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matrixme:
Tufiakwa! For this obodo Nigeria? Make I use my two legs waka go bank go collect death form? The person for kukuma branch price coffin. No be me and you oo, abeg!

Lol.

I've been like that until one time I was exposed to a deadly substance and everyone was running helter skelter to save me and my immediate sub.

The medical expert in my unit had already given deadline for both of us to start having multiple organ failures that would lead to death. A lot of procedures was activated until all of a sudden, we started responding to treatment.

I have never been scared of paying the ultimate price but that particular incident made me realize that I wasn't prepared for it.

If I had died, I knew my office would make sure my family got all I had and all that was due to me but what about things I had they didn't know of. You can only try to retrieve something if you are aware of its existence.

Therefore I did some adjustments immediately I came back from that assignment. If anything happens to me now, no one will skip crying session to worry about losing the few things I had to my name.

There ain't nothing wrong with preparing for death but there's everything wrong in not preparing for it.

I find it very hard to read your story, sorry.

This is not right at all.

Why would a man lie about such a sensitive issue? Why deny and hide a child from a woman you intend to spend the rest of your life? If only stupidity were a human.

I'm still of the opinion that she does thorough investigation on her own and most importantly have a talk with the hubby before throwing in the towel.

No be for my mouth you go hear say your fiancee na call girl, mbanu.

Her aggressiveness and war-ness nature as you painted it is something to be talked about too but no be me go talk am.

Happy married life in advance biko.

Your wife crossed a very big red line. No amount of provocation should've brought about such dehumanization. She disrespected you, your late dad and every thing that bears your last name by laying her filthy hands on your mum.

If she could slap your mum, slapping or even killing you will not be a big deal to her. That's the kind of strong heart such women have.

Well, it shows the kind of man you are too. I am very disciplined, can be very loving, gentle and respectful but I will never tolerate such attitude from a woman I call my wife.

For me, the marriage is over but it's your call, not mine.

cococandy:
That’s extremely cheap in todays market. Where’s it? Redneck area?

That's Texas for you.

Between Texas and Obosi my hometown, I don't know which one dey expensive pass for real estate.

My colleague that relocated to Texas still mock me with his home till date though I return the mockery when their weather begin to dey see its yearly menstrual period as usual.

Carry the same house in that picture come SoCal now, the price go be for ndi ogwu ego only.

A man who has three kids from a woman and yet hasn't done anything to normalize her status needs to be left alone biko.

If the lady could be good at birthing kids, she can as well be good as wife to a man who knows nothing else apart from locating her undies.

The widow is heading straight to a disaster by wanting to marry your friend or you and I hope someone advises her now before it's too late.

Awa sistas haff finally joined us in marrying dead woods for green card.

Get the green card, sister.

That's what your sisters here tell us when we marry oyibos even though we marry mostly grannies.

Not everyone is interested in investing in Nigeria anymore especially in the area of real estate.

I'll rather use the money as down payment for an apartment building in obodo oyibo and be collecting rent
there.

If e no reach to invest in real estate abroad, I will use it and carry woman, mek everybody rest.

Start looking for a husband for your sister so she can leave the house ASAP. She has proven to have outlived her usefulness in that house.

You too, be the man you should be. She can't be disrespecting and hurting your mum when you are there, ogini di?

However, her concerns about your mum is valid.

You too should advise your mum that it's not bad to be selfish sometimes.

Na when you bellefull, you suppose share food with strangers, not when you never chop well.

Helping people is not bad but she should be wise while at it.

frozen70:
That's why some of them who doesn't want to regret buys a house that is already built to avoid breaking heart stories

I've done that before and regretted it.

The one I bought had foundation issues and I know how much I spent to renovate it.

Nothing beats building your own house to your test and quality.

Airlohim:
I'm successful myself so why should I fear

I wonder.

My woman being successful will also be beneficial to me sef so why should I object to it or be afraid of it?

Only men that lack self confidence will be stupid enough to have this kind of mentality.

Hanty is still in shock.

He even built something and she is complaining. Some don't do anything except look confused like cow wey see masquerade when you show up without notice. Wetin you go do them? Arrest them and have the entire village elders sleep at your doorsteps the next day?

You are in Amelika probably working overtime to make a little extra and send back home to some selfish folks we call relatives while they go about living their best life with little to zero worries after all, God will continue to provide for them through you.

You don't even have one hour to yourself everyday but he has all the time in the world to sit at mama Ngozi store and engage in beer drinking competition.

Most relatives back home are like gifts from the devil so count your losses and simply move on.

Go for the most disciplined among the two and the one who will tolerate your excesses because we all have some.

Other things can be considered after that. Things like respect, love and beauty because you no go wan marry who go make you dey follow sidechick up and down.

"Let love lead" no be for marriage oo, hear am now before we have another thread about I no love her again or she no love me again for this place.

Who displayed my wedding pictures here without permission?

Killing the man was a very foolish move.

Now he doesn't have to hide in the closet anymore, he will even have the spare key of that house by now.

He is confused because of "power of an ex" and I ask myself a question.

Are my exes not part of that WhatsApp group? Why are they not as powerful as the others?

The first girl I dated as teenager tried that "power" with me and what she met, her mouth still no fit talk am.

Chai, sister Chinenye that year.

Yes, until she has her own kids.

If anything should happen to my wife or marriage and I have kids, I'll rather have sidechick than remarry.

All I need in the house is a non live-in paid nanny.

She works 8-10 hours mondays to fridays and I will take care of my kids for the rest of the time, I'm not disabled biko.

I can kill because of my kids and that's what I will like to avoid by not remarrying.

All I can do on this one is laugh.

ednut1:
Nigerian women are the still the best make we no lie. Many of the white babes and blacks that grew up here in Canada are mentally unstable and are not family oriented. I used to be team foreign too till i dated some of them and noticed the pattern. I am now team nigerian babe 🤣🤣

Nigerian ladies are the best especially when one has been groomed and has only learnt to live Nigerianly.

The moment one travels often, widens one's horizon in beliefs, lifestyle and culture, there is sure to be a paradigm shift.

elloso:
Thanks for your response. Can we talk privately?

Not at the moment sir, I'm not able to. I'll reach out when I can.

Nazgul:
I've come to understand that as you get older and more mature, you become responsible for your choices.

What you should know is that nobody suddenly becomes bad, they've been bad from day one. Just that you choose not to be observant.

The reality of this is that so many men these days marry for beauty and not character, as long as she's got a good àss, firm and properly rounded boobs and a pretty face, they're definitely going to make a fine couple.

So they don't care if she's saucy, or materialistic, or lazy, or a liar, or a chronic cheat...etc. As long as they were able to wife the pretty girl, they're good.

Sadly, as the years goes by, the woman's true nature becomes visible even to the blind, then they complain. The question I keep asking myself is that, at that point when the woman constantly torment them emotionally, does her boobs or àss mean anything to these men who would do just anything to leave their home for a moment's peace? Short answer...No

So make your choice based on common sense and character and not physical beauty and you'll enjoy your marriage.

You've got valid point. Many men neglect the warning signs in relationships just because they see "fine" face and fair skin at the moment.

Someone once said "you'll never know she's been ugly all along until it becomes there was a relationship".

If she can't give you peace in relationship, ain't no MF way she is gonna give you that in marriage.

The beauty you see today will fade right before your very eyes the day she breaks your head in anger with kitchen mortar.

ZINNYBANKS:
Sorry to bother u with off question. Just want to know
If someone is short on cash in the US for instance and the person is sick like severe sickness.
Will the person get treated in the hospital?

You sound like the person doesn't have insurance so these may help.

1. Don't ever call 911 for health emergencies, it's not free oo rather, drive the person to a county hospital.

2. Request emergency medical insurance there at the hospital, most county hospitals will give that to you and draft a payment plan for the rest of the bill.

3. If you're in California and you are young or older than 50 with low income even without papers, get the goddamn free MediCal and rest.

Cost of living is relatively cheaper in Aberdeen compared to Nottingham but you get paid more and may have better opportunities to grow in the latter than in the former.

If the two jobs have similar pay, you may consider going to Aberdeen for now.

It's relatively cheaper except if you eat out a lot like I did. I find their fast food costlier than in Nottingham though. Moving around in rentals and taxis costs higher too including moving around in public transportation.

It's been awhile I visited so there may have been recent updates that I'm not aware of.

Shalom.

armyofone:
Nothing is or should be a man's or woman's job anymore.
Woman paints, mow lawn, do plumbing (yes, lay on the ground, open the drain, and get it fixed etc.
They can do oil change and replace tires.
Point is - nobody should be tag with specific duties - when your woman is also working and bringing in paycheck to support the family, you the man must be supportive in the house cooking, cleaning etc 50/50 or not, it is your home too - join hands in building it.
I have heard some men don't want to read to their kids. They say it is a woman job! Ummmm
In marriage, all hands must be on deck. It is simple - be each other support/helpmate/backbone etc.

I'm sure they will call you simp as usual for making sense.

Some men see themselves as demigod and forget we are talking about their homes here.

Helping wifey with house chores does not make one less a man just as helping in raising the kids too including reading and singing for them before bed times. A man must simp for someone naa haba. I don't have problem simping for my daughter full time and my wifey part time.

But ehm, for the bolded, perhaps my woman is not part of the women you're talking about because that one don't even crosscheck the charge in her vehicle against the distance she intends to drive.

All she knows is to get in and drive. For warning lights including low tire pressure and everything else, she calls Jeffrey or car insurance.

ZIMDRILL:
This case most people are jumping the gun

whatever was put into mother's name during their marriage, can be legally challenged, by law its seen as hiding your wealthy. 2 things will play here 1 the laws of the country they got married if the divorce would be settled in that country 2 qood lawyer


let give you an example, a Jordan Princess got married in Jordan to Sheikh Mohammed (The ruler of Dubai ) key thing married in Jordan

then divorce procedding were done in UK

https://www.tatler.com/article/wedding-anniversary-princess-haya-sheikh-mohammed-most-expensive-divorce

https://www.theguardian.com/world/2021/dec/21/ruler-of-dubai-ordered-to-pay-divorce-settlement-that-could-exceed-500m

Your point is valid but remember they are not fools too.

They knew exactly what they were doing and must have sought the advice of someone somewhere.

What if he legally signed away his football paychecks long before getting married because of one medical reason and all subsequent acquisitions made by the mum in the name of the mum.

Their family doctor could've claimed he is incapable of handling his own income and term it one psychological illness and have power of attorney granted to his mum long before he got married.

Forget talk, something or someone dey give them morale and that person knows the law of their land well.

CondenseMilk:
Make money as a man and get wooed by women

The irony is that when you make the said money, only ladies you don't desire will be after you.

You see that one you truly desire, you'll still put in efforts to get her.

In other words, money can't buy you true happiness.

My grandma's special benz that year. Chai

I can't even remember how they disposed of it.

bukatyne:
Because she has a landed property?

A man disposed to disrespect you will even if you own the whole world and you let him.

You dey mind her.

Nigerian men without sense and conscience can break the heart of Aisha Buhari and go drink beer the next minute like nothing happened, e come be the small girl with landed property wey fit be village land sef.