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booqee:
exactly! That is why babyosisi and some other medical workers strongly suggested going abroad (India to be precise) or UCH which is still ok compared to the general healthcare system in Nigeria.

Going abroad might be the best option but it involves a lot of coordination that you guys aren't taking into account.
The urgent need is for him to be stabilized then next steps can be ironed out in parallel

Seun:
Ok, I don't know marcjane but I know chaircover. I will try to find chaircover's posts on this thread. It takes a lot of time to sift through.

what exactly are you looking for?
There are two physical confirmation that the case is genuine
Chaircover who is a member of TeHN instructed her 80 year old retired Healthcare professional mum to help confirm the case after which we officially announce the confirmation on this thread.

The case is genuine and you shouldn't try and divert the attention/focus of the thread Mr

UjSizzle:
I know that. How many people do?
I'm just saying, I know what it's like having the world at your feet because people think you're beautiful. It's easy to think it will always be that way, that it will never change.
If people stopped celebrating beauty, or making women think that's all that really matters, then maybe we'll stop having people like the OP complain about the same old thing all the time.
Don't teach someone to live a specific lifestyle and then punish them when they act it out.

UjSizzle:
Lol tell me where you're lost

Beauty is a depreciating asset #Fact
Beauty can only take you so far but your intellectual ability is boundless #Fact

UjSizzle:
You spend a lot of time hammering about fading beauty, yet most of what we do is teach women that to be beautiful means to own the world.
And then, when they act the script that has been handed to them, we turn around and try to 'school' them out of it.

How does this work again?

Can we please move the discussion away from this thread.
We don't want it locked


Regards

luluosas:
I wish the OP quick recovery.

However, I am pissed off with Seun and every other Admins on Nairaland here, who are responsible for putting threads on the front page.
This man posted on 23rd October, 2014, begged the Admins to please put his news on the front page at least to attract sympathy and concern, which he desperately needed at the time. Two days later, 25th October, a sister confirmed the brother's sick state and yet nothing was done by the Admins to put the news on front page.

It took Seun and however is responsible for putting threads on front page 16 whole days to do so, 23rd October to 8th November. Haba! This is too bad na. What if any other thing had happened since? Please you people responsible for this should adjust.

Meanwhile, if it is those useless celebrities make up, naked dresses and their shameless acts that was posted about, quick quick they will make front page. Seun this is not too good.
Thank you.

It's unreasonable to expect every single cry for help thread to graze the FP. These cases if and when alerted usually go through rigorous verification process so as to protect funds donated as well as ensure donations are used for the intended purpose.
Hindsight is very easy to stress but please let's apply some sort of reason to the case at hand

You want to commit suicide because you can't find a job?

Nna mehn na real wa

So what happens if you actually get that 500k and it doesn't work out, are you still going to result back to the suicide option?

Your situation is obviously not as serious as you want us to believe if you can afford the luxury of being online.

Now listen and listen good. We all go through challenges in life and nothing comes easy. Stop going for all the nonsensical prayers and your degree is only worthy on paper. Nothing stops you from starting small until you get that dream job

solomonslones:
December is around the corner, have plans been concluded or its still being worked on?

when can one start donating?

We have started receiving donations Sir
Please indicate your interest on this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/1935512/tehn-calling-all-givers-hlp

Kind Regards

CHoccolaTE:
No. Not at all. But men are far more willing to spend on girls in real life than they are willing to admit. Especially if she is fine. The finer she is, the more they spend; even without her asking. So what's with the online pretense?

Yes you are right but that's because they choose to not because it's the girl's God given right to demand such

CHoccolaTE:
Majority of men are just noise makers and braggarts. Take what they say seriously at your own peril . People that can wash their gf clothes and sponsor her recharge card bills from 100 to 400 level will come online and be forming no-nonsense hard guys. Abegii.

Should relationships be about that though?
Do you think being in relationship is enough reason to be indebted to someone at that stage of one's life?

freecocoa:
In all honesty, yes I would be disappointed and take it that, the friend never had my best interest at heart because I don't see the sense in refusing to help someone you can for no reason.

Do you feel you are entitled to that help though because you can't truly know if the friend was capable of helping

UjSizzle:
Uhhh I'd say boyfriends are tilted more towards the husband axis, than friends.

There goes the main crux of the problem.
A relationship is something you can easily get into and out of as you so wish
A legal union isn't, so priviledges and rights in both are greatly different as they should

Most young people get their knickers twisted because they simply misunderstand that simple fact. A bf is never going to be responsible for you, that job is reserved for your husband

UjSizzle:
Remind mw again why people bother going into relationships of that nature again?
All I ever heard by way of reason was how the other provides "support". Well, people want different kinds of support, ranging from emotional to sexual to financial. How is that not interdependence?

Your view point is obviously broad as we all would have had to depend on someone to survive this world

However, we are looking at it from a couple's stand point. Support is different from reliance and support has an element of choice to it.
To rely on someone means you are dependent on the person hence why there are laws that protect the interest of either partiy in a legal union

freecocoa:
I'm not talking about shameless, jobless beggars my sister, I used firstEva's case as an instance(although I don't know if she's jobless sha) but I'm talking strong, smart, hardworking sister reaching out to her man who is more than capable to help when you need it who in turn might also need help one time or another, ofcourse it doesn't have to be an everyday affair.

The way people go about this stuff makes it look like it's a taboo, hence this thread.

Lemme ask you this question cocoa:
Would your level of disappointment be on the high side if an equally capable friend of yours decide against helping you.

Remember your bf is techically only your friend and as such shouldn't be expected to do things just because you spend a lil more of your time with them

UjSizzle:
Yup. Bf/Gf.

So how then do they have to rely on the other for the relationship to succeed

UjSizzle:
What's that?

Dimensions of your curve gggrrrrhhhhh

UjSizzle:
Why does a woman have to be independent in a relationship, when relationships are all about interdependence?

We are still talking about gf/bf type of relationships right?

UjSizzle:
Biko what arc?

Your parabola

I see you caracta

UjSizzle:
Hmm I didn't know we had so many dictionaries on Nairaland o

How do you define an independent woman, when no one is really 'independent'?

In the context of relationships miss independent

UjSizzle:
Lol what a reason!
If na for curves maybe I'll contest next year

What's your arc like?

freecocoa:
Please understand my stance so we don't get it twisted, I'm not talking about girls/ladies who feel dating a man is a job opportunity, I'm talking, hardworking ladies who genuinely need help(like every other person) once in a while and can get it from her man, she shouldn't even have to ask as far as the man can see she's in need before he decides to help.

This lady can get around without needing a car. That's not a genuine need because she is only tempted as a direct result of the dude procuring an extra car.

What happens if he lends her the car and it gets stolen
Or the car gets written off
Or he suddenly decides he wants his car back after the girl must have been paiting the town red with the car

An independent woman is simply a determined selfless woman with true values.

freecocoa:
Jaybee please when you are in a relationship, what happens in it? It is an unwritten rule oga mi.

I don't have a problem with giving when not asked or using initiative when it's glaringly obvious.
However, i do have a problem when a gf feels it's her entitlement just because she is dating me.

freecocoa:
Ofcourse she can get her own transportation but in a situation where she couldn't afford it and her man coild help to make it easier for her, then she is entitled to the help, otherwise why waste time with a heartless and selfish person? Can we be realistic and stop trying to dance around this?

If you were in need and know for sure that your partner can help but wouldn't, what would you think/do?

How is she entitled to receiving help from a bf?
You are making it seem like it's mandatory

lefulefu:
so u mean to tell me say if ur babe threaten to leave u for another guy just because u say no to the money wey she ask u go still bold to refuse her request?

Don't you think she had get use to that threat if i gave in the first time it was made?
Fact is, someone staying with you just because of what they can get is obviously not with you for the right reasons. You are better off without them

LaurelP:
U cud make ur point without being insultive bro

Apologies but try and focus on the message

Nothing stops you from saying No though

Absolutely nothing wrong in owning up to the fact that you simply can't afford it.

You should never do things that you aren't comfortable with

Yes some Nigerian girls have the spirit of entitlement embedded in them but that doesn't stop you from losing control of your basic common sense