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Jewessgratitud3:
Hopefully someone leans from my story. I don't regret any of my decisions so far. I'm happy that in all, I wasn't consumed, used to a point of no return in fact if you see me, you'll hardly believe I'm 42. apart from say I get small protruding stomach ( which almost everyone has) and it's only when I eat. Otherwise its normal. So it's caused by food and I overeat.

I also don't regret not having children outside wedlock cos it would have reduced my chances of getting attention from men even at my age. Yes.. I still get attention like serious advances from single men. This is not to make a boast. In this year alone, I've had two suitors. Very responsible guy and another man but the thing with me is that I'm too picky. if I don't like you first, e go hard. So those two were not my spec and I won't trap myself in a loveless marriage just because of age or "time is going " , if it's not what I want, I won't do it. Call me anything you like, your opinion. I don't kia!


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I don't know why you're pained. That was me just being witty to lighten up the tense mood of my story but your dumb olodo self cant recognize a witty saying when you see one hence holding unto it and reacting like a beheaded chicken.

Empty skull

You're still talking about feelings at your age

Obviously, you are no longer a virgin. And you've rejected men, like a lot of good men. I don't want to add to your worries. But when people hide on morality and use that as a shield for stupidity and ignorance, I find it appalling. But to say I have no pity for you is an understatement. I think it's more of this overestimation of one's own self worth. Some don't even have any self worth, some think too high of themselves without bringing anything to the table except pussy and nagging. I'll advise you go and store your eggs if you still can and start saving and when you're 45, you can find a sperm donor and do IVF. Omo this story just weak me

See all these simpsons forming woke. A wise girl herself will volunteer to help her fiance's mom in the kitchen. If she doesn't, a wise mother inlaw wouldn't castigate her. But for the guy, a girl that just sits down and waits for your mother to serve her, first time or not, prolly lacks good home training.

Obi is more like a clog in the wheel at this point. He should leave Tinubu and Atiku to slug it out.

52$ Payoneer needed ASAP at your price

Most of these governors themselves are armed to the teeth. If you think one police or soldier will save you from terrorists in Nigeria, your mumu knows no bounds

That woman has a mental condition. I don't know how it isn't apparent to anyone

I know this woman. Used to read her posts on LinkedIn. Very smart woman... Kudos!

Most of the people replying to these posts are either simps or feminist idiots. The mistake is marrying her without knowing if she has a defined chart or map for her life. Your wife looks like someone who is just figuring out shit - all these hustler mentality types. There's no definite direction. Give her a timeframe to come up with a 5-year roadmap for her life. Then you show her yours and compare and contrast. Vision alignment is very important in marriage

lexy2014:
Is palliative not subsidy?

Is subsidy the cause of Nigerias problems?

People don't need palliatives. What they need is jobs. And by jobs, I means encouraging farming and other low risk high reward macro-investments instead of giving people handouts. Socialism increases corruption.

It's because at some point you both dropped your goals and aspirations because you were "feeling love" or "raising a child" whom you are going to fk up anyway

Saintinoo:
So sir, what is the way forward.

Ol boy I don't know o. I'm not in government. But what I know is the Central Bank has to peg the naira to dollar rate first. Then they can take this advice here by Wale Edun. And hopefully, if Tinubu has sense now, he'll reduce the costs of government and remove other unnecessary subsidies Nigeraia is paying. Or else the Naira will keep free falling until we start using the dollar like an economically colonized country (e.g El Salvador)

LordAdam16:
Emefiele's tenure did not start in 2021.

We had two recessions in 5 years. https://www.reuters.com/article/nigeria-gdp-idUSL1N2I7084

And the reason the economy grew at over 3% post-2021 is because he funneled trillions into it.

Which is not peculiar to him either. The entire planet pumped ungodly amount of cash into the system. Everyone is wrestling with the aftershocks.

-Lord

Yes. Recession causes deflation. Covid-19 was a worldwide recession. And every smart country funnelled money into their economy at the time. They encouraged small biz loans, mortgages and deployed money to people for local and foreign investments. Nigeria's Central bank under Emefiele didn't.

After Covid-19 when it was time to revert back as worldwide inflation had already started (in part fueled by Russia-Ukraine war), our guys were sleeping, while countries like the US were working to improve their currencies by playing with interest rates.

These ones were just borrowing people naira and dollar anyhow, then borrowing from The World bank, China etc. to run a very expensive government. So it's just simple demand and supply. When there's limited supply vs demand, price increases, that's your currency in respect to other countries. When you increase supply vs demand, price decreases, that's why the naira will keep going down unless drastic measures are taken by the Central Bank.

LordAdam16:
Meffy had to grapple with two recessions.

The only viable way to boost economic growth after a downturn is to open the spigot.

Don't compare apples and oranges.

-Lord

You don't understand what they call a recession bro. Nigeria's GDP has been growing at over 3% since 2021, yet there is high inflation and people are suffering at scale and the currency is losing value almost daily. What do you call that?

mrvitalis:
Like I said making a micro economist CBN governor and minister of finance is a tragedy waiting to happen

Buhari did same at least they were humble to accept they didn't know took time before taking decisions

Now we have a bad combination of arrogance and ignorant people as heads of our CBN and finance ministers


my solution
Cutting money supply would harm the already struggling businesses ...so what to so

Pump money into key manufacturing sectors as low interest loans 10% max give them 8 months before Tenure starts

Make sure they are in this two areas 1) import substitution products 2) exportable products produced at below international market price

This would marke goods available to match money supply dragging down inflation creating jobs and increasing revenue for government


Note when I mean pump in money I don't mean 50billion 😂😂

I mean 5 trillion minimum

. Spoken like someone who has no idea of macro-economics. The economy doesn't suffer from a lack of money supply. And ramping up manufacturing is a long term play

Yes restricting money supply (loan facilities) is always the sensible way to stop rising inflation. I don't know why it hasn't happened sooner? And why this Emefiele guy was just testing stupid policies. And also removing subsidy was wise but free floating of the naira was a bad move. I don't know if there are no sound economists advising these guys.

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned

War is not genocide. The aftermath of Truman's nuclear bomb - cancer, tumors, and making sure that no living thing (plant or animal) could occupy the Hiroshima and Nagasaki area at least for the next 2 years is why nuclear bombs are banned worldwide.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/history/2023/07/21/oppenheimer-truman-atomic-bomb-guilt/

A good war strategy tries to minimize the number of innocent casualties while launching a hard and fast offensive, not win at any cost.

ASAPFERG:
igbos deserve nothing but death

death to all igbos

This is a mentally retarded person. And I'm not even Igbo. Who takes Reno Omokri seriously anyway? Attention seeking buffon

airsaylongcome:
Is schizo characterized by extreme paranoia? I'm talking really extreme paranoia here, with belief that your friends and close family are out to "get you". Or that you are the target of a "radioactive ray"

Yes. That's psychosis. Could be from schizo or from another mental health issue. But most likely schizophrenia

Self love is opening your eyes fully before entering into a life-long contract with anyone (marriage). The signs would always be there. Just like I wrote in my recent post about girls with "daddy issues".

airsaylongcome:
How can you tell its schizo?

It's more common than you'd think. Him not being able to keep a job or to graduate despite being a smart student also point to it.

Your husband seems like he suffers from schizophrenia. And those episodes are psychotic. He needs therapy. And he needs to stay on his meds. The reality is, until he finds himself with your support, you'll be the "man of the house". These were things you should have looked at before marriage, especially for the sake of your kids. He can live a healthy and normal life but not until he learns how to read the signs and manage the disease. It's a disease of the mind. And it has no cure. But it can be managed.

CuriousStudent:
No one will admit it That child abuse in form of beating and coporal punishment has effectd on them. The passive aggression is something ruining everyone. The misogyny and the rest traces back to something. When violence is the only way of living,it traces back to abuse. Some people rarely use the magic word. Vulgar,swearing,slamming doors,banging tables,raising voices. Some(like myself) are conflict avoidant and ghost others as a means of survival/protecting our feelings instead of communication.

Comparing you to your siblings that do better. Parading you in the school for pooing on your body. And the rest. Belittling you or scolding you in public to prove to others that they are a disciplinarian or manipulation of everything about you just so your parents will not embarrassed in public.

I don't want to talk of boarding school. One girl almost sent me to my creator because the guy she liked was hitting on me.

But no,"beating made me who I am" . Who are you? If I may ask. A third world unattractive low earning hypocrite . Who are you? Some dirty misogynist dealing with scabbies and body odour and broke and still eating from mother pot or living in Shanties and squalors with mattress on the floor.

Or the hook up girls were not flogged?

Okay,I guess who you are is something great.you are not gay/lesbian,so that makes you "better"

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I recall an accident that made me realize most Nigerians are mentally unstable. I went to a restaurant with a coursemate to eat. He was frowning at some point and I inquired if all was well. Then he said ,"just look at them,they can will never cook but will be coming outside to eat. All these irresponsible girls". I asked if he was alright and he was like, "I just feel irritated when I see a lady eating outside when she should be cooking".
Till today I struggle to come to terms with the fact that instead of eating your food in peace,and walking out,you will devote your time to evaluating and noticing others.
The guy was "disturbed". Him and many others hold very strong opinions and expectations of others that owe them nothing and are quietly living their lives because someone must have subjected them to some high subjective standard. The cycle repeats itself

Very true. I have been studying a bit of psychology. And in Africa, we are ignorant of how being very tough on a child, especially girl children, during their brain's formation and maturation stage, combined with other factors, leads to issues like schizophrenia and bipolar disorders. https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/harsh-discipline-increases-risk-of-children-developing-lasting-mental-health-problems

UyaiIncomparabl:
I used to have "DADDY ISSUES and ABANDONMENT TRAUMA", but it's no problem at all, and I am past it too.

Yea. That's what everyone says until it rears up it's ugly head again, when you least expect

They don't even try to disguise the propaganda again

Zedoo:
Came here expecting an in-depth analysis...now I’m just looking like who in the world wants any woman they love to be out and about in the night?
Have your own daughter make we see if you go sleep well when she dey outside by 11pm with the evil of the day.
What you called daddy issues have nothing to do with daddy issues it’s called staying safe in a dangerous society even you as a man shouldn’t be roaming without adequate measures in the night.

There are only a handful of dangerous states in Nigeria rn. What they call narcissism starts from this controlling attitude. You absolutely should not try to control the movement of the girl you're dating (and I can guess from your profile you're not In a relationship rn or you have a degree of shyness in approaching women. But if you enter into one, being controlling will cause you lots of avoidable fights). Letting people know what the consequences of something is, and how it would make you feel about them is enough to compel wise choices (at least with someone who isn't already messed up)...

When you do a good job as a parent, a 13 year old child knows right from left. I've seen children that have no parents grow up to be responsible adults and children with very strict parents grow up to be wrecks. There are too many case studies.

Samantha124:
Then there's friendship love, the one that has been putting me through the most.

There's this other friend of mine that I love so much, but she's been hurting me over and over again, it's like she doesn't care about my feelings anymore... But I keep finding a way to overlook everything and forgive her without her asking for forgiveness.

I feel like I'm in this friendship all alone, but I can't let go because it's a 20 years friendship, we've been friends since we were young and I feel like she's the only friend for me.

She recently did something that hurt me so bad, I've been crying all morning and I only got out of bed at around 12pm, but the problem is that despite what she did, I still love her.

Friendship is transactional (I wouldn't say love). You both have benefits you offer each other - time, companionship and otherwise. Do an 80-20 assessment of the friendship. Is it 80% hurt and 20% happiness. Or vice versa. If it's the former, cut them off. You'll be making space in your life for better things and better people. But since you've been at it for a while, do it slowly. Just drastically minimize time spent with them. And also, find a way to deal with your own attachment issues.

kalufelix:
The mother-child love you talked about is still an investment for old age from the parents perspective...love is a complete hoax...its all about our various interest and desires...

Yes. There's always a reward in love. Even God saved us to make us better and be empowered to do his will. But when that reward isn't visible in the short term and may not even be realized, then that's sacrifice - the hallmark of love

Why are black celebs always ending up with hoes. It is well