All this emotion over a picture that really does not look like a Nigerian hospital setting. "Somebody said" is now the standard when it comes to "those monsters - men". Any other subject and evidence would be the cry.

This is what this board has become. Foreigners one and all.

@OP
I doubt you will get a thrift store. What is available are people that buy the stuff you have. They will either come, look them over and "price" the stuff or if you are the trusting type, you give them the items and they return with the cash. They are all over the place, at least in Lagos. I am not sure about clothes, but electronics etc. That's easy. Just ask the locals (the drivers, security mallams, electricians, plumbers etc.

Yea right and santa claus is coming to town..........

damola57: When pres jona was brought in by the last election, nobody voted for pdp party but the candidate presented because we thot he was credible. Since then, the only thing our president has improved on is lying to our faces on national tv. Nigeria have learned to be patient. We are waiting for the 4 yrs to end. After this, pres jona, okupe and his fellow boot-lickers will be swept by the tides of time.

There is nothing wrong in what the Bayelsa government wants to do. Abacha was not as bad as he was painted. I was there during his reign. Nadeco and the other Yoruba people created a climate of fear and milked it for all its worth. The economy was not to bad.

This is the kind of nonsense that I expect from sahara misreporters. I trust that fool demdem to parrot anything from those clowns.

Lord_Reed: I was shocked and appalled that GEJ a civilian President would choose to wear a military uniform on the 1st of October Nigeria's independence day. I consider it a slap on the face of democracy and a sign of things to come. Even Obasanjo an ex-military Head of State didn't wear a uniform in his days a civilian president.

Yes, you would be. Why are there so many semi literate, poorly uneducated cretins around here? God, are things this bad?

The truth is that the critics ARE SILLY. Why sugar coat the truth?

I couldn't agree with you more. Let's change them now. Why don't you identify yourself and I guarantee that some things will start to change.

@OP
Does it have to be wives?, I don't lie to my wife. My concubines on the other hand I do tell small lies, like these:

Concubine: Do you really love me?
Me: You know I do.

Concubine: Are you going to leave your wife and family?
Me: Yes, of course. I told you I am going to kick my wife out next week.

Concubine: You know I need a car, I told you I don't like tokunbo.
Me: Darling, we have talked about this many times. I have ordered the new car, the dealer says his next lot will soon arrive in Nigeria.

Life in Lagos na wa oh!!

Yes, he (if the lover was a man) seems to have been rather upset with her. Just goes to show, women should be faithful.

obowunmi: Ma'am you know I am secretly in love with you so - I couldn't agree more.

But how does one begin to change this culture? Where to begin?

Wow debrief and her "baby" lover who has declared his love for her. This is what this section has become.

Meanwhile lets be educated about violence by the the cabal.

Another totally fake story. Nigerians will believe anything.

This is obviously an animal probably a camel that has been skinned.

SimonAndal: Methought he told the brits to "fuçk off" during the gay bill brouhaha?

Abi, I am surprised that he has forgotten so soon.

Efemena_xy: ^^ Sick response from a sick mind. Oya Clap for yourself.

Why not just snuff the life out of all your female relations & family members too?? You might want to try out this advice of yours, starting with your mum, sisters and daughter(s)

That way, you can be 100% sure they'll never protest against you or any other man.

The highlighted part is highly disrespectful. Is this what they do in iboland where you come from?

slimyem: I'm telling myself Johndoe is being sarcarstic with his post....

Hmmmmmmmmm.........

Why can't men handle their business nowadays ? Discipline your women. Keep them in their place. Don't you just love the way their nostrils flare and their eyes widen in fear when you are annoyed? Don't you enjoy watching them cringe before you? Men be men.

If you have a problem with a woman and you are in doubt as to what to do, slap her once or even twice. Honestly it will give you time to think of what to do next. Whatever the case it will help the situation. Ideally you should institute a regular system whereby you find fault in something she does, this will give you practice in scolding her and establishing the fact that she can do nothing really correctly, it will also establish a routine. This works even if she is still a girlfriend, but don't waste your energy on a girl you are not really serious about. Now once the routine is established, you will get better at spotting these poorly performed tasks, up to and including how she greets you when you come in the door. Now when there is a problem from her end (doesn't really matter what) you have additional "sins" you can easily accuse her of. With practice you will learn how to work yourself up into a fury at these infractions. Believe me they quickly learn the signs of your anger and this shuts them up. As I said earlier, look for the physical signs, the flared nostrils, the deer in the headlight eyes. If you still need to, a slap at this point could serve to drive home the point.

Every young man, about to marry or recently married should learn this and PRACTICE it. Your home will be peaceful and your woman or women will LOVE AND OBEY you the way it was meant to be. For men of my age we didn't know these things, I wish I had someone to teach me all this when I was first starting out.

Don't you have a boyfriend or some other juvenile activity to attend to? Some equally small girl will "snatch" your boyfriend, while you post here.

I am implacably opposed to the propagandists and their attempt to pollute the atmosphere with their insane world view. Debrief has opened another thread on the same theme. This plethora of threads is not accidental. poorly planned, but planned none the less.

Now one final thing, I am the last person to care what some kids think about what I do, post or say, go play with the other kids and free me.

Sisi_Kill:
I swear to God, sometimes I am almost certain you suffer from multiple personalities.

Your posts on this thread are one of the few sensible posts on violence I have read so far. . .I mean for the first time you had something to say worth listening to. Only for morning to dawn and there is an about face.

At some point, you gotta realize somethings are just what they are, that there are no hidden meaning or sinister motives and no one is playing cat and mouse game with you.

The topic says WE HAVE A BIG VIOLENCE PROBLEM IN NIGERIA. . .how has that changed?? Where is the propaganda?

When this thread was first started, I thought it was just a thread about how we have become a violent society. Only later did I find out that it was just so the OP, debrief could wet the ground for her fellow warriors against men who are distributing their propaganda on the other thread.

These damaged people never stop.

Ngodigha:
Monkey, where did you get 28 million from?.
Ijaws in Nigeria are 5 million and probably 2million outside=7million.

Who is a monkey? Why are these foools bothered. Amazing. I never knew the ibos were this jealous. I had heard that they were disgusting but, you don't want to believe. Now I can see that everything they say about Igbo is true. No Igbo man can be president in this country.

debrief08:
Did someone steal your password? You make a lot of sense today .
I agree except the "get used to it part", When we get use to violence then we become lower than animals

I have always made sense, you just spend too much time with the cabal. As to getting used to the violence, girl it's really hard out on the streets.

@ PretiEbony & slimyem
Well I am sure that both of you don't expect me to believe that the father just stood up one day and decided to say these things. There is always a history. When someone comes with a story and hides the history it is called bias. Tell the whole story.

debrief08:
Nothing more to add, everything is violence, we are so aggressive, we think talking and taking steps to rationally work issues out is a waste of time.

This is because in today's Nigeria talking and rationality are a waste of time. You can come on the internet and have a love fest with people in America and think you have done something. The truth is in Nigeria on the streets and in everyday life, violence is becoming the only option.

Is this good? Heck no, the society has become brutalized. When I was growing up, seeing a dead person was something big, the elders would tell us to cover our eyes. Now whenever armed robbers strike or some other act of violence takes place, there is a rush to go and film the carnage. I know places where teenagers discuss with pictures the effects of a 7.65 mm round (the bullets for an AK47) on the human head.

Now casual brutality is the in thing. There is no means for people to seek justice. So they take whatever measures that they can. The streets of Nigeria are a brutal place to be and it will only get worse because no one really cares. The government in an effort to bring peace and a sense of belonging to the people created a court, the human rights court. This court has the same powers to jail people as the state or federal high court. We all celebrated, until the head of the place said on TV, that he is not interested in cases where people get beaten, or trampled on. That he wants people to bring serious cases such as "the denial of the right to employment due to the governments economic policies". Everyone got the message and I am sure that no case has gone before that court since.

This is a hobsian society. Violence is what we know and what we have. Get used to it.

jennykadry: Slap that madness Comot for her eyes. Are you a man at all? which kain nonsense is this one. Some women had kids before 22 and you have one grown azzed woman living with you and acting foolish. If she is not ready to be married, take her back to her fathers house, she can go and continue her love rendezvous there.

Who do I slap now? You or her?

Typical Jenny !!!!!

@OP
You married a small girl, you must go down the small girl route. Call her and talk some sens into her. Be firm if you must.

Honor and OBEY your Father and mother that thy days be long and prosperous. The father was good enough to take care of them till they became adults, so there is something they are disobeying him about. Either conform to his wishes or get lost. There is nothing worse than an ungrateful child.

Shollypopz:
LMAO!!

He'll just double her beatings! In fact when he beat am well, well, she go use her own mouth withdraw d case

The actions of a wise woman.

You had a father?

jennykadry:

Odunnu Is Igbo. I don't like it when people pretend like everything is okay but it isn't. I had to read the topic well to be sure it was odunnu that opened the thread and not one yeye attention seeking woman, imagine the shock when I realised it was really her.

In real life I don't make friends with people that cannot speak up, neither do I keep pretenders as friends. Maybe it is the way I was brought up but even my brothers were advised by our father to marry a woman that is very open, someone that speaks Her mind when she wants to because that kind of woman will hardly ever keep a grudge and they would know where they stand with her when she is pissed off because she will tell ten fair and square. Not a woman that will tell them everything is okay even when she is dying inside, he(my father) said that such a woman can pour hot oil on the man in the middle of the night.


...and lastly, they are not even family so which diplomacy should she apply here?

Odunnu, I sympathize with your plight, however suffering in silence is a form of self torture. Speak your mind and be happy.

prixxy:

Sorry if i am asking too much question,am only trying to understand your point of view,
I will like to know what your reaction will be if one of your children came to you crying that there supposed husband has beaten her up because
she offended him.

This is one of those situations where parents must show maturity. After getting to the bottom of the events, You must give proper guidance to the couple on how to conduct themselves. So long as it's not a trend.

prixxy:



Excuse me sir please i would like to know if you are a family man with children (especially girl children)If you do, how will you like some man whopping your child with a stick cane or belt or even with punches

Yes, I have children. No one would like their child to be beaten, I am sure you know that.

Essentially you have 1 major problem. You want to "drive richy and I away" from a public forum. Aside from the fundamental insanity that this aim exposes, you are one of the most disliked people on this board. The cabal may heed your call but will the more sane members? You should have sold this idea to the cabal and had the "acceptable face" of the cabal (Chaircover) be the arrowhead of the effort. Maybe the members would have followed her. But you? Hahahahahahahahaha, Iya aje good luck. Intelligence is required even in the simplest of tasks.

jennykadry:

Seun has made things easy for us. We are able to identify the spam bots amongst us. Once you see a name startin with "John.." and "rich". it simply means "ignore me cos I am very irrelevant ". When you see the above mentioned ids, Just let out a nice long fart on their posts and move on to the important users here.

They are spambots. Very unimportant spambots still looking for their identities, it is still where they left it -the bin.

Some of us have since learnt to ignore most times. I know they are lonely but that is why there is a place called a "Zoo" blessed with monkeys and gorillas to keep them company when the need for attention arises

====YAWNS====

The witches of the cabal have arrived. Tell me are you witches on some kind of signal?