lasspee: There will be no limits to how this government will disrespect Nigeria Constitution and rule of law.How could this government announced a monetary directives without briefing the National Assembly or at least the affected committee that is not only important but could have helped shape the discussion.

8ogoegbunam: [url][/url]To God be the glory. I solved the problem with my wife. I prayed about it to God,on sunday morning she begged to follow me to Anglican church service. I feel very elated. She also agreed that our children when they come will follow my denomination. I love my wife and I do not want divorce. I gave her a concession of remaining a chatholic,as long as she attends anglican church once a month. Thanks all for your advice.

MLS12:

I knew u would take sides wit her.pls be a true friend to her madam and tell her the truhth.she is so full of anger like their was a problem with her childhood.

Eko Ile:

I don't mind answering your r.e.tarded question, but first tell me what its got to the with the topic. du.mb I,diot.

MLS12: Thought i was the only one noticing her very harmful comments.very fake woman/Fake life

Noiseless2: I have seen that the way fake people like yourself in particular jump to attack or over read meanings into whatever Igbo posters say here is the reason Onlytruth made that comment.I have gone through most of comments on this forum,the way in which you are too excited to spit on Igbos is very disturbing even when the topic has nothing to do with niger delta, that really got me to wonder if you are really not one of those posing as "niger deltans" on this forum. Before I forget, it will be good to remind you your hatred for Goodluck Jonathan as I have also read where you joined with those who promised to make him a laughing subject on this forum to bash him up, now I ask again which region or zone are you originally from and who are you working for or what are you hoping to achieve on this forum with such snake like attitude?

Eko Ile: see as the useless abati man open up another line of attack against his master...,lmao

Onlytruth: I wonder where all the so called "Niger deltans" are now. They won't show up now. The more they avoid direct confrontation with the North over things like this, the more I think that Ndigbo should support the North in them, because we should not fight their wars for them, especially as some of them would rather fight Igbo than aboki.

I hope that Ohanaeze will stay away from this until we know who to support for sure.

take dat: you must be a silly person for insulting millions of Nigerian who thronged all out to vote for GEJ.So it is now a crime to critize his govt(either constructively or otherwise).It is now that majority of those that voted for him but due to his uncoordinated lapses have turned against him inorder for him to get his acts right are fools.

Sam Milla: Crap. Keep decieving yourself.

okoji: I don't mind jennykadry giving the so called 'bitter truth' however she always comes across as bitter and abusive. You can be firm without being insultive.

chillbabe: @OP I proudly put first my husbands name and then my fathers name cause that's my own identity. So because am married I can't honor my father any more. Sometimes I dnt get some Nigerian men it is men of ur liking that disrupts marriages with stupid comments like this. Thank GOD ur not my husbands friend.

Kobojunkie:

el Mor0nicus, let me guess, the simple truth is that Goodluck Jonathan built companies in Nigeria to increase local extraction to satisfy local demand? Care to tell us where he got the money? Where these companies are, and how much Nigerian people are making, if at all from these local quarries built by Jonathan Goodluck?

Akilo kazeem: If terorist are paid such amount of money,then what does the fg expect the civillians to do.....cant they arrest this people and put them were they beloung instead of compesating them.......nawaooooo

NobleAngell: Well, playin hard 2 get works 4 me anyday...anytym...anywer. Hehehe!

jennykadry:

Why should he? Don't you know that women are now slaves to them men?

Billyonaire: The title of the thread should be; Jobless Niger-Delta Youths storm Abuja asking for government assistance.

Kobojunkie:

I am glad you admit that I am an aunty to you cause there is no way in hell I can be the same age or on the same level with a nincompoop.

Here's a correction for you. First off, I am not gay so there is no way I could go for young imbec_ciles like you . . . I don't swing that way, boy! I don't know why you need me to be a woman . . I don't know any "Sarah" . . .. never dated a "Sarah" in my life and I hope I won't cause the name alone . . . lol . . . Dude, I am glad you are open enough to tell us you are gay, but stop going around assuming we are all in the same boat as you. Stop trying to sweet talk me into poking you from behind. . . . I am not gay ooooO!!!!

Secondly, that a curse has been placed on you does not then mean everyone else who makes it obvious to you is also cursed. All I have done is simply point out the fact that you were simply ranting there . . . she didn't want you enough but that ain't no reason to now try to DEMONIZE HER.

chaircover: ify i dont think he wants his wife to go oooo! if he did he would have turfed them all out a long time ago.

Agreed he allowed things to happen, but what is done is done. How does he solve this with minimal damage? he wants the MIL out, he wants his wife in he home. How does he achieve this?

mukina2: ^
thanks

Richvkunt: ^
Any one with sense should be able to see that moremi was one of the internet feminists disguised as a man. Stop pretending you were not in the know.

chaircover: Dont know which one is the funnier post JD's or Richy's

JD we dey ooooooooo! and we seem to be increasing by the day. Its just that we have lost Moremi our only male member but intel has it that Moremi is actually F**R in disguise

TV01:

Evening all,

@OP before I say anything, may I please ask a few questions?

1. This is your third child - congratulations by the way - so presumably your MIL has been to stay before?
2. And you still haven't outright dealt with her or devised a strategy with your wife to manage her behaviour?
3. Or are you saying she has suddenly turned ogre and was all sweetness and light prior to this?
4. Plus, she seems to have manouvered your wife into throwing in her lot with her against you?

Altogether sounds one kind sha? Any way sir, apologies upfront, I will be cruel to be kind . You need flogging! Truth be told, sounds like you are taking a bit of a beating already .

Listen carefully - Be a man! (said on my best faux chinese market stall owner voice!)

You command your household sir; and that includes wives, children, in-laws, out-laws, friends, whatever. Particularly so in the Naija context as some of them are just mickey takers

First, don't listen to any of the "womanly" advice on this thread. If they have their way, they'll have you baking "I Love MIL cupcakes". If I could swear eh!

For me opportunity came to spell it out before we were actually married. Omo, I grabbed it with both hands. We went for a "gathering" of my WTB' family. I'd already said "no wedding talk" as this was regards something and someone else. As it happened - and it was always going to with a dozen or so females in attendance - the girls stated discussing the wedding. At one point one of my wife's sisters - the dominant one - questioned my family input.

Ah!!!! With all my WTB' siblings, their spouses/partners and my future MIL present, I turned on her like a harbour shark. When I finished there was stunned silence. Meanwhie, I was preparing for strike 2. Needless to say, it was not necessary. From that time on all her family approach me with caution. We've are all lovey dovey now - and I'm great pals with my SIL - but I've still got my finger on the trigger.

We left shortly after. When we got back to mine, I strictly warned my WTB, that if she ever sides with anyone against me - even if I'm wrong - there would be trouble. In fact, If she didn't go to war on my behalf if anyone spoke ill of me or even doubted me...'nuff said.

Men, be men! Better to let your in-laws fear you 100% than disrespect/despise you 1%. Set your stall out on this point as early as possible and don't give an inch. Many will test you to see how much they can get away with. I'm not saying be confrontational or aggressive. Just firm and assertive. Abeg, don't scare your sweetheart away 0!

When we had our first born, both mothers turned up. I said "one can stay at a time". They said how do we arrange it?. I said what's my own?? just make sure that my wife is supported and my son well cared for. I'm off to the gym . There has been no problem whatsoever, or if there has been, they are sure to ensure it does not come to my notice. Yes 0! I deal with my own mother too if required.

Any problems and they would have both been out. And I would have personally given them their marching orders. Forget all this go and call "senior aunty or send for big mummy" wussy/girly-man counsel. It's your home. Command it. And be seen to command it. Skirt is slapping you and you want to call blouse to save you? Nansense.

OP' own is far gone, but I'll say this;

1. Your wife is off-message. Start your remedial action here. Remind her of what you are both committed to, your achievements thus far, your future plans and your joint priorities. That should be the prosperity of your union without fear or favour. Remind her of the effort and sacrifice you've both made and the danger of letting your MIL' behaviour going unchecked. Agree a plan with her (communication with your wife has been impaired, restore that. And note it may not be a conversations job. It may take time. Be patient).

2. The plan is for MIL' departure - preferably on the next coach outta town. You should be the one to tell her. Best with your wife present, but mute or possibly chipping in to support you 100%. Choose your words wisely, "you appreciate the time she spent and the support she's given....yada, yada...but you'd like some time alone as a family...don't explain 0! Command dammit!

3. If you can't successfully accomplish 1. above you have a bigger problem than you think.

4. Presumably you are not beholden to MIL or any IL in any way?

5. All the best. Please update us.

Regards
T - commanding like a Field Marshal - V