efuah:

. . . i will be back l8r.

Are you sure i will hold on till you come back?

Ok, am holding on loving in the past. Am holding on, dont know how long it's gonna last. Am holding on,

How long is too long?

A devil is always a devil. Give me the Angel, i don't want to know him/her any more than the name- Angel. An angel will always be an angel. So i dont believe in the saying.

How long can you hold on for a lover or is it how long should one hold on for a lover. If one has been separated from his/her love by time and space. The time being three years and the space being across the seas, oceans, i mean. Telephone tries to bridge the gap though but you know, it can not be exactly like being together. Can love be kept waiting?

minute:

yes i might.hes a human being isnt he?

there was this lesson teacher/house help that used to stay with us couple of years back.
he was a gradute,good -lookn,brilliant and all-but luck wasnt forth coming in gettn a good job.

i took to him immediately i saw him-he was like a big brother i never had-we did basically everything together-talked to him about anything.My mum initially wasnt comfortable with the familiarity-of course u know how parents are but we had a long talk and i assured her that i wldnt do what she wldnt be happy with.

okay enough of that.He won a visa lottery in feb last yr and i was the first person he called,we cried together,screamed together and laughed together.He lives in Florida now and he has a very good job.

Hes coming over to Maryland next month and i can't wait to see him.

Bottom line-------its who u really are as a person not what u are that matters to me.

That was an exceptional "househelp". Househelps are most of the time, not graduates. that is where class issues come in. I think the man was just a man waiting for an opportunity. A househelp in Nigerian context is clearly different from this picture.

If your friend wants people to respect his wife, he should not marry her. Imagine this: all the visitors that have been coming to your house must have known she was your househelp or they would have taken her for your sister of cousin, if she was so treated. How do you now go and tell them you want to marry her. Your friend should have taken her like a sister. there are some relationships that are better not started.

Your friend should also consider the case of his friends who know her as a househelp. Will they find it easy to respect her as his wife? Yeah, the house help has a right to live a happy life, but she will also find it happier if she lives completely away from her past as a househelp. there are some jobs that one can not be proud of. Househelp is one of them.

Please tell your friend to find love elsewhere and take the girl as a sister.

Hmmm, how does one even know which one is the first kiss? Was it the first one i gave or received as a baby? Was it the one i snatched behind the door or behind the sofa as a child when playing the "Father" and "mother". We were young but it was still a kiss. But i remember vividly my first kiss in the secondary school. It was interesting. Very thrilling. We had it in a class, i was in the boarding house, so the class and some ungodly places were the only avenue for playing love. It was the first term of my fourth year in school.

Tradition? Whose tradition?

Anyway, men do it because it pleases them and women too do it. It's just that some are more discreet in going about it. Anyway, i guess they are just acting true to the saying that : "variety is the spice of life."

Hmm, okay let me tell you the kind of things that happen in face me i face you houses. I remember in those days, when video players were not as common as they are now and as a young bachelor in a face me i face you house, i had every electronics that a man needed to enjoy. My room used to be the mecca of all viewers. They watched films and movies till late in the night.

It was an opportunity for interested babes to pretend they were in my room watching films. You know some married women even delighted in coming to watch films whenever i was alone. It used to be interesting. Those babes knew what they wanted and went for it.


Another neighbour of mine was always connecting his babe in the bathroom. There were two bathrooms side by side, so he always waited till the babe was going in to take her bath then he would enter the second. The first trick, he dropped his soap in the other bathroom and requeasted the babe to help him pick it. In the process of handing it over to him, he started caressing the babe hand. The babe got the gist and it became a routine. Anyway, na soo dedm take they chop the thing sha but i no know how them progress the show.

My people, plenty they happen for face me, i face you houses o.

Does it mean that all through your friendship, you never knew he was a free thinker before you started dating?

omonozozo:



There is no mind of your own in marriage, both couples have to agree in every decision or it won't work.
A career is one of that important decision that need compromise.

Good point.


Well, lets look at it this way. It is not dictation but preference. Some careers are not really good for the home. For instance work that involve night shift, or too much closeness with the opposite sex, or the one that takes all of her time. Take for instance jobs like that of a Nurse, A P.A, or secretary, a banker, etc

A man may not be comfortable with it may be because of the children's welfare or because of the father himself. So if he insists that the wife should not take up any of these types of job, it may look like dictating but it may be for the good of the home.

It's a shame. You fought, oh gosh. You used weapons? Hmm, despicable. You too should be ashamed of yourselves. Are you thugs? And to think that you are brothers? Oh, it is very , very,, oh i better not talk.

Go and mend fences with your brother and hold yourselves as one. No matter what may have been the cause of your fight settle it. Blood is ticker than water.

It may be painful at first that one has all along been a butterfly calling himself bird. But on the other hand, one should be grateful for having people to call parents. Go to Oshodi or Mushin to see those guys under the bridge: no home, no parents, ( if there are they are not responsible).

I will just ask for the facts about my parents, and if it is confirmed that i wasnt kidnapped, my parents were not deceived into giving me off and there was no shady deal about the adoption, i will love them still.

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh! Aabominatiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiioooooooooooooooooooooooooonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!

Wetin eye never see before? At worst you saw your landlady doing it with the youngest and most charming barchelor in your yard(as it is called). Are you jealous or envious?

Damollar:


To get to a true place of love all your feelings of jealousy and therefore insecurity must be addressed for what they are; a sign that you are not yet ready for a mature relationship!

I quite agree with most of your points but i find it difficult to go with this. Are you saying there cant be jealousy in a mature relationship?

igbi:

A lady in my office met a guy,and barely three months her wedding card was out and everybody was suprised,she was 32 and we understand age was not on her side the weding was in Nov and in Dec the story of her death was all over network news and newsline,her so called husband of 4weeks murdered her in cold blood, lets be careful in the type of people we go that far with.

Hmm, so he actually married her to kill her? Was she murdered for money ritual or what? Oh, this life!

Probe yourself to know why you want her and answer yourself honestly. Ask yourself if there is anything strange about your attitude, since you met her and check if such changes are pleasant ones. If you finally discovered that it is love, go ahead and share it with her.

hammers:

@poster

Hope 4 d best expect the worst!!!

Case 1

This handsome wealthy guy came from oversees for an official leave and partially in search of a good wife.
Luckily he met this astonishing beautiful and decent girl. Beyond anyones' expectation they got Madly in love and
Got married within a month.
This is the sixth year and they are still hapily married.

Case 2

A couple of years back this female banker who has had several disapointments met this desperate wealthy customer
who wanted nothing but a speedy marriage with the excuse that he was ageing.Under 2 months they got married.(a court marriage)

After 8 months. a bomb shell was released . the husband was epileptic and was under medication. The major trouble is however not that of epilepsy but the fact that the drugs taken by the husband has rendered him impotent!!!!

So expect the worst!

Hmmm, this life!

@Poster
Hmm 4days is sure too short but their feelings for each other may be true. Nevertheless, its too risky because even a year is not sufficient to discover the real person of an individual. Anyway, i dont kno what to say. I wish them all the best. But should there be any hidden agenda like impotency, HIV/AIDS, epilepsy or any worse scenario, the guy should be hanged and the lady banned from entering into any marital relationship for the rest of her life

Hmm, love does not hurt. The only reason it will hurt is when it is departing you. When you have love, you are always happy, no matter waht situation; love gives peace.

Hmm, after conquest, what is next? No be to reign?

Anyway, when a lady accepts your offer, it means you people are already dating. Since it takes two to tango, it is expected that the lady too should start calling, visiting, sending text, etc to show she is interested in the new relationship. All these automatically reduce the frequency of the guy's call, text, etc but that does not in any way reduces his care or interest in the babe.

But you kno when a king is reigning, everyone looks up to him.

efuah:

ehem ehem . . . ^{*cough* *cough*}

What is the cough about? i guess i would have met you first if you were in Nigeria. And our yeye super eagles denied me the opportunity to come and watch their finals in Ghana, we would have met then. I told you didn't i? You are another wonderful person on NL. I am proud of you.

janami:

yeah. met one. very nice
talked to a few ova the phone
chatted wit some. cool
some i ve chatted with sha get as them be o

Yep, I actually met Janami and we became friends.

Fine baby, hope Ibadan is cool? Looking forward to seeing you again.

tonia2000:

Av met very few like jintujinta in IB, he's really an intelligent guy

Hmmm, someone makes me feel like a bright fellow.

Well, really, i must say that i was impressed when i met Tonia. Really, some pix don't do justice to some people. Tonia is a pleasant person, beautiful and very cultured.

Honestly, there are some nice people on Nairaland. People i want to associate with for a long time.

janami:


Most unreasonable post - Why do ladies toast their male cantarpant

Hmm, janami, why is this the most unreasonable? Is it bad to ask a question when you are confused or do not know at all? Let's consider the topic, regardless of grammar.

Hmm, is this hostility that i see on this thread? Oops! How i wish we could do without it.

Please Trooe, gentlegg and tkb let us bury the hatchet and just pretend those offensive posts never exist.


Hmm, the day i will never forget.

It was mt first day in the boarding house. Inspite of all the excitement of going to the boarding house, i got there and was quite happy but the moment my parents turned the vehicle to leave water came rushing down my eyes. As if that was not enough, as i was still standing there waving at them as they departed, a senior student just barked at me " Hey you there, " Oh it was the begining of another life. It was the first time i had ever left my home to live somewhere else, even for a day. I later learnt that my mother also sobbed on her way home. But thank God i survived those bully of a senior.

Are you people saying there is no celebrity on this forum? Or are there no other threads or posts or even nairalander that is worth an award? Na waa o!

Raymond88:

Me, i nominate this thread for the number 7 award!

I knew you would do just that. At least it has won an award. Let's see which other one wins an award.

Hmmm, are you sure you ar not the one? Anyway, what does it matter if we all know who is involved. What matters is that they found love. May they live happily ever after.

GoldCircle:


Mine actually happened iback then in secondary school. Didnt know I was been watched by some junior students while I was wanking away in the bathroom. Ususally, we never really liked using the bathroom at night, so as usual, I opted for the abandoned classroom block near the hostel. it was after I was through with the whole episode that I heard people giggling behind the leaves and grasses. Gosh! I was so embarrassed! I warned them sternly not to hear this from anybody in school.

Hmm, how i wish they had cameras or camera phones.