₦airaland Forum

GOFRONT:
Why is it that the pressure to get married is more on the ladies side than the guyz side??

pressure to get married is on both ladies and guys. I heard my neighbour telling his eldest son that she wants grand babies and he should go and get a wife. Bro, if you know the kind of pressure on guys to get married en, you won't be saying this. in my church, the single guys are always been told to go get a wife so that they can be responsible. N.a. both sides the pressure dey o! Though guys don't show their own like the ladies.

Are all the ladies dating more than one man married? Some people are so naive in their thinking!

Did president Buhari wrote waec when he was 70+ years? How come the passport looks old? My waec result has the very passport that was in my waec id card during the exams. This doesn't seem genuine. If waec could give president buhari an attestation copy of his result, why did they wait till this time? Hmm, naija I hail th we!

Which one come be " God fearing baby mama" again? Nigerians will not kill somebody o!

Colourich:
There is a probability that the man will use you for sugar mummy things, then in turn spend the money on the woman he love.

that can only happen if the man doesn't love you. that's why you should look carefully before giving your heart to someone else. do you know that some women are codedly the bread winners in their homes and outside people hardly know about it because of the sort of relationship they have with their partners? though is not a good situation for a man to be in but it's very possible for the woman to be the rich one and they'll still live peacefully and lovingly

the man said Nigeria may not have stable power in 5yrs. am I the only one that did not understand the statement? has there been any time that we've ever had stable power? he said it as if we've been enjoying stable power ever since. stable power indeed!

Ejimagift:
Are Muslims not the majority in Nigeria? Are Christians up to Muslims in number? What is bad if Buhari appoints the majority in his cabinet?

Muslim are majority in your dream. keep dreaming en! so political appointment is now given based on religious affiliation en? how Nigeria wan take move forward with this type of people around?

Demure1:
Yes they had plans but he went and used his money to build a house for his family like the doesn't have parents too abi?.

if she wasn't cool with how he was going to spend his, she should have show objected. but she accepted and seem cool with. didn't you heard her say that they both planned for the house and built it together?

bro, in marriage, whatever you are not cool with, you let your partner know and both of you trash it. sincerely, only very few men will accept what she did. such action has a very negative message it passes to the other partner.

HEseesall:
When he told me he wants to use his share for his parents, we agreed my share would be used for get a property then we start to build from there and that's what i did, i expected he knows i would use my name cos i keep the documents, now he is saying he wants his own name only not jointly, who says that pls, attention least i compromised for jointly,

you said you pple agreed that your share would be used to buy a property. he saw the Money as family money but you saw the other part as your share. both of you had the plan initially, you should have made the ownership a joint one

HEseesall:
He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

if he doesn't want it jointly, then you should let him be. both of you had ulterior motives from the onset

HEseesall:
I used my part of the money which is not wrong, i expected him to know that

what you did is very wrong. if you had told him you were going to use your name in the documents your marriage would not have lasted to this time. both of you had the plan to build a family house, what you should have done is put both of your names in the documents. women like you don't go into marriage with open mind. you expected what is happening now a long time ago through your actions. no man will take what you just did

HRHQueenPhil:
wow, dis is serious
1. invite ur pastor or someone he highly respects and a lawyer.

2. kneel down and beg him in their midst and ask d lawyer 2 change it 2 his name.( this is if u want peace}

now, if u are scared he would turn around and throw u out l8a,
1. call a lawyer and file for a divorce
2. sell d house, invest d money and move 2 a smaller house

It is well with u

she should not change it to his name but to both of their names since both of them planned and worked towards achieving it. anything both partners work towards achieving in a marriage regardless of who invested more should be in the name of both partners.

justjeff:
he is not a gentleman. I just wonder what action he will take if it's in his name. In marriage what belongs to you also belongs to him. I feel your pain but don't change the name. At most let it be joint. He will regret his actions. Just stay cool and talk less. Silence is golden

forget that gentle man talk. she did wrong. sine both of them planned to build the house together, the documents is supposed to be having both of their names. That's betrayal na. if she built the house when she was still single then no problem but she said they planned it together. it na you discover that kind thing, you go vex pass the husband sef. anything jointly owned or jointly planned in a marriage should have both partner's names - whether it's bought by the man or the woman

if free and fair election cannot be guaranteed in Nigeria, then there's no hope for the country. INEC is one of the problem plaguing this nation. I will not be surprised if buhari has a Landslide victory in his second term bid.

If what happened to gej has already happened to him, then it may be hard for him to cruise to victory. How can card reader fail to verify a governorship aspirant? Hmm, something may be happening in the background o!

GoTV:
What is the big deal in surrendering lands to save lives? I think this is the best deal we can get from this government if we want this crisis to end. As Christians, the Bible encourages us to be our brothers keeper and love our neighbors as ourselves. Now it's time to practice what we preach. Let's allow the Fulani Herdsmen to have lands and we will enjoy peace. Beef and milk will also be cheaper if cattle rearing is in every community.

This is the dumbest reply to a post I've read in a long time. Are you saying that government cannot guarantee the safety of her citizens until they give out their ancestral lands to their oppressors? Look, even though you be ardent APC suppotter, no be everything dem de defend. This misyarn by the presidency is indefensible. what's the guarantee that the the communities will be spared after giving out their lands? I beg support failed APC with sense!

lilmax:
we have learnt why ighalo should be used in 89 minutes

starting ighalo and iwobi is one of the reasons why we lose our first match. it became so obvious when both of them were brought into this match.

guterKerl:
Sad. This guy can eat for Africa. Rest on.

And why are they all dying by suicide?

because they lack one very important personality in their lives - Jesus Christ. money and fame can't give anyone satisfaction and real peace and joy in life: only christ can

blakid:
Speak for yourself woman, if this stupid man is our current president, then Nigeria would have been in economic recession COMA with no hope of recuperating. Mind you, i'm not a suppoter of Buhari's Administration, but he has atleast given us something to rely on "HOPE".

I don't like gej because he didn't do anything for us ( Niger Delta) but guy, you're not facing reality. aside the corruption and the chibok and Boko Haram conspiracies that he ignorantly fell into, his govt was the most positive govt in recent day Nigeria. he had direction and those he appointed were people that had an understanding of what they were doing. nigeria would have gone further positively if he had been given a second chance.

stop comparing someone with a stagnant and retrogressing mindset ( buhari), surrounded by mediocres(his ministers) with someone that is very progressive (gej). the difference dey very clear!

DaBullIT:
I wonder if court would take that to account cos nobody will testify on her behalf




I understand your anger , but Hot oil will be hungrying them haba why ??


When the news broke , she was alleged to have took up the knife to defend herself from an ongoing abuse and mistakingly stabbed his neck , along the village of Jugular vein


As stated earlier those who are saying they will support and stand as her witness are playing with her emotions, People don't do that in Nigeria , they simply come up with excuses or vanish when the time comes , However doesn't matter if she presents Jesus as healthy witness in court

She is going to jail for Man slaughtering instead of Capital one murder

them they stab neck by mistake? see analogy! if to say na d man stab d woman before, e for no be mistake, as na the other way now, na mistake?
Dem testify say d man used to beat the woman black and blue, on the said date d man was stabbed mistakenly like you said, was the woman looking black and blue in the pictures you saw?

imam07:
The wife is lying. Your husband can't pinned you down and at the same time be able to stab him. This is always what a murderous woman will say. She is defending herself my foot. She must have stabbed him when the husband was doing nothing.

bro, let's assume the husband actually pinned her down like she claimed. the question we are supposed to be asking should be where was she pinned down? even if she was pinned down in the kitchen, how did the knife get to the floor? was the husband strangling her that she had to resort to stabbing as the only way of freeing herself from him?

most people are saying if it was a developed country, she would have been let off the hook. story! not after her claim had been verified and serious investigation had been carried out. sometimes, sentiment they block our reasoning!

coolh3ad:
Why are you talking like this na (at the bolded)..If you are pinned down and you have a knife nearby and you can reach the knife, won't you pick the knife?

how did the knife got near by? was she pinned down in the kitchen? was she pinned standing or on the floor? are there any physical bruises in the body of the lady you saw on the picture?

bro, I'm not doubting her story o, but there are things she hasn't said. when something of this nature occurs, you cook up something that will justify your action.

hi, this Steemit stuff is it real?

BleSSedMee:
Thanks Jadyclem. No one knows it all.

What I meant by 'fix this ish' is that if she had been receiving child support from the ex, this call out wouldn't have been made.

I got you point. I hail!

BleSSedMee:
Alimony could a fixed this ish.
Nigeria should upgrade on this.


I feel for you madam. It ain't easy.

what could alimony had fixed? the right word should be child support. child support would not have fixed it, but it would have reduced d financial burdens of d children up keep on her.

I know say naija we like copy copy a lot, make we know Watin we dey wish for o!

ENG1110:
I quite agree with you. Contrary to the OP's opinion, alimony from observation actually promote divorce. When you can get half the man's asset, and still be getting monthly pay, it encourages divorce. However, i am in support of child support. I have a friend whose parents divorced, and both remarried, and the kids were left on their own. Child support would have helped them.

alimony for naija go turn marriage to business venture. the reduction in marriage rate will be child's play if there's anything like alimony in naija. guys go dey see marriage dey run. beside, I can't marry u and pay a huge bride price and u'll still be entitled to half of my property should you decide to leave d marriage. e no go fit work!

victorian:
I never said all the women in Nigeria are helpless and weak and at the same time there are weak helpless women, also there are strong self reliant women out there.

Am talking about protecting the rights of a weak woman who unfortunately become entangled with a terrible man in sheep clothing in marriage . Such women should be protected if thrown out of their homes or abandoned with children to cater for.

A man cannot just go Scot free, use a weak woman, leave her with children and take another wife. He should be made to make provisions for the kids, they both had together, when the going was good and especially if he earns more than her.

Or if she is just an housewife Immediately they got Married. Whereas she was working somewhere, taking care of her bills single-handedly before this so called knight in shining armour, strolled in with his sweet words. And most annoying part is convincing her to drop her job or close her business to become his wife at home.

Such women must be compensated and their kids provided for by the husband who feels he has seen a better love elsewhere.

Some men can be so convincing in their seemingly sweet promises and innocent smile masking the opposite of what he's putting on, that even the devil will shudder in excitement and wonder .

I understood your point but compensating the woman is not d issue, d issue is making provision for d kids.

any woman dat decides to be a full time house wife with nothing to fend for herself in dis modern world is on a very long thing o. it's women dat see men as their only source of meal ticket in d event of a break up that are actually stranded. women dat av something doing don't go through much stress during such times.
if provision is made for d children after such break up, d said weak woman won't go through much stress. so child support is d way to go and they should make d law in such a way that it will favour only those that are legally married so baby mama go reduce small.

victorian:
This Society sef

Op it's a good idea but trust me, it won't be enforced in the law.

Nigeria is where helpless weak women or ladies are used and dumped. From the grassroot to the top level. It's that bad.

helpless women in what sense? who said a woman can't av her own dreams and aspirations and work to earn good money for herself? alimony is not helping d American society in any way so it will do more harm Dan good in the African society. you don even check d meaning of alimony sef? child support no bad, but alimony, divorce rate for naija go pass America own d moment Dem implement something like dat

I can't even believe that you even used USA as an example. how has alimony helped to sustain marriages in USA? Bros do ur study well u'll discover day alimony is not helping d us marriage and family system because most women are leaving their marriages for flimsy reasons because of alimony. also, girls are getting pregnant any how because they want to squeeze out moni from men. if u say child support, den no much wahala, but most Nigerian men still take care of their kids o, na d irresponsible ones na Dem dey run away from their responsibilities.

XhosaNostra:
We're similar lol. But the only reason I keep my distance is because every time I see them, it reawakens the same old feelings of hurt, anger etc. There're a number of people I still dislike for something they did YEARS ago. A handful of them are relatives. One of them blamed me for something I didn't do when I was either 5 or 6. I still haven't forgiven that

If there're kids involved it'd be very hard because really, I prefer to have nothing to do with someone that hurt me. I'd try to be cordial, but he'd never set foot inside where I live. He'd stand outside rain or sunshine, I don't care. After the kids reach adulthood, the "friendship" is over & so is any form of communication.

forgiveness is not for the benefit of the other person, but for your own benefit. the more you store ills of what pple have done to you in your heart, d less space u'll have in your heart to accommodate the good things of life. learn to forgive others their wrong towards you regardless of how great the wrong may seem and you'll find yourself enjoying life the more. I hail!

Bimpe29:
That has been my concern as well, no credible alternative. What a moment in the political history of Nigeria?

Who said there's no credible alternative? even if there is no credible alternative, no other candidate coming out in 2019 will perform as woefully as buhari. If his first term is such a disaster even when he knows dat he would still ask for your vote, just imagine how his second term will be like when he will no longer be needing ur vote. Buhari should not even be a consideration let alone an option

are these pple talking because Buhari is from d north or what? How can such a monumental failure be regarded as the best option? It's just so obvious that Nigeria is finished. If GEJ, even with d visible projects he had on ground was not considered an option, how much more someone with nothing visible on ground and an increased national debt be considered as not just an option but d best option. mehn, Nigeria is really finished!