₦airaland Forum

DarkRebel101:
Guys/Men do not think about sex all the time. Speak for yourself alone.

The research that claimed men think about sex every seven minutes got latterly debunked as a hoax. And men certainly do not become unfocused, moody, irritable, tense, impatient, or suffer physical pain for not having sex as you so claimed. Do you have scientific proof of this other than anecdotal narratives?

If anything, denying the body of the orgasmïc bliss of carnal pleasures keeps one's senses in the pink and awakeningly conscious.

Why do you think athletes abstain from sex while a sporting season is underway? Why do you think many of the World's greatest all took sabbaticals from sex before they made crucial inroads in their work? Abstinence from sex improves focus.

Lack of self-control and inactivity are what causes men to think about sex all the time. You forget an idle mind is the devil's chimney.
If a man has a job, an avocation, a pastime that keeps him preoccupied, wanting to have sex wouldn't be primal on his to-do list.

Plato once posited that humans have a tripartite soul. He said we have three sides to us:

I.) The logical side.

II.) The emotional/spirited side and,

III.) The appetitive side.

The appetitive side of course encompasses our desires to have sex, to eat, to cavort and frolic etc.

Plato went further to say that the quintessential man is one who has transcended the appetitive realm and taken residence at the core of the logical aspect of his/her personhood. He claimed those governed by their appetitive hankerings are beasts and are no different from pigs and goats.

You see, even as far back as the time of Plato, men with self-control abounded, and have always dwelled on a higher plane of existence unlike men who are viscerally-fain and whose sexual needs dictate the complexion of their lives.

The mind of a man is not in default mode to constantly think about sex. An atavistic trait no doubt, but men have evolved.

emiflex:
Well I am not judging anybody or Man of God but I want to correct some people's comment here. People are claiming that if you serve God then you are suppose to be wealthy and enjoy all riches of life. If that statement is true Africans should be the most wealthy people in the world but we all know that is not the case. These white people don't believe in religion anymore yet, they are living better. They don't have all these big men of god to preach the Bible to them, yet they are doing the right things and they are progressing.

Another problem I have with these so called pastors is that they are blind and never speak the truth to our politicians. If all these pastors we have in Africa speak the truth to these politicians I am sure Africa will not be like this.

My point is, Africans are just too gullible to believe everything these men of god teaches. It is too evident that most of them are for their selfish interest. There are so many churches out there yet wickedness all abound.

Aaronsrod:
You are the fool. Are you even an African ?? If you cannot see the glory of God in your pastors power how can you follow such a man? His annointing should be shown in his riches and possessions. A jet plane is proof of anointing. They owe us no explanations. They are true men of God. You have been in obodo oyinbo for too long. Humble yourself.

mathel:
I think there's something we fail to understand about Men of God that are truly called to serve him. "[/Your Pastor doesn't own you any help than to teach you the WORD.. You only own yourself if you fail to put it to practice..] Deut: 28:1. Just hearken unto God commandments. you will get there.
''It is not what you earn that secure future but what you learned and how you put to use''

KAYD007:
If man must go on bended kneel to propose to a woman, the woman must lie down on her chest to receive the ring.

Alezy:
there are very few ladies in Nigeria today without this mentality

Peachess:
Why origin na? I want something else joor, or you want me to have potbelly? lol

Peachess:
One thing I hate about feminist is that they're unrealistic and bias. They claim to be same with mean but when they slap a man they expect him not to retaliate. If a man slaps a lady they'll say why will a man do that to a woman? If you claim to be the same with men I don't see any reason why feminists want special treatment.

One thing I'll love to say is that men and women are different. There are certain things females do better than males, some stuffs males do better than females and some things males and females can excel in if given equal chances(like academics, job opportunities, politics etc) The truth is when feminist want special treatment from the males only make us female look weak.

couliss:
Anti-feminism blames women for the inevitable decline in economic status of low-skill, low-education, low-intelligence men.Anti- feminism smears women through superstition and religious belief
Anti feminism smears women by saying women don't know what is good for them ,women are stupid they have fish brain and that women know nothing.
God created us EQUALLY.
You are not smarter or better than me because you are a man
we have two eyes,two legs and two hands
GOD CREATED US EQUALLY.

Ohibenemma:
Many years ago, the afro beat crooner, the late Fela Anikulapo Kuti sang about the emerging “modern” African lady. In the lyrics, he stated that : “she wan siddon for table before anybody…she wan take piece of meat before anybody…” and so on. Today, many years after, we see this at play in our society. It has been on for long, but its proponents are closer home than ever. They call themselves FEMINISTS.

I have listened to the arguments by Feminists over the years and have reached the simple conclusion that it is a very flawed subject. I have asked myself many times, and will ask again: what exactly do feminists want?

A Christian, I will draw my creation story from that handed down to us in the Holy Bible, which tells of how the man was first created, and the woman created FROM him to be a help meet for him. Now, this in no way prescribes a particular pattern of inordinate overlordship, but it does clearly state a hierarchy. This fact is alluded to in other chapters of the Bible, opening up the debate of who is actually superior between the male and female genders. I will attempt to answer that question. None. What was created was a partnership, not a feudalist set-up. However, it was a partnership with a hierarchy. Well, that’s not the focus of this write-up.

I have listened to and read speeches by modern day feminists, including our very own award winning writer, Chimamanda Adichie, and laughed. Not because I despise them or what they stand for, but because their claims are filled with operational contradictions. They claim to desire an equal standing by women with men, but operationally desire maintenance of the status quo. But isn’t it laughable that women would want an equality that can hardly be sustained by their biological set-ups? What about those hormonal factors that men don’t experience? What happens to the physical protuberances and monthly visits? I have observed these and laughed even more.

But, aside the mirth, I have observed that against their claims, the feminists do not even desire an equal standing with men; what they actually want is for the men with which they are equal to accord them special privileges because they are women. What segregation could be greater than this? They want the man to do some of the cooking at home, yet they want him to open the car door for them. They want some reservations made for them in government, reservations they will enjoy not because of their abilities, but because they are women! They want to get into male dominated jobs, not because they are physically suited to such, but because they want some representation to hype their ego! I think these people are actually chauvinists in disguise.

I was reading a commentary on the just concluded American elections, and the writer was trying so hard to decry Donald Trump’s victory on the basis of an opportunity lost to the American people to show that they were progressively minded. Since when did progressiveness have to do with some compulsion in favouring particular candidates on account of their sex rather than ability? That hardly sounds progressive to me. Sacrificing competence on the altar of gender, I think, it is actually a schism of sorts – and mediocre!

I remember back then, as a student of political sociology, we learnt that Hobbes’ contention for the formation of government was because, without and prior to it, man was brutish, lawless and life was short. Isn’t this the Almighty’s reason for the different characteristics and responsibilities assigned the two genders? Women, have been known in the course of history (in their place BESIDE THE MAN), to control world leaders even from the comfort of their bedrooms; they have caused men to act in highly benevolent ways just as well as they’ve inspired outrightly irrational reactions. Paupers have been made kings and kings have been brought to their knees, amongst others. Now, stimulated by feminist inspired gender strife, the females have gone into competition with the males, yet when they are decisively trumped, they cry discrimination and play the victim. On one hand, they want to be provided an equal playing ground, yet when they come short, they decry the males for being chauvinistic. Aren’t there areas where the females have a comparative advantage? Would feminists not view advising them to focus on those areas as gender discrimination I know they would.

In our studies of industrial relations, it was contended that one of the veritable ways to achieve specialization was by division of labour; would our modern societies not be helped to function better if each is allowed to develop along the lines of comparative strength? That way, macho ladies can be drafted to the frontlines while sissies (men) can be assigned kitchen duties. Under such arrangement, it wouldn’t be a bother to have a gender percentage of 96/4%, depending on the task, and none would cry discrimination. Also, undue contention would be eliminated and the sexes would function in harmonious symbiosis.

Feminists should know this fact; males and females aren’t created equal; they are rather set up to complement one another. A G-Wagon may be so expensive, but that doesn’t make the bulldozer less of a vehicle in its own right; they are created for different purposes. Only a fool would, however, guide his G-Wagon to go on head-on with a bulldozer. The story would likely be told by others. Let the sexes be; their outcomes were by design and not accident. Be the best IN YOUR PLACE!

emitoz:
Welcome bro... don't let your bae see it ooo... She'll get mad for it. Lol

krattoss:
am sorry to say this but u are the foolish one here.. u are relying on motivational, inspirational words of the doctor so his family and loved ones could have hope for real..

guess u don't even know what plane crash looks like..

show me a picture of the survivor and I will tell u when next he will play a match

LadyAnn:
Ladies, Beware of the Dangerous Sociopaths here on Nairaland. They can lie for the world.
Just to impress women and get attention. These guys lie mostly because they are incapable of feelings and do not want to understand the impact of their lies. They may even get a thrill out of lying at your expense. Once they tell an initial lie they go on to tell many more lies in an attempt to cover up the lies they started, or just for the “fun” of it.
Don't be led by their "I have plenty money bullshit".

CorGier:
Hours? See as you just dey waste the hours of your life on frivolities. . .
As per your question, it depends.

falconey:
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emusmithy:
5. When she expects some naughty stuff but you're asking her out.

AnonyNymous:
Well this is a nice thread.

The first of yours that I actually like. . .its good to inform Nairalanders who are unexposed and let them make a choice for themselves after being introduced to the different systems. A lot of people in Nigeria are ignorant to other belief/unbelief systems apart from the 'big two'- Christianity and Islam, and its good that you're taking time to write something like this aimed at educating/informing people. Things like this should make the fp.

A fresh breath of air from the Atheist vs Christian threads littering this section which usually descend into pseudo-intellectualism and pages upon pages of flowery sounding rubbish.

Good job.

**I'd like to see where you classify the new age beliefs such as Eckankar, The Grail Message, etc under.

OtemWonyahweh:
I keep on saying it, but people won't listen because of their brainwashed state...Yahweh= Satan and Allaj= Lucifer. Both are not the Almighty God, but they are among the gods. Their time will be over by the year 2625 and all their deceptions will be fully known by all then. Then the ALMIGHTY GOD who made the UNIVERSE with a big bang shall be known to all. Check out the DOCTUFOS OF TRUTH for the whole truth of the UNIVERSE.

bizzy500:
lol... We re guys na ..u knw we hav different kinda love