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Franchise21:
B'cos it's Innoson, he came out to spew thrash on social media. If it were to be Toyota, Lexus, Honda, Nissan or Mercedes nw, he won't come out like this... Nonsense!!!

ireneony:
natural beauty my aass..
why did she perm her hair...why not leave the hair in its natural state.

byvan03:
Why is it that most women lack standard? He is broke, cheats, bed wets and pummels you, yet you are here looking for solutions. How bad will it get before your survival instinct kicks in? I believe that when you are fed up, you will know what to do.

NigeriaBam:
Mother of late Rashidi Yekini, Mrs Sikirat Yekini thanked the Senate President for the gesture and prayed God to reward him in manifold.

AfroKnight:
Look at them advising the man to move mountains just because he wants to have sex with his wife. Wife! Not one girlfriend o. That's rubbish.

Why must the man beg or threaten you before you have sex? Are you doing him a favour? . . . take her on a date, hold her hands, buy gifts, play with her... Nonsense talk.

Is sex enjoyed only by the man? Of course not. Ladies will be using sex as a tool to "control" their husbands. Are we animals that you lure us with carrots and birdseed? "Do this for me and I promise you a steamy session tonight"... Rubbish.

Many single girls are eager to sleep with married men. So you wives had better sit up and stop forcing celibacy on men who were designed to enjoy intimacy. If you hoard your official merchandise, there is black market out there.

The sexual health of a couple is not dependent on the man alone. Stop bargaining with sex. Stop "forming" tired.

TV01:
Sex in marriage is both a right and an obligation. Yes, one should pay attention to romance, certainly, one must be considerate given sensitive or difficult conditions or situations, but the fact remains, sexual intimacy is a particular of marriage.

The issue OP has brought here is not “his” problem, it’s their problem, and the will is lacking on her part. She should be looking at how to resolve this even more, or at least as much as he is, as she is failing in her wifely duties.

I laugh when I hear strident advice about what “he needs to do”, and changes “he needs to make”. Especially when the advice is all around romancing, woo’ing and pampering her .

The truth is, we do not know the root cause of the problem here, but a good and understanding wife should make all efforts to restore normalcy. If he has the worst halitosis, she can communicate that (as sensitively as possible) and support him through it. Likewise if he has any other physical or grooming issue.

And again, if the issue is the stress of their day-to-day life, she should be working as assiduously as he is to make fundamental changes and create time for them to rekindle their passion.

If the issue is her low libido, again, she needs to understand that she is obligated to make efforts to satisfy him. Like Timbuktou said, you can’t negotiate attraction, and likewise a man should not have to pander or graft for what is his by right. So I may prescribe a different approach, but I agree, men too dey eff up!

And if the issue is his loss of status or desirability in her eyes, woo’ing and romancing her will make his stock fall even further – she’ll soon despise him, or at best codedly friendzone her spouse.

It’s why I advise men to marry younger/fitter women, and ones who naturally acknowledge their dominance and headship. Not dominance as in being tyrannical, or for reasons of control, but leading and being in some ways more mature and learned. I wonder the age/status gap between OP and his wife?

Younger/fitter, because when the stresses of life come upon women, the older and less fit they are, the more less likely they will be make the effort required to keep in shape and make pleasing you a priority. And the more likely it is that you will find yourself in a place where you are duty bound to fulfil your obligations, but getting little by way of satisfaction in return.

Would a dutiful husband become a vassal in his own home? Does OP develop headache when the bills are due? Or when his wife needs aso ebi or favors for her family, does she first clear a weekend and map a schedule of extra special TLC for him ?

Men run your homes. Address issues at root and be prepared to make long-term structural changes if required. By all means romance her, certainly woo the butt of her. But do it because she deserves it and you want to. Not to curry sexual favor, or pander to her sense of entitlement or failings, dammit! I’ll stop now lest I punch a hole in my lappy .


TV

cococandy:
How did those ladies calling you get your number? You're married and still distributing your number everywhere and have the guts to brag about it.
If you want to smoothen things over with your wife, talk to her about it not us. We can't say anything that will make her change Except you're going to show her this thread. And stop giving ladies your number.

Pidggin:
Yes, this is the diversification agenda of the present government

APCHaram:
Stop being a Gynophobe.

God created the puna.

He made it so damn good and now you moralfags want us to believe it is bad to have the puna.

Then why did God created the damn puna and why did He make it so damn sweet.?

Not forgetting to add that the very first commandment God handed to both Adam and Eve was to "go into the world and multiply".

So I don't see why the catholic church will think healthy legal sex will be bad for you as a priest.

The fact remains that the catholic church was and is still filled with fagg0ts who hate women.

COvo:
How many times we go see this topic.

MadCow1:
If we have learnt anything from the story of Job, you can't do anything but keep believing.. Maybe God and Devil are using your destiny to play Naira bet right now.. When they finish, the blessings will pour down like it did for Job..

Put your offering and stay blessed.

GloryIsaac:
Which one is more tortous? ....

hunterden:
Idiot... Una plenty for dis Nairaland.

Lordkylie:
ya she's wearing the shoe not you either.I'm not ashamed of her o ,na me get husband?shior

Lordkylie:
societal expectations maybe,na she sabi.She should move but it's not my life is it? and it's not my fuc.king business if she goes back to her vomit!

Lordkylie:
good,nw she can have a better lyf without the excess baggage called her husband. way to go hun and if both of u built the house make sure u tk ur share b4 leaving

jaci02:
These fishes are too young for harvesting. They ought to be left for some time so they can attain adulthood and full size.

That's the problem with Nigeria, you see a picture like this and everyone start thinking about their stomach and appetite. The most important question is what about tomorrow, the fisherman shouldn't be surprised when he goes back to the river another day and comes back empty.

Those young fishes he just caught should have been allowed to mature and reproduce so that in future there will be more. That's how sustainability and growth is achieved. And not by eat today and forget tomorrow.

cococandy:
Why would she wanna stay with him?
Someone cheats on you and is arrogantly unrepentant about it?
Talk about jerk of the year. The Fool has no business being married in the first place. Marriage is for those who can "I'm sorry" when they are wrong. Not those who gloat in their misbehavior.

Richiy:
Op, obiorathesubtle and emperorlee have given you really great advise. Consider it seriously.

I am going to come from another angle. I am not trying to reprimand you, but just what do you think will happen to the girls you just dropped like hot coal? You drag them in just to leave them broken? Even if you don't consider anything, please consider these girls. Don't purposefully leave a trail of broken hearts behind you.

Fin advise: If you are not absolutely sure, do not even start it at all.

Obiorathesubtle, that story was so touching I'd really wanna know what happened

faaz24:
Slapped your husband in public and now you're begging in private, what manner of jealousy ?

Please husband forgive her if you can but after she must have apologized on nairaland, sahara reporters, etc

But husband, you no do well at all...why keep nudes?

JustHere2Observ:
Oloshi, if wife has nudes of other men or sends to another, she gets sent out. She finds nudes of other women on Hubby's phone, she gets sent out still. Either way she looses.

FvckeDyoBiTch:
Those women are smiling like they just had a piece of that Big Black cookie?


Mournhinho is here to waste our time and money, 2,years ago, Man Utd fans hated him now they are clamouring for him? I hope he succeds for the clubs sake.

And that useless Fellaini? That man must have Ed Woodward's nudes sell that tree ASAP.