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Lovethlovesmike:
I understand your point, but in OP's defense (because I'm in a similar situation), there are more serious guys out there willing to commit and have already made their intentions to settle down, known to me from the get-go without my "entertainment". Maybe that's why she refers to them as "suitors". Thing is, it's not easy to jump from one relationship to the other especially when you're already in a drama-free relationship with a great deal of understanding. My own issue is that he's slow as a snail!! I keep dropping men out of my life when I'm not even sure where this relationship may end up.

OP, sorry I took over your thread, somewhat.

Do you have some sort of commitment wanted banner attached to your sexy cheeks or how else do these serious guys know you aren't already in a committed relationship?
What exactly does commitment mean to you, is it until he gives you that ring that makes him commited?

So he is a slow snail compared to the other men you dropped out of your life. Do you realise you create more emotional problems for yourself when you start introducing comparative analysis spirit into your relationship?

You don't need me to tell you to move on If your ambition is to get married and he isn't down with that

Mynd44:
She might just enjoy his company and enjoy hanging out with him, that does not necessarily mean she wants to date him na.

Obviously i was expecting them to state the terms of engagement from the onset

Don't go asking her to be your friend if what you really want is for her to be your gyal

All these issues of light variation stems from the fact that teenagers are too timid to state their intentions as well as being too rigid to accept rejections as a part of dating phenomena

agabaI23:
Makes what acceptable? He who lives in a glass house should not throw stones.

Na real wa for you i sweat down.
Didn't they just repatriate or in the process of repatriating yet another discovered stollen funds by this same dude's father?
It's simply not acceptable

Exjoker:
This green light thing is so confusing. We should always look at it properly before jumping into conclusion. You don't wanna get embarrass right?...Good job op

It seems confusing because you made it so.
Why don't you let the dynamics of relationships play out seamlessly as they should instead of turning yourself into a traffic light detector.

A girl that wants you will always want to be around you. #endoff!

ferhyntorlah:
Babymama, Aisha & Efe, tuale to you sexy Mrs! I enjoyed your posts. Please keep it coming.

This is for Aisha: please can you open a diary here (family section) narrating your experiences in your past relationships before you had the AWAKENING to leave and how you met your "hot" husband and all the pleasant dramas that happened. I'm on my e-knees begging you to do this.

I used to think you were way advanced in marriage (like 8-10 years) till you mentioned debrief. I think you are still in your "honeymoon" years (I mean 3-4 yrs in marriage). If I am wrong with my assumptions, I apologise. Please open that diary and save some lives! Thanks!

I believe when a man meets the woman he wants to spend his life with, he WON'T waste time. Some know within a day of meeting her; some a week; some a few weeks and for some 3-6 months but when it spans to years, that one is a serious matter.

A man that wants you won't waste time at all. Infact, you will be the one telling him to wait a bit and take it slow. Some men are just time and destiny delayers and wasters.

Okay let me get this straight, how will her personal experiences help define/shape your present or future relationship?
Don't you understand that dynamics of relationships are different in every sense you can think of
As adults, we should know the difference between right from wrong and hopefully that understanding should help shape your destiny

evegran:
Right! Agreed.
I did say "looking on the bright side" duh!?

How can their possibly be a bright side in a terrible act?
Do you even realise the magnitude of the effect of these terrible acts on the victims?

evegran:
Well, looking on the bright side in a terrible negative situation- you gotta be really smart to pull this off. Hes smart!

I hope he gets a befitting punishment.

Ain't nothing smart about these heinous crimes when most victims are vulnerable and/or gullible

agabaI23:
Your saint Buhari exonerated his father of all wrong doing saying Abacha was no corrupt. How you see am?

That makes it acceptable right?

1,8 and 10

How much?

Oh yeah love Dr Mynd on a roll

Your dating game simply has to be on point before you can confidently interpret whatever signals you have coming from your date

It's actually very easy to read our Naija sisters

^^^^
Are you a pastor?

Reference:
I see. Then what about my brothers from across the Nigeria who have stayed, payed and relayed their entire lives in Lagos. Will they get a shot without changing their names to Yoruba ones or will they be delayed.

Good question

Dude must have watched too much porn to enable him exert his demonic skills on you the unsuspecting prey.

I would have love to see the look on your face at the sight of the magical 300% mandigo size increase

Why is it your problem though?

aisha2:
True the emotional blackmail is unnecessary, you don't beed 5 suitors to make a man decide to marry you. If I were him I would also call your bluff no be by force.
Girls should stop using this and the " I get belle methods ' just setting yourself up for failure

Exactly my point.
It's not like she is being forced to remain in the relationship.
If you aren't fulfilled in your relationship then get stepping. Absolutely no point waiting for a man to change his mind especially when his reluctance has nothing to do with lack of finance

Sorry?

Are you trying to force his hands by having 5 suitors?

Is this some sort of competition or what as i just can't understand why you had be entertaining other men to the extent that they had be upgraded to suitors whilst being in a serious relationship.

There is absolutely nothing wrong in having an ambition to marry at a certain age, so please break up with your present bf if he isn't up to the task already instead of playing russian roulette with matters of the heart

Oloshi ni Jona yi sha

30ammy:
Number 6 though

Number 1 fit you though

Na joke oooo.... No send thunder come this end ooo

oweniwe:
Am not suprised its mostly the ladies who are strongly shouting and screaming the poor shouldnt have kids....

You people talk as if its only men that are poor & broke while all women are millionaires..... A gal ask her guy for N5,000 to fix her hair, he say he doesnt have 5k.... The same gal who doesnt even have N200 in her purse will start running mouth that her boyfriend is a "broke guy"....

They're focusing on the "poor men".... Poor men should not marry & have kids... As if na men dey carry belle and born pickin.... Poor men should not have sex.... If all poor men refuse to have sex because they are poor, who will service poor women who are "on heat"? Its only rich guys that should be "servicing" both rich and poor women If that is the case, then all rich families will "scatter" cos of rich men "infidelity".... I dont know wat exactly naija gals problem be.... They want a man to stay with them alone, yet say poor men shouldnt have sex.... Wo.... By the time ur so called "rich husband" give 2 house gals belle, give 3 sexy cleaners belle again, and keep a string of 5 hawker "service & go" concunbine, na una same rich gals go open mouth begin beg poor guys make den start f¤orking poor women..... Nor be today Naija gals be hypocrites..

Its not even about the men... Its you women.... Women, whether rich or poor, are programmed to bear children, if a woman whether a lowly house gal or rich king daughter cannot have children, we all know the kinda tears she will cry.... If a rich woman is married to a impotent rich man, wont she sharply look for a "hunky labourer" to make her pregnant??

Naija gals be like, money doesnt matter, love is what matters.... But here, they're all condemming poor men.... Mike Adenuga, was he born a rich man? Goodluck Jonathan, Cosmos Maduka, even DBanj was once a security man... Are people born rich?? Wealth is not fixed. You can be a billionaire today and be begger tomorrow... David Beckham's father was a scavenger... The fact that a man is rich today doesnt mean he cant be poor tommorow and vice versa..... If a rich man with kids become poor, he should kill his children cos he's now a poor man?

Naija gals.... Na only rich man they wan marry.... Smh.... Later they will be running mouth that husbands are scarce .....!!...

O'boy no to dey vex na

UjSizzle:
So no.5 is her partners' fault then.

What number or combination of numbers are you?

It's obviously unrealistic to expect any government to receive ticks on all agreed KPI's. A failed government is one with low aggregate score on measurements set for tracking the KPI's.

Matthewbriggs:
Now for people like you in the diaspora, your perception of success is defined by the media what you read on blogs on online platform ... that is susceptible to all propaganda devices especially card stacking ...

Not necessarily bro except you feel results of positive measures are only ever restricted within the boundaries of the entity called Nigeria.

Matthewbriggs:
This statement is a very good example of Testimonial/accusation propaganda device in action.

Objectively Jonathan has failed in some area and succeed in other areas. Whether he has failed Nigerians as a whole or not is a very subjective topic ... Because success is subjective. An answer to that question will be determined by the 2015 polls.

Success isn't really subjective in terms of governance bro.

There is a reason why Governments/Institutions have KPI's/Targets bro

Which out of the key KPI would you give GEJ a pass mark?

UjSizzle:


For some strange reason I'm actually enjoying this banter.

You too like that thing... Choi

tsmith:
I know a young man I introduced to nairaland, very brilliant with good results both GCSEs n initial jamb, but no means to further his education. He's driven and hustling to survive, I feel people like him would benefits and should qualify for this.

Ask him to apply for the TNRI scholarship.

https://www.nairaland.com/1842604/tehn-calling-all-school-leavers

Make i run go check the criteria as per i must win this...
Nothing dey happen

Abeg love letter go work?

See gobe

An absolute stat for total missed shot is somewhat meaningless. What's his efficiency rate compared to the other greats?

UjSizzle:


Because you're my sweetheart

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Thanks ever so much

cococandy:
the first beat down I gave you on this forum had you scrambling for mercy. You we're practically begging me to go easy on you because your behavior is a result of the chip you you grew up with on your shoulder.
You felt you just have to show aggression and forced confidence to mask your victim complex.

I really felt bad for you thinking you'd learned your lessons. Apparently old habits die hard.
I will soon pummel your asss back in line.