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The kinda comments I read here daily got me thinking...so we've degenerated to the point we now endorse cheating and promiscuity....If u can't grant ur supposed partner access to ur phone but can grant him/her unlimited access to ur private, isn't that hypocrisy and deceit...who is fooling who if I may ask? And y'all coming to nairaland to cry foul daily, u got what u bargained for, few weeks after meeting a girl, next on the line is sex as if ur survival depends on it- misplaced priorities...why not bargain for sex outright from the very first day of meeting, atleast u know the terms of engagement are stated clearly...I think it's high time we asked ourselves certain salient questions b4 doing certain things...Are relationships solely for sexual gratification? Why make sex and not companionship the basis of every relationship... For the male folk, enof of the bashing of our women... we actually got wat we asked for...

Ur case is very similar to mine bro....av intentionally cut contact with all of them, I know it's hard but believe me there's a reason U still haven't compromised yet...First, u must understand U ain't competing with nobody in life.
Secondly, av seen where it took someone only one year to achieve what it took others ten years and please do not judge nor despise them for their actions, ur time will surely come and God who maketh Rich will grant U wealth with peace of mind...stay blessed and keep believing...

annford:
I am inclined to go with you on that because the whole thing just doesn't make sense to me.

Am beginning to think he ain't spilling it all....92k isn't a bad start at all except he's extravagant ....when a lot of families live happily on less than 200 dollars a month....

Sometimes the way we humans magnify obstacles makes me wonder. Do you honestly think most great men U see today started off as wealthy from birth? A lot of men would pray to be in ur shoes at the moment...young man I wanna say it to you unequivocally that you are blessed...I know it may sound absurd but believe me wen I tell you av seen where marriages and childbirth open the door of finances for a lot of men. Stop brooding about uncertainties and begin to appreciate God for all you've got, gratitude alone is enough to turn things around in ur favour...No one, I repeat, no one has it all...Oga man up and start acting like a father which you are about to become anytime soon...terminating dat preg isn't an option...me sef go vex 4 U...

Someone said pple in relationships shouldn't expect fidelity..am like omg..no wonder the rate at which STIs spread has become so alarming...If U can't stick to a partner while courting or in a relationship, then u have no business being in one....what a generation of profligate and morally bankrupt youths..what happened to being faithful and building trust?. Arrant nonsense.... pukes

With lots of comments I jus read here, Av come to the conclusion nairaland is filled with kids....Anyway tnks for the story...I guess the moral of the story is simple- never judge nor look down on anyone, u neva know who holds the keys to ur breakthrough...

He actually made so much sense....respect!

donpedro11:
It works, I even sell some few

Pls how can I contact U?

donpedro11:
It works, I even sell some few

Would love to lay my hands on that fruit... heard a lot abt it and it's medicinal value...

Would love to lay my hands on that fruit ....would appreciate it help bro ...it has loads of medicinal value.. help a broda

We live in times where trust and loyalty is hard to come by...It may seem harmless to you to share ur pix with a friend but U should av put his feelings into consideration b4 doing such...If it were the other way, i bet U would still feel betrayed...These are the adverse effects of social media and wild civilisation...couples now spend more time on their phones than being together . I think you should give up social media for a while and instead work on spending more intimate moments with hubby, atleast to build back that trust...Believe me, you can live a happy life without social media and all it's hype...Best of luck...

Admire ur courage bro....I will advise you expect the worst while praying for the best...Don't raise ur hopes too high so u wont get too disappointed...pray U find wat u looking for..cheers

Bro i need this too....jus pm U

Would love to lay my hands on this seed...Have heard so much of it's benefits...can U pls help me get this seed cos i live outside of lagos...i will cover for every expense accrued@ Op

If U still think it's superstition, then am sorry for you...For your information, a lot of ladies and guys you see today -cute,intelligent,handsome,just name it all have one form of spirit controlling them...And you being human, very canal and devoid of the discerning spirit foolishly engage in premarital sex and after that feel you've just hit the jackpot...later stuff in ur life goes haywire, business nosedives, ill luck sets in and you call it coincidence or jus a phase of life, my dear u beta have a rethink....Be careful my fellow men....do not sacrifice a future so bright on the altar of promiscuity.....I learnt the hard way...

I think u made some salient points...it's high time our men learnt how to accommodate a woman's success without feeling less of himself..It's no crime or abnormal if ur wife is richer than U provided she doesn't rub it on ur face..Also please advise our sisters to work for their money too so they don't always come off as desperate or gold diggers...Nice piece

Calm down bro...u ain't alone on this...sometimes i wonder if one can find a loyal woman ever again....It seems ladies of our time no longer find fulfillment nor satisfaction from one dude...they wanna keep several guys yet expect loyalty from U, need i say the unrealistic demands they make...shit jus gets so frustrating i decided to stay on ma own till i wanna settle down...one thing i hate is having multiple sexual partners...i disgust it or maybe am old fashioned, can't tell. To my dudes out there, never go beyond ur limit in pleasing a woman cos if actually she is pleased in U, she won't stretch U beyond ur limit.

rtdCivilservant:
I attended Manchester primary school in uk, attended boys high school Houston in united states and graduated from Harvard in United states with a first class in Engineering, but with all these I am a teacher in God's saviour secondary school in Oshodi. So in all what is my gain? This world is wicked.

I doubt there's an iota of truth in what u jus scribbled, but if there is, then it's obvious you ain't telling us all...

I doubt there's an iota of truth in what u jus scribbled,but if there is, then it's obvious you ain't telling us all....

Accepting the fact U did wrong and broke her trust is a good start...I've seen some comments where you are advised to keep it a secret...I laugh...starting a union on the wrong foundation...How would you feel if U heard a friend of urs banged ur wife while u were dating and it happened right under ur nose? I still insist u tell her albeit not directly, there must be someone she listens to or looks up to...talk to that someone, be honest...quit thinking about her reaction, get this guilt of ur chest first..Bro if she's urs, she will come around.Give her time. I hope this experience makes U a beta man...best of luck

You were too busy complimenting ursef to notice you are flawed...you lack discipline..Am not here to judge U nor endorse ur profligacy..I would advise u sit ur fiancee down and tell her all U did behind her back,believe me if her friend could sleep with U without remorse, she would tell on U without regret...young man control ur libido,control everything else...my 2 cents

Dear Op why not create a whatsapp group for this...would love to be a part of this...early 30's and looking for love but it seems kids wanna derail this thread with their attitude.....

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Never knew depression was real till i got to 30 and not where I wanna be..but I take solace in the fact that someone up there watches over me and since am alive, there's still hope 4 dat bright future...It's too late to give up cos i would shatter my dear mum's heart if i fail after all she has been thru...LORD pls do not give up on me is my honest prayer....It ain't easy fellas but we gat ourselves, let's keep pushing

I understand you're trying to stress a point about our nigerian gurls but truth be told we still have responsible,well mannered ladies among us...Jus because few eggs are spoilt in ur crate doesn't mean U dispose of them all...And I've said it countless times,guys pls do not expect sexual gratification for ur magnanimity...If U wanna be nice to a woman,pls be without expecting anything in return except u spell it out from the onset...My 2 cents

The regret part sent shivers down my spine...The more reason am scared as hell...what I see now is just people wanting to get married to ease themselves of family and societal pressures..people no longer pay attention to details and rever faithfulness and commitment...sometimes U just wish u could live a life devoid of unnecessary expectations but guess that's impossible..sighs

Haven't had this good laff in a while...rotfl...u guys made my day already

Painful and heartbreaking...only someone who has never loved truly wouldn't understand wat you're going thru now...believe me I've been there but i learnt one important truth in the process i will share with U...A woman who truly loves U will never cheat on you for any reason. Often times we confuse attraction with love, love is spiritual, more like a connection u can't explain...it's obvious u love this woman but she was only attracted to U for a reason-cash,good looks,social status etc...pick ursef up bro, move on with ur life, you will find that soulmate you seek....do not shut ur heart to love nor be too quick to love..only time and love can heal a briken heart...best of luck,u deserve beta

Funny how U guys trivialise certain issues....why joke with ur life for some minutes of pleasure...if u must go into a relationship, what stops u from conducting necessary tests b4 indulging in unprotected sex or beta still use protection...better to learn from someone else's mistake than being a victim...HIV no dey show 4 face...

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