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DaLover: You still keep wanting government to do things for you which you can do for yourself...in spit of the proven track record of governments inability to do so...lets keep rotating people...maintain the same ideology...and see how far it will get us..

2ndChance: No reasons yet, still being apologetic and remorseful while I patiently wait for her to open up. Please join me in the waiting game.

Pattey: How did the OP declare he is irresponsible? You've been ranting on and on about how men visit brothels, drink till midnite bla bla bla. . . See, if you're a lady and you're experiencing that, keep your frustration in check!

You're simply trying to draw up sentiments and another silly girl seems to be following your lead with comments here.

You're not helping anyone by using false scenarios to justify something that is simply wrong! It seems you feel the OP left out "some facts" and you're making them up to have a mental orgazzzm.

#side note: I can't belive Seun substituted Orgazzm with "Heavenly Feeling" # That sounds like blasphemy

Egba girl: That has nothing to do with good driving. It's a preference. Many times, women are wearing heels and some other crazy shoes, you certainly don't expect them to drive with those do you? Woman shoe no be d same as man own o. Woman own na fashion and fashion is not always comfy.

deelobe: Seriously! Am disappointed at you male folks. Such unscholarly and unfounded utterances. mschew!

DaLover: Ol boy, wetin be ur own self?
I am honestly not understanding ur very smart logic..let break it down mathematically
Lets use assumed figures
1-cost of producing a barrel of crude=$25
2-international cost of a barrel of crude=$100
3-cost of transporting a barrel of crude to Europe for instance=$2
4-cost of transporting a barrel of crude locally=$1
5-cost of refining a barrel of crude=$5



For the importer without subsidy payment, plus import duties, plus punitive protection tax, we have
$100+(2x$2)+$1+$5 or $110
Hence the landing cost for an importer on a barrel of oil equivalent would be $110, this could go up much further if he government decides to apply protection tax for local refineries and import duties


For the local refiner/producer, his cost should be
$100+$1+$5 or $106,

Hence the local producers output of crude should be cheaper,

Please kindly add other factors that I missed, so I can understand you properly.

oweniwe: ya. . . I just wondered why they didn't evacuate on time. . . Why they waited for the gas to engulf d whole school before they started running

ritababe: First of all, whats the name of the gas, secondly why was the lab placed near a school?

Bolt2011: You were probably expecting a romantic text message from your lover, a credit alert from your bank, an invitation to a job interview or test, and the likes but then your phone beeps and the excitement dies down immediately you open the message. It is unfortunately one of those disappointing messages we receive from our telecommunication service providers. They are either asking you to subscribe to jokes, health tips, caller tunes, sport news or romantic texts.

If these service providers could only sample the opinion of subscribers, they would probably discover that most people find these messages very disappointing and annoying, but then we receive as many as 6 to 10 of such messages daily. Some people have carelessly or erroneously subscribed for these so called 'value added services' and usually regret they did. Daily, weekly or monthly charges of up to N50 or N100 usually apply. Sometimes they are deducted anytime the subscriber recharges. People try all they could to unsubscribe, but its usually not as easy as the almost automatic manner of subscription. My dad was a victim of this exploitative service for about 3 months. We tried to no avail to get him unsubscribed until he got angry and called the customer care agent threatening to attack them with his traditional god (sango).

I use two sims cards (MTN and etisalat) but as you would expect, MTN sends the highest number of annoying messages. I delete them immediately I read 'MTN' and wished I could do something to stop the disturbance.
How do you feel when you receive one of those messages from your telecom service providers? Do you find them disturbing or necessary? What's your opinion?

I have made front page again o #dancingSkelEtighAzonto

Thank you Jesus
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Thank you Friends and Well-wishers
Thank you Seun Osewa
Thank you Moderator
Thanks to all nairalander
I LOVE YOU ALL!!!

koonbey: I told a prison official to help me get kerosene and he left the door to our prison open.
“I was able to sneak into a particular area of the building and jumped over the fence. The area was dark and nobody saw me. From there, I trekked to Ojo Barracks

This is seriously cracking me up. like WTF??

Nancyij37: Every lady should be aware of those things men find irresistible in a woman, what they appreciate and what they don’t like. Thou is very difficult to find out what men think and wants because each individuals has its own understanding of how thing work. We have done series of research to find out those thing men find irresistible in a woman. They are:

Independent Woman: Men don’t like seeing women depend on them, they like those know what they want in life, have their own carriers and hobbies, as the family will be build by both efforts. This as well gives the man hope that even in his absent that his  (children) is safe and can be taken care of. This makes marriage very strong..

Best Friend: Men want their wife to be their best friend, some one they can trust, complain to and share concerns with. Any marriage where couples don’t share issue together is always compromise and always have problem in the short run.

Sweet and Beauty: Yes, This one is general with every man, they always want their wife to look beautiful, but in some extent they want sweet caring wife that can love and take good care of them, they also love a good sense of humor. If you don’t know how to handle problem with a bif smile, go and learn it.

Pressure Lady: Men don’t want to be pressured to do anything, they love pressure free woman, who will not always nag them, Every w=man should give the husband some privacy, so it will be great if don’t call or regularly send him message, chats, pings or call every minute and hour, its so bored.

Sexy: Men love their women to be sexy not trashy. This is one of the main thing that attract them to women. Every women have their best part of the body that they like and love most.. so highlight your best physical asset because that your selling point and also learn how to dress like a lady.

Well mannered woman: Nothing embarrasses men the most than that of their wife… go learn some simple ethics. Appreciate you man, encourage him to do more, show him unconditional love and support.

Your Reasoning: The most thing a man can appreciate from the wife is her reasoning, Try as much as possible to contribute ideas..Ask your husband questions and contribute your idea, as your idea may be the upliftment you are looking for.

here: She is built to absorb pressure.That's why when both partners are at a place where their feelings are affected,the "she" is encouraged to drive.
The big question is,what makes a "good driver"?
I have come across good female drivers as also males but I find the female "mean self" quite funny.She acts like the world is out to hunt her and if she can stay longer on the road maybe she can prove she is superior and nothing you can do about it.
The good part is no matter how that is no male has crashed into a female driver to cause her fatal injury,wonder why that is;maybe the male within himself wants to protect her even if he doesnt want to believe it.If you think am wrong,consider the male-male collisions and tell me your statistics.
Men love to look at the other being behind the steering,doesnt matter if its a she;but some assume its lack of concentration.I admire the concentration of the females.
Males generally believe if they do not move their cars someone might come hit them.I do not know how can came about but its born out of "pls leave the road"
Yes many think males are impatient,but in typing there is a theory-females are generally faster but cannot last as long as a male.In that study its never used against a "she",wonder why the patience issue is used against males?
A good driver is one who has the ability to make the best judgment per time behind those wheels.I see wrecked cars and I know the drivers made the best decision.

In ship factories, only women are allowed to be crane operators especially where it affects heavy lifting, guess its for the psychological reason you put up there, however, driving is not just D, R and P, or stepping on gas pedals, it has to do with quick decisions, in a clumsy town like PH
where the roads are so bad and narrow, you need to see where poor driving decision can cause hours of traffic.
I cant say all of them are terrible but when i look at the underside of their bumpers, none has ever impressed me.
it is your defensive driving techniques that keeps your vehicle neat, it is your driving skills that keep ur underside intact, ask any panel beater you know how many women that weld their exhaust, you will be shocked.

I asked a friend of mine why most women on my street use an Suv while their hubbys use smaller cars, he said it is not love, they are just tired of patching the cars, that is a fact.
even most of those women arguing otherwise, majority of them don't use manual gears, i can bet some of them cant even move one yet you can drive.

you need to see the ones that hug their steering wheels while driving (forgetting the steering is equipped with an airbag) or the ones that pull their flat shoes for bare foot,

oraclefemi: Not all of them , I raced a woman from Aramoko ekiti till we got to ijebu ijesha and she handled the Toyota Camry 2009 well and didn't let me overtake her all through and I was in a honda ridgeline..she blocked me all through intentionally . She gave me a thumbs up when she got to her destination and I saw little kids inside her car ..I was impressed !

runzlord: serously, nigeria women cant drive, they are just to scared, when u see a woman driving note that she is driving with one mind so take minutes before they make a decision on the road. If a woman is in front of you, you would almost cry, they would want to switch lanes, then they change their mind sort off, they become confuse and end of in the middle of the road blocking everybody at her back, and note she does this without traficating, in a nut shell an average nigeria woman drives like a learner or is a learner. Usaully when people drive like that or does not drive well, we at the back would just maintain and conclude it a woman thats driving and when the person finally allow us to pass, truly truly it would be a woman. Ive never be wrong on that. But the case is not like that in orther countries.
I highly sugest women should have their own logo. Like learner is a big "L", women should be hanging a big "W" at the back and front of their car too.

Peterwins: From the listed six contenders (though others exist), I will pick Dr Sarah Alade because:



She will need to lobby the world bank, IMF, the Presidency and most importantly GOD to get the job. I will be glad if she becomes the first female CBN governor in Nigeria just as we now have the first female CJN heading the judiciary.

Wendyphil: Hello all..I believe most of us have a knowledge of these two captivating TV shows.
So up to you..Which do you prefer~The Adventurous Gulder Ultimate search or The Intense-filled Big Brother Africa?

clapham: I totally disagree with you, if a man is not responsible,that doesnt pave way for owning a property elsewhere,some women in the past have been in that situation and they inform thier children about properties they owned,some involve husband family.
And by the way, some nigerian man are still very responsible ,am not married but remember there was promise or vow of "for better for worst" oshaa in my preverance but people around want 9ja women.
many women here are doing the same so nothing is wrong about it.
a property you can not boldly tell your children,smhh
european ladies share bills with their husband no matter what they earn,9ja woman saves her money and build secret mansion.

GoodFaith: I repeat JPphilips
You are very ignorant and narrow minded
two wrong don't make a right
All men are not out at 2:00am drinking beer
"what exactly does most Nigerian men have to offer these days?" A LOT
Sorry if you don't have any thing to offer
There are lot of really men out there like the OP

2ndChance: You're very correct. I am paranoid really and I mentioned that in one one of my posts earlier today but not because she built the house as you are insisting, it is simply because I was not informed. I am not sure you're married cos you're commenting like one frustrated divorcee who is regretting not holding on to the poo his wife was giving him then. And talking of mental competence, there's is hardly anything my wife doesn't seek my opinion on, including issues related to her work, becuase she respects the quality of advice she gets from me which is why I was surprised she could go solo in this case.
In marriages, the best way to go about issues is to place the blame where it rightly belongs. That way, forgiveness becomes easier.

now you know you are paranoid, so eschew your paranoia and go home to your wife, very well, if you say she doesn't see you as mentally incompetent, the only answer is a "scare", that is your mission not whether she built a house or not.
I understand you feel very bad not told about it but when someone acts defensively, you must tackle the threat not the defensive action, survival instinct is real.
Now that she earns higher than you, you should expect changes, it is engrossed in Nigerian women's DNA, live with it.

about my divorcee status, I ve left my wife to marry yours at least she has the foresight to build a house with her money, her mates spend their on jewelries, cars, expensive vacations, feeding hungry pastors, competing in her work place and silly social gatherings, with wardrobe full of foreign clothes and shoes, you should be thankful.

Go home, make a noise on why she didn't tell you, carry face for two days and let it go, its not worth this public disgrace.
your wife is better than most of these never do wells that are advising you. At 34, you are very young and you married a wife who can think, whether for herself or the family is inconsequential, most women will build for their never do well father who in turn hands it to her brother and your money will go.

Leave this matter, remember to buy yourself a bottle of chilled Heineken at close of work .

Mintayo: i don't know what to say to you.
You have been doing something together before,no secrets and without thinking you started a project without informing your husband? I don't know hoe that sound to you,ur husband,ur LIFE PARTNER,someone u want to spend d rest of ur life with? As a matter of fact,such a woman can kill,the issue is nt building a house,d issue is building without infrming your husband,instead involving outsiders.
I don't know how you see it,but it is very bad,what ppl dnt knw is that once u get married,you have signed a life contract...before you know it now she will never involve the husband iin anything again,the Op shld do something fast otherwise his home is heading for the rocks.

Pattey: Are you truly dumb or just faking it? OP says they have been holding joint assets; why should the wife now go solo?

OP has acquired properties in both their names but silly upside thinking Nigerians like you think its OK for the woman to now own her stuff in her OWN name alone; and without telling him.

Existing properties are in Mr and Mrs bla bla bla name; If it wasn't for guilty conscience, she would have told him!

GoodFaith: From reading the Op posting
It doesn't look like he is doing bad
If a Nigerian woman think she make more money disrespecting her husband
She doesn't need a Husband
If the Op is not happy he need to do what will make him happy
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GoodFaith: From reading the Op posting
It doesn't look like he is doing bad
If a Nigerian woman think she make more money disrespecting her husband
She doesn't need a Husband
If the Op is not happy he need to do what will make him happy
I

clapham: are you trying to justify the op wife?
men have failed yes,accepted but is that the end of the road? cant both resolve it?
is having secret properties the solution?

Mintayo: what are you saying sire,you are not making any sense(no offence).
Can you try and read the last post of the Op?
@Op,it is a serious issue,with your mother-in-law involve,with her being aggressive even after apologizing,it is a serious issue,something is not right somewhere,you need wisdom to resolve,I hop it has not gotten to the point where you will tell your wife to choose btw you and her mother+the building+the priest.
God will give you wisdom,i am seeing a redlight o.

GoodFaith: Sorry, I do the jilting
I call the shot because I know Jesus
I can back it up and I have the resources thank you Jesus

jesus must really be your house boy or body guard

2ndChance: I have seen similar threads on this topic before but never imagined it could happen in my marriage.
My wife and I have been married for about 10 years now and we have been blessed with both male and female children. For the first 7yrs of the marriage, I earned about 8x my wife's salary and everything was sweet and rosy. We were the envy of most families with houses and landed properties both in the village and the city where we live. But about 4yrs ago, my wife got a better job which made her salary slightly higher than mine. But more importantly, the new job gave her access to bulk money by way of loans, grants, etc and ever since, my family has never been the same again. My wife suddenly became unruly, she doesn't consult me on any issue concerning the family again. I have sat her down on countless occasions to know what the problem is but she refused to say what is responsible for her sudden change in attitude. Even when I seek her opinion on projects concerning the family, she shows indifference most times. I then resolved to continue to engage her and be as open as I can hoping that things would improve and indeed I really noticed some slight improvement. But when I was about to settle down and relax, I got the shocker of my life -my wife had built and completed a building without my knowledge! As if that was not shocking enough, I later found out that the man who has been fronting for her on the said project is the same Priest (Reverend Father) that joined us in holy matrimony!!!
I am really confused right now, having mood swings between laughing and angry at the same time. I just don't know how to handle this.