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GudPpleG8Nation:
I'm typing this with heavy burden in heart. I'm getting crazy and weeping.

I met this lady over 6 years ago during my higher institution days, she was a fresher while I'm in my semi final year in school. Things were going well, we had sex after two years of the relationship(I'm the one that disvirgin her).

I have been very caring, stood by her and also,I let go of any ladies that comes my way. I didn't want anything that will stain the relationship. That doesn't mean I'm perfect however I have been trying my best to make her feel comfortable, loved and happy.

I started feeling comfortable and worried about my future with her because I discovered that anytime we had a misunderstanding, before you know it she has find a guy she will be dirty chatting with. She always say she's doing that to hurt my feelings.

I proposed last year, met her mum and one of her uncle and introduced her to my parents officially. Presently, waiting for her extended family to send the list for the traditional marriage.

I traveled to Ibadan on Friday to spend the weekend with her, on Sunday I just took her phone to watch movie when a Whatsapp message, I checked it and I replied the message. The guy called her, she was reluctant to pick the phone, she picked and spoke with the guy. After which the guy messaged her on Whatsapp that he called to confirm she's the one chatting with him and not her bf. I play along and started chatting with the guy. The guy was telling her to come visit him, I started twisting the guy and he was splitting out how he won't touch her when she comes. I confronted my girl, it took her over 8 hours to confessed that they had sex.

Jesus! This is a lady I invested a lot on, build my world around, every other ladies are shit in my presence. Even when I had 1000 of reasons to let go, I still stay with her but right now my world is shattered, I'm going crazy.
I need help because I'm dying, where will I start from (I'm 30 years old). Every negative thought of this world is running through my mind (from committing suicide to killing the guy to making the girl useless to herself for the rest of her life)

yinkeys:
I hate the iron fists style of leadership because no one is perfect but I’ve observed if you let most women to feel totally free with you and give them power they’d always abuse it, disrespect you, distort the natural order of families in the universe (God - Man - Woman - Children) and destroy the family union long term
No wonder Arab men don’t take BS from their women
Look at how gynocentric led America is leading to degeneracy, baby mamas crisis all over and drug addictions in large numbers
Most of my North American acquaintances are battling with one hard drug addiction or the other
Our society is gradually copying the west
One has to be firm and very strict with their woman
There’s a saying; women are children, get coddled by the society and don’t really see the world for what it is (dangerous, difficult and harsh)
A lot of them live in Disney fairy world
Women don’t have to self improve and develop mentally to start/keep a family compared to men
So one has to be strict by saving them from themselves
When left to their own tools, they destroy everything (societies in particular)
Better take charge of your life before you get used like the Eve and Delilah story
Choose smart decisions over feelings
There’s so much study on this online already
When you’re not a monster but sometimes must dictate with iron fists
End that relationship, that girl wants to continue with who.redom else you’d regret it long term
The girl doesn’t respect him & is showing signs of a chronic manipulator
Until he gets HIV
Don’t invest in rubbish pump and dump materials
There are good women but you’d have to search thoroughly
Exceptions don’t make the rule
@Mysteriousworld

Themanleshey:
I see ,

Help us to list the companies that have come to invest in Nigeria amid economic hardship.

wunmi590:


How many times do you want to post this on front page...

Mod, kindly remove it

Antoeni:
Was There Any prophecies About his Death From Our Washing & Setting Pastors ?

TemplarLandry:
Great move!

Gbajuę geng won't like this.

I dedicate “Final Answer” by BNXN feat. Popcaan to them.
Great jam!

babaYIBO:
Just saw a thread where a guy is complaining about his friend not telling him about the fact that he was building his house, and I see a lot of comments complaining condemning the said friend.

https://www.nairaland.com/7892469/he-completed-house-without-uttering

Funny how people exact same thing happened to me last year, this time it wasn’t a from a friend but a blood sister who I thought loved me the way I do for her.

This woman was building her house while pretending to everyone that she was broke.

Funniest thing is, few weeks to moving to us getting to know about the house, she was asking me to lend her 300k as she has plenty debts to pay. Almost sent her 100k, but then I remembered how she prefers to party with her women associates more than she’s willing to buy anything for my parents. This is someone that my dad built and opened shop for.

If a friend do this to me now, walahi I won’t be surprised.

Nice2023:
I remembered when they both toiled to see me through this difficult world,especially my dad who made sure me and my two brothers attended University and graduated.

Today,I decided to build this house for them and to make their remaining years on earth a fulfilled one.

Below are the pictures.

sylve11:
Generally, draw soup is not too good for human consumption.

MajorOvakporaye:
Wike is a murderer

3ice9ce:
Wike will reply these fools the appropriate way, the appropriate time at the appropriate place.

RealSean:
Please what's the usefulness of the plug you attached?

kkins25:
I remember my neighbor back in Naija; the community council was about to sell a nearby land and were re-measuring lands in the area, including ours and my neighbor. Let's call her mama Gloria. Mama Gloria, is a widow with two daughters.

when the community folks came, every house hold men had come out to defend their land, except, of course, mama Gloria. She came out to defend herself, but, she was a woman amongst men. At the end of the day, they took a little portion of Mama Gloria's land, claiming that she had built into the land next to her.

Later that evening, I heard Mama Gloria tending to her backyard farm speaking to herself, mostly grumbling. The words that made ingrained that day into my head was "it's because I don't have husband."

If you live in a society where traditions of old are still clinged to and you're a woman, a man will be your greatest asset. LIke most other women, mama Gloria was employed and was able to single-handedly raise her two daughters through school and even higher education. She was also a farmer, who managed several plots of land worth of farm produce. She was not an average woman, even then, as aggressive as she had become, in the presence of aggressive men, she was still shut down.

Ladies in the city have no clue what women in the rural areas go through, and therefore cannot fathom why women desperately want to cling to their fvcking abusive husbands. It's either that or homelessness and shame.

In today's society, Nigerian society, where women earn 77% less than men, men still hold all the bargaining power. So, what do men bring to the table is a ridiculous question to ask you man, knowing he's most likey way more richer than you.

I think we make the mistake of using western society's data to analyse our situation which is a gross misrepresentation of relationship dynamics.

dangermouse:
One thing to talk another thing is to take action.

Actions speaks louder than words.

Insecurity needs be eradicated ASAP in Nigeria. Long overdue.

ishowdotgmail:
Under Tinubu watch, Nigeria will be great soon!!!

The citizens too shall continue to prosper and see happiness

festacman:
Looks like scatter gun approach at the moment. There is so much lack of direction in governance.

6 months after swearing in, so many travels with large delegation NO clear economic plan to revitalize the ailing economy. Huge disappointment.

grandstar:
Why do many of you make such insane comments! This isn't the first time fighter jets have been used to attack bandits. There has been at least 2 other occasions.

The problem is that the firepower of these fighter jets is simply too much and is unaporopriate to be used in situations such as these.

To deal with bandits or better still, marauder bands as this are what these criminals really are, special forces will be the best.

This will heavily reduce the risk of collateral damage. Also, these bandits tend to have hostages they hold to discourage attacks from government forces.

If Nigeria was like some countries, if carpetbombing entire villages and settlements would mean an end to the bandits, all well and good.

I am just letting you know the reality

CoronaVirusPro:
Fvck Israel!

FreeStuffsNG:
Great!! Absolutely brilliant and realistic!

With petrol subsidy gone, importation of petrol gone and era of using our hard-earned forex to defend overvalued USD on the streets gone, amongst many other rent-seeking monetary and fiscal policies gradually being vanquished by your team of brilliant, hardworking, competent and patriotic members.

The creative ingenuity of a patriotic Nigerian will being unleashed.

The naysayers, unpatriotic elements, criminal defamers and cyberbullies will neither see it nor benefit from the benefits of all these progress.

God bless President Bola Tinubu. God bless Nigeria for ever! Check my signature for free stuffs!

Faiththatworks:
There are some issues that are way beyond some people's understanding.
There's this person up there with the Moniker,iamAtikulate who's really mixing up issues.
His incessant justification of bantering figures and comparing it especially as it to relates to development in Anambra state and the whole Igbo states with their southern counterparts especially Yoruba states is a bit perplexing.
Let me try to educate this individual so he stops this comparison.
Figures are used to show you activities that may be less visible to the naked eyes.
The truth about the internal generated revenue posted shows the total aggregate of activities going on in any locality.
You only tax returns on revenue,that is why it's called internally generated revenue.
The individual made a lot of assertions that I find very strange, trading goods and services will never generate revenue for any serious minded government.
I give an example,if the amount of money exchanged in Onitsha is 1billion every month,the state government is obliged to collect a fraction of the sales generated as taxes ,these taxes will probably be around 5%,which is 50 million.
Now compare that to a state like Ogun state,which has an industrial hub like Agabara,any company which generates 1 billion a month will mostly likely cough up to 15% of it's revenue in taxes and permits.
In essence,100000 people will end up generating 50 million for Anambra state while less than 10000 individuals will end up generating 3 times what's generated In Anambra in Ogun state.
But I end by saying this to imatikulate, whatever figures you are seeing will very soon become child's play in the next 2 years.
Lagos and Ogun state will witness massive exponential growth In their revenue when the Dangote Refinery starts production.
I'm very very sure Lagos will most likely double it's revenue while Ogun will have around 300-400billion.
You should be more concerned about what the Igbo governors will do with the natural resources God has bequeathed to them especially in the area of gas.
God bless Nigeria

FreeStuffsNG:
Smh. Uncouth and insolent as usual.

Check the number of openings in UNILAG and compare to those other schools and you'll get it.

Most of the brilliant lecturers will jump at the opportunity to join the faculty in UNILAG. If you attend such top schools, you should be familiar with such trend that they pull more talents for obvious reasons.

FreeStuffsNG:
It's those small universities that will be affected badly because some of their great lecturers will use the opportunity to move to prestigious universities with openings.

Incidentally, this is not new thing. The only difference between then and now is that we now have a lot of tertiary institutions. Check my signature for free stuffs!

CoronaVirusPro:
Fvck you too!

Dittodat:
I love red snapperfish. It's one of my favorite types of sih to eat any day anytime.
This one is not the real Red Snapper, though, this one is also from the Red Snapper family but not the real thing. The real ones are usually from the Gulf Coast of Florida and the Caribbean. They tend to be more reddish in color.

This looks more like Mangrove Snapper fish.

Dennisochampa:
... First of all, I don't care who you are so let's not bring the..... U don't know who you're chatting with into this issue because u sef nor know me.....
Secondly, with all the English wen u speak, I still did not see where you mentioned a 3rd world country that was transformed by a newly elected president, less than a year after entering office...
And then, buhari couldn't change Nigeria in 8 years and you blame tinubu for it?
Lastly, if u get sense as I think before, u would have seen where I stated that even if u no need the money, u can refer someone who does..... But your hatred for tinubu and bitterness that obi didn't win the election won't allow you see reasons and think clearly...
Wail from now until you die.... Obi will never rule 9ja.....
No matter how much u and all other urchins wail reach for nairaland, tinubu will complete his tenure...
Didn't your father teach you not to wail over things you can't change or control?
First it was that tinubu forged certificate.... Secondly he rigged election.... Then he changed his name... Now you all want him to change Nigeria in a year... The Peter obi all of you are supporting.... Did he change anambra to become a fully developed place all the time he was governor?
U dey here dey say I nor know who I dey talk to....
Oga, even if u be major for army or u be Joe Biden twin..... Na for your pocket..... I don't care as long as u don't feed me or pay my bills....
If u mend me... I go mend u... If u fvck with me... I will fcvk u a million times over... No caps!!

Dennisochampa:
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Quick way to make some cool money sir....
I promise a 100k immediately if you can show me a single 3rd world country in the world that was transformed in a year after a new president assumed power...
Please provide your response with facts and drop your account details with it if you wish of that of any other person you please just incase the money is too small for you....
I'm not saying obi and atiku are to blame for Nigeria woes....
All I'm saying is that.... Even if they emerged winners.... Non of them would have made university education free....
Non of them would have given free fuel to Nigerians...
Non of them would have been able to transform Nigeria to become like London in less than a year...
We are all hating on tinubu because our preferred candidates didn't emerge as winners....

Dennisochampa:
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Let me agree with you that tinubu is not capable of turning the fortunes of 9ja around....
So who is? Peter obi that couldn't transform anambra during his tenure or atiku that almost privatized Nigeria during his tenure as customs boss and vp??
Who please??

Dennisochampa:
Stupid hoebi fans won't see all the good things that this administration is doing right...
Na only the wrong ones them deh see....
Stupid fvkers....
As if say if hoebi become president, e go transform 9ja in 24hrs...
E no fit transform anambra.. Na 9ja e Wan transform....
Dumb fvckerz