Really? This sounds like a nollywood movie. Please spare us.

mondi_cheeks: it happened to my neighbour's wife a couple of years ago. the husband always went out every weekend and he would come back around 2-3am...i guess she felt lonely, she started seeing another man. the first time she was busted he let it go and the second time she was busted, she went home to pack all her stuff before the husband could chase her out himself. because he did not know how on the earth he was going to raise his children he told her not to go because he still loved and needed her and she stayed...but he still goes out every weekend friday to sunday. i know cos he always hoots at the bloody gate around 2-3am!!! even in her mid 40s she still looks hot so i wldnt be shocked if i heard she did it again kikiki

Yes, all young men should have their wives password to all things like emails, facebook etc. You can get he passwords either openly or with subterfuge. The important thing is to be in a position to monitor her activities.

Sorry, but is it just me or is the level of education dropping?

"Village Born And Town Born....which Is More Smart?"

Was this written by a school dropout? Anyway to answer the question, wherever you were born seems to be the place for the less mentally endowed.

Billyonaire: In Politics and in high acumen business scene the music is diplomacy. Its saying the nastiest things in the nicest ways. Fashola needs to learn how to talk. He has performed very well by Nigerian standard, but he needs to learn to talk diplomatically. The laws are meant for the people and not otherwise, but I can relate with the depopulation policy of the underground mafia that owns Lagos. Thanks to the Atlantic gods, I also own a stake in Lagos. Fashola should learn to talk like a seasoned politician and not like a nepotist.

Sadly this is what he is increasingly being revealed to be.

This guy is just another clown. I spent time on a racist web forum while the results were coming in. The reactions of the rednecks were so gratifying to me, especially as they knew I am a black man.

gbemies: if elites are d problem.den wat is jonathan? unelites? or inelites

GEJ is the president. The elite are a class of people. Jonathan had no shoes.

What is wrong with the girls of now a days? They are only interested in money, bloody slack kittied twats. What happened to for better or WORSE? Women should learn to carry the reponsibilities of the home finance wise. Afterall the witches here who sing the liberation songs claim men if anything are infirior beings.

@OP

Your wife might be cheating. When you met her at the mutton eating place did you inspect her kitty? Always look at the kitty, it tells you more truth than their mouths.

Anyway as you have missed a great opportunity to catch her red handed, you have to ask her to explain herself. Whatever she says you need to be alert so as to catch her the next time-

How do you define who "a cheat" is?

The Ijaw and the other niger delta peoples do not hate the ibo, we just demand respect and non interference from them.

Who ever made the statement is a very wise chap. There is no opposition to GEJ's 2cd term. He justs needs to keep the transfromation on track.

Please call the mods.

jennykadry: If any one of you's want to argue with a spambot please take it elsewhere. I TOLD YOU'S THAT IF YOU IGNORE HIM HE WILL GO, you reply him and he keeps coming back.

Please If you want to keep on arguing with him take it elsewhere. I will be calling on the mods to delete some comments here.

berem: so you advise her to divorce bah? Then she should stay single abi wait for another man who doesn't flirt? Or are you ready to marry her after she divorces? Ok o! @poster, I think you have heard? I have nothing else to say.I think everything lies on her.

Don't you know these girls on this board? They are afraid of women like you. You represent what they can't have - happiness, stability and most importantly the love of a man. Look at the nonsense they preach. Pity them their pathetic lives and continue to give the true seekers your honest advise.

If I did not know better, I would think you have a crush on me.

greatgod2012:

sincerely, u and this ur tradition, na wa oo,this ur culture don turn u to a complete (insane) madman. U really need attention urgently. Eeyah, as young as u are they come use culture turn u to this.kpele!

Hahahahahahahhahaahahahaha...................... I have been laughing for a while now at your posts. Really, did what I said on the other thread hurt you so much? You seem really really upset. You have followed me on every thread insulting me. No wa o!!, where is the Christian in you? What I told you was in good faith.

greatgod2012: @ jenny,, i hope so too

@cotton, im happy 4 u, at least u are strong enough to come out alive, some arekilled in it,at least Titi,was an example,had it been she was daring enough to come out of dt battlefield on time, she wouldnt be late by now.so i love u my sister.
@tasandra, dont mind johndoe, hes a disgrace to humanity, i wonder d jungle he came from or probably, hes an excaped lunatic from yabaleft,it will do him good to go back there and complete his therapy and drugs.

@OP
Take heart, you should know that in our culture you cannot own the man alone. He has married you and you are the "iya le" as the Yoruba call it I think. Turn your mind away from those kinds of things and love him for who he is. He still loves you. Be a good and loving wife, take care of him and your children and leave him to his "away games". You really can not stop them and they mean nothing, most likely.
I wish you the best.

strangeworld: An informat told me that about 3months ago my husband took a lady to his friends house during office hour to have sex with her.
I then confronted my husband which he denied, but when I presented him with facts, it was then he Confessed to the said issue and apologised.
However I find it hard to let go, I can't beleve he actually slept with another lady. Am so depressed as a lot ve been running thru my mind.

please I need advice 4m married woman who had caught their husband cheating how they handle the situation.
Thank you

I have told you several times. When you want to play a fast one on people, you must use some iota of intelligence. It always baffles me why you do things that are so transparent. Anyway please go ahead, you and debrief and the others didn't plan this, you just happened to want to have a good cry about those brutes (men for those that are in doubt. God spare us from mad women, lunatics and rabid femi nazis.


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jennykadry: @sane people

Please ignore him and concentrate on the thread.

I did not insult you. I just pointed out the truth. Not my fault really. I would though, suggest that you try and tone down the insults as they do not take the place of civilized discourse. After 8 years your husband still has to come home from work to cook. I would suggest some self improvement courses. I don;r know what you and your husband do for a living, but if you are in Nigeria I know that people who either did not go to or did not complete high school can get adult education classes to make up.

greatgod2012:

look at urself, u coward! Are u not d one dt started d insult, when u insulted me and my hubby,because i made use of our marriage as example, so u expected me not to reply u,......u got it all wrong, men like u are supposed to be flogged in public for being a disgrace to manhood.
Chai! What a moronic,uncivilised, dumb and selfish man u are.
Nevertheless, im not angry with u, i have seen d way u react to women's posts, so, u are used to it, im sure dt is how u will be rude to ur mama, oh! May God not give us a son dt will bring shame to us.

**spits**

Gbawe, you exhibit all the characteristics of your people. Is it not "all" about our oyel money? Please what does "more support" actual mean? Is it not more oyel money? The fact is that the other Yoruba fools are telling us to eff off but to leave our oyel money behind. You keep referring to me as a feudalist, on the contrary I am much more of a progressive than you will ever be. As for bigotry, anyone reading this thread would understand whom the bigots are.

"They can't let us be because we are their lifeline. Their destinies are tied to Yorubaland. A successful ibo man today is shackled by Lagos." This is classic. I am not ibo but from where I sit both you Yoruba and the ibos exist on our oyel money. Do you know how funny it is to see you fight over who can steal the most of our money?

Gbawe:

Stupid feudalist and unrefined bigot. Is Lagos not the most cosmopolitan State in Nigeria and home to every Villager who leaves other States as soon as they turn 15 to move to Lagos? Even International agencies, with some of the world's brightest technocrats, want more support for Lagos because of its population that is fast turning the State into one the world's most populous mega-cities. Educated and balanced folks deal with reality and what is desirable for sustaining the comfort of man. Yet, we can trust a bush boy and 'omo ai je obe ri' to make everything about "our oyel". Unrefined cretin.

You see what I mean about puzzy and discourse? Once you start to talk to them they just go and start to insult people. Really sad.

greatgod2012:

did u just typed d above, in this civilised age, chai! And u will tell me u are exposed,civilised and educated. Waoh! Its a pity! I only pity 2 sets of pple in ur life:
1. Ur parents; 4 wasting money on u in form of ur education. U are a waste!
2. Ur wife/wife-to-be; 4 agreeing to marry a beast like u.

N.B. I have never being sarcastic like this on dis forum, but u deserve to be answered like this.
FOOL!

Desola:

Whichever way you look at it, the Yorubas would no longer be part of your stupid Nigerian politics, we would decide the best leaders for ourselves and be rest assured that PDP's days in the west are over for good! If you like, dance over your moonlight fire, the recent development in Ondo just proves to the whole world that the Yorubas are a cut above all other rubbish ethnic groups in Nigeria and we should never have been lumped with you di.ckheads in the first place.

Emmm... Gbawe was on the other thread pushing the begging bowl that you errr.. Yoruba have been placing in front of GEJ for more oyel money as Lagos is a "special case". You want our money but don't want to associate with us? Typical. But you know Yoruba people are like that.

My traditions = useless
My people = bad husbands
From your screen name you should be Yoruba. Do you want me to give you a brief overview of your culture?
I will only counsel you to keep quiet, sometimes talking just makes you look foolish.

omotola1:
So u intend to be held bound by ur useless taboo huh?
Even if ur village encourages slavery, can‘t you use ur own common sense and be a good husband?
After u finish using ur wife,she will now look as old as ur grandmother. Then u will marry another slave (wife) again.

I usually don't respond to posts by women, as most times they lack the requisite acumen to engage in an intelligent discourse. I will in this case because you exhibit the classic confusion of many women on this board. I stated the cultural viewpoint of my people and what did you do? You immediately started the usual internet fantasy that "we Nigerians" just are so backward. We should immediately drop our culture and follow you? Women in my place and from my place are slaves? Do you know how insulting that is?

In real life young lady aside from the possession of a V. agina what can you point to as something to be proud of? Look I am not a fool if you and that wimp you married have been married for 8 years and he is still sharing the cooking with you, then you both are failures. Even my steward (that's what we call senior houseboys ) has younger family members living with him and his wife who help out with things like that. 8 years , kids, and, the fool is still cooking?

Young and unmarried men like dayokanu can say what they like , in the future when they actually have a wife and kids, they will sing a different song.

greatgod2012: Sometimes, it baffles me when i read some posts on dis forum,e.g Johndoe's, i just shake my head when some pple take women as slaves. Imagine, u have ur work and i have mine, after a hectic work in office, and we are back home, somebody will sit down and be watching tv, while d other person will start d 2nd round job of cooking,cleaning d house, taking care of d kids,etc, while d other person is siting down, in d name of being a man, heeee, its barbaric, its wickedness,its inhuman, haba!men be more responsible,its no crime and will never be a crime. Afterall, u will want ur wives to assist financially in d running of d house and at d same time u wont want to be denied of intimacy, so, if women assist financially, i think d man should also assist in d kitchen and at home.Anyway,thank God im not married to such a wicked man or else..............
NOTE: im not talking about a full housewives o, but for working-class wife. Let some men change, let them be more loving,it pay off.

Women, if ur men are assisting u in d kitchen/home, always remember dt its not their duties, traditionally, so, appreciate it and never u abuse d privilege. I am so lucky 4 having my hubby, and 4 close to 8yrs of marriage now,i've not abused it, i treat my hubby like d king he is and he treats me also like d queen i am.
May God help us all.

debrief08: No we do not, wisdom and experience are two different things.

For me one if the wisest men in the section is Mrjaybrown and I doubt he is married, Siena is wise too, but was wise even before he married, I have read his posts from way back.

Really? pray tell, is it in your wrapped and damaged psyche that wisdom resides with the youth? You know you would be more plausible if for once you could stop all this BS you spout and be real. But then again, people like you who are damaged may in fact be more experienced but less wise than your own children. For the rest of us wisdom is acquired over time as a result of experience.

234GT: Asiwaju's pocket must be supplemented!

The Ondo election was expensive.

I like the way the Yoruba people like Gbawe believe that oyel money stolen from us should be dashed to them because according to them there are a lot of people in their states. All the while saying things like " resource control is not necessary". Is it not this same need to steal oyel money that made gbawe, tinumbu and co so desperate to remove Mimiko?

@OP
Are you a woman? How can your wife treat you like this? No intimacy? You have to BEG for it? Jesus what weak men we have today. Thank God you have at least cheated. You need to assert your authority in that home. It really does not matter if she loves you or not, that is her problem. She is in your house and so long as she is their she must conform to your rules.

My sincere advice to you is to step up and lay down the law in that house. You also must step up efforts to generate CASH. Does not have to be a job, but you just gotta have some cash coming in.

It is a taboo where I am from for a man to enter the kitchen to cook, when a woman is there. What are the men of today becoming? Tufiakwa!!!!! Abomination of the highest order.

Children, children, children. Why of course teenagers and people in their twenties have infinitely more wisdom than their elders. Is it not our tradition to turn to the young and inexperienced when we are troubled or in need of advice? My people have seen the error of their ways and have wisely replaced the council of elders with the council of youngsters.

redsun: So can a church send somebody to jail for stealing?Where is the forgiveness they are preaching? Hypocrites.

This is the true face of the "born again" church. People that are set up to help you part with your money.