chiegemba:

4 wetin now?
i call them my kids then i would go do a "DNA" i guess somethin doesnt add up right then!

Of course, as a lady, you dont need DNA to know if the children are yours but will their father have the same confidence you have? That is where the DNA becomes very useful. To make him a proud father of his children.

akpanbaba:

MYpeople, that woman doesnt want to marry him anymore.she has gotten another man and that explains why she bothers over minor thing like that.she should open up and tell the man.
Are they just married?Where has she been sleeping before?.Why is she sweeating suddenly?why is she opting to sleep in another room?.this is a clear case of stubborness being controlled from outside.Before long another room will be too hot for her and she will move to parlour and from there she will sleep outside her matrimonial home.my bros,na so the thing de start ooooooo.prayer point :ANY POWER CONTROLLING MY WIFE FROM OUTSIDE FALL DOWN AND DIE

Hmmmm, no smoke without fire! Thanks for the new dimension to it. May God protect us from deceitful women o.

It all depends on how you see it. If you see the traditional WEDDING as the main thing and going to church as just a formality of an avenue to just get a certificate to make the wedding official, then it is not a sin. However, if you consider yourself not married until a man of pronounces you married in a house of God, then it will be sin to consummate the relationship.

However, a marriage is believed to have taken place once the groom pays the bride price and the parents of the bride give their daughter away and bless the relationship while the groom's parents also accept and bless the relationship. Marriage is more than the church ceremony but i will advice that if anyone intends doing the white wedding, the traditional wedding should be done on the previous day to the white wedding, the way they do engagement in the south west, so that the following day the wedding can take place and everyone can go home and live happily ever after.

Seun:

Supposing you discover that your child isn't really your biological child. What good result will come out of that?

The good is that you will not live in deceit. You will also be able to have unflinching confidence in your wife. And if the result turns out to be negative, then you will know the kind of snake you have at home.

stoneman91:

CAN ANY ONE SPEAK FOR THE CHILDREN, HOW WILL THEY HANDLE THE NEWS THAT THEY MAN THEY CALLED DADDY IS NOT DADDY AFTERALL, WELL FOR ME HOW I WILL HANDLE THE MATTER WILL DEPEND ON HOW WE AS A "FAMILY" DECIDES ON THE ISSUE, THE WOMAN,CHILDREN AND ME, WE WILL HOLD A CONFERENCE ON THE MATTER BEFORE TAKING IT TO THE EXTENDED FAMILY LEVEL,

You mean you will seat the children and tell them that their mother has been jumping from one bed to another? Well, i guess the children should be spared the dirty details o, especially, if they are still young.

question:

what would the US embassy do to that family (husband, wife and children)?

It's simple now. They lost the chance for giving false information on the paternity of the children. You know those people want any excuse to refuse you visa.

chiegemba:



Personal Opinion" if i was d man in question and all this years i have treated d children like mine i wouldnt stop doin that because i have played a fatherly role in their lives already. And 4 d woman in question i would b dissappointed with her for keepin d truth from me all this years. i would go ahead and finish d visa processin and eventually if it doesnt work out would legally give her a divorce but if it does would keep livin with her like nothin happened

Besides 2 err is human ,

Is it really possible to live with a woman after doing that to you? please , let's be realistic. it will be tormenting to do that.

adeboo:

wELL, I have always slept on the outside of the bed and i am willing to compromise if i am going to be compensated accordingly.

And this your compensation, is it in form of cash or kind?

ella.b:

your welcome.please fill free 2 xpress yourself here.as we all no,im d special assistant to d presidon(jintu).any comments shuld be brot to me.and i wont fail to notify d presidon bout it.

Hmmmmmmmm, good to know that ella.b is still around. But as the special assistant, you ought to have fed me on the whereabout of the runaway members o. Please smoke out Cute ass and opokonwa.

Meanwhile our new entrants are most welcome.

@ella.b
You know that as my special assistant, u ought to be seeing me regularly. So fix appointment for the next meeting and let me brief you on our next line of action. . This is not an online meeting o.

almondjoy:

He he he he he he he!!!

E don happen!!!

In Nigeria especially, about 50% of children in any giving home do not belong to the "man" of the house. IF DNA tests were to be carried out on all children in Nigeria, it would be a national shocker to see what the results would be.

Let us just say that too much keeping of "night vigils" could be detrimental to most marriages.

But if what Almondjoy said is true, should the children of such people become victim of the situation, knowing well that they are not the architects of the situations surrounding their birth? And when will the women folk know how to preserve the sanctity of the home?

tuneh:

I don't believe a DNA test is required for visa processing, which leads me to doubt your story

tuneh

Now that you have heard from another person, i hope you will believe now. So to the question, if you were the husband, what would be your response?

Sweet T:

When i get married, my wife must sleep on my chest every night unless she doesn't want to.

God help you if your wife is Orobo!

Hmmmmmmmmm, the couple is not finding it funny o.

Hmmmmmmmm, wonders shall never end. Recently, a struggling couple won Visa lottery and everybody was happy that at last solution has come to their problems, but little did they know that it was the beginning of some startling revelations and problems in the marriage.

The requirement for granting the visa is that there should be a DNA test to confirm the paternity of the children. The test was conducted and it was discovered that two of the children are not the husband's children. This has caused a lot of stress in the home.

If you were the husband, what would you do?

Different things have different meanings to different people. I was shocked when i visited a couple and discovered that they are quarelling over who sleeps in the inner side of the bed. Their bed is positioned against a wall and both the husband and wife want to sleep on the open side of the bed. The husband believes that it is his position as the head of the house, the wife says she sweats a lot so she needs to sleep on the outer side of the bed.

Wife has threatened to go to another room if husband does not grant her request. Husband says if she moves to another room in the house, she may as well be getting ready to move out of the house.

Please, does it really matter who sleeps on the outer side of the bed?

What's the big deal in kneeling down? If you are sorry, you are sorry. And you should be able to show your sincerity about it. If it requires kneeling down, why not? But am sure she wont ask you to kneel down before she can accept you. You will just be kneeling down spontaneously because that is the way you feel like at that point.

@topic
You really need to convince her that you wont break her heart again. Once beaten, twice shy. She may be afraid of going through some pains that she experienced in the past. So she needs to know you are real this time around. I also think your excuse for breaking up was flimsy. She asked your friends for money and you didnt like it. Did you tell her? Did she apologise for doing so? Or you just sacked her? Or was it just pure jealousy? You thought your friend may snatch her from you by giving her money? Or your ego was affected that your friend could do what you couldnt do.

You see, the whole thing is complex. Get to the root of why you sacked her. Be sincere with yourself that you are not just coming back to flaunt your wealth to her now and leave her later. She needs to know you are real!

smoothali:

all you sexlless people out there don't be shy,,its time to start the revolution, and stop the ignorance, i have an endocrine disorder which made me dead in between, i am not ashemd i need friends,

Hmmmmmmmmmmm, i just hope you are not "Baroka" o. In "The Lion and the Jewel" by Wole Shoyinka, this is what Baroka did to get "Sidi". You ladies, be warned o!

Ah, Omo, you have woken up the dead. Are you bringing fun toi this thread again? I can see some signs of that. Please keep it up. You are most welcome!

jkpretty:

Have u done some telling that has put on in deep trouble? I have, & i've learnt so i do no telling, watch with your own eyes & listen with your ears. Opari!

May be it the way you went about doing the telling that put you in trouble. I think it is not a bad idea. Anyway, if i discover such things about him, i will tell you.

Win what?

Whichever way it is, the friend should know. If it is an innocent act, it means the guy wont be secretive about it and if it is not, but a smooth operation, it is good the girl knows what's up.

It all depends on how the friend goes about telling her friend, so she doesnt sound like "Amebo". So if you dont want your girl or boy to know you had an outing with his or her friend, dont do it. Period!

Well, i would rather ask you, what made him an ex? If it was a mistake and he wants to make up for his mistakes, or forgive you afterall, why not? But if there was any problem that really couldnt be reconciled may be you should just let go. But i tell you, it is never bad to give a second chance. If your problem was not fundamental.

sylvex:

Ain't the freaky type about the Ice-cream, cake, wine stuff proposals, so it doesn't really matter where/how he does it as long as he could make me shed tears of joy for finally having someone to call mine!

Hmmmmmmmmmm, i like this.

Tears of joy!

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Na waaaa o

Aye nyi aanto. Ede yoruba naa tin ri ayipada pupo. Ewo ni iwo ti sakiyesi nibe? Tabi ewo ni ole tokasi?

Ni aye atijo awon yoruba maa npe Radio ni "ero a soro ma gbesi", sugbon pelu gbogbo ero alagbeka ati ero ibanisoro ori tabili eyiti awon oyinbo npe ni telifonu, inkan ti yipada o. Awon eniyan maa n pe ero ibanisoro lati ba eni to wa lori Radio soro. Ni idi eyi, ko to ki a maa pe Radio ni ero asoro ma gbesi mo.

Abi ki leti wi eyin ara mi? Oruko wo ni ki yoruba maa pe Radio bayi? Awon oro wo ni iwo naa mo ti otun ti yipada?

Hun, aye nyi aantoo!

I dont think this is a difficult thing to do. it is very simple. If two people are free with each other and they like each other, they will discuss freely. Both men and women should discuss their past, no matter how bad. If you do this when the relationship is fresh, your partner will either take you or leave you. One doesnt have to be desperate about relationship. The secret you hide today may be your ruin tomorrow. It is more painful when you hear it from outsiders. It may come in form of a ridicule, exaggeration or simple sympathy for you and you will really feel bad. This goes for both parties.

It happened to me at the initial stage of my relationship. She told me some things that made me cry. I cried, she cried and we forgot about it. We never mentioned it again because we already purged ourselves of the emotion. It was wonderful to know that she once loved someone more than me but also good to realise that she now loves me.

Dont keep anything away from each other. What will be will be. If you will end up marrying, you will but if not, the secret will still come out before your wedding or midway into your marriage and it will be worse then. Transparency is the word.

What about just telling him a list of things that put you off people. Then when you mention bad breath, you really emphasise it and say that people ought to brush after each meal or in the morning and before going to bed in the night. I guess he will get the gist and adjust. If he still doesnt get it, tell him he needs to chew gum or lick tom tom regularly.

@topic
At times like these, i wish free use of guns and bazookas was legalised in this country. How could the robbers have been so bold to announce their coming? Anyway, we will get there!

@poster
Whatever the reason may be. Man, the feast is over. Get going. You don't need anyone to tell you that she is gone. Even if she doesn't marry the other man, her soul and spirit have left you and am sure the body will soon leave you when she has finished perfecting her plans. Get your own woman or declare celibacy henceforth.

All the best!

Have you considered the spiritual implication? In the physical, ahand may be a hand, regardless of wether it is on the right or left side but what of the spirit realm? Look at Genesis chapter 48:16 - 19. You will see the significance of the right hand clearly.

There are other traditions that support the spiritual significance of right hand. For instance, in a king's palace, the hierachy flows from right. Otun(right) of a king is the next in command to the king, followed by the left.

Same thing is recorded in the Bible about the sitting position of the disciples of Jesus Christ. This also is shown in the sitting position in the heavely places as recorded in the Bible. We may have embraced civilisation, but we shouldnt lose sight of the spiritual. Wether you agree or not, there is a spiritual realm and the spiritual controls the physical.

onyx79:

the idea of jailing drivers caught for " one way" smacks of hypocrisy. the greatest law breakers are those who made the laws in the first place. Imagine being arrested for a one way offence in an area like yaba where readable road signs barely exist! its really pissing me off. craZy ****

Onyx79, i guess we have to start somewhere. It may be painful sending people to jail on such "little offences" but when we consider the havoc it causes, we may have to agree with them. For instance, a driver knocked down a pedestrian while taking "one way" the pedestrian just looked at his side of the road, not knowing that a bus was taking one way. Also , you will discover that most hold ups in Lagos are caused by people taking one way. They do it with abandon recklessness and they even block the on-coming vehicles.

So my brother, let the discipline start from somewhere. It will be improved upon and developed later.

I dont think it is a matter of how much. It is more of how convenient or comfortable should a man be before getting married. You need a good job that can feed you, cloth you, shelter you and provide some basic comforts of life. Your taste will determine what you consider as convenient or comfortable for you. The kind of babe you want to marry will also influence how comfortable you should be before marrying her. You also want to consider the kind of nursery and primary school or creche you want to put your children.

But dont forget that your income will be increasing as you climb the ladder of your career. That is why you need a good career before you marry.

Well, it is good to judge other people, but lets ask ourselves one question. If you have enough money, will you build a good house for yourself or you will live in shanties? if you live in good houses, will you like to go and worship under shanties? Wont you want a place beffiting of your status? Wont you want a comfortable place to sit? Lets be realistic, it is more comfortable worshipping God in a decent and comfortable place.

I wonder how many of the people that are judging the man of God has been to the place. Is there anything extravagant about the structure? Have you considered the expanse of land covered and the solid materials that is required to do it? i have worshipped at that same location for two years during which it had not been roofed. I also witnessed how gradually the place developed over two years, to what it is today. Let us be slow to condemn but fast to praise. Look at the good thing in any effort rather than focusing on the bad side.

May God help us all to live comfortably and stop seeing small money as big.