₦airaland Forum

After 65 years of independence, Nigeria still tops the charts in all the negative indices of modern life!

Electricity, healthcare, security, economy etc are still nothing to write home about in this country!

What a shame!

I laugh at those of you who are seriously responding to Mr cocck ! That's a good way of knowing those that just got registered on NL recently!

Veterans already know the guy!

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delpee:
People married with low incomes in the past and worked hard together to build their homes successfully over the years. The problem may be that most people want perfection before committing to marriage now. Sadly, it means more people will stay single longer or never marry.

Spot on!
People have simply become greedier than before. The other day one guy was crying here that he's depressed and contemplating suicide because he has only 10 million in his account and two plots of land in his late twenties!

That's the kind of mindset youths of this generation now have! We have been so brainwashed to believe that we must be bastardly rich before marriage! In the past, people married when they had little to nothing and then build wealth with their better halves. It is said that he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour from God. This statement translates to mean that when two people come together in marriage through love, they think up ideas together, work together and build wealth together because like the saying goes; two good heads are better than one!

HowDareU:
Please stop this nonsense of stereotyping people (both male and female alike) as failures even if you the OP will not admit it. Marriage as not an achievement.

Now, as a married man, if you can't

1. Instill moral values on your kids, you are a failure
2. Pay rent, school fees, etc, you are a failure
3. F**k for at least five minutes (bedmatic-wise), you are a failure
4. Have peace of mind as a married man, you have failed.

What am I trying to emphasize? Marriage is not for everyone. You can be a failure even as a married man or woman.

Stop stereotyping single people as failure all because they are happy being singles.

Marriage is not an achievement OK, whether for people in their 30s, 40s, 50s or 60s?

Please don't marry o, you hear?

By the time you are in your 60s, lonely with no wife nor children of your own, you'll be filled with regrets and miserable, that is when you will understand that marriage is a great achievement!

Only those who failed in marriage or cannot get someone who agrees to marry them use that line "marriage is not an achievement"!

davidtemi:
Stop saying marriage is not an achievement.
It is an achievement for me and I love my family 100%

Only those who are unlucky to get someone marry them claim that marriage is not an achievement!

If getting a partner who loves and accepts to go through life with me while birthing my offsprings and propagating my genes is not an achievement, I wonder what else is!

Ubanz:
They're still young women, I don't understand why they should be so desperate.

Young women? Would you honestly allow your sons marry women who are in that age bracket

They most likely rejected men that proposed marriage to them when they were still young believing that they would get a man at the snap of their fingers whenever they want

Girls,! Once you hit the age of 18, try and get married if a responsible man comes to ask for your hand in marriage. You can plan yourself well and have both marriage and education concurrently. You'll be saving yourself alot of embarrassment and pressures in the future.

A word is enough for the wise!

nurudeen181:
But they said she's in her apartment

I know. Just saying what others go through when they are broke and living under same roof with their parents.

buttlover:
I believe her family and neighbours caused her death. Too much hate speech, gossips and family hating on your financial incapabilities can make one run out of the community. I am far away and healing.

Honestly, I pity anybody who is of age but still remains under same roof with their parents! The embarrassment is usually too much!

This generation of ladies are hell bent on destroying the marriage institution which is the foundation upon which society is built!

From the beginning of time, marriage was supposed to be between a man who LOVES his wife and a woman who has taken an intentional decision to accept and submit to the man! The woman's "love" was never intended to be a basis for the marriage because love is expected to come majorly from the partner who bears the bulk of the family's responsibilities and which happens to be the MAN.

It is because of the great responsibilities marriage places on the man that even God admonished the man to love his wife while the woman should submit to her husband! These things are simple logic! But ladies of this generation would want to confuse themselves with their so called love (love that shies away from responsibilities). The feminist groups who advise these ladies are the ones planting that senseless thoughts about the non existing "mutual love ' as a basis for marriage!

They forget that love is hardly mutual and that if people are to wait until they found 'mutual love ', they might eventually not find any until they grow old and less desired.

SpencerForbes:
She is clearly mentally ill, no two ways about it. The crazy part is that she’s actually beautiful, and I’m sure she has thousands of simps in her DM daily. She’s probably used to all that toxic "dominant-submissive" B.S. and thought she could live that lifestyle forever.

It’s a good thing she’s facing a jail term to serve as a deterrent. These feminists will be busy raising "bad boys" and toxic teens, then they’ll turn around and blame all men for the "patriarchy" they created.

If they wanted the dominant -submissive kind of relationship where the lady is the dominant, they could easily get adult males in their clime who'll be willing to do that with them!
This one is just a weirdo who probably has pedophilia as her fetish

ibedun:
When your country borrows money from IMF and World Bank, you are forced to sign away your rights and other terms that are detrimental to your people. It is how France, Britain, Europe and USA maintains power over us. Ghana had to allow US military bases on its territory when IMF refused to bail out the economy and currency crises about 15 years ago.

We need to postpone having children until we sort out or political and economic problems.

If we postpone having children like some of you ignorantly say, we'll be setting ourselves up for extinction! Even countries with sound healthcare are still confronted with the challenges of under population and existential threats let alone one with a very poor healthcare system! Average life expectancy in Nigeria is 54years for women and 48years for men! What does that tell you

THINK

The death rate in this country is growing worse on daily basis!
Why do we hardly hear news like this from the developed countries It's simply because they take their health sector seriously unlike Nigeria that has left our healthcare sector in ruins since independence!

To attain the age of 70yo is now a luxury in this country. Too bad! This is just a reflection of how bad our healthcare system has become! Nigerians need to rise up and demand that the government should fix our healthcare! It's a shame! Stop playing politics with our healths!

Go to our public hospitals in this country and you'll be confronted with an age-long decay that has left these hospitals running like though they're slaughter houses where people go to die instead of getting cured of their ailments! From gross shortage of staff to lack of equipment and infrastructural decay! Things are going from bad to worse as the days pass and this is really unfortunate!

RIP to the dead man!

Nigerians are a very funny set of people!
I expected that all Nigerians who have suffered hardship since the inception of this administration would come out en masse and support the oppositions in protesting against that electoral act amendment bill but alas all of them chickened out and left the few guys who protested against the bill.

That clause that permits manual transmission of results was deliberately inserted so that they can capitalise on it to rig the 2027 elections! Election rigging come 2027 would have been effectively checkmated if that clause was not added! I expected even the organised labour and every other Nigerian to come out and protest but everybody just shied
away but when the elections are eventually rigged next year, they'll not let us hear something.

Kudos to the likes of Peter for Nigeria, Sowore and other guys who stood gallantly in opposition of the bill. At least they tried!

The man just wanted to intimidate the gym instructor. I'm sure that lady I'm seeing is not underaged, so unless a case of rape is established against the guy, he didn't commit any offence!

The lady must have filled in her bio data and indicated her age before being allowed to gym, so all the instructor needs is to present her filled bio data forms and this matter might just be turned against the man.

This usually happens to me after watching a comic film, especially one acted by Osuofia and/or late Sam Loco.

Even while alone, I'll be smiling to myself when I remember some funny scenes in the movie.

Gerrard59:
That is the problem - not grateful or happy where he is. The OP does not appear to be grateful for what he has achieved, and rather than being strategic about how to succeed or generate bigger revenues, he goes ballistic about other people's successes and how women disgust him. Yet him wan use masturbation finish himself.

I don't know how therapy works, and I am not too sure if it even works on Nigerians living in Nigeria, but he needs something similar or to become closer to his creator if he is religious. Something tells me he resides in the Lekki-Ajah area or Warri/Benin City axis.

Exactly! Many people don't even have a quarter of what he has yet they're happy and contented.

Op really needs therapy asap

These are the people's senators while all the other ones are rubber stamp senators who live at the mercy of APC and Tinubu. What a shame!

I'm particularly disappointed in that man called Kelvin Chukwu! A man who benefited from the people's sympathy votes to be in the senate when his brother was brutally assassinated by the tyrant of that time. We had all thought that he'll go there and stand with the people but alas, he is being used by the powers that be to oppress the people. You're a shame to your family and Nkanuland in general, Mr Kelvin Chukwu!

Even the roads in your village are begging for attention! The road linking Amorie to Uhuona Ugbawka is in pitiable state and you've been there doing nothing about it! You're failing those of us who supported you to be there!

What a disgrace you are!

gistray:
10m is less than $7k

Standard Rolex is $25k

I can't even afford 2016 honda accord.

Before I buy anything I always have 4x the cost of the thing.

Only a fooool will think he's made it with 10-50m networth.

Well I don't expect anyone below 28 years or 5 years out of university to understand me

I sincerely have 0 interest in women right now... I genuinely want to be in a relationship but the women these days are disgusting.

Even runs girls disgust me.

Anything female disgust me

Obviously, your problem is GREED and if you don't work on that by living a life of contentment, you'll continue being miserable even in the midst of plenty! And mind you, mazturbation is NOT your problem! The majority of guys who have attained reproductive age without being married (even some married men) do it and are still doing well in their vocations! Don't let anybody guilt trip you!

IPDGP:
You were raped and first thing is to come online and publicize it,
Somethings should be kept private.
Abi u wan use this too trend

Publicising it will help her get help fast. I wish the 1di1ot that did this to her is caught and incarcerated!

I wonder what some guys enjoy in rap1ng girls! Forced sex is the most tasteless kind of sex ever! It's better to mazturbate than to ra?pe! Only the lowest of guys do that!

Nothing beats sex between mutually consenting adults with great chemistry between them.

I completely support the ban because from experience, those stuffs they package in sachets and sell to people are highly poisonous!

As a guy man, I have tried some of them on a few occasions and the experiences were unsavoury! It's better for a guy man to take just a few bottles of beer and chill than taking those packaged poisons!

tunjijones:
This Enugu government is trying not like the Cho Cho Cho one in Abia state without any evidence.

Because the Abia governor never join APC?

Kudos to governor Mbah for his intentional developmental strides in Enugu state. We are seeing his workings!

Authoreety:
Juvenile delinquency taken to the extreme..


Hope he gets what he deserves

This one is not juvenile delinquency because the culprit is no longer a juvenile

Na because of men like that guys dey join street.

That kin thing nor go happen to me o but if it happens to me, I go use street settle am. That man don prize be that and anybody wey prize suppose ready to pay!

I fit no even do am anything on the spot. Na coded them dey take treat that kind fvckup

This is how my girl and I will be. I want to model our marriage like that of Omosexy and her husband. I'll soon buy my girl a Lamborghini and the plate number will be customised to "NnwaSexy"

Sirchiboy:
I formed aweareness against yelloww women in Nigeria.
Those people have destroy the life of their kids and made their childhood traumatic..
I keep saying , you don't know what God had done for you if your mother is a black mother.

Stop posting these gibberish you keep posting like a bot here! The fact that your mother is ALLEGEDLY a bad example, doesn't mean all fair mothers are like her!

My own mom is a typical example of a "yellow pawpaw". She's fair and very beautiful like the typical Igbo ''yellow pawpaw '' but you needed to see her working those days. She worked like a Jackie and through her combined efforts with my dad, all of us acquired university education.

I get irritated whenever I see your posts castigating your parents here! From what I can deduce in all you've been posting about your parents, you're the problem and not your parents! Your entitlement mentality stinks to high heavens! Don't go and work and change your family's financial situation. Remain there and be looking for whom to blame!

Just imagine! That's why the sector is in shambles!

Go to most of our public hospitals, they're still grappling with shortage of health workers and lack of equipment and drugs!

No wonder those hospitals lacked antivenoms to treat the snake bite victim! What kind of country is this please This is wickedness of the highest degree we are witnessing in our health sector!

You can't tell me there's no money in this country to get our health sector fixed! The opulence and extravagant lifestyles of our political office holders is a clear testament to the fact that there's money in this country! Our evil, wicked and unthinking politicians are simply sharing all the money to their selves and their families! Chai! God save this country nau, abeg!

Entanglement:
so if you caught her cheating will you forgive her?

Cheating is a different thing all together. My girl knows that cheating is a deal breaker for me so I'm sure she wouldn't dare!

Kalulu44:
Forgiving her short comings like sleeping with another guy while still with you abi

That would be the red line and I'm sure she won't dare! But most other things that lead to marital issues can be overcome by constant forgiveness of your partner even after showing your displeasure

dollytino4real:
do u know where good men is? because dey are not from my tribe o

I'm sure there are many good men in your tribe or other tribes around you. You're the one who chose to marry a man who is giving you hell!

Wise ladies are able to decipher good men who would give them peace in marriage but the unwise and confused ones focus on ephemeral things and then end up with the bad guys only for them to turn around and start complaining after the marriage.

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cmikel:
Failed state , where the medical staff care less of human life.

The way theses hospital staff behave to patience on that country will make you wonder wat a country is that.


Everything boils down to failed leadership


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Health workers remain the hardest working cadre of civil servants in Nigeria yet they are grossly underpaid, overworked and suppressed!

Government fail to employ enough health workers to man our hospitals thereby overworking the few ones available, why won't they be unhappy

Hospitals are meant to run 24/7 but government would not employ enough hands to deliver health services! It is a shame! That's why you see some health workers being unhappy and venting their angers on the patients!

Let FG develop a system that ensures that employment of health workers gets easy to ensure that the hospitals are running efficiently such that as older health workers are retiring/resigning, they are effectively replaced by newer ones! Also, they should be well-paid and have their other welfares taken care of.

If the above is not done, we will just have to live with the consequences of being cared for by an unhappy and unhealthy health workforce!

eniolorunfe:
Your wife was 19/20 when you got married and you were 30/31 and you didn’t prepare for drama(s)? The age difference is a lot! 11 years?! More than a decade

As per your question, the ball is in your court. Your wife no send you.

So, older women don't display dramas in their marriages Why do you guys like lying about age difference being a cause of marital issues and wives' dramas? Just anything to discourage men from marrying younger girls!


@op, I'll advise you to do everything within your power to get your wife back. Attend the funeral and make sure your wife notices your presence. Do everything you can to help give your mother-in-law a befitting funeral.

After like one months of mourning, go back and do everything to get your wife back. Good thing that your father-in-law seems to be on your side. Remember that in our culture, men are usually the ones who marry off their daughters! Or did you pay her bride price to her mother?

Drop your ego at this point and beg your wife and in-laws, buy her favourite gifts and melt her heart. I'm sure that if she sees the seriousness in you, your wife will come around. The issue wouldn't have lingered for this long if not that you allowed your ego get a better part of you. So, drop that ego now, beg your wife and get your family back.

There's nothing serious in this issue to warrant the lingering separation. After reconciling with your wife, make sure you don't repeat this mistake of laying your hands on her ever again. Don't listen to all these people here advising you to move on. Many of them would crawl to their wives if they find themselves in similar situation!