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Sweetvie:
Lol... Ok, I got that. It was not meant as a compliment though.

Thanks!

Nice one. Respect.

Sweetvie:
Interesting!
@bolded
Atleast, you're one of the few guys on Nl that have sense.
Well, I'm going to stop here
Your choice of partner is really interesting.

Best of luck!

@ bolded is really insulting.. I get what you're trying to say, but next time put it in a better way.

Anyway, best of luck to you, too.

Why send a girl transport to come and meet you? Asin I don't get the rationale behind this.

When you can just pick her up?
Abi na olosho matters ..

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Sweetvie:
Lol... You're very interesting.
Impressive!
But I don't concur... I mean, when you're married come back and tell me how it's going.

That's mean, you have to state your condition before you marry coz not every girl enjoy being a full housewife.
@bolded
I don't get... Innocent girls are broke?
Lol, they don't have hand? Can you explain what you mean? Or you think every girls do hookup?

I state my conditions before I date sef. I date to marry and not just for the sake of dating.

To make money you need cunning and a host of other unforgiving skills. A girl still in her phase of innocence does not have what it takes to make money. It's not just about physically having hands.

And a girl in that phase is the ideal for men. If she's made the money before I met her.. oops. She's late. She's already done too much. I'll be getting some masculine vibes from her. It's not like I don't date them... I have. Just not something I enjoy.

If she has to ask first, then she's arrived at the wrong destination.

Sweetvie:
Lol... What you stated up there have nothing to do with high value men.
Who told you broke girls are innocent?
You don't want your girl to do a shit? Life is dynamic... Little change, she is out there exchanging her body for money coz she can't cope with the broke you. Why do you think divorce is common nowadays? When you're married you'll understand why your girl need to work. You're in Nigeria, right?
Have you checked the history of those who doesn't let their girl (wife) do a shit... How their marriage life turned out to be, have you?
Do you think most girls working out there don't want to be a baby girl and be taken care of also? But you don't need life to slap you in face before you do the normal thing.
Sitting around waiting for guy money is rubbish to me... I don't know about other girls but I can't cope.

Just pray to meet a girl who love you for you... That's just the simple fact.

Personally, telling me to sit down at home and do nothing all day is like you want to gimme depression... When am not sick,lol
Like, something happens and am able to withdraw enough cash from my bank to solve it, able to support my partner, go to shopping, buy the latest stuff, treat myself to something nice and do all sort of stuff with my own money make me feel really proud of myself.

I said innocent girls are broke. I never implied all broke girls are innocent..

A man who hasn't secured his finances has not accomplished anything reasonable in life. I can never go broke. I may lose all my money.. but then I'll just do what I did before and get back on track. I will not expect my woman to go and toil and bring money home to me.. while I do what exactly?

I want my woman's skin to remain as fresh as possible for me always, looking well kept and beautiful like a true princess that she is. I don't even care if my woman loves me.. what's more important is that I'm able to love and cherish her while she gets more beautiful by the day. I don't want anything from her.

Why does she need a job.. to keep herself busy? When she has me, that's absurd. I'll be every damn thing she needs in this world.

She has no problems to solve whatsoever because I've solved all of them. She doesn't need to treat herself to anything because I've arranged for the greatest treat of her life. She'd be the most comfortable woman in the world.
There would always be interesting and mind-blowing things to do while spending quality time with my woma.

Why would she enter that hot sun and be hustling for change..? Money which you won't even spend on the home upkeep but just majorly on yourself.? Risking yourself out there in the outside world.
Is it about defiance now? I don't get, but you see these are the kind of things you won't see from inexperienced girls. They appreciate whatever their man provides and stay at home.

There's a kind of money that's not healthy for a woman to control.. else her relationship with her man will suffer. It may sound unfair or one sided to you, but it is what it is.. and anyone who refuses to accept what is only has himself to blame when the consequences bear fruit.

Gospel2Day:
You have problem with money, if you are willing to forgo brotherhood because of cheap profit.
Why not advise your brother to change his supplier so he can sell at cheaper price?
Sometimes, we must choose to lose money in order to retain brotherliness.
You don't know what can happen to you tomorrow, and they will send your kids to live with him.
The seed you sow now will determine whether your children will suffer or enjoy at his hand/house.
Tell him that you're only buying from him simply because he is your brother and not because it is the best price available to you.
And that you may not patronize him next time.

He's aware of these prices I'm taking about, he's only after his own profit.. and rightly so since he got me the connect.

Timmi:
You have been fully paid before supplying the product? What a huge contract indeed.

I've been fully paid for the supply. There's still other pending payments including workmanship.

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Op have you considered that the reason your brother is adamant with his price is because he is testing your loyalty ?

Has it occurred to you that your brother will probably refund some capital back to you at the end of the transaction ?

Don't allow greed and instant gratification blind you from seeing the bigger picture.

I never thought of it that way.. but I now believe this may very well be the case. Thanks, I appreciate this.

AdaAwka1:
If he had give the contract to someone else, u wouldn't have the opportunity you have now and he would still get his cut from that person.

True bro. He's deserves to make this supply.... and he'll get it.

GboyegaD:
Is the price he is selling it to you the price he is selling it to others? Was he the one who gave you your price quotation for the contract?

Truly I've seen him sell cheaper than what he's giving me.. especially when he really needed the cash.

I already know the average prices of the materials, I gave the quotation for the contract myself.

Bonjovi13:
I worry for you.
Why did you reach out to his supplier?
Your brother may have sidelined some contractors who would have gladly accepted any deal he offered to get the contract.
He got you in. Now you are concerned with how much he will make from the supply. You were prolly mellow before you got paid. Now the money is in your hands, you can't eat and allow him eat.
You will learn that building and maintaining relationships is better than money. How long will the money you made last. You will want another supply. Its a small world and people are watching what you do.

How would I last in this business if I don't know all the suppliers? That was a very necessary move. If he knows I know his suppliers and still buy from him, the trust would be even stronger.

But I don't plan to make that a habit when I source my contacts myself.

Henix:
I think ur brother is just trying to test the level of brotherhood in u. If I were u, I will kill that spirit of greediness and patronize my brother. U couldn't have gotten the contract without his influence, but having helped u out, u now want to eat all. Don't eat today and forget tomorrow.

Meanwhile, don't forget that if u weren't his brother, that he is entitled to a certain percentage of the contract sum, for getting u the job

I'm really buying into this line of thought as well. He could be testing me, who knows? Thanks man, I appreciate.

Germi9:
Bro carry me along

We're still in the process of transporting materials to the site.. it would take a month and for actual work to begin.
So I don't know if you'd be available by then. If you would and stay in Lagos, then why not? Just keep in touch.

GloriousGbola:
your brothers company

not clear.

does your brother own the company or does he work there?
was your brother instrumental to your getting the contract?
is there possibility of future business or is this a one off?

in the nigerian landscape - the people who are instrumental or have power over your contract award expect their cut.
it is a cost of doing business and you have to think it through carefully while identifying the risk to you , your company rep and future opportunities.

He owns the company.. so recently I've been venturing into his line.
Yes he got the connect for me. Though I was planning on a one-off thing, but you never can tell tomorrow something this good may just pop up again and I doubt I would resist.

Well, if you count it as an opportunity cost, I would totally agree with you. But he's worth it honestly.. he played his part excellently.

Dprinceoj1:
Kindly buy from your brother,because he belief you can never by pass him in such kind of opportunity. Blood is thicker than water....just bless your brother ones.

You're right bros. I can put myself in his shoes now. It would pain me sef if na me..

It's all good.. I appreciate

olalekan1:
Take my advice and thank me later.
Contact a third party to go and buy the materials from your brother. After that, show your brother the receipt to show that you actually purchased the materials from him.

Hahaha.. you're a bad guy. What if I tell you he actually sells cheaper than what he quoted for me to other buyers. I've witnessed it several times and that's why I was shocked by his refusal to beat down his price for me.

olaeffect:
Hope we all can clearly see why most people don't help family members?
Would you be having this thoughts if the person that facilitated this contract for you was somebody you hardly knew?

You feel like losing money you say? Would you be making any money from this contract at all, if the contract was not facilitated by him in the first place?
Bro, please and please don't be greedy, N350k multiple times for a long time is better than one-off N1m, concentrate on whatever small you will make joyfully and press for another contract as soon as you complete this one.

All I see is greed on your own part. Remember your brother has the opportunity of facilitating more businesses in the future with or without you; please kill that evil greed within you now, now

You're right man, thanks.

lomprico:
You are a business man ain't you?

Well this is beyond business to nlanders.

emerged01:
Pay him what you can afford. Dont do the mistake of going somewhere else. Dont let me money get between you guys. If you do,the matter go be from generation to generation. E no go end.

Hahaha.. funny but true. Probably how generational fights starts.
Thanks bro, I appreciate.

Boyooosa:
Is he your sibling or just a bro...

If he's just a bro, compensate him with a token and move on with the procurement that will help you to deliver effectively and help u to save as much as possible.

But if he is your sib, call your mum or awon Ara Ile, tell them to advise him...if he's still adamant, treat him like a bro, that means he's not reasonable niyen....

Except you are the bad person here, it's possible you are dealing directly with the vendors that he will also buy from, which will means he's not going to see shi shi and you don't care...if that is the case, you are the wicked one here and you need to change your ways, if not, you are going to have shortage on that business las las, if not run on debt sef

He's sibling.
I get you bro, thanks.

Sweetvie:
I concur but what do you expect?
All her time should be about the guy?
In a relationship... We create time.

High value man will not invest in a lady who sit around with nothing.
High value man know the difference between week days and weekend.

Men of high value are very driven, they are high on testosterone and sex drive.. Making time only on weekends to be with him can only guarantee one thing.. that he will cheat with a plethora of women on his rotation and I don't need to tell you who amongst those women will be his favorite.. it's the one who's always available when he calls. He wouldn't have time to drag schedules with a girl.

Personally, I don't want my girl to do shît.. as a man I know what it takes to make money in this competitive world of ours and for a woman who has a lot of money I don't even like to imagine the things she's gone through and is still going through to acquire and maintain such wealth.

I want my girl as innocent as they come.. let her just be there doing nothing and just being happy like a princess. Everyday I would love to come back home to a beautiful face and a very clean house.

Sweetvie:
Good!
Now, we're on the same page.
No one is under any compulsion to give a broke girl money... Your loss unless you're trying to impress her... Which nobody cares.
Coming online to rant is childish.

Like, if you're man enough
You're suppose to build your babe to your standard. Rich guy won't care... Na broke guys dey make noise.

Lol... Possess you say?
You think a normal girl will leave a decent amount of time to make money to be calling and asking " How are you" " have you eaten" Do you miss me" and all those rubbish when we're still going to meet later? Joblessness!
Or by vital qualities you mean? Coz the only thing I can think a broke girls possess is " Time"

I dey tell you
Na broke guys dey make noise pass.
They want sex but don't want to take care of their babe.

Of course I don't.. but it gets worse.
You see it's not just time sef.. a girl working 9-5, bulking under intense pressure from her boss and colleagues at work is not in an ideal state of mind. She will return home mentally and physically drained and in such state she can't fully be there for her family or her man.

No high value man will invest in such a girl who spends the best part of her time and energy on work. Unless his money is tied to that her business.

Sweetvie:
Interesting!
Then why are you guys complaining?
Why are you guys ranting online everyday?
This thread should not have exist then.

The funniest part, most of the guys ranting here are broke.
Infact na their babe they feed them.

Good question.

I think it's basically for show-off. You want the whole world to know a broke girl is billing you somewhere and you stroke your ego by ranting about it online. That's inferiority complex. No one is under any compulsion to give a broke girl money. If you do that then that's on you and nobody cares.. so coming out to scream you can't date broke girls is plain stupid and childish. Who asked you to give her your life savings?

PS: When I say broke girls, I don't mean to call a girl out on her status, because that's really a non issue for me.. but I mention it because those kinda girls seems to possess some vital qualities rich girls don't. Like the ones I've already mentioned.

Definitely the effeminate kids ranting here are either being fed by their mums or their rich girlfriend/wife.. they're pvssies and have taken the role of th submissive boyfriend/husband. I feel sorry for them because they have lost direction in life. They're not man enough.

That said, there are still broke girls with bad character.. especially the ones looking for a cheap way out through hook-up, that could be another reason for the complaints.

Hope I've answered your question..

frozen70:
Since he influenced the deal, don't sideline him

Get some from him and sort some outside

This would've drawn us even on profits from the materials.. but I guess that's me wanting to gain from both sides. Though that isn't wrong after all it's my contract. But the fact is that he handed me the job, so it's only fair I leave the profits for the materials for him.

Besides he knows the exact materials I need. And if I tell him I need significantly less than that he will suspect.

EstateVerify:
So you got hold of his supplier... Hnm

Why not also get hold of his suppliers suppliers.

Or just go directly to the manufacturer...

The manufacturer also marked up, why not just produce yourself...

I forgot, the sellers of raw materials are too greedy.. You should just start producing your raw materials.


In Business, you focus on your own profit, and keep your eyes off other peoples own. The moment you want to have it all, or control other peoples profit, you lose focus and lose business.


This concept is supposed to come natural, because it is common sense. But those doomed to loss or destruction learn the hard way.


Buy from your brother or not, you will learn, and I hope you don't learn the hard way

I simply acted as a proper business man would. No crime in that.
But since he brought me this contact, I'm indebted to him, so he must be the supplier, both for this and for future contracts from this same company.

Beyond that, I'm not obligated to patronize him when it's a job from my own contacts.
This is fair, I guess.

IsellSmartTvs:
Never choose money over human relationships.One good turn deserves another.
U are behaving like this will be ur last contract….thread wisely or u might make an irreparable mistake.
This is where the saying of “Money is the root of all evil” fits In.
Don’t use ur head,rather use ur heart
Ur bro has been letting u use his brand,but na now u realize say ur brother market cost.
Everyone sees what u don’t see,cus u asked for our opinion.U just want him to reduce the price to ur satisfaction cus u seen other favorable prices,what if ur bro didn’t get his current commodity at the prices others are giving u? Do u want him to Incur loss just bcus u want to make excessive interest?

Rightly said, greed is bad. Thanks bro

Originalsly:
Bro .... same way you feel entitled to the nax profit the contract can bring .... what would you say of him if he feels entitled to more of the profit because after all .... if it weren't for his company you will have no contract? You may not realize it ..... but greed on your part is clearly written between the lines.... you are restless because your profit will be reduced by 10% or whatever. Since your brother showed you how much the supplies cost ... then show him how to increase his profit by letting him know of the cheaper suppliers....(which he already know but can't now admit he lied). This will appear as if you gave him vital info. I w9uld advise you buy from him.... and be satisfied with whatever profit you make ... that's the price you'll pay for maintaining the relationship with him. He may reconsider his actions and you guys may be on the same page supporting and growing each other in the future... but then again.... hmmmmm ...... let me shut up and find out..... I just want to know if greed is hereditary??

I agree totally.. for the sake of tomorrow. Thanks

TheeDetective:
Hmmm; I Just dey laugh when I dey see how you dey reposnd to everyone. The ones wey agree with you, you go say NICE ONE. The ones wey no agree, you go GIVE EXPLANATION like say them no sabi.

Let me use your quote “I got a huge contract through my brother's company”.

It is the influence of your brother that made you get the contract in the first place. This tells me that your brother played his part well in getting you this contract. He could have supported someone else as well to secure the contract; but instead, your brother decided to support you and it worked out well in the end because you were able to secure the contract.

Agreed (try and negotiate); his prices are higher than other suppliers you have approached. Of course; going to the cheaper supplier is better as you said. But have you considered the quality of the materials? They might be cheaper with another supplier; but what about the quality? Can you compare the quality of the materials of those suppliers with that of your brother’s?

As a few have encouraged you; if after the amount you will use to buy the materials from your brother, you can still make a profit; then go and buy from your brother. If there is no profit; I will still say buy from your brother as this is your first dealing with your brother on securing contracts. If your brother sees that you still patronised him despite his higher prices, you don’t know what next he has in store for you.
Another contract coming your way might even be bigger than this one. Your brother knowing that you patronised him when you secured the first one, will not hesitate to help out again and use his influence again for you to secure the contract.

Don’t fail the test at your first hurdle in your business dealing with your brother. Don’t create a rift between you and your brother. In some instances in business dealings, you win some and you lose some as Ishilove has said . ENOUGH SAID.

Well spoken bros, thanks.