Liveagain:
I opened this new account few days ago for the purpose of this thread but I was reluctant to start the thread. I am a member of this forum since 2009 and I have a very visible action here.
I am sending this message to all Nairalanders as an SOS. I am desperately in need of your help now.
Since I left my last job in January 2015, I have not been able to get any job since then. My wife had been shouldering the financial responsibilities of the family until Feb this year when she lost her job. Things went so bad for us because this happened amidst a live threatening illness where she spent 21 days in the hospital (Odan in Lagos)

I have been trying to get a job but all odds are against me. I am in my early 40s, and I have OND. Most jobs required BSC and in probably around 30years of age.
2 weeks ago I decided to go for a very low paying job (I don’t know how much they want to pay but I am targeting 40k. At least I will be able to pay NEPA bill and other small expenses and barbing.

I was overqualified for the job and I blew the mind of the owner of the job away during demonstration but the man still did not give me the job. He later told the person that linked me to him that he will be feeling somehow to command someone of my caliber as we are almost around the same age.

Amidst this I remembered that I have an illness which is the genesis of my problem. I spent all my life savings between 2006 and 2012 on this illness until all my savings finished.
The illness is not as severe as it used to be in the past but it can still affect my ability. There are few days that the illness can come unexpectedly and I may not be able to go out for a whole day.

When I remember this, I feel reluctant to look for a job again and since 2 weeks now, I have decided to learn how to drive keke napep (Maruwa). I have been going to their pack almost every day to get someone who can teach me. It had been another story since I don’t have money to give to them but I am very optimistic that I will get someone.

Here is where I need your help. I need someone or a group that can buy a Keke for me. At 250k, I can get a used keke that is in a good condition /shape. Based on one of the business experts on this forum, I will prefer the used one as far as it is in a good shape
Please help me out if you can. Please give me another chance to live again.
Things are so bad that I can’t walk in to barber shop anyhow. I was supposed to barb 3 days ago but I still have the hair on me causing uncomfortable. I use to calculate when Nepa will come and run away so that they can sort it out before I come back.
I can’t even eat at home with confidence again because I am ashamed that my wife is the one struggling. I joined her to setup a small shop for her but the income cannot even sustain our domestic need alone. I live my life in fears every day. My problem starts on Sunday night when I know that I don’t have any place to go on Monday.
Nobody cooks anything like meat or fish in my house again.

Please Nairalanders, I beg you in the name of God.
If you have a keke that you can give me, I will take even if I will have to pay back based on agreement.
But I don’t want new keke even though I like and prefer it. This is because the payment plan may be difficult for me since I am considering my health challenge which may factor in and disrupt my operation sometimes even though few.

I am even nairaland basic to post this because I do not have money for data subscription.

Please I am opened to encouragements, advices as well as your help.
If you are willing to help me as a person please let me know what you will need from me. If you want more about me, any confirmation, enquiry, investigation, please let me know.
Please save my soul.

meet family memeber or friend or join church DAT u can be a worker dey help.am sorry for u

u mean fountain of stupidity crauckhouse

crackhaus:

I don't like it either.

its enuf. see how I ignore d other one she want to run. mad. just stop d insult please shes a person I respect. she cant be right all d time

I got lot of property will build my house soon but nothing can ever make me put my wife name.were am sweating my mum sacrifice a lot yet one woman will claim it later.a woman DAT can cheat.my baby comes first. imalma. u cant tell me to forget family cos am married

ImaIma1:


I don't understand. So where is my house? I remember our vows ehn. You will just be mad for nothing.

dont mistake my word pls. is dis attitude DAT cause problem in a family. so bossy.we know it is ur own but dont put it DAT way please.ur hubby can still sell his house or do wat he want wit it without ur permission. DAT house belong to ur baby more Dan u

1Sharon:


When Christians are given a taste of their medicine..they start calling for respect

Hypocrites

u will face pains in hell why did u hate christains

crackhaus:

Shut your trap.
Who are you and what is your attention worth in ariaria market?

Do you call your own SILs dogs?
Simple question and you busy eating your shít.

be matured u can say ur point witout insult. I dont like how ur speaking to her pls.stop bro

ImaIma1:


What's the difference? My husband's house is my house.

I respect u a lot dont let me get mad at u

ImaIma1:


You won't understand this. You are the brother in this situation and nothing your sisters do will be seen as bad.

The Op's husband needs to balance the relationship from both sides. His sisters will treat his wife the way he treats her. When a wife comes into a family, some family members tend to see her as an I trader that has come to disrupt their family. It is the husband's job to integrate her into the family and protect her when necessary.

I am saying this from what I have seen. I have three SILs and my Older sister has 4 SILs but no issues. Everyone knows their boundaries. You cannot come into my house and assert authority and I won't go into yours to do same.

Family members are not meant to interfere or have a say in their son's/daughter's marriage.

ur house or ur hubby house

dangotesmummy:
yen yen yen yen yen


And that's why you had to carry your smelling self with your lousy opinion into my mention.now for the last time, swerve

Eri nkan na

going about fighting evrybidy is sign of frustration wich day u go get swnce? if u no see hubby marry den u no see who to fucck too. cos na lack of sex dey do u for body.

Fountainofyouth:



You are the "no man" I presume.

DAT why I said no man cos all u talk is rubbish and insult.see how u attack all DAT didnt agree to ur word is DAT maturity? how u will be as a wife show when ur a single girl

Mimzyy:
Where did I say he was removed ?

Yoruba beauty how are u complement of d season.merry Christmas and a happy new yeae

cococandy:
Really? I’ve not seen this one that has a color to it.

Might be tastier than the one I tried

gosh coco if I have a Christmas wish is to eat ur food

Fountainofyouth:
What a manboy your husband is, how can his sisters have so much influence on him? Not even his mother? SMH!!! Ignore all of them, you don't need anyone's validation to exist in life, not even your husband, if he continues to side his sisters, pretend he doesn't exist and focus on your children.

u are too immatured in d way u talk and seem to have a bad character no man will marry u like dis unless u changed

Anifaza:
Please pardon me for using a new moniker as I am quite known here.

Friends and family, I really need your sincere and matured input on this matter.

  I have been married for over 10 years with 4 kids. My hubby is a great guy save for this area that we will never agree.
 
 
    I have sisters-in-law who have vowed never to give me peace despite all my efforts to give peace a chance.  Most of them are all older than him and sort of influences his decision that affects my marriage greatly.

    From the beginning, it has been if I am in their good books, my marriage will work and I will be happy, then if not, reverse will be the case.

  My husband has refused to see all their manipulations and always tell me that he grew up with them and so he is indebted to them. I have never tried to cause a separation between them but they usually see me as an intruder to their unity.

   For these 10 years plus, it has always been the issue,  I have begged, used gifts,  apologised ,sought for forgiveness from them  for sins I have not committed just for peace to reign yet, the next problem will be bigger than the previous.

    Some are married while some are not. The worst that affect me most is the married ones with children.

   Now, they all don't talk to me and this is affecting my marriage. Hubby gives me cold shoulders, no sex asking me to mend the relationship with his sisters  of which I am fed up with the whole thing and I don't want to beg again.
   My mind is made up that everyone should stay on their own. Hubby is the only male, seems to be the only one doing well  and parents are no more
  Please what do I do?

Mods front page please for more inputs.

ur hubby is doing well and u want him for ur self alone dats wrong

akinjojo1234:


How come you only follow ladies. I just checked your profile and it looks very sad. You are a perfect example of what we call an ASSLICKER and a SISSY BOY

are u an animal u say u Neva attack me in my blogs den wat is dis? I blog for my friend yet you came jumping as a monkey to insult me.thurnder fire u dere

TonyeBarcanista:

That's unnecessary bruh

DAT wat u think until ur woman cheat on u.didnt u see on fp the woman DAT gum her boyfriend

dis is so sweet and make me want to cry. marriage and love is sweet. God help me cos my is just 5 months marriage. I wish to get to be with bae for 75 years

pocohantas:
Egusi soup and chicken stew.

Egusi soup contains periwinkles, canda, goat meat and stock fish. I have a new obsession for periwinkles.

Coco, you see why I said I feel like a grown woman. I have dried bitterleaf too

I blended my bitterleaf to very tiny bits. I hate to see strands of bitter leaf. Maybe I am alone.

gush I Neva know u are a good Cook d stew with meat and egusi soup look so yummy.ur guy is enjoying

subtlemee:
Nigerians and lawlessness ....they'll start attacking this governor because he's not allowing them to live like mad people

u beta shot ur mouth u think is easy. as he seize d bus how will he survived? if he turn to arm robber and cause us pains.why dont dey just fine him

my wife cant try DAT she know me . not in dis life or next can try DAT. any man DAT let his wife slap him is not a man.op u are not a man just go buy menstral pad as u don turn woman finish

Amarabae:
Jakandeola xup you

babygirl am fine dear.how the family, and ur baby.

dangotesmummy:
ori e ope.... stupid thing..na you give me data buy? something wey them suppose use do menses.omo lasan ikeji aja

And to think this illiterate doesn't even know the difference between YOU AND "U". Doesn't know when to use SHUT and SHOT, doesn't know how to spell YOUR


Go back and learn how to write properly,then you can trade words with me but till then run along

Meanwhile

Who even dashed it jakandeola.you ought to be jakandeoriburuku...awon eyan gidi lonje jakandeola,kin shey awon oloriburuku bitie

smiles I wont insult u. we are friends in the room but u choosed to keep dis stupid attitude. frustration of loneliness as year end no love or marriage

shege45:
Cow
When men do like women it gets irritating, how can a man with balls open a thread for this rubbish. I’m sure if u had a job u won’t do this

I think u are an animal come I will employ ur genaration

Ralpdee123:


I won't go that gutter way with you cos that's where you're from.

am sorry u are not a man yet u still have a baby brain.am very angry as I read ur story. why let ur woman control u like DAT? I agree is good u didnt spoil DAT first belle but why marry her wen u are not rich enuf still in skool.why train her in skool and in catering skool wen her father didnt do DAT how can u get wife DAT refuse to wash for u or didnt cook for u. can u be a man and dicipline her.if u beat once or twice she wont do DAT rubbish again.if u dump her now wat will happen to ur kids.I think u have to be hard on her now so she change.

Houseofglam7:
I didn't read the part where you actually got married!!!
Am I missing something here

Anyways, I have absolutely nothing to tell ya.
Fix your life

u and amanee u lack sence if u cant advise him get lost

cococandy bukatyne yettymuse rosieluv ahnie safarigirl eketem canadianNaija sisisioge rosalieene eyinjuege tonyebarcanista iamj

geniusbond:
How does one put magun to work

I dont know u meet a babalawo

BluntBoy:


I am a mathematician; I value representational figures.

10% of those who don't know is as significant to me as the 90% who may know that a woman is married and yet go ahead to have a romantic relationship with her.

We can't just throw away that 10% who don't know.

I think no one should use magun on their wives.

did u see in fp d woman DAT magun catch

ekitimanalways:

Why would I attack you? What does czarina rosalieen antibrutus mean?

I blog about magun u didnt belive me u saw in fp the woman DAT gum her boyfriend

akinjojo1234:
It must be a black man. Zero sense. You steal and then publicly display the ill gotten wealth.

d next time u attack me in my blogs u will regret it wen I use bad words on u.

JaceBlaze:
LOL...

south animal did u cure ur hiv