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tosinhtml:
All of you are just funny, whether it is you o, another person or the OP. The case here is what is a 30 years old Abuja lady who is extroverted coping with being unemployed in FCT? This lady in question came down to Lagos to analyse her specimen(the OP) & she saw that he was not worth the catch. She has moved on to better options.

A clear red flag being white washed as open-minded

She is unemployed, fine but what if she has someone housing and bankrolling her there in Abuja, say a brother, a big sister, or parents?

I don't generalize and treat every lady as call girl until she gives me reasons to besides, my first comment laid emphasis on cage free but not wild lady.

My sister was very comfortable during her postgraduate days in Abuja because my mum and her then fiancee were stupidly bankrolling her lifestyle.

There was no way one wouldn't think she was dating politicians but I knew/know what my sister was/is capable of doing just like her fiancee now hubby knew too.

I can bet you that there may be more virgins in Abuja currently than in your village.

This man just messed Lai Mohammed up.

On Buhari and INEC, that's a knock out punch too. Buhari should have invested the billions wasted on the election in power sector and simply appoint a successor.

Peter is smart but he came in at a wrong time.

Nigerians are not ready for true leadership yet. They still see political leaders as chairman/boss/oga unlike in sane societies where a politician is seen as just another public servant.

henrimoto:
So if you were in his 👟, you would choose the first lady ...

If I were the one involved, the first lady might have acted differently towards me.

I'm not saying she is better than the second or vice versa but action begets reaction.

The same lady probably has someone she treats better now.

One thing is certain. She wouldn't have visited him and most importantly passed that sensitive comment to him if she was not interested.

Telling him that shows she is an open minded person and that's one character every man should go after in a woman, not someone that will call you 100 times everyday asking the same question of "you don chop?".

IyaTola:
If you decide to get married, make sure the woman is heal over head for you- anonymous 2023

All the heals over head for you as you said it can still fly away in a twinkle of an eye.

The extrovert lady may just be best for his type but he himself is not ready for marriage yet.

A man so down in socializing may measure up by getting entangled with an out of cage, free but not wild bird-woman.

After reading, I easily spotted the answer to your question and if you can't, sorry you are not ready for marriage yet.

Continue the dating process for now until you understand the meaning and consequences of entrusting your life to the hands of someone else other than a family member.

Only then should you start the talks about marriage.

Shalom.

eljp:
What about Nigeria?

In Nigeria, we don't subscribe to divorce. We are known to be very resilient.

Our wives have accepted to put their bad marriages and us their bad horsebands in the hands of God and pastors. They have accepted to endure both the emotional and physical abuse we subject them to just for peace to reign, after all, marriage is for better for worse.

Also, they don't consider leaving because kids are in the mix and some of them are not financially stable to be on their own. A condition we bad horsebands intentionally put them in sometimes.

On the other hand, we Nigerian horsebands who are married to bad wives have all agreed that having permanent seats in and staying late at beer parlors everyday help to reduce the high blood pressure associated with our bad marriages.

Why should I consider divorce when I can drink away my sorrows and go to bed each night.

Why should I consider divorce when I have sidechick who rights the wrongs of my bad wife by taking care of me every weekend.

Biko, nothing will separate me and my bad wife. We will continue to manage each other till one of us kill the other.

BusterG:
.....wife travelled for "a short 3 month training"

Hmmmm.

You will learn what you will learn, at the right time.😁

Stay safe.

What are you insinuating?😄

First of all, don't listen to anyone who will blame this on her pregnancy or hormonal imbalance.

She is a toxic woman. Psychological issues associated with pregnancy especially first pregnancy and your present financial situation only unearthed her true identity.

Marriage is for better for worse but most people don't ask their spouses the important question like what are your plans for our worse times?

Ask your spouse to tell you his or her real plans, not God forbid or God will not let us down.

Whenever a home becomes battlefield to the extent that fear and tension had set in, the marriage had better be another used to be to avoid deaths, regrets and incarcerations.

That's my candid advice which you are not obligated to take anyway.

Shalom.

If only you know how a brother dey hungry me now eeh.

I wish the old man's prick had scored away match-es, we would've gladly welcomed them with open arms by now.

My mum would be the first to welcome them because this her son here no dey hear word.

A second son would've given her grandkids at 20yrs old.

The more money one makes the problem he gets therefore ladies and gentlemen, I have decided to relocate to Pakistan.

Please how can I locate their embassy here in Cotonou?

Biko mek una helep son of man.

sisisioge:
Hmmmm....the flaw here? You didnt include the era they lived, their lifestyles , the environment and the foods they were exposed to. I'm sure the first few men mentioned there were from those days when kobo was still part of our currency, living in the green environment, eating fresh unprocessed foods and didnt have to worry about the hustle and bustle that is the norm in today's world.

A carpenter or tailor inside most of our cities in today's age now has the same lifespan with a professor in the same city. May God help our generation fa.

The carpenter will even die long before the professor sef.

When he dey put his measuring pencil for one ear and put cigarette for the other ear all day, why will he not die early.

Keep it cool sir and don't flinch at all.

They are cooking something and want you to make a wrong move and give them the justification they need urgently so don't oblige them.

When they are tired of their shenanigans, she will come back and only then will you react.

If her sins are unbearable, take your son back, and demand the brideprice you paid on head head.

I hate manipulative folks.

That goat meat pepper soup is so tempting.

Any woman that cook am for me go somehow hold my mumu remote for some time.

Lord have mercy.

Pa Osahon Igbinigie
Occupation; Farmer
Age: 98
Wife: 6
Children: 47
Grandchildren: 86
Cause of death: Old age

Pa Igbinedion Okunseri
Occupation: Carpenter
Age: 115
Wife: 11
Children: 56
Grandchildren: 132
Cause of death: Old Age.

Alhaji Hassan Tambawa
Occupation: Tailor
Age: 109
Wife: 4
Children: 38
Grandchildren: 73
Cause of death: Old Age

Dr Bernard Umukoro (Phd)
Occupation: Lecturer
Age: 56
Wife: 1
Children: 2
Grandchildren: 0
Cause of death: High Blood Pressure.

Samuel Olusegun
Occupation: Bank Manager
Age: 53
Wife: 1
Children; 3
Grandchildren; 0
Cause of death; BP, Sugar

Prof Akinluyi olabode
Occupation : lecturer
Age: 60
Wife: 1
Children : 3
Grand children : 1
Cause of Death : unknown. Just collapsed

Barr chucks Nnamdi
Occupation : An Advocate ( A company lawyer
Age : 48
Wife: 1
Children : 3
Grand children : none
Cause of death : Depression

Dr. Elvis Osezele
Occupation : Medical doctor
Age : 43
Wife: 1
Children : 2
Grand children : none
Cause of death : BP and low sugar

Mr.Mudiaga Unokan
Occupation : business
Age : 45
Wife :1
Children : 3
Grand children : none
Cause of death : fed up of life

Pa Roland kokori
Occupation : Retired teacher
Age : 92
Wife : 3
Children : 16
Grand children : 40
Great grand; 6
Still alive

Pa Jesuobo Edehi
Occupation: retired civil servant ( pensioner)
Age: 94
Wife : 2 official wives and one not married to him but has 3 Children
Children : 11
Grand children : 25
Cause of death : Old age

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wunmi590:


What did you do to that woman that makes her stubborn?

She can't just wake up one day and start displaying the attitude of stubbornness...

You're right to an extent.

If she hasn't been the stubborn type and suddenly becomes one, then there must be a trigger because when pushed to the wall, men fight back with fist while women fight back with bad attitude which includes stubbornness.

On the other hand, some people are naturally stubborn.

I'm not proud to say it but I was a stubborn kid and that stubbornness still show up once in a while especially when my mind is made up on something.

The best way to handle a stubborn person in my opinion is to give them a break. That way, you save yourself from being abusive especially physically and you also give them the time to ponder on their stubbornness.

What did my dad do me for being stubborn if not knack me belt. You wan knack your woman belt?

Why would he be ordered to stop and what right do the court, the women and other children have over how he decides to treat his sperm.

The young man should go for an appeal biko.

Before nko.

Na man who don chop belle full suppose practice polygamy and most royal families fall in that category.

Keke driver like me wey never feed one woman finish, why should I marry two or multiple wives?

This is why I go for sidekick. Na only when sidechick do her job, she suppose demand beauty maintenance fee. It's PAYE.

I wonder why people lend money when they are not money lenders.

Lending money to family and friends mostly end in quarrel so a sane person should know better and avoid it.

Help people with what you can afford to lose and if you must lend, lend with interest just like financial institutions and make it official by documenting it so that everybody go know say you don become money lender.

Rokiat:
There’s no where like home, but you wouldn’t know until you finally leave.

Its the same thing as a rich man telling you money is not everything and you don’t understand because you are actually poor and can’t afford basic necessities so your brain wouldn’t process it till you actually have money.

Home is wherever you make it.

It may surprise you that your ancestors came as migrants to the place you call home today. After settling, they made it their home which is why you enjoy it now. I'm not saying that is your case but we have such cases around us.

All of us are migrants in one way or the other so wherever we find ourselves, we should endeavor to make it a home. If not, one will continue to have issues.

What I miss about Nigeria today are my family members and sometimes the food I grew up with though I'm now used to intercontinental dishes.

What most Nigerians abroad miss about Naija aside family members and food, are just impunity and lawlessness in the country, nothing else.

I will just be full of suspicion if she serves me food like this.

Infact, I'll immediately know she has big request, likely a vacation or she don crash my car again.

I no trust that gel, she get sense pass okuko Igbo.

Beremx:
Buhari must have missed wearing his own military uniform. The look on his tyrannical face says it all.

It's a thing of pride to put on military uniform no matter when you served.

So you're probably right that the old man missed it.

headofschool:
I'm telling you, there is more freedom in Nigeria than those places where we claimed security of lives abroad.

Freedom to do illegal things?

Tell me one real freedom Nigerians have that people in the West don't have?

I don't believe in simp and redpill nonsense but I believe that a man should be manly both in looks and in character.

A wife can not just wake up one day and slap her mother in law. She must have been feeding nonsense to the weak man she married and he kept swallowing it hook, line and sinker.

Then the thread about the weakling not defending his lovely daughter against his second wife made me shed tears. I just can't imagine my little daughter being maltreated by a human being on this earth while I'm alive.

If you have kids and lose your wife to death or via divorce and you damn well know you're a weakling, avoid remarrying please.

Just get a sidechick and keep your relationship with her away from your children and your home.

Silence in public and loud laughter in private, that's how I handle them.

Some have said my dad put me in his "cult" before he died. My pops was never a cult man just that he was not naive in matters of religion eventhough he was a knight.

Many others once said that the gay country affected me and that I could be one.

Another set said that oyibo woman don born pikin for me which was why my mum haff not killed herself over my matter then.

The last trending one was that I died, my mum arranged for me to be buried abroad and covered it up so that umunna people would not take over my papa properties.

Sometime ago, I called my uncle and asked him to do a task on my behalf but he was kinda insisting I showed up fess. I never knew the reason until I went home and visited him in PortHarcourt afterwards. He knelt down and thanked God saying his enemies had been put to shame. He then told me that the rumor was why he was dillydallying. I asked him about my calls and he said if oyibo could clone human being, na my voice go come hard them to forge. That day, I laughed like I was on cheap drugs.

Maxymilliano:
And why blaming the US lottery visa for his woes?

I wonder why he blamed the diversity Visa lottery.

This DNA testing thing is causing serious havoc right now in a family I know of.

The man's younger brother fathered two of his children or so.

The story is that they all have known long time ago and kept it hush hush until now that the man is dead, tori begin come out.

The story has made to begin dey suspect all these talks of my son resembles my younger brother.

Cosmicwill:
I understand that there is the possibility of not making it to marriage in this, and I desire it doesn't happen. Separating now might cost a lot of emotional breakdown as she's once said she'll end her life if I leave her.. I'm used to dating older ladies hence why it seems like a trap being with someone who is emotionally fragile and quite younger. How do I make her understand that there is more to this than she it seems.

Oh Chimoo. 😄😄😄

You can never have it all good in this life.

She is your mum, avoiding won't change that rather it will fuel her manipulations.

Simply keep tolerating her as much as you can and if she can read text messages on phone, send her your frustration after she goes back to the village. Let her ponder on that.

Also, if you can get all your siblings to take one stand and caution her, she will stop her shenanigans.

Mad man wey dey dance for market na because someone dey watch am. Once everyone decides to face their front for market, he go get sense by force.

All I see is true iberibeism.

There are other ways to instill discipline in them.

You started hawking for your mum at the age of six doesn't make it right to subject those kids to that kind of struggle.

Your mum if given options would not have allowed you do that so please, have a rethink and listen to your wife.

Find ways to engage them in mind boggling games. You can teach them chess and I bet you, they will never play outside ever again.

My dad did that to me when I was little and it worked.

Whenever your addiction metamorphoses into hard drugs, don't fight it.

Just seek medical help.

It's unthinkable how someone wanna help those that hate him for helping them.

He thinks he does it for humanity but the same humanity sees him and his people as fools.

I pray he doesn't regret his kind gestures someday because I regret mine now even though it was very little compared to his.

BeardedmeatR:
*Once again, it is Mr. Allen Onyema the IGBO man, CEO Air Peace with his Airline to the rescue! National Service it is!*

Thank you Allen Onyema, CEO,Air Peace for your continued goodwill to Nigerians! Each time Nigerians get into trouble outside the shores of this country U are immediately on hand to rescue them!
Nigeria and Nigerians do not hate themselves, it's the loud mouths using politics to eat that creates the noises and troubles. They capitalise on the mass illiteracy of the populace, brainwash them with sentiments of ethnicity and religion in order to continue to remain in power because they have no other business outside politics!
Now, nobody is tagging Onyema IPOB. Nobody is saying he is Biafra. We are all happy as he offers free service that FG is struggling with and can not still offer.
The Igbo is loved when she helps solve problems. She is hated when she seeks political office in Nigeria! Mr. Allen Onyema and Air Peace did it for stranded Nigerians in South Africa, Ukraine and now Sudan! Igbo man evacuated them free of charge. The more they are hated, the more the IGBO do good work for humanity! Same Air Peace and same Igbo man. From available statistics, the population of Nigerians in Sudan are more of the Northern Nigerian origin. We have more wealthy people in the North. In fact the richest African is from Northern Nigeria! Many rich men who have private jets come from Northern Nigeria but now they are quiet. Those who have private jets with abundance of money from the South West are quiet! But when it is elections season, they will remember that they are North or South West! Man's inhumanity to man conspicuously on display. Please where are the likes of Bayo Onanuga, FFK, Keyamo, Shehu Garba, the loquacious el-Rufai and his son including BAT who showed so much hatred in their tweets about Igbo in the Presidential Election? Where are they? They have all melted away like ice! People who have nothing to offer humanity but hatred! The Nigerian populace have also refused to learn. How do you place a man that helps you behind the one that brainwashes you just to steal your Commonwealth? Can we learn?

_Igbo Amaka! We love and we care!_

You said it all.

They may even be calling the man a fool for helping them right now.

You'll do them a favor and they turn around and wish all the evil in this world for you and your people.

Someone shared in our WhatsApp group a comment a person who called himself human being and Nigerian made on the death of Dr. Chike Akunyili and I shed tears.

I realized then that as Igbo man, I was a nobody to other Nigerians and as such, I should never be identifying with any other Nigerian except the nobodies like me.

It's not something I'm happy doing but I'm forcing myself to do it.