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Admire your courage..sent you a pm.

Theslumflower:
I've seen ladies:

1. Borrow money to give their hustling boyfriend because of love
2. Sleep with richer men to make sure their boyfriend get that one strong deal that will change his life because of love
3. Go against their parents rules just to be with a guy because of love
4. Take oaths with a guy just to prove love
5. Leave a wealthy suitor just to be with their broke boyfriend in the name of love. Etc.


You will never see women brag about these things. But guys will always play the victim and the "no money no love" card on women. Y'all should use this time you waste on wailing and actually pray for a good woman.

Valid submissions and facts you just stated. It's not always one way traffic all the time guys. Yes, the present crop of women are basically manipulative in nature but truth be said, there are loads of good gals ( Nigerian) out there.

Best decision you're about taking now. Channel all that energy into developing yourself and finding your feet. At the right time, the right woman will be attracted to you without putting so much of an effort...Often times, we relegate the most important things in life for trivialities, who even says one must have a girlfriend before finding a wife? Love don't cost a thing bro,all we have now is relationship based on interest and what we stand to gain esp in our geographical setting where dating has automatically become a means of livelihood for some.

I will personally term it as an insult to attach that guy to the Igbo race. Romantic kee u there. Take a close look at ibos achieving great things all over the world and tell me if any of them prioritised a pussy over their ambitions. We are known to be relentless and uncompromising in our quest for success.

Y'all shouting mind ur business, would you do so if the person in question was ur brother?. Fucking hypocrites....

Had this weird experience years back. Travelled home with family for the Christmas celebration. Mum insisted I attend a vigil with my cousins in their church against my wish. An hour or so into the vigil I got fed up prolly cos I wasn't feeling the whole thing, decided to walk back home alone. It was few minutes to 12am and I headed home. The church was a bit far from home and I had to take a long and lonely path. Halfway into the journey home, I started feeling uneasy like something or someone was behind me, I looked back and saw this creepy old and very short man and I just knew I was in for a bumpy ride. The scary part was for every one step I took, the creature was ten steps closer to me, at that point I knew it wasn't business as usual and I took to my heels..Be a man, no be when you jam wetin pass man....

Asgard13:
Yoruba and cultism...

Which part of yorubaland is safe?

Nah nah, don't bring tribalism into this... not cool

Reading all these comments just goes to validate an already overflogged subject of discourse-Nigeria has never been and will never be one. Ofcourse you can't merge people with different ideologies and expect them to cohabit peacefully. But the more painful aspect of the whole drama is the fact that this generation which ordinarily you would think educated and exposed enough to shun the ethnic undertones and forge a formidable partnership for a greater good are the chief propagators of this nonsense called ethic bigotry. Enough has been said already, Lagos belongs to the yorubas and that's final. We Ibos never learn. The future is bleak, call me a prophet of doom if you so please.

Exciting read...Really enjoyed it cos I can relate to everything you said. I used to manage one and believe me, it was fun all the way esp when the winnings came,how they bug me on phone as if I owe them millions,lol. You didn't add the ones that never have cash to stake but can convince you of the outcome of any stake all in a bid to see you stake for them too, or the ones who have the history of America's origin but have never crossed seme border, lol. What of the next bill gates, Elon musk and dangote who have the blueprint for success but have never made a million themselves, lol... The list is endless, i miss those days, was so much fun.

Making mistakes in life is inevitable but learning from the mistakes and putting the lessons learnt to good use paves the way for any venture to be termed successful. Last time I checked, there are still people with enviable relationships, no need to demonize the female folk, it's a phase every emotionally stable young man goes through. Pick yourself up, focus more on your career, forgive her and move on. Someday you will find your soulmate and you will only reminisce on these events and laugh it off with a glass of chilled wine with your spouse. When life gives you limes, turn it around and....you know the rest. Peace brother.

August 10th ooo

Had this camaraderie that He could tell what I was capable of from a distance, an enigma i must say but above all a perfect gentleman. Never lay your hands on a woman he would always say for only a weakling does so...Learnt there's more to a man than just the whip cut muscles and baritone. Suffice to say I'm an exact replica of him, maybe not in looks but mannerism...

J111333:
Did she mention the lady's full name anywhere in this post? No, so I don't see any defamation here.

You think so? You aren't aware every mobile number attributed to any user is registered with a name and traceable in cases related to crime and so on. Furthermore that lady could be exposed to fraudsters and her safety isn't guaranteed. I may just drop your number and say you scammed me then watch the police swing into action. You don't just go about posting stuff on social media cos you feel aggrieved not minding the consequences of your actions. If you're one of those thinking cos it's a faceless forum, you can just go about typing gibberish and denting people's image, you're definitely on a long thin. Pray you don't bite more than you can chew, then you will understand why your accounts are linked to your Gmail and mail to your numbers..

Veefierce:
wish defamation?? Let her go ahead , she deserves to be embarrassed!!!

Cheating men association

You guys are letting your emotions get the better of you here. By the time you're hit with a law suit, then you'll understand respect for privacy is sacrosanct and there's no place for emotions when the long arm of the law catches up with you.

You should have concealed her number for God's sake. Your husband's infidelity or Randy nature should be your concern, not the young lady.... Call your hubby's bluff, this is a sensitive issue and shouldn't be handled on social media. That's what you get when aged kids get married...

anykey:
Mine was funny though.
It was during my 6 months internship programme, and i was linked up to a company on the island. After passing their tests, i was called up for their interview. On to say i don stay house for close to 2 months, i wanted to get into this company by all means. So i got very nervous when i was told i was the next to be interviewed.
I got in the hall and i saw four men, my heart started racing, my head went blank. I was asked to introduce my self, i just talk am some how how. Then one of them asked me the capital of nigeria.
I said kampala. They all started laughing, in short one of them started choking on the laughter. They had to bring water for him, after he calmed down, he continued laughing. I was so embarassed. Then the choked man said, mo like Bobo kampala yi. (he likes me). They asked the question again though, and i told them the correct answer, they understood i was nervous.
I got the job though cos i had internal links, but na kampala them call me throughout my stay there.

you're a crazy dude

The good ol' days...when happiness wasn't hinged on material possessions. When mediocrity was frowned at by all and sundry and people spoke with one voice in condemning evil. When we cared less about where you came from and even made jokes in rhythms about our different ethnic groups and still ate from same plate during festivities. Days when we had high moral standards and kids were informed ofthe importance of mutual respect. A lot has changed but I will ever remain grateful to have witnessed the 80's and 90's...

zionmde:
op it's just 7 times u are complaining
haven't u heard it's 70x7

anyway u should be happy if has not gotten to "admin hide my identity' level

This cracked me up ...for the OP, sorry bro but you gotta realise one thing. Some people never learn till they make grave mistakes which implies they learn from their mistakes. At this stage, maintaining your sanity is Paramount. Let her explore, for how long will you keep her from doing what she loves. You can't domesticate a wild animal bro. Age and experience just takes care of certain things.

Beze992:
Honestly I'm as amazed as you are, one of the mysteries of life I must say�. How they will extol the virtues of their wife, and in the same breath ready to cheat on her with any willing woman.

I don't think any human with self esteem intact will love to deputise or play second fiddle except you have an ulterior motive which is the case often times than not. How can you spread your legs for a man that speaks so highly of his wife at home, common sense should tell whoever indulges in such affairs that it's merely short-lived and bereft of love. It's now a norm to date married men as some of the ladies now see it as an upgrade on their lazy asses. Spits! Let me reiterate that a day of reckoning is inevitable for whoever indulges in such despicable affair, you can't wreck homes and contribute to the growing number of troubled kids and probably expect a different treatment all in the guise of married men love better. Relax and watch with bliss how your future husbands will also love whatever's in skirt in your streets. Karma never disappoints, turn a new leaf if you're reading this....

You can't make another woman shed tears uncontrollably thru the night and expect to go scot free, your recompense will be served real chilled. You're gon shed a bucketful of tears...

Bro I believe you have enough problems of your own already in this lockdown to start telling on a Randy woman. I know your conscience won't let you sleep over this but better heed the counsel of the therapist than become an object of ridicule before everyone.las Las na you dem go take settle their matter esp if the man is madly in love with the babe. Tueh

You have 5 grands in dollz to spend on height enhancing pills cos a woman called you short. The only problem I see here is your self esteem.abeg shift make we see people wey get problem.

[quote author=MummyIMadeIt post=88551008]I will actually love to meet one in person as I got no fear, any idea how the operate? [/quote
You don't go about searching for that which is lost.you don't find them, they find you.....

There are certain things even the highest form of education can't explain. No need arguing about the existence of these creatures. A man who has seen so much talks so little. Not everything is explained in your learning textbooks and handouts. There are higher forms of life, the spiritual supercedes the physical. Hope not to see that which will rent your heart to pieces,for the dark feeds on fear.

I wonder why most of you on this platform go about reading without comprehension. OP put this out to encourage those living with the virus and not to school you on morals. If you lack morals, go back home and be groomed properly over again. Nairaland is getting annoying by the day.

xendra:
but how come una brain dey sleep when its time to realise that a man has hands and legs too to be useful at home and help with chores as well.


I can contribute to finances, cater alone for the kids and the house and still be responsible for Bill's while the man just brings what he has and keep extra for his street wores who don't know what the broom in his house looks like una try o... and many women wey no know themselves don dey agree with una. but divorce has not stopped increasing

you mentioned family finances, how many families have that? most men don't want their women to know about their money until they nolonger have it, then they want the woman to come and suffer with them

if I see you are doing right but things just aren't working I AM NOT GOING ANYWHERE, But if when you have I have no idea and you squander money giving to random people and side chicks oga I wouldn't say anything but when it's time to drink garri you must go and bring those friends, relatives and side chicks to come suffer with you together or I too will disappear

It's quite understandable the point you're trying to make here. It's not a taboo if a man does chores neither is it a crime if the woman helps out with lil expenses at home. It all boils down to perfect understanding between both partners. Times have changed, some women earn even more than their husbands and it will only be to the benefits of the kids if the woman eases the burden on the man by rendering some financial aid thereby giving room for the man to look towards investing for the future. Truth be told, it takes longer time for kids without a good financial backing to scale up the ladder when compared to other kids who have some investments to kickstart their career. In the end, both partners will bear the brunt of the decisions made in the early years of marriage. The more reason folks should look beyond good looks when choosing a partner.

I don't think there's need to play the gender card here, cheating should be condemned for what it is whether perpetrated by the man or the woman. If you ain't comfortable with your spouse, no need going on with the deceit,I mean to what end will you keep leading someone on. I guess greed and insatiable nature of humans won't let them make good decisions even when the consequences/aftermath effect of these decisions are glaring even to the blind. It always ends in tears and regret.

[quote author=Seenyo post=88429354]I deeply appreciate your concern bro!
Your post has got me so emotional that I can't hold back tears...imagine a stranger on a faceless forum reaching out to me even when those I assisted wouldn't...
God bless you bro.


God bless you too...trust me you will come out a winner...God gat ur back... it's only for a while.

Seenyo:
I assisted a lot of people financially and otherwise...i touched souls and blessed people with my talents by grooming them up..young, old, known, unknown...


Few years later, tides turned against me, I fell seriously sick and my business crumbled, the people I helped turned a blind eye...

I called to seek for assistance from some of them but they turned me down....but I'll be fine...

I wish I NEVER MET THESE PEOPLE.

I know how this feels, my heart is broken....I just hope you get better but I wouldn't mind being of assistance in any lil way. If you wouldn't mind, drop your details...

The earlier you realise your dreams alone are worth fighting for, the better for you.

Odogwu! Nwafo ka ibu..nno

Lots of lessons to extract from this piece, enough of the threads on nairaland bashing women all the time. We need more of this to serve as life lessons to the younger generation. Seun if you're reading this, it's high time you put a stop on so many denigrating threads flooding nairaland about our women cos that's all we read on romance sections these days. Be strong fella, keep the hustle real and diversify, be present in that young hommies life cos that's the perfect gift she left you painful you didn't call back to hear her affirm the legitimacy herself. Finally when the time is right, find a woman that will give you the peace you seek and fill the void shola left....peace bro!