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Kingsteve:
Good for you, but I have a very simple question for you.
What kind of relationship do you seek from the same girl you turned down her sexual advances?
A no-sex relationship?
I await your reply!

U don't jump the gun broda....lemme tell u a lil secret...neva make sex a priority when seeking a relationship,you know why? Cos U just made her up her game unconsciously...I want a woman that would build a dynasty with me,if she finds out am not overly concerned about sex(like the rest), she goes back to the drawing board hence becoming even more resourceful....don't 4get am seeking for a life partner not a sex mate....i need a woman that would spur me to achieve the extraordinary not one who would weaponise sex at the slightest provocation....

Kingsteve:
All these forming sef...
Toto, you no get, even when offered on a platter...
Relationship, you no get!
To what end?
Smh

I definitely am not blowing my trumpet neither am I saying am exceptional....but i was opportuned to be born in a time when values and moral standards were at a high,when men had self worth and didn't place too much value on profligacy as opposed to these times where a man with multiple girlfriends is celebrated as the real deal....I may not be able to respond to all of these comments but I wanna leave U men with these words my dad once told me...He said young man control your libido,control everything else...

Ok...will be in lagos soon...maybe we could have a friendly chat over some drinks

generationz:
Nairaland romance section isn't the best place to seek advice. Most of the guys here hate women and see women as tools.

That said, I'm truly proud of you.

You are one of the rare guys out there who's head isn't filled with sexual perversion. You can think straight even when the sex is being offered by a lady you like.

You know what you want and have a high self worth.

Your type hardly ever cheats in marriage.

Like I always say, if you are faithful to self when single then you can be faithful to your spouse when married.

So, about the babe, if she is not one ogbanje after your soul then she is definitely after something else. Maybe to make you a side nigga to get money from or she's just crazy about how you can have such self control.

I wouldn't advice you go against your principle to please her. I don't see the relationship working with that start. You'll always wonder if that's how she throws herself at other men she likes.

I mean, if it was just once it won't be bad but her persistence isn't a good sign. Says a lot about her self worth. She might be the type who seeks validation through her body.

it feels good hearing this from you ...am definitely not perfect but I ain't a fool either....tnks a lot

Prompto:
Later you'll come back to NL wailing that one girl you love gave it to another. Girl tell you she no want serious relationship, you sha wan force her. If she start messing around with your heart u go de wail up n down like rnoron.

and what makes you think i only want sex....the life u choose to lead is solely dependent on choices...it's obvious u misunderstood my post...have a great day young man

YorubaNinja:
She's trying to eat and have her cake at a time. She doesn't wanna date you as, she probably has someone more serious on the side but ONLY trying to get some from you and, move on.

"6-You've just increased ur self-worthiness. You've made urself a difficult code to decipher. 7-This increases her curiosity and inquisitiveness abt you" .... Man Law, 4:6-7

"Now that you've earned urself the bargaining power, next move... Take a few steps back from chasing her and, she'll do the chase! ... Cracking the G-Code, 10:7

spot on....av gotten to a point in my life where am not easily swayed by emotions or controlled by my d**k...i jus want do to it right....thanks,i feel better

Hello romancelanders...am gonna be quite brief.
Have been asking this damsel out for quite a couple of months now,she keeps giving me the i'm not ready response.. she has been to my place on two occasions and each time she visits,she tries initiating sex which i refuse albeit politely in a bid to prove to her I want more than just sex nor the friends with benefits ish but each time i refuse,she ends up saying it was a test....am in my early 30's looking for a serious relationship with this same lady...but what got me real perplexed was her reaction while leaving today,she looked scorned and a bit infuriated...a part of me regrets my not giving in while the other part lavish accolades on me for my resolve...pls advise me cos i feel like i lost her already.....whatever happens, i feel posterity will judge me fairly.....should I jus let her be or persist?

The reason my dear is not far fetched....when majority of our ladies see every man that approaches them as a potential fountain to draw endlessly from, you definitely have to give something in return....we now hear names like zaddy,mugu1, zenith bank, p.o.s and so on....the pussy pays cos most of U have nothing to offer in the form of sound advice or intellect...nothing is free even in Freetown

Fountainofyouth:
Sweet words, but the problem is, people who are victims of not being loved back tend to be cold towards any feelings of love or whatever afterwards, they will not make themselves vulnerable again, they only love themselves alone and I don't see anything wrong with that, then the person who refused to reciprocate their love always come back begging later, which is very irritating, would you advice the person to accept him back? Cos I don't see how the love would still be there sha.

So true....u just told my tale....funny enough I now see them as opportunists...

All of U calling him names have no right if you have never cheated in your lives...enough...Am definitely not in support of his irresponsibility but anyone,I repeat anyone can make same mistake...Good thing is you're remorseful enough to hate urself for ur actions....pick urself up,talk to ur fiancee about it if u truly wanna spend the rest of ur life with her,that's the only way u can make things right and spell it out clearly to the other lady you're in a relationship unequivocally....wish u luck .....

You think it's this useless country where u can't even do an adequate forensics report....

I wonder the kinda men these generation breeds....you wanna compel a woman who's not yet ur spouse to be faithful using diabolic means...what happened to self worth and dignity...what happens after you undo the charm probably when you're married? I bet you would still follow her around in a bid to enforce loyalty...This had better be a joke cos this is beyond stupidity....smh

These kinda stories send shivers down my spine as a single guy....Sometimes I wonder how our parents found fulfillment and happiness in their marriages as opposed to what we have now......one story after another...i jus tire

Could be tempting...real tempting...sometimes u need more than just principles to say no....been in such quagmire a couple of times but i always put me self in the man's shoe....how would I feel if one stranger was banging my wife? Devastating to say the least....

Hahaha.....guy u no well o

Probably still intoxicated by 'I LOVE YOU' syndrome....guy wake up...the earlier the better 4 U..love is a beautiful thing but gets real ugly when u realise you've been played....

Believe me dear I can understand every bit of the anger and irritation....It's not one's fault esp the single ladies that they aren't married yet but truth be told the rate of irresponsibility and moral decadence on the part of our single sisters is quite alarming,no wonder the older generation find it repulsive....They tend to think their uncouth behaviour is the reason many are still single and society hasn't done our single sisters any good...The pressure on them to marry is overwhelming no wonder the high rate of divorce cos people now marry for the wrong reasons....Be that as it may, do not let anyone,i repeat,do not let anyone or circumstances coerce you into marriage....Nobody's happiness or fulfillment hinges on another,so if U find fulfillment in doing what u love,keep doing it and if u find true happiness in marriage,then go for it....Life is too short to dwell on regrets....have a good day fam...

Rotfl...funny bro but need i warn U that u jus got yourself an endorsement deal with potential heartbreak and pain....She was never a true friend of ur prospective ex and U?(a topic for anoda day)...enjoy it while it lasts buh rest assured that relationship is a ticking time bomb...karma ain't gat no deadline...

A great read I must say.....life indeed is a teacher but the problem is most of us have stopped learning....We are faced with challenges daily that ought to make us better people if only we didn't throw in the towel...Av learnt to draw strength from adversity...God bless y'all...have a blessed week...

Having read all of this it's quite understandable that you're apprehensive about your present state but believe me there's absolutely nothing wrong or abnormal with you....It's quite a commendable decision you made to seek financial stability first as many in ur age bracket would think it's a man's duty to provide everything for his woman....infact permit me to take a minute and applaud you....now to allay ur fears...it's actually no big deal if you find it diff making friends...u just need to stop being overly bothered about it.....spend some more time outside the confines of ur home/workplace,be receptive and open minded....love will find U rest assured....

Jeez! Guy aswear down u no well...rotfl...my tummy o

Not having a defined direction for life, dropped out of skul some years ago largely due to circumstances beyond my control, suicidal feelings clog my head esp being aware of the fact am in my 30's already... Sometimes i wish i could take all the pain and regret away......seeing u guys open up just gave me da strength to do same...

Dear Lord... Reading this piece sent shivers down my spine already.... I can't seem to fathom the rationale behind sleeping with another man when u have decided to spend the rest of ur life with someone else all in the name of farewell sex or whatever nonsense it's called.... Bro you better let go cos believe me the future of this union ain't bright at all...crazy world it is...

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In as much as i am very much ibo... I stand to condemn this ill advised comment from this slowpoke..... It is very unfortunate that people now take the judgement of an unenlightened select few to represent that of the larger majority.....I have lived amongst yorubas and i can unequivocally state that they are the most hospitable tribe in the federation.... It's high time we looked beyond tribalism and ethnic bigotry and savour the uniqueness of our multi-cultural society.. Only then can we truly unleash our potentials as a people... I love my country..... SAY NO TO TRIBALISM

The epl is truly the envy of other leagues... Even a relegated team got that much?

It's no big deal helping wifey out with the chores..... But I shouldn't be compelled to doing it cos you earn some stipends and occasionally help out with bills... What matters most in a marriage is understanding.... A man can cook, clean and do other chores with absolutely no stress....I just think marriage is for mature adults who read less about other people's experience and focus on making their union work..... Love conquers all

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