padi94:
Unfortunately na the sex gan gan dey carry them dey go meet the girl.

Asin ehn.! Who you dey deceive? You approach girl finish dey form detached, only to eventually ask for number.. shey as your ultimate proof of detachment ni..?

Needless to say, acting all thirsty around girls is definitely a big no. Better to start off on a high note.. all carefree and fun, then proceed to vibe while revealing your intentions.

I liked the part where you just minded your business.

But you see that your analogy? No matter how padlock strong reach, e still get key wey dey open am steady.. infact if e no dey gree open easily na still inside dustbin e go find himself.

In dealing with women you have to be always agreeable and offering in things that concern her and you both as partners. But only in things that concern your personal life principles should you be unbending. Unless, you come off as toxic.

Rokiat:
Lmao this is so funny omg

It’s the keep woowing for me. Hahahaha but the guy is right though. How you gonna ask money from another man but have a whole man at home. And you don’t want to even give the nigga pussy. LMAO this is epic.

Every girl is guilty of this, including you, you're all the same. So no tickle my blockos for here.

So what stopped you from thrashing the issue right there.. or nipping it when the bad blood was starting to develop way before then?

Now everything don spoil, you come dey beat chest dey talk of revenge.

Look, the only way you can solve this issue now without slinging yourselves through the mud is for you to go home and initiate a settlement.. patronize her if necessary.

Then make sure moving forward, you dey in charge of your relationship. Stop rewarding bad behavior from her.. not even small ones because na from small e dey start.
And don't forget to reward her when she's being good. That's how you get a happy relationship.

Effizybozz:


Wow, easier said than done
Sometime I want to hug around guys, but that courage won’t be there, I will think they will laugh at me or call me boy/girl or whatever and it killing me very much.

I know it may feel like asking for a whole lot at first, but believe me when you start getting it right, you will realize overall it was just a small adjustment and you ARE still YOU but just more masculine.

Again, take it one step at a time, dress manly, if you're in doubt wear more black clothing, or you can copy the style of any man you admire his dress sense. Talk less, especially when you don't have a particularly strong opinion about a topic.. it gives you an air of mystery.

Or better still, find a mentor then watch and learn. But be careful with this, no go meet cultist oo.

Don't listen to anyone telling you to embrace it.. na man you be! Stop using the word "shy" to explain this problem, use "intimidated," you're feeling intimidated. The right terminology is important so you can know where to put your focus.

You can solve this, one habit at a time.. if you try to be James Bond at once you go too suffer.

So, find one thing you don't like most about your interactions with guys and start small from there. For example you may want to maintain stronger eye contact, make firmer handshakes, always stand straight, don't rest on anything.

You may like to have more input in conversations.. so, always chip in one or two confidently without caring whether you are right or wrong.. na talk dey bring talk. In no time you will be starting conversations yourself.

Start small and once the masculine energy enters you, you can only get better from there. Eventually you'd know how to handle bullies. Understand that they're actually very scared people that's why they act the way they do.

These are survival skills you must have as a man if you must make it in life.. and on time, too. Otherwise you would find that people will just pick on you for no reason, that's if it's not already happening.

true2god:
Romantic relationship is not a business or career.

Of course not, and there's a difference between loyalty and faithfulness.

Sermwell:

You're just being myopic! Does your brother stop being your brother just because another person made you rich? Even the senator will not trust her if he knows this about her! She could dump him tomorrow for a governor or president!

You need to be more sensible with your input. Where have I said you should abandon your family because another made you rich, does that even make sense?

Okay, stop for a second and put yourself in those shoes.. if you're the PA to the CEO of say a brewery company in your area and you get a federal appointment as PA in Aso Rock, would you take the promotional offer or remain loyal to the CEO of the brewery company?

You see why you're the myopic person abi?

chymeze:

Loyalty by shifting her pants right? What kinda wack analogy is this you're proposing? So if another man B gives her more than the senator then by your analogy she should shift her loyalty from the senator to the person B. Then if person C comes and gives her more than B, then she should further jump from person B to C, and continue her whoring until her earth life expires? Please get sense.
Certain facts you must know. First, no matter how rich a person is, there's always someone richer than him. Secondly, no matter how nice a person is, there's always someone nicer than him. So this boils down to one fact, true loyalty should and can never have a price. It should never be bought if not it won't last. To have true happiness in life, one must have qualities that can never be bought no matter what. That's what defines who a person truly is.

I see you have a mindset of one who enjoys living in penury. There's nobody who doesn't pray for helpers, the more the better, so stop being jealous and pray for yours.

Being favoured by many is now such a bad thing that one must remain in a deteriorating relationship just to prove their loyalty? Loyalty to what exactly? You should use the word 'pity' because what you're saying has nothing to do with loyalty.

Who do you think Asake, Ayra Starr or even Sanwo Olu will be loyal to? Yeah you guessed right!

Look, if you're so special to have 10 critical helpers advancing your life and career, be loyal to all of them. You don't choose to be loyal to your right foot and discard the left one.

Wise up, if you want to make it earlier in life.

jagorinho:

Your opinion of loyalty is very flawed and heavily dependent on what each party has to offer, with this it is not healthy to continue this conversation. Have a lovely day.

Loyalty is something you 'owe' and who do you owe if not your helper..? Unless you're telling me you owe your life to 7 billion humans on Earth. When you're not Jesus Christ I don't see how that's possible.

Take the music industry, or politics, for a clear example.. Eminem will always be loyal to Dr Dre, 50 Cent to Eminem and all Tinubu's proteges will always be loyal to him and so on. Why? You guessed right!

Throw away that your cynical mindset and embrace the mindset that famous people you know today have used to climb up the ladder.

jagorinho:

You can't really blame that guy you responded to, your initial post was not well thought out.

By your analogy you are obliterating the need for honesty and loyalty just for material gains in the name of moving up the social strata, that is a bad trait, what if the president comes for the said lady, she will definitely leave the senator and the cycle continues, is that moving up or a girl that has turn to slave to her innate emotions and lacks the ability to be loyal and honest.

Loyalty is to the person who lifted you up and in this case that person is the senator.. not the fuckmate boyfriend.

The fact that you and your guy suffered doesn't mean you owe him loyalty when you make it. But you certainly owe loyalty to the man that lifted you up.

Therefore, if she were to lift you up, then you'd be the one who needs to be loyal to her (lol), not the other way around. Unless you have strong game and can turn around the Dynamics and herein comes the game which Lifespan is talking about.

But understand that it's purely a game and not the way it's actually supposed to be. Most men don't get this, that's why the op has been refused entry into his ex's house.

If you know it will pain you when a woman eventually leaves you, why churn out cash you can't afford to lose and splurge on her.. knowing fully well you're only adding more insult on injury when breakup happens?

Oh you didn't know breakup is inevitable? Think again! Breakup is a natural and compulsory step in the dating process. Without physical commitments like kids and shared properties, it comes even faster than you'd think.

I don't get it, guys act like they're possessed and the funny thing is they do it on their own volition, she didn't beg you to spend on her, but still you did, even at your own expense.

As far as leaving you for a senator, put yourself in her shoes. No one leaves turkey meat to start craving pigeon meat. Not even you, you would leave her for a sugar mummy without thinking twice.

So the choice for guys is obvious really.. work on your finances and dictate your relationships or continue receiving whatever cards are dealt to you in this ruthless dating world we find ourselves.

Unnecessary arguments are the root causes of all these and men must learn to always anticipate and avoid any form of banal back and forth with women because the end result, whether you win or lose, is never worth it.

Although it must be said, that as a good partner, it's the man's job to provide his woman with positive vibes and good emotions and unless the woman is a psychopath, doing just that shouldn't produce the opposite results.

Also in the rare possibility that you've come across a psycho who enjoys turmoil, you must quickly take the moral high ground and not hesitate to totally cut off contact.. forever!

Tboymessiah:


Thanks so much,
But most of us men believe, such a girl only marry the man because of money, and she may still be having love affairs with the little broke guy, she left for the already made senior man!

I will like to share more light on this, hopefully to hear from u

As she should bro. Do you want her kids.. your kids, to suffer?

For how long do you want to keep being the broke guy? Be the senior man!

As a man if making money is not on your mind 24/7 then I wonder what is..

Though it's wrong for her to marry just for the sake of money if that's what you're asking. But there's nothing wrong in marrying a man who can afford to take care of your kids and the home.

As a man, it's your responsibility and you should shoulder it with pride. Be realistic, who do you really expect to do it for you? It has to be you of course! So be a man about it, make plans and be prepared. Do what you have to do and make no apologies.

Keep your woman safe under your protective wings, otherwise if you force her to look for either money or protection outside, you have destroyed your home and your status as the man and you only have yourself to blame.

Maysdevices:
Real men will always know how to make a woman submissive. Whether a she’s a billionaire or not.

I know rich girls completely under the control of broke men.

Being a man or being in charge is not just about having money. Money comes. Money goes.

How will you keep the control in the trying times?


A broke virgin will still cheat if you do not meet her personal fantasies, you may think you’re in control but women are great pretenders.

A woman doesn’t live in the real world, we live in fantasies, controlling a woman is knowing what her personal fantasies are, not spending money on her.

Rich men’s wives cheat way more than broke men wives everywhere because those men think money keeps a woman loyal. It doesn’t. No matter how stupid or naive you think she is.


One day you will realize being a man is not just about have having cash in your pockets. Money and power are two totally different things.

Yeah.

But the broke guy is not safe either, because you won't think twice before you cheat on him with a rich man or even leave him totally for a guy who is rich and also fulfils your personal fantasies. Which as far as I'm concerned is the only type of guy a woman will never cheat on.

So don't make it sound like a man having a lot of money doesn't turn you on because it does as it fulfils one aspect of your fantasies, especially if you don't make your own money.

Money is very important for a man, as well as masculinity. Lack in any one of them and he will suffer.

Maysdevices:
You speak as though a woman is a child,
but even children one day will detest their parents for not giving them their freedom.

She won’t stay naive and broke forever. She is also not naive in the first place, she is pretending to be to stroke your ego because that is what her mother told her men love.

Get married first and see the true colors of women. Let her employed friends fill her head and tell her certain things even call her a broke slave a few times. Finally understand why life will almost never go as you plan.

The naive broke girl will become the experienced rich man’s wife tomorrow. Give them a few years under your strict disciplined lifestyle. Then you will finally understand why pastors children are usually the worst of the bunch.

What's wrong with being treated like a child? Children are the most loved people in the world. Do you know how many men would just want to sleep all day, even if for one day and have someone take care of them?

Women in their quest for riches forget their role as females, which is to be submissive and loyal to her man. I don't blame them.. a hustling spirit requires you do away with such traits. Though, she may end up alone at the top.

Not that it's bad for women to have money. Personally, I want my woman to succeed and be the best version of herself possible. But can she remain loyal and submissive?

Reason why it's important a man finds a young and impressionable woman and rear her, so she will still be loyal to him even when the money comes.

An already self-made woman doesn't need a man. Except for sex and children. They prefer their independence.

ExudeLoveToAll:


The same mistake you tried correcting is same thing you are doing.

Who told you just as you have broke girl with good characters we don't have rich girls with good characters? This is hasty generalization which isn't true.

The content of ones character should be used to access people regardless of whether the person is rich or poor.

Personally taking one option between a poor girl and a rich lady who both exude sane characters will always lead me in choosing the rich lady because if someone still exude sanity when affluent then truly money hasn't played a role in diverting the person's personality but same can't be asserted regarding a poor girl with sane characters.

Well if you had said a girl with wealthy parents, I would've agreed with you. Seems you're forgetting it takes quite a cunning and ruthless person to be rich.

In all my years I've never seen a self made person who was nice or a pushover. It may sound good on paper, but believe me as a man you can't have the good 'ol traditional relationship with a rich lady, especially when she makes more than you.. unless you'll be the submissive one. At best y'all be equals. So it really depends on what you want as a man and what you can take from your woman.

Tboymessiah:


NasoLifeBe!!!

U have the best comment on this topic!

Let me ask? What if she told you she has a boyfriend and you know she really love him!
What Is Ur take on this

'Overtaking is allowed.' But don't forget there are plenty of fish in the river, too. So seek out other partners as well, so you don't end up wasting a lot of time without a plan B just in case.

I mean women do this all the time.. they double date to keep their options open, so why shouldn't you?

thesilentman:

Am married.Not to one of the women i drilled hell out of their pussies-but one homely young woman with a very low body-count[cos she's frigid]-that chose me.secondly,am still in the game,till hundreds of tomorrow.

I doff hat for you sir. I love the life you're living. It's the dream. Save for the marriage part, though. I doubt you'd have much spare time to game with responsibilities piling up.

True. No relationship like the one where the woman has chosen you. Unless you have tasted this, you will never know what a real relationship feels like.

I've witnessed game from many guys I consider gurus. From the ones that use mind games to those that use money or power, and ones that use aggression or dominance. Still, I must admit, I really like the idea of the personality you're describing here.

ItisWell22:


Yes sir.

So, why would you want more women, when they’re only “bags of troubles”? 😢

In spite of all the bad things men say about (and do see in) women everyday, one thing they won't tell you is that deep down in their hearts, they believe without an iota of doubt that there's that one girl who is different and special and they won't stop till they find her.

Pls don't ask me if I believe this, too.

thesilentman:

There are two methods that i know when it comes to approaching women:The one-banker way and the permutation style.Just like in lotto gamble,when you approach one woman at time-the one banker way-the probability that she will 'fall' is very very low.She might certainly put you on a long thing,like telling you she needed to think about it or some other crap.Instead,you leave her and go the permutation way-multiple approach at a time and wait for result.One must play game with you sha!

Eventually it's still a numbers game. Thought you had a foolproof strategy bro.

Permutation method? Now I'm practically begging for deets man..come on! I'm following bros.

thesilentman:

Rest thir 'my girl' habit-nobody owns any woman forever or like a pair of shoes.This is what i told one of my younger sibling monitoring his girl with calls,i told him,"you will lose this girl eventually,immediately you let her know or think you are afraid to lose her."
My girl? I never call any woman my girl again except my wife.Even women themselves believe you have no absolute right over them until you pay their dowry.

Loolz.

You plan on marrying.. so I can ask.. when's the time when you quit the games and become serious with the lady after all the carefree attitude or you continue with it? Because it's one of those girls you dated that you will eventually marry. So if you can take that kind of behavior from her initially, what makes her stop later?

thesilentman:
Who's following?The summary of number 4 is that if you want to catch a monkey,you act like a monkey.The most recent MW I'm currently banging confided in me cos she had always known i aint the judgemental type.You can bleep any woman that confides with you if you so wish!

So going by this your analogy, if your girl is flirting with other guys in your presence and basically being a hoe, you would encourage her and even flirt with other girls too so as not to appear judgmental.

ItisWell22:
Una no dey tire? 😢

Human psychology is a very interesting topic as it relates to our everyday lives.

I wonder why it tires you.

Take this as an opportunity to learn and ask any questions you may have.

thesilentman:
3-VALUE YOUR TIME-
Example if any woman calls you and you say "yes?"If she doesn't have anything meaningful to say,just cut the conversation short with "am busy pls,next time!" and simply walk away without looking back!

I like this and I agree. 90.23% of the time na billing them dey disguise for that phone call.

Alright I get your idea, you're being standoffish to make her feel the urge to chase you. Okay!

Do you approach women? I do that a lot and I just go direct like.."hey, I like you". It works 60 percent of the time.

But you, how do you show interest to a woman you just met with this aloof behavior and still collect her control. Pls I'm being very practical here, if you don't mind.

Adasun:
u have an inquisitive mind



After all albert eisten said...

Lool, well only someone like Einstein who knew quite a lot could afford to say that. We John snows learn everyday

thesilentman:

ok,since you have requested,prepare to hear the greatest secrets of all time-tried and tested.Don't argue with me without putting these things into practice.Are you following?

Yes pls I'm ready.

Runnerzz:
Lol... Firstly if u need anything to learn to be wtv nature has deposited in u then no need bruv just dey wear skirts and make-up 😂

So what simps are displaying who deposited it in them? Same nature, no?

And tell me you don't read books.

thesilentman:

1.Don't displease yourself to please anybody.

Yeah.

We're interested in the process. Give us a typical example of your interaction with a lady where you've put yourself first and that made her want you badly.

thesilentman:
I am overwhelmed by how many women,both single and taken that wants to lock legs with me.I realize that just as almost every man finds a submissive woman sexually attractive,many women also find a highly masculine man sexually attractive.And this sexual attraction is the strongest form of attraction.
Albert Einstein said if you cant put it simply,it means you don't know it enough.

This is the master key to becoming more masculine.This is what i've used to shift dozens of panties aside.It's just one single rule:
PUT YOURSELF FIRST!

For example...?

Damn! What a fat-headed idiot!
It's the brazen cockiness for me.. These guys think they're talking to kindergartens.

Propaganda government.. pure witchhunting