and we will enjoy peace. Beef and milk will also be cheaper if cattle rearing is in every community.

This is the dumbest reply to a post I've read in a long time. Are you saying that government cannot guarantee the safety of her citizens until they give out their ancestral lands to their oppressors? Look, even though you be ardent APC suppotter, no be everything dem de defend. This misyarn by the presidency is indefensible. what's the guarantee that the the communities will be spared after giving out their lands? I beg support failed APC with sense!

lilmax:
we have learnt why ighalo should be used in 89 minutes

starting ighalo and iwobi is one of the reasons why we lose our first match. it became so obvious when both of them were brought into this match.

guterKerl:
Sad. This guy can eat for Africa. Rest on.

And why are they all dying by suicide?

because they lack one very important personality in their lives - Jesus Christ. money and fame can't give anyone satisfaction and real peace and joy in life: only christ can

blakid:
Speak for yourself woman, if this stupid man is our current president, then Nigeria would have been in economic recession COMA with no hope of recuperating. Mind you, i'm not a suppoter of Buhari's Administration, but he has atleast given us something to rely on "HOPE".

I don't like gej because he didn't do anything for us ( Niger Delta) but guy, you're not facing reality. aside the corruption and the chibok and Boko Haram conspiracies that he ignorantly fell into, his govt was the most positive govt in recent day Nigeria. he had direction and those he appointed were people that had an understanding of what they were doing. nigeria would have gone further positively if he had been given a second chance.

stop comparing someone with a stagnant and retrogressing mindset ( buhari), surrounded by mediocres(his ministers) with someone that is very progressive (gej). the difference dey very clear!

DaBullIT:
I wonder if court would take that to account cos nobody will testify on her behalf




I understand your anger , but Hot oil will be hungrying them haba why ??


When the news broke , she was alleged to have took up the knife to defend herself from an ongoing abuse and mistakingly stabbed his neck , along the village of Jugular vein


As stated earlier those who are saying they will support and stand as her witness are playing with her emotions, People don't do that in Nigeria , they simply come up with excuses or vanish when the time comes , However doesn't matter if she presents Jesus as healthy witness in court

She is going to jail for Man slaughtering instead of Capital one murder

them they stab neck by mistake? see analogy! if to say na d man stab d woman before, e for no be mistake, as na the other way now, na mistake?
Dem testify say d man used to beat the woman black and blue, on the said date d man was stabbed mistakenly like you said, was the woman looking black and blue in the pictures you saw?

imam07:
The wife is lying. Your husband can't pinned you down and at the same time be able to stab him. This is always what a murderous woman will say. She is defending herself my foot. She must have stabbed him when the husband was doing nothing.

bro, let's assume the husband actually pinned her down like she claimed. the question we are supposed to be asking should be where was she pinned down? even if she was pinned down in the kitchen, how did the knife get to the floor? was the husband strangling her that she had to resort to stabbing as the only way of freeing herself from him?

most people are saying if it was a developed country, she would have been let off the hook. story! not after her claim had been verified and serious investigation had been carried out. sometimes, sentiment they block our reasoning!

coolh3ad:
Why are you talking like this na (at the bolded)..If you are pinned down and you have a knife nearby and you can reach the knife, won't you pick the knife?

how did the knife got near by? was she pinned down in the kitchen? was she pinned standing or on the floor? are there any physical bruises in the body of the lady you saw on the picture?

bro, I'm not doubting her story o, but there are things she hasn't said. when something of this nature occurs, you cook up something that will justify your action.

hi, this Steemit stuff is it real?

BleSSedMee:
Thanks Jadyclem. No one knows it all.

What I meant by 'fix this ish' is that if she had been receiving child support from the ex, this call out wouldn't have been made.

I got you point. I hail!

BleSSedMee:
Alimony could a fixed this ish.
Nigeria should upgrade on this.


I feel for you madam. It ain't easy.

what could alimony had fixed? the right word should be child support. child support would not have fixed it, but it would have reduced d financial burdens of d children up keep on her.

I know say naija we like copy copy a lot, make we know Watin we dey wish for o!

ENG1110:
I quite agree with you. Contrary to the OP's opinion, alimony from observation actually promote divorce. When you can get half the man's asset, and still be getting monthly pay, it encourages divorce. However, i am in support of child support. I have a friend whose parents divorced, and both remarried, and the kids were left on their own. Child support would have helped them.

alimony for naija go turn marriage to business venture. the reduction in marriage rate will be child's play if there's anything like alimony in naija. guys go dey see marriage dey run. beside, I can't marry u and pay a huge bride price and u'll still be entitled to half of my property should you decide to leave d marriage. e no go fit work!

victorian:
I never said all the women in Nigeria are helpless and weak and at the same time there are weak helpless women, also there are strong self reliant women out there.

Am talking about protecting the rights of a weak woman who unfortunately become entangled with a terrible man in sheep clothing in marriage . Such women should be protected if thrown out of their homes or abandoned with children to cater for.

A man cannot just go Scot free, use a weak woman, leave her with children and take another wife. He should be made to make provisions for the kids, they both had together, when the going was good and especially if he earns more than her.

Or if she is just an housewife Immediately they got Married. Whereas she was working somewhere, taking care of her bills single-handedly before this so called knight in shining armour, strolled in with his sweet words. And most annoying part is convincing her to drop her job or close her business to become his wife at home.

Such women must be compensated and their kids provided for by the husband who feels he has seen a better love elsewhere.

Some men can be so convincing in their seemingly sweet promises and innocent smile masking the opposite of what he's putting on, that even the devil will shudder in excitement and wonder .

I understood your point but compensating the woman is not d issue, d issue is making provision for d kids.

any woman dat decides to be a full time house wife with nothing to fend for herself in dis modern world is on a very long thing o. it's women dat see men as their only source of meal ticket in d event of a break up that are actually stranded. women dat av something doing don't go through much stress during such times.
if provision is made for d children after such break up, d said weak woman won't go through much stress. so child support is d way to go and they should make d law in such a way that it will favour only those that are legally married so baby mama go reduce small.

victorian:
This Society sef

Op it's a good idea but trust me, it won't be enforced in the law.

Nigeria is where helpless weak women or ladies are used and dumped. From the grassroot to the top level. It's that bad.

helpless women in what sense? who said a woman can't av her own dreams and aspirations and work to earn good money for herself? alimony is not helping d American society in any way so it will do more harm Dan good in the African society. you don even check d meaning of alimony sef? child support no bad, but alimony, divorce rate for naija go pass America own d moment Dem implement something like dat

I can't even believe that you even used USA as an example. how has alimony helped to sustain marriages in USA? Bros do ur study well u'll discover day alimony is not helping d us marriage and family system because most women are leaving their marriages for flimsy reasons because of alimony. also, girls are getting pregnant any how because they want to squeeze out moni from men. if u say child support, den no much wahala, but most Nigerian men still take care of their kids o, na d irresponsible ones na Dem dey run away from their responsibilities.

XhosaNostra:
We're similar lol. But the only reason I keep my distance is because every time I see them, it reawakens the same old feelings of hurt, anger etc. There're a number of people I still dislike for something they did YEARS ago. A handful of them are relatives. One of them blamed me for something I didn't do when I was either 5 or 6. I still haven't forgiven that

If there're kids involved it'd be very hard because really, I prefer to have nothing to do with someone that hurt me. I'd try to be cordial, but he'd never set foot inside where I live. He'd stand outside rain or sunshine, I don't care. After the kids reach adulthood, the "friendship" is over & so is any form of communication.

forgiveness is not for the benefit of the other person, but for your own benefit. the more you store ills of what pple have done to you in your heart, d less space u'll have in your heart to accommodate the good things of life. learn to forgive others their wrong towards you regardless of how great the wrong may seem and you'll find yourself enjoying life the more. I hail!

Bimpe29:
That has been my concern as well, no credible alternative. What a moment in the political history of Nigeria?

Who said there's no credible alternative? even if there is no credible alternative, no other candidate coming out in 2019 will perform as woefully as buhari. If his first term is such a disaster even when he knows dat he would still ask for your vote, just imagine how his second term will be like when he will no longer be needing ur vote. Buhari should not even be a consideration let alone an option

are these pple talking because Buhari is from d north or what? How can such a monumental failure be regarded as the best option? It's just so obvious that Nigeria is finished. If GEJ, even with d visible projects he had on ground was not considered an option, how much more someone with nothing visible on ground and an increased national debt be considered as not just an option but d best option. mehn, Nigeria is really finished!

sweerychick:
Can't live with such an a$$ . Every one is entitled to his /her own secret. Even my dad doesn't go through my mums phone

there is no privacy in marriage. anybody dat is looking for privacy should Neva bother getting married. beside, what is she hiding from her partner?

johnstar:
African mentality

How we go take make money


Na money i dey find i no dey fear anything like death or whatever sh1t




I broke send me money

bro money is good, but the prosperity of your soul is much more important. beside, all of us go die leave the money, women and possession one day to go face the real life. but your ticket to gaining access into that real life is "Jesus Christ". do you know him? if you do know him, have you received him into your life and living for him? our time here is just for a moment, so use yours wisely. I hail!

KushyKush:
So the purpose of creation is to throw us in hell?

Mtchewwww....

No, the purpose of creation is to make you live a wonderful life on earth in Christ Jesus and spend eternity with Christ in heaven when you leave this earth. just that, you have to live by God's standard if you want to enjoy this great life.
God does not send anyone to heaven or hell, he has only set the standard to make heaven and enjoy eternity with him. so the choice is yours. whether you make heaven or hell, it's your choice to make.

hopefulLandlord:
Christians don't believe in hell. Not really. If they did, they would all be childless.

If someone told me there was even a 5% or 10% chance any child I had would endure 50 years of unrelenting suffering with no cure and no relief, I would undergo castration. These people claim to believe that their god would torture people for eternity for not saying the correct magic words, and yet they produce children who stand the risk of heading to hell. Bullshit. Deep down they know it's a lie.

bro, God does not send anyone to hell or heaven, it's people's actions that do. God had only set the requirements to be with him in heaven and it's left for man to follow God's requirements or not. he doesn't force anyone.
anybody that goes to hell or heaven is as a result of the person's action. Government will not sentence anyone to prison or firing squad if they had not acted against it's laws. that's how it is with God. acting against God's laws means that you've made up your mind to receive the punishment for such action. remain blessed!

cyrilamx:
Ijaws re mere Propaganda militants and never make the mistake of dignifying them with warrior-status. Kidnapping and vandalising pipeline is not synonymous with real combat. Don't come here and tell me they fought the Nigerian state and won...that is fallacy, if not for economic interest those smeagul like creatures can't even stand a day of military might. So go tell your fear story to kids not one whose lineage produce real warriors whose memory still related today. Militancy is not the synonym of war. The Edo nation beget several tribes in South south as far as OBA in Rivers state...before ijaws mount the keyboards like starved rodents again to type trash, let them wash their back....

bro, I'm not talking about militancy, I'm talking about the warri crisis that God used ibori to settle. my family and I were caught in the middle of it, my elder brother was kidnapped etc. If you had seen the weapons those ijaw boys were having then, u go know say crisis or war no be watin person they wish for. So many people close to us losed their lives and loved ones. The experience was really bad! I'm not talking out of fear but from experience, beside man no go fit carry family run again. We no want crisis. Just saying!

braimeddy:
Wow! This is real good news to the omoku people. They will now have rest of mind.


If don wanny and his members can be caught and killed, why is boko haram that difficult? For many yrs they have been terrorizing dis country. This really show that some big politicians have their hands in it.

boko haram is now a business venture to the Nigerian army and some top politicians. D more it exists the money dat will be pumped into the military and d more d army ogas will smile to d bank. So boko haram is here to stay unless there's a determined leader that wants it to end