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Symptoms of a failed republic

oratileb: ......9ija showing so much love wow thanks hey

It's not about saying 'thanks', but reciprocating my gestures and advances.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Actually some girls have a soft spot for emotional guys[/quote]Well, I love to be on the edge, a guy who is emotional will get hurt most times because he is emotional dependent on someone else.

By the way the comments on this thread aren't encouraging me at all(Greatgod2012 and Ogugua88, about time I learn to start faking some crocodile tears).

Ogugua88: even if he cries so that the lady doesn't leave him.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Kids[/quote]Too many of them at that.

greatgod2012: gbam!

Sometimes, i wonder how this love dey shark some pple to d extent of them almost loosing their sanity.
"omi ti eniyan ma mu ko ni san koja e"

Actually most people go for water they know they can never have, hence the insanity associated with it.
By the way I learnt that's the true love, the love you can't control your emotions, the love that intoxicates like palm wine, the loves that drives one crazy. I call it OBSESSION.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Erm....to each his/her own[/quote]Crying demeans the man, especially when you are crying so that she doesn't leave you, in fact it's pathetic.
I assume the Op should imagine himself being a girla and tell me how he will feel if a guy cries before him.

@Op, you will only be demonstrating slight foolishness to believe that fidelity is dependent on one's tribe or race.
Fidelity is a function of the the individual herself not tribe. As a matter of fact thaere are igbos who cheat and those who don't and same applies to all other tribes.

I can't ever kneel for a girl, in fact begging a girl for me depends on the gravity of my offence. Because when things go wrong in the future she will start saying stories like she only gave you a second chance because you begged her and that can be insulting.
If you offended her, you can apologise but not begging her(afterall it's not like you won't beoffering anything in the relationshipp) and it's even worse kneeling.
Call me an insane egomaniac, but I will never kneel or beg a girl to take me or date me.

There was this girl I wanted badly then(back in the days when I loved as a kid, now if I call you twice and I don't get my call returned your number is out of my phone book), for every 10 calls I make she picks 1 and even slams the phone on me atimes. When we see each other in class she smiles, gives a friendly impression, but I refused to be deceived or moved by that because I'm sure it was all stunts, she doesn't want me to have a bad impression about her, that's what her drama is all about. The irony was just that each time I sent a message like I was leaving her as a friend she calls me back immediately. Long and short I deleted her number. So when we see each other we smile, give impression that we are friends but behind the scene we both no all is just stunt.

My2Cent: Stop Calling, if necessary delete the number, when you see each other maintain you hi hi greeting but never be moved by it.
Think about it, you do thesame to other guys(atleast I know I don't pick and return all my calls, neither do I respond to all my chats). So it depends on how he sees you and the impression he has about you, that doesn't necessarily makes him a bad boy, he isn't just attracted to you, move on and never be moved by his smiles.

Sijo01: Such marriage's gonna be miserable.

To answer your question directly. Its NOT right!

Case closed.

KateSpade: then let them go and marry that person. you have to figure out what you want.

Thread closed.

KateSpade: you need to sort out some issues. A few days is understandable, a few hours?! too short of time to be thinking of such things. occupy your time and you will see how you might become the one missing calls.

Hugs and kisses, I love your response.

@Op, it never occured to you he could be busy, his phone could be on silent, network issues etc. Your point is only reasonable after 24hrs.

By the way you had better work on your esteem and emotions before you kill yourself with unnecessary hypertension.

I wonder what you guys where discussing in courtship. I assume it was unholy to talk about sex, you guys where busy talking about frivolities.

If you can't convince her, then it's either you live without getting a head your whole life or you cheat on her. Your choice either way you go, and it has a consequence.

Cheat, gratify your desire, lose her tust if you get cut.
Remain faithful and complain of lack of head.

Tell her your fears, if she can't give him up, then you let her go.

zoete: You should tell him straight that you are not intrested so he won't lose his time. But I think your friends are right go out with him you may like him you never know. Most great relationship starts like that. Because sometimes most of the guys that we are attracted to turn out to be the worst thing that can happen to a lady. My mom always told me let the guy love you and he will always respect and treat you like a queen

Perfect.

If you still not attracted after the first date, then let him know that you are just not attracted to him. Afterall he is also not attracted to every single girl he sees, so he should be able to move on.

But I will advise you go on a date with him and you never can tell what will happen, this reminds me of Joel Osteen's sister, she just didn't feel attraction for hubby until her first date, she had preconceived mindset about the guy earlier, he didn't meet her definition of ideality, her definition of ideality was slightly flawed, but after the first date she saw behind her noses and now they have been married since and happily married(atleast that's the impression we are given that they are happy).
Though it may not be applicable to you on the long run, but nothing bad in you going on just a date with him, during the date drop your preconceived mindsets in the trash bin.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Here we go again[/quote]504topics, 604 posts. My guess is as good as yours.

omega25red: tell your friend to jump off the net building because he deserves what he got.

yeah she said she was single at first but by their third date she told the truth about having a boyfriend. who in their right mind would fall in love with a girl who has a boyfriend and willing to also date you? Now he is in love and crying like a b1tch because he dated a hoe and she didn't disappint in showing that she is a hoe.

You took the word away from my mouth.

You dated someone who was in a relationship and she explicitly told you she loved him.
She eventually dated you, if only you were smart enough to figure out she dated you because there was a little crisis between her and her boyfriend. Obviously when the crisis is over the interim boyfriend will give way for the real boyfriend.

My2Cent: There are thousands of girls that are better than her(hard to believe for you because I'm sure you think she is the best girl for you, but frankly it's just pure illusion). If a girl dumps you, then certainly she is not the best girl for you. I hope you learn never to date someone who is in a relationship(I personalise because I know you are the victim not your friend).

In closing you were born without her, the earlier you stopped crying and get a life.

ylaa: I HAVE SOME INTERESTING TOPICS I WILL LIKE US TO DISCUSS IN THIS FORUM, PLEASE HOW DO I POST IT? THANK YOU.

Go to the section your topic corresponds to, at the to of that section you will se create a new topic.

@Op, 'Bingo' sounds fantastic.

I can never memorize my girlfriend's number off hand, so that when I decide I won't call her again, I will be able to keep to my word, I will simply delete her number from my phone and that's the end.

Exactly what I did to two of my ex over the weekend, one was spewing shi.t, the other refused to pick my call. There cases were finally buried when I deleted their numbers.

For me it's not advisable to put a girlfriends number in one's brain, if at all any number deserves to be memorised then it will be one's spouse.

See thread.

You keep chasing her till eternity, she may consider your proposal after eternity and if she doesn't you can then hang yourself.

In summary, 'if you can't do the time, don't commit the crime'.

I concur with Omega25red's comment.

@Op, the fact that it's nearly impossible doesn't mean it's not possible(I love the word you used).
True love entails too many sacrifice from the concerned parties and that's why it's nearly impossible, most people aren't really ready to pay the sacrifice.

About the gift part, only childish people would get angry after a break up because of the gifts they had invested. If a girl loves you more because of your gift then it's obvious she is just seeking your hand and not your heart. In the end gift giving should be in moderation, it should be something one can part away with so that when things doesn't go well in the end, one won't have too many regrets

Ikpediarukevwe: dreams don't come to reality many at times #your wedding cake

Many atimes sound more like a probability.
Why not be optimistic for once and stop focusing on the negative part of my statement.

habscare: I can't stop tnkn of her,,,knowing she will never date me so dats y I nid a grl in my life cause have never being in any relationship

This is the wrongEST reason to want to be with a girl. Trying to level scores with another girl because she said no.

My2Cent: If you can't learn to be happy and single, then you are certainly not fit to be in a relationship.
If you happiness and not being lonely is dependent on a girl or relationship then you are on your way to doom. It simply means if anything goes wrong in the relationship your life becomes miserable by default.

It's obvious you are desperate from your first paragraph even though you seems to think otherwise, in reality you will be clingy and needy when you do find a girl which will have a tremendous negative effect on you(girls can spot needness and clinginess from afar, it's a turn off and that leaves you even more miserable when they dump you because of it).

My final cent, enjoy being single, go out, make more friends(without the intention of dating)etc.
Never forget, the fact that a girl says no to you doesn't reduce you, it just means she doesn't like what she sees, definitely someone else will like you for who you are. Also she not liking you doesn't mean she is a bad girl, she is probably just not attracted to you just as you are not attracted to all girls you meet on the road.

in closing, become proactive, your emotions shouldn't rule your life. Take charge. By the way you will meet a lot of girls in NYSC camp, relax the future is bright as it relates to girl.

If I hear say I know read that book called 'Revolutionary Wealth'

Op great article, atleast for the insight I got about him and the book.

Rapturable, as long as you are kissing your wife, anything short is direct entry to hell.

By the way my opinion and I'm so entitled to it.

Absolutely nothing wrong, I have heard people say age is irrelevant, that it's just a number(though I disagree).

Did I just see 'BEG', this is an embarrassment on the whole federation.
Can someone tell him, you only beg someone who has done exceedingly well, by the way you don't beg someone who has aspirations for a second term in office(you beg someone who doesn't).

Also about the point where he said the choice of Jonathan was a divine decision by God, that is just blasphemous. About time there is a cleardistinction between God and state.

[quote author=Mynd_44]Really? interesting[/quote]I suppose the interesting part had to do with her observation.

I wish I could write a thesis on this, it will make a good phd thesis. 'Why I think Nigeria can still be united'.

It's obvious the tendency for unity is there when the masses are happy, the bulk of the work thus lies with the goverment, fulfil your campaign pledges, give the masses the necessary things that only goverment can. Inspite of all this we will still have bad eggs, but they will be minute.

ijebabe: See my good luck
K, you know where this is going right?

Definitely not destruction, that I'm sure of.