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A man with no girlfriend or wife can sleep that way except in early hours when healthy preeks dey always be in discomforting situations.

Also, a man with numerous sidechicks even if he has bad woman at home can sleep in that position.

"Relationship someone has been building from scratch, you wait until it's time to roof it before you strike.

And you think God will not punish you?"

Lord have mercy. 😄

Iberibeism taken to its apogee.

Everyone who boils hot water is now a chef and wants to be Guinness book of records.

Well, it's better than BBNaija.

There's nothing wrong with what did.

As a matter of fact, he did the right thing.

If the story is exactly as it is told here, then I won't blame her much for feeding her children by every means necessary.

The issue now is that I'm struggling to believe it was done solely in the interest of her family's needs.

Bullman:
I'm not in Nigeria at the moment, but truth is nothing go ever join me with a Nigerian lady for relationship matter..
When you date a woman outside the shores of Nigeria, you will realize you have been living in bondage with naija barnys.

In matters relating to finance which they now call billing, yes you may be right but there are also grey areas in dating foreign ladies.

Nothing beats dating or marrying someone you share same original cultures and original values with.

Some of our ladies are not that bad in my opinion. It depends on who you meet, how, where you meet her and why she accepts to date or marry you.

These questions hold the key to everything about dating Nigerian ladies.

Bullman:
You are in a toxic relationship

Hian, wetin come toxic for his relationship kwa?😄

Just like we play the role of fathers and counselors to the ladies, they play the role of mothers and advisers to some of us too.

I for example can be quite a handful and it takes a patient lady with some degree of motherly attitude to be in a relationship with me.

I'm not proud of it though, it's just background and circumstances. I'm steadily working on it too.

Nvestor02:
This is hilarious 😂 she no even let Hilda bacci enjoy his records before she move to break am.

Such is life tho. Anyway sha, I'm proud that Nigerians are putting theirself ahead in the world.

Really?

The "world" that Nigerians are ahead of, built airplanes, discovered cures for deadly illnesses and are currently doing several researches to better humanity but we Nigerians are ahead of them in cook a thon or whatever the name is.

Yea you're right, we Nigerians are ahead of the world.😕

Help buy him few bags of sand to continue his beatings.

I guess he misses that hence the cries.

Next topic please.

I don't know the lady, never heard of her and don't listen to her kind of music but if all you said about her is true, then she is on the right track.

Money is not everything. Sometimes, it's best to follow one's purpose in life than follow money. As long as what she makes from her "old school" style of music takes care of her needs, she is fine.

More money brings more problems and more confusions so please let the beautiful lady be.

Sometimes this money everyone struggles to accumulate becomes useless especially when we don't have much genuine need for it or someone to pass it on to.😔

US police would shoot the asshole to death immediately, who get time to chase him.

They always go about committing atrocities making it hard for genuine refugees to be accepted and be treated without raised eyelids.

I hope they hang him upside down and tie his preek to a pole before charging him court.😕

izubext007:
this news s to inspire other women to do shit ..... men, let's forbid them. our wives will not do this no matter what.

I agree with you sir. But still check to see if your wife's handwriting dey there just in case. 😄

Their horsebands fit dey here for nairaland dey argue over Tinubu and Peter Obi.

This life eeh.😄

Bethuel2022:
Please get your facts right. I knew he wasn't doing okay financially when I met him, but he talked like someone who had purpose so I gave in. He was good, extremely good then that's why I said I was naive when I met him. If not for nativity, I should have known it was a smokescreen because nobody can be that good. I was a teacher when we got married, and I took care of all my personal bills and some household bills. He once told me I was prudent when we were dating. I thought it was a compliment, but now I know better. I am not complaining for myself. If it was me alone, I could do it without a care, but caring for a child is expensive and I have been doing this all alone. I paid for my antenatal alone.
I could easily get a teaching job as a graduate, and before you know it, home lessons, come in and I am fine. I don't need millions of naira. My sole problem is the child. Where will I drop him for the whole day. I can't afford day care. See, if I had a good job, and could hold the family, I could easily do that while he figures out what to do with his life, for instance learn a tech skill. My major problem is, judging from his antecedents, it's not a risk I am willing to take, so I want to hear other opinions.

You don't need other opinions before taking a decision since "going back to him is not a risk you're willing to take."

Marrying you and worst of it all having a baby when he didn't have serious means of income is something I call fraud and you're right in whatever decision you decide to take.

You sound pretty smart so he either genuinely misses you and wants you back or he is just missing his meal ticket.

It's up to you to accept him back if you think there's a frantic effort by him to turn around his current shishiless status.

If you do accept him back, you're a great soul and if you decide not to, you're still a great soul but one that simply don't tolerate rubbish.

Shalom.

BuddhaPalm:
“So we brought it in here to show them what the aircraft will look like."

U don mean it?

The bolded shock me.😄

cococandy:
I’d bet she already did all that and anymore of it would actually be considered nagging.

If she had done that then I believe she has done her due diligence which will help her deal with guilt if it comes up any time later.

The ball is in her court now.

Whatever decision she intends to take, I hope she not only considers herself but her kids as well.

cococandy:
So what’s the solution? Yes I agree divorcing him is her choice. No one can make that choice for her.

But in the meantime what should she do?


We all have issues to deal with but as soon as kids come into the equation, one has to buckle up and tough it out for them

I'm not in her shoes right now but if I were, I'd deal with his mental state first before dealing with him.

Encourage him in whatever way to talk about what bothers him, help him start over by encouraging him to start applying for jobs.

Do every thing on my own to help push him up without involving outsiders until I'msatisfied that I've done my best.

Some men don't like to be reported to their family members over every little thing, it will make them to shut you out and shut down completely.

cococandy:
Just know if you continue you will do everything by yourself until the end of your lives. He will never change and he will never take on your responsibilities seeing as you’re taking his. Instead he will consider it insulting if you ask him to. So you’ll end up married but single. Decide what you want

No no no, I disagree with this.

That man may be going through depression which makes him behave the way he does. The signs are there.

It's hard for a grown man to always be on bed when his mates are out there struggling. I think we are dealing with a man who has subtly given up on life due to frustrations necessitated by lack of job and money to take care of his family.

His kids are close to him meaning he is not a bad person, kids are sensitive. He can't be a bad husband or person and still be a good dad to the kids.

I did not read anywhere he is being accused of abuse in any form which means that all he needs is a heart to heart talk and someone he can share his frustrations with.

Divorcing him is her choice though.

ecolime:
A fool says in his heart, there is no God. I am not here to argue my restoration with anyone. It's meant to be a one-off post for those seeking the face of God because I am a living testimony.

My experience and research over the last 7 months is enough to tell me the difference between T1D & T2D. T2D can go into remission not T1D which is a non-reversible autoimmune disease according to science.

Peradventure, you have diabetes and you are still managing it, you are free to join my Facebook page being managed by a Diabetes educator now. Learn from it and keep managing your condition. It's my own CSR to the society.


https://www.facebook.com/healthyliving878

You quite know type1 is irreversible but yours was cured "miraculously".

Now you are advising me to join your facebook page if I have it to manage and not cure it with prayers like you. Why advise me to manage it when you can help with the cure or is my sin too bad that prayers can not cure me?😄

Oga you never had diabetes, you were prediabetic like many people and that can easily be corrected with healthy eating and living.

An acquaintance of mine has type1 and has lived with it since he was 12 or less. He has successfully managed it and is in his 50s now.

I also someone who has type2 in his 60s now. These are well to do people that have spent fortunes to manage their diabetes home and abroad.

Maybe I will direct them to you for help since someone you worship cures it for free. Why spend money on medications when you can help for free or do I tell them to keep tithe money for pocket just in case.😄

So the diabetes magically disappeared just like that and you said it's type1, not type2 right? I know type2 can be reversed but not type1.

I guess during your stay in the camp, you fasted as well. You probably ate less, had more water to drink and due to the amount of shouting, jumping, binding and casting you guys do during your usual dangerous prayers, you sweated a lot. Those can bring down your numbers for a while but don't be deceived.

Oga, you better keep an eye on your A1C and continue managing your diabetes until scientists and not religious leaders get a real cure for it. That is if you truly have the illness sef.

Call him isiokpukpu.

This is what a "church" should be like.

I thought your church was also a gathering of the elites until I looked for boiled eggs and didn't see it.

All the same, some churches abroad like Church or Christ and the Mormons have good doctrines too.

Congratulations momma.

Your baby girl looks lovely.

Lost mine recently in an incident that led to miscarriage and I haven't been more devastated in my life.

HacheNoire:
All because you want to marry, you want that entity called a man to stoop that low?

Leave his city to and go rent a house outside state just because he is searching for a wife, when the ladies are shaking booties at the club waiting for him to buy?

It’s easier said than done!

Well, he wanted a different breed of woman different from the ones that shake booties at clubs.

If it's not easy for him to stop to conquer, he should simply marry the ones available in his neighborhood mek everybody rest.

HacheNoire:
Pretend? You are telling a well to do chap to pretend? Even if he does, he can never per perfect with it.

Do a study of one of the most successful marriages you can find, they always started together from 0.

How do you want a man who nets 3m per month to pretend? He should wear rags and move out of his house to go live on the streets, just because he is looking for a soul mate?


The best time to find a soul mate is at your lowest!

People with real fortune still pretend to be paupers and you're here talking about someone who is earning 3m per month.

I will not encourage my daughter or my sister to marry a man who is in his lowest because I won't do that myself.

The best they can do is to stand by their men until they get back on their feet before having talks about marriage.

You can go to the city where your targeted lady resides in and rent a single room for one year. Furnish it averagely and stay there about two days every month just to host her in the apartment. Jump bike and keke whenever you are in the city. Court her for the one year and have a feel of who she really is before proposing marriage.

That you earn 3m/month can't stop you from living a low class life for a while just to achieve something.

Marriage ain't no joke.

HacheNoire:
This is where majority get it all wrong.

The best time to find a soul mate is when you at your lowest.

The moment you get that break, everything you talk to will say yes.

You can pretend to be at your lowest to see the true person you are in love with but please don't marry when you are at your lowest.

Financial stability is one of the greatest assets a man should have before talking about marriage to avoid poverty recycling.

richidinho:
Nigerians call for outright removal of sitting allowance, newspaper allowance, entertainment allowance and all other benefits of all the house members

Nonsense and ingredients, i dont blame una...

I blame the idiots that are supporting this anti people's policy

Touch what benefits them and watch how they will react

For the past 8years of Buhari, they never called for this, why?

They were busy supporting Buhari in all his policies and for once, they never called on him to remove subsidy on all petroleum products.

Are they doing the right thing now or just proving to be sycophants?

If the aunty dey young and come sweet pass my wife, the family don dash me sidechick be that.

What enter masquerade pocket dey hard to come out oo. Hmmm.

If you can't create wealth, you will likely not be able to manage one created by someone else.

I'm an only son and may have some handsome inheritance as well but I don't relax like you do.

I advise that you start creating your own wealth unless you want your family's wealth to end with your generation.

That gluttons eat too much na when they see free food. They tend to eat decently when they cook the food themselves.

Shalom.

Enter plane pay for business class now and you will understand that Nigeria is really a difficult place to live in.

When I look at married gate men and office cleaners who earn less than 50k, I wonder the miracle they do to feed their families everyday.

Person will leave house with almost 200k and come back with shallow pockets. It now takes a strong minded person not to be sharing money to financially challenged people around like father christmas.

If you're staying for up to 3weeks, be ready to spend at least a couple millions unless you give up your comfort and have the heart of stone to be able to overlook people's sufferings.

I sympathize with you but some parts of your story are unbelievable. The other side of the story needs to also be heard.

You said you're quiet and always let him decide on everything so I wonder why he beats you at every provocation.

He doesn't provide for you, that I can understand especially if he is a sadist but his daughter? I doubt that one for now until I hear his side of the story.

I've found out that abusive men are often married to troublesome women who make it easy for them to continue the physical abuse. The resultant effect of the abuse gets priority attention making it hard for anyone to think about the wives' attitudes that necessitate and fuel it.

Good wives frustrates abuse especially physical abuse and most times, what these abusive men do is to change or they start abusing other people beneath their societal status like subordinates at work places, family members, domestic servants, drivers, gate men including their mechanics just to keep their wickedness warm.

I hope you get the help you seek. I wish you lots of love and peace in your future endeavors.